He says he is not looking for a relationship

I say ok. So that means I need to fall back. Because I already know a where that road leads.

I am glad and respect his honesty.

Because I respect his choice than I have no no choice but to leave him alone.

At first he claimed he was looking for a relationship and a friend . But as always when it comes to me it changes .. I guess I'm not the one 🙂

End rant

what sign were you dealing with here?

Capricorn. But I didn't put this under the "signs" section because I don't think this has anything to do with his sign.

I had a "aqua" that did the same exact thing. I stayed around with him and got really hurt. It was my fault so I'm just not trying to go down the same road.

I always get friend zoned.

I don't want another freakin friend .

Posted by Blackvirgo
I say ok. So that means I need to fall back. Because I already know a where that road leads.

I am glad and respect his honesty.

Because I respect his choice than I have no no choice but to leave him alone.

At first he claimed he was looking for a relationship and a friend . But as always when it comes to me it changes .. I guess I'm not the one 🙂

End rant

As much as that sucks, I respect the fact that you can accept this instead of denying it. Less headache/heartache.

I'm sorry blackvirgo. 😢

I admire your maturity about it. Just know, the right guy will come along. At least you're not wasting time on this one.

I didn't ask what worked for you . You certainly are right you make things about you and what works so for you even when you are discussing things with strangers . I hope you are not ever considering being a goddamn counselor. ... good grief!

Posted by Blackvirgo
Capricorn. But I didn't put this under the "signs" section because I don't think this has anything to do with his sign.

I had a "aqua" that did the same exact thing. I stayed around with him and got really hurt. It was my fault so I'm just not trying to go down the same road.

I always get friend zoned.

I don't want another freakin friend .

true.. i have this happen to me a lot too.. they don't necessarily friendzone me, but they also don't want a relationship (with me). maybe we're just TOO NICE.

I'm not nice . I just give them the freedom of choice. It's called respect.

I just don't like when they keep trying to communicate with me after they made the choice .

You haven't been asked to become his friend, that's just a polite way of saying you've been dumped. He's just going to stick around a few more times to make sure you are OK. It doesn't matter if you are already, that is also about him and his conscience, not just about you!

I'm sure you are not nice. In fact, if I were a man, I would have dumped your ass like a hot potato the first time I saw you offending someone who was actually trying to help, like you did with capricornmoon.

No boyfriends for rude, bitter, full of themselves bitches! Sort yourself out before you try on dating!

I think it means they like and respect you as a person. Try to see it as a positive. They might not be in the right place for a relationship at this point in their life, but they see you as worthy of keeping in touch with.

You always have the option not to maintain a friendship.

That's how I see it anyway. I've remained friends with most (not all) of my exes. Just because we're not "the one" for each other, doesn't mean they're bad people.

*shrugs*

Then again, the making sure you're okay like Undine said makes sense too.

Posted by Undine
You haven't been asked to become his friend, that's just a polite way of saying you've been dumped. He's just going to stick around a few more times to make sure you are OK. It doesn't matter if you are already, that is also about him and his conscience, not just about you!

I'm sure you are not nice. In fact, if I were a man, I would have dumped your ass like a hot potato the first time I saw you offending someone who was actually trying to help, like you did with capricornmoon.

No boyfriends for rude, bitter, full of themselves bitches! Sort yourself out before you try on dating!

I'm sorry who are you—

Oh and trust me I'm not bitter .. I'm better

Posted by Undine
You haven't been asked to become his friend, that's just a polite way of saying you've been dumped. He's just going to stick around a few more times to make sure you are OK. It doesn't matter if you are already, that is also about him and his conscience, not just about you!

I'm sure you are not nice. In fact, if I were a man, I would have dumped your ass like a hot potato the first time I saw you offending someone who was actually trying to help, like you did with capricornmoon.

No boyfriends for rude, bitter, full of themselves bitches! Sort yourself out before you try on dating!

Based on you're description and making sure his Conscience is clear bleeds out selfishness. And I don't need help from self serving people. That you ...

The only reason his conscience would be bothering him is if he was wrong and was playing games from the jump and in that case that's not my problem if I done my best by him.

The best thing he could do for himself is forgive his self and move on . Not stay around me creating more hurt .

But he asked me about Going to karaoke. Something. I've been dying to do but scared to do it alone. Last year I wanted my ex friend to go with me but he had a issue with doing anything in public with me.

This particular guy has taken me to his job. We've met his family members at a bar. So he is obviously not trying to hide me.

I'm just scared because he clearly told me he is not looking for a relationship. Just friendship. And he is acting accordingly. I mean friends should be able to go out and have a great time with no pressure.

However I'm afraid. . What if I start really liking him.

