If you're at the grocery store and you run into an ex and you're like "Holy shit I dodged a bullet with this one" and then you start to feel all warm and tingly inside because your life turned out better?
Is it wrong...
Posted by SDNABesides needing a good teeth cleaning, about the same.
physical feature related? coz mine all look the same.
More like where they are in life now, overall.
Posted by SDNAActually...I met her at the grocery because SHE WORKS THERE....Posted by Quantum"Still buying canned goods past 30 haha i won i won i won!"Posted by SDNABesides needing a good teeth cleaning, about the same.
physical feature related? coz mine all look the same.
More like where they are in life now, overall.click to expand
Now I can't go back to that one. I don't want her to think I'm stalking her.
If that's wrong then I don't want to be right - anyway, maybe they are perfect for someone else, just not you, so why should you feel bad about being relieved that you didn't end up together. I would say that was the universe reminding you that the Virgo needs a little more love and appreciation! 🙂
Posted by SensitiveBluesWe talked for a few.Posted by Quantumwhy do you think you got the better dealPosted by SensitiveBluesWat?
so why do you think that?
i need details
Details about what?
how would you know?
everything is connected right
if you were with her
maybe she wouldn't have been in the same placeclick to expand
She basically made bad decisions.
I'm talking DXP-bad bad decisions.
I mean I've ran into old acquaintances who ran into hard times not of their doing before and I never was like "good you deserve it", but with her it was like "WTF you wasted your opportunities".
And let's not get into "if she had been with me". Ain't no one got time for that. We all know behind every good man there's a good woman.
Posted by Quantum.
I'm talking DXP-bad bad decisions.
This is the best line ever - like best post of the day, kind of material! So, so true.......... 😄
Posted by QuantumYou "coincidentally" ran into an ex at her place of employment? Lol cmon...Posted by SDNAActually...I met her at the grocery because SHE WORKS THERE....Posted by Quantum"Still buying canned goods past 30 haha i won i won i won!"Posted by SDNABesides needing a good teeth cleaning, about the same.
physical feature related? coz mine all look the same.
More like where they are in life now, overall.
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Posted by tizianiShe was probably "Jesus he's fat. And bald. And WTF is with not shaving".Posted by UmiSaysYeah I feel that's usually how it goes.
I felt like he probably thought he was Better off when in reality i was thinking the same thing.
One ex I saw, I thought wow... drugs and partying really piled on some years eh
Meanwhile she probably looked at me and thought "f'kin square"click to expand
Posted by PeanutbutterI haven't seen her in almost 20 years. Never knew what happened to her after we broke up.Posted by QuantumYou "coincidentally" ran into an ex at her place of employment? Lol cmon...Posted by SDNAActually...I met her at the grocery because SHE WORKS THERE....Posted by Quantum"Still buying canned goods past 30 haha i won i won i won!"Posted by SDNABesides needing a good teeth cleaning, about the same.
physical feature related? coz mine all look the same.
More like where they are in life now, overall.
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Posted by tiziani"And this pan of cinnamon rolls for tomorrow's breakfast"
That's when you put on your best Vin Diesel voice
"I live my life one enchilada at a time"
Deadpan.
Posted by QuantumAh gottchya. I was under the impression that you were much younger. Ok, carry on..Posted by PeanutbutterI haven't seen her in almost 20 years. Never knew what happened to her after we broke up.Posted by QuantumYou "coincidentally" ran into an ex at her place of employment? Lol cmon...Posted by SDNAActually...I met her at the grocery because SHE WORKS THERE....Posted by Quantum"Still buying canned goods past 30 haha i won i won i won!"Posted by SDNABesides needing a good teeth cleaning, about the same.
physical feature related? coz mine all look the same.
