Ladies, where do you want to stand?

What role do you ideally want to take in a relationship?

Do you want a man to treat you like a queen and take care of you?

Do you want to be the woman behind the man?


What do you require? desire?

Do you want to be the nurturing one taking care of him and have him needing you in this way?

I've seen women take on all sorts of different roles in their relationships... where do you fall when you fall?



For me, well I've settled into something cozy already. My guy and I take care of each other. To be perfectly honest... I feel like he's better at taking care of me. Not so much monetarily but for being a guy, he has a great nurturing instinct with me. I cherish it about him. But then again... there are many times when I love and am thrilled to be able to nurture and cater to him. So I think it's a trade off. I think we're a relationship that is equally supportive of one another. He puts me on a pedestal, but I'm constantly stepping down to be in his arms... that's where id rather be.

My Libra and I are very balanced, naturally 😛
& that's how I prefer it.

(a friend who studied psychology told me we have very balanced power in our body language with eachother)

I've been in relationships before where the guy just doted on me, and I ended up being so turned off honestly...I walked all over them!

In a way we sort of fall into "traditional" roles....
I like cooking for him, doing his laundry sometimes, etc. because I don't do it all the time and he knows not to expect it. 🙂

In the same way, he does things like take care of my car for me, "handles" stuff for me.
I can do all that myself, but it's sweet that he wants to do it for me. It's not like he dotes on me.

ikr!!!

i think it's esp hard for us cap ladies because we are constantly taking the lead on things or in some form of control that we want a man dominant enough to be able to dominate us. pardon my crass language, but i dont want a dickless man. lol he better have some balls!!!

BUT dont boss me around! lol there is a super fine line that is easy to cross there for us caprichicks.

i've read that cap women tend to become the power behind the throne. i think of all positions... that is the most natural one for us. we are highly influential to our men. maybe we're not seemingly in control, but we know just how to influence. 😉

briana that sounds awesome 🙂 a nice sexy sextile

"And I also want to have a great, steamy, hot sexual relationship. "

heck yea!!!

^^ This 🙂

Balanced, although I'd imagine I'll naturally take more of the traditional role in the household. We'd both gave and take equally from each other and care for each other.

Posted by CreepyPants
ikr!!!

i think it's esp hard for us cap ladies because we are constantly taking the lead on things or in some form of control that we want a man dominant enough to be able to dominate us. pardon my crass language, but i dont want a dickless man. lol he better have some balls!!!

BUT dont boss me around! lol there is a super fine line that is easy to cross there for us caprichicks.

i've read that cap women tend to become the power behind the throne. i think of all positions... that is the most natural one for us. we are highly influential to our men. maybe we're not seemingly in control, but we know just how to influence. 😉

I agree with this! I want it to all be 50/50, an equal partnership.

It is very difficult for me to give up control (especially with a Cap moon). I tend to be social, so I am constantly saying "so and so invited us here. Do you want to go?" I feel like it could be considered as pushy or taking charge of our social life, but he doesn't seem to mind. Says he likes it. He seems to like going places and doing things. He's more of a homebody. When we starting dating, I told him I'd teach him to be more social and he can teach me to be a homebody. lol! I am a planner, so I like to know what I'm going to be doing this weekend, etc. It's tough for me to sit back and let him make plans, but that is necessary and gives him control in that aspect.

As far as the power behind the throne. Yes!! Very supportive in his career and always encouraging him to follow his ambitions. Men should be able to feel someone is in their corner and cheering them on in their accomplishments and that someone is proud of them when they succeed!

Oh, just on the theory of the power behind the throne - well, caps tend to know a lot of people in the right places! I can see how that could be beneficial to someone's career. 😉

@metoo -

There have been a lot of times he says I'm cooking tonight, come eat with us and we eat and sit on the couch and watch movies or football. I don't mind doing that at all. He is teaching me how to enjoy just sitting at home, too. I just like to know that's what the plan is. I didn't mean it to sound like we are always going and doing. Sometimes my friends invite us out with them and he'll say "lets just stay home". That's okay too!

The success is built around each other knowing the others weaknesses/strenghts .. and either stepping up, or stepping down appropriately without worry.


If he knows his shit, I stand down and let him rule ... if I'm the one who knows how to deal, he steps down and lets me rule.

In doing this, you build absolute trust in each other .. because he knows that if I'm out of my league, I'll rely on him, and visa versa, and we know that the other will step up for the other.


This standing that you speak of has to be proportioned without resentment according to the others capability .... understand and practice this in a relatinship and the partnership will last a life time

IF ONE STANDS WITH P ANGLE ONE STANDS IN RAT PISS.