I vowed not to see him again but I can't turn down a karaoke invite..

Plus I'm finally happy to be in the company of someone who doesn't mind being seen with me..

I know to some this isn't a big deal but to me it is because the last couple of guys I dealt with including my ex husband had issues with being seen with me and going out .

I want to be friends and in the company of someone who wants to start off as Friends with the possibility of growing into more . Not with someone who is not giving us a possible chance..

HeLP Plz

I'm not complaining or nagging. I'm just scared

Seems a bit inconsiderate of him to tell you he doesn't want a relationship (knowing that you do) and then just invite you out for a fun night. If you can have fun with him and not expect anything later, do it! Sounds like he enjoys having fun with you but that's it, you're just a friend he enjoys to spend time with so you have to see it that way too.

If you feel that you're going to attach more by having fun times with him or start to feel bad/hurt-- don't go. Seriously, don't go if you think that will happen. Just tell him you really would love to, that you always wanted to go but ugh you gotta work! Next time!

I decided to go.

I'll try my best not to be human 🙂

Have all these threads this week been about this same dude? You were tripping about his Facebook status, you've had multiples with this same title...

Is it one dude telling you no over and over or are you chasing them away in packs?

Either way, if a dude says he done want a relationship, he's being serious. The grey area is guys who say they do want one, some just want to get their dick wet. But no guy who is trying to build something with you is gonna tell you he ain't interested.

I've seen your replies in the other threads though...go ahead and throw a fit...

Good grief. If you want to go, then go.

Suck up your insecurities and fears and just go have fun.
Probably the reason people don't want to do stuff with you is because you're too timid and afraid to have fun. JUST DO IT and quit whining about what you're afraid you're going to feel. How can someone decide they like you if you're just going to hide all up inside your pathetic thoughts about yourself?

I know that sounds so mean, but someone needs to call you out and encourage you to stop being so hard on yourself.

Are you stalking me librasid??

Thanks for you're helpful advice

The message board was created for me to ask opinions and advice..

No stranger who obviously comes here to do the same thing should feel any type of way because I decided to utilize this resource

Thank you.

And I did go and a great time.

I'm glad you went!!! And even more glad you had a great time!!!!

Did you sing? For me to do it, I have to have several shots of courage. I'm always reluctant, because my singing sucks. lol!

Posted by Blackvirgo
Are you stalking me librasid??

Thanks for you're helpful advice

No, I'm not stalking you, btw you're out of milk...

And you're welcome.

Posted by truecap
I'm glad you went!!! And even more glad you had a great time!!!!

Did you sing? For me to do it, I have to have several shots of courage. I'm always reluctant, because my singing sucks. lol!

I didn't sing but he sang 2 songs "ready for love " by India Arie. And "so high" by John Legend.

It was cute.

Take this all at face value and nothing more.

...unless of course he tells you different.

He said he doesn't want a relationship.

What more is there to know?

I think he's a moron if he proceeded to ask you to go out with him on whatever capacity after that statement. Watch him just keep you around for some sex and then cry "I DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP."

Drop it, honey. You're ignoring the obvious.

Fuck him. Move on.

But he does everything completely opposite of that.

We do more than have sex.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
He said he doesn't want a relationship.

What more is there to know?

I think he's a moron if he proceeded to ask you to go out with him on whatever capacity after that statement. Watch him just keep you around for some sex and then cry "I DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP."

Drop it, honey. You're ignoring the obvious.

I'm probably being stupid again.

Bye.

So wait, you HAVE slept with him?

Posted by Blackvirgo

The best thing he could do for himself is forgive his self and move on . Not stay around me creating more hurt .

So are you hurt or not—

You are coming across as bitter not better ... and towards men. Cap moon was offering to console you and you attack him unjustifiably. Hope that rant made you feel good but it was aimed at the wrong person, go give the guy you really want to tear down an earbashing.

I'm sweethearts btw, just in case you missed it and your name suits you too!

Lol

Posted by Blackvirgo
I say ok. So that means I need to fall back. Because I already know a where that road leads.

I am glad and respect his honesty.

Because I respect his choice than I have no no choice but to leave him alone.

At first he claimed he was looking for a relationship and a friend . But as always when it comes to me it changes .. I guess I'm not the one 🙂

End rant

He wasn't a good fit.
Your guy is out there.
Keep living your life, hopefully you will run across him soon.

+1 Undine and Sweethearts

This side of yourself is most likely one of many reasons men are sidelining your ass. No man wants a fake nice undercover bitter Bitch to hassle with, there is no way he is going to take that kind of project on. Set some boundaries, have some standards and maybe a man will respect you enough to keep you in his life as his woman.

Oh. Ok