More like where they are in life now, overall.
click to expand
Posted by PeanutbutterNah.Posted by QuantumAh gottchya. I was under the impression that you were much younger. Ok, carry on..Posted by PeanutbutterI haven't seen her in almost 20 years. Never knew what happened to her after we broke up.Posted by QuantumYou "coincidentally" ran into an ex at her place of employment? Lol cmon...Posted by SDNAActually...I met her at the grocery because SHE WORKS THERE....Posted by Quantum"Still buying canned goods past 30 haha i won i won i won!"Posted by SDNABesides needing a good teeth cleaning, about the same.
physical feature related? coz mine all look the same.
More like where they are in life now, overall.
click to expand
Old as fuck.
And married forever. Abraham Lincoln was my best man.
Posted by UmiSaysNo, I broke up with her.Posted by Quantum"im better off shows you made a mistake" mentality? Im assuming she broke up with you and did shady stuff? Do you see her as a failure? If she doesnt see herself as a failure then her probably running into you meant nothing to her, she got the life she wanted. That's what I've learned people don't care where they end up if they dont want to be with ya they won't haha happened to me
If you're at the grocery store and you run into an ex and you're like "Holy shit I dodged a bullet with this one" and then you start to feel all warm and tingly inside because your life turned out better?click to expand
I mean it's certainly plausible she thinks she turned out just fine. In fact I believe based on the way she spoke she's probably fine with the way she turned out.
I just remember her as being a bit more responsible and with a better head on her shoulders.
Posted by tizianiI love this story......... Look at the universe having your back and knowing that something better was coming for you!! =)Posted by UmiSaysSometimes it's even stranger comedy of errors.
Lol I think of it as we each got what we wanted.
I didnt look at him as a failure idk how he looked at me, I myself got heavier but not far from what i was. He had contacted me years before asking me something which was very weird. I guess testing me to see if I still thought about him and honestly I didn't.
The tragedy is that when we dated he broke up with me. I didnt want us to break up but we did never gave me a reason why. He came back months later and I rejected him.
Fast forward to now I believe I wouldn't have continued school if we would have stayed together. Life looks out for people in funny ways.
My last ex she broke it off when I wouldn't move to be with her.
Must have been just under a year ago now she came back in town and it was evident we were both open to spending time with each other on all levels again.
Only when we got back to my place, before we could do anything I got food poisoning from our night out. And then again a second time the next week before she was flying out.
She was a Scorpio so she got it into her head that I had rejected her. I couldn't be bothered to argue, wasn't worth it. Not proving myself to anyone.
Just a few months later I started talking with the love of my life so thank you, poisonous chicken korma! Boom.click to expand
Posted by whatthecrabThat's just it...Posted by QuantumDepends on what one values more; a content private life or a good paying job and maybe she's happy with both.
If you're at the grocery store and you run into an ex and you're like "Holy shit I dodged a bullet with this one" and then you start to feel all warm and tingly inside because your life turned out better?click to expand
She didn't really have either.
It's probably too much Cap influence.
There's that standard you apply to past, present, and future partners.
There's that standard you apply to past, present, and future partners.
Posted by tizianiyou ever consider, she poisoned your food?Posted by UmiSaysSometimes it's even stranger comedy of errors.
Lol I think of it as we each got what we wanted.
I didnt look at him as a failure idk how he looked at me, I myself got heavier but not far from what i was. He had contacted me years before asking me something which was very weird. I guess testing me to see if I still thought about him and honestly I didn't.
The tragedy is that when we dated he broke up with me. I didnt want us to break up but we did never gave me a reason why. He came back months later and I rejected him.
Fast forward to now I believe I wouldn't have continued school if we would have stayed together. Life looks out for people in funny ways.
My last ex she broke it off when I wouldn't move to be with her.
Must have been just under a year ago now she came back in town and it was evident we were both open to spending time with each other on all levels again.
Only when we got back to my place, before we could do anything I got food poisoning from our night out. And then again a second time the next week before she was flying out.
She was a Scorpio so she got it into her head that I had rejected her. I couldn't be bothered to argue, wasn't worth it. Not proving myself to anyone.
Just a few months later I started talking with the love of my life so thank you, poisonous chicken korma! Boom.click to expand
😐
Posted by whatthecrabPeople wallow in their own misery.Posted by QuantumStill not a good look to wallow in someone else's misery.Posted by whatthecrabThat's just it...Posted by QuantumDepends on what one values more; a content private life or a good paying job and maybe she's happy with both.
If you're at the grocery store and you run into an ex and you're like "Holy shit I dodged a bullet with this one" and then you start to feel all warm and tingly inside because your life turned out better?
She didn't really have either.click to expand
If I was wallowing in her misery I would be feeling the misery she was feeling.
I think you're looking for "taking pleasure in other's misery". Which is not the case. I simply felt fortunate and happy that I made good choices and was happy with my life.
Really this is more about arbitrary standards I've placed on my own life.
There was a part of me that felt sad.
Maybe I was projecting sadness on to her based on my own standards though.
Maybe I was projecting sadness on to her based on my own standards though.
If I ever bump into my Virgo ex, I hope he is as happy as I am because he deserves that. Š
But to answer your question: No. I don't think that's wrong at all. I don't mean to get all religious or philosophical on you, but if something is meant for you, it *will* be yours, And if it's not meant for you, it's for a reason.. Your thread reminds me of that, so I'm glad things worked out for you in the end.
But to answer your question: No. I don't think that's wrong at all. I don't mean to get all religious or philosophical on you, but if something is meant for you, it *will* be yours, And if it's not meant for you, it's for a reason.. Your thread reminds me of that, so I'm glad things worked out for you in the end.
Posted by leow31You're right.Posted by whatthecrabThis.Posted by QuantumStill not a good look to wallow in someone else's misery.Posted by whatthecrabThat's just it...Posted by QuantumDepends on what one values more; a content private life or a good paying job and maybe she's happy with both.
If you're at the grocery store and you run into an ex and you're like "Holy shit I dodged a bullet with this one" and then you start to feel all warm and tingly inside because your life turned out better?
She didn't really have either.
A few weeks ago I ran into a friend of mine, we had a thing ..long story short I picked another guy over him AGES ago.
The minute he found out I ended my long term rel & canceled my engagement ...he took such pleasure in it.
It was fucked up.
He even had the balls to say " well guess you picked the wrong guy, im getting married soon, I'm successful & im happy "
Said a whoooole lot about him as a person.
I still made the right choice.click to expand
Wallowing in someone's misery isn't a good look.
No one looks good crying along with someone else.
Posted by leow31I'm just referencing the incorrect use of the word wallow.Posted by QuantumDude..i didnt expect him to cry with me but damn..have a little decency ..I dunno as a human? especially if you're gonna call yourself my friend.Posted by leow31You're right.Posted by whatthecrabThis.Posted by QuantumStill not a good look to wallow in someone else's misery.Posted by whatthecrabThat's just it...Posted by QuantumDepends on what one values more; a content private life or a good paying job and maybe she's happy with both.
If you're at the grocery store and you run into an ex and you're like "Holy shit I dodged a bullet with this one" and then you start to feel all warm and tingly inside because your life turned out better?
She didn't really have either.
A few weeks ago I ran into a friend of mine, we had a thing ..long story short I picked another guy over him AGES ago.
The minute he found out I ended my long term rel & canceled my engagement ...he took such pleasure in it.
It was fucked up.
He even had the balls to say " well guess you picked the wrong guy, im getting married soon, I'm successful & im happy "
Said a whoooole lot about him as a person.
I still made the right choice.
Wallowing in someone's misery isn't a good look.
No one looks good crying along with someone else.click to expand
But yeah...that guy sounds like a dick.
I don't take pleasure in seeing her that way at all. I even said I felt a bit sad.
But I did feel validated in my choices.
I feel holy shit dodged a bullet when they been married had kids n never stuck around yeah. But im generally happy for the stable ones.
Posted by Arielle83Crayfish are lobsters? We have "crayfish" here that live in freshwater that are miniature lobsters.
There's only one ex I could run into in Australia. He's only in my town for maybe 3 months. He's a crayfisherman so he chills in port doing boat work in off season.
Anyways, he's on my FB and I wouldn't care either way. He's partying a lot, but why not if you're single?
We still chat so there's no weird shit.
Anyways yeah it really wasn't weird or awkward or anything. I've never kept in touch with any of my exes so when/if I run into one it's a bit of a shock to see where they've ended up. I ran into one a few years ago that went from party girl to Earth Mother with 4 kids and a husband and it was surprising.
Like I said I wasn't taking pleasure in seeing her in the position she was in. It was surprising. And it made me feel better about where I was. I would never be petty and think she was less of a person because of it. I'm not THAT cruel.
Posted by tizianiHa!
Rabbit you never told me you were one half of Oxide and Neutrino
I had absolutely no idea who they were. Had to look them up.
Posted by VenusStarI think there's a difference between being petty or and cruel and being validated or happy with how you turned out.Posted by QuantumPosted by Arielle83Crayfish are lobsters? We have "crayfish" here that live in freshwater that are miniature lobsters.
There's only one ex I could run into in Australia. He's only in my town for maybe 3 months. He's a crayfisherman so he chills in port doing boat work in off season.
Anyways, he's on my FB and I wouldn't care either way. He's partying a lot, but why not if you're single?
We still chat so there's no weird shit.
Anyways yeah it really wasn't weird or awkward or anything. I've never kept in touch with any of my exes so when/if I run into one it's a bit of a shock to see where they've ended up. I ran into one a few years ago that went from party girl to Earth Mother with 4 kids and a husband and it was surprising.
Like I said I wasn't taking pleasure in seeing her in the position she was in. It was surprising. And it made me feel better about where I was. I would never be petty and think she was less of a person because of it. I'm not THAT cruel.
I'm glad you don't otherwise that would be petty and mean-spirited. I had a friend give an update on an acquaintance without me asking and I was horrified. All she could tell me, happily , that the other person looked miserable in appearance and looked as she aged greatly. That made me look at my friend differently. I was mad at this acquaintance but I don't wish her bad in her life. Its a horrible person to gloat in someone's misery.click to expand
Posted by QuantumPosted by SDNAActually...I met her at the grocery because SHE WORKS THERE....Posted by Quantum"Still buying canned goods past 30 haha i won i won i won!"Posted by SDNABesides needing a good teeth cleaning, about the same.
physical feature related? coz mine all look the same.
More like where they are in life now, overall.
click to expand
And this validates you.
It shouldn't ... you've shared a lot, here.
Not even being ugly, it's just true.
Posted by MontgomeryThat's vague.Posted by QuantumPosted by SDNAActually...I met her at the grocery because SHE WORKS THERE....Posted by Quantum"Still buying canned goods past 30 haha i won i won i won!"Posted by SDNABesides needing a good teeth cleaning, about the same.
physical feature related? coz mine all look the same.
More like where they are in life now, overall.
And this validates you.
It shouldn't ... you've shared a lot, here.
Not even being ugly, it's just true.
click to expand
Clarify.
Posted by QuantumNobody says please, up north... it's weird.Posted by MontgomeryThat's vague.Posted by QuantumPosted by SDNAActually...I met her at the grocery because SHE WORKS THERE....Posted by Quantum"Still buying canned goods past 30 haha i won i won i won!"Posted by SDNABesides needing a good teeth cleaning, about the same.
physical feature related? coz mine all look the same.
More like where they are in life now, overall.
And this validates you.
It shouldn't ... you've shared a lot, here.
Not even being ugly, it's just true.
Clarify.click to expand
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