Long distance opinion

Okay I am “seeing” someone long distance. I have been the only one To travel to see him. He is scared to fly and I’m understanding of that so I don’t mind doing the traveling. But my family and close friends are growing bitter (haven’t met him either ac
Okay I am “seeing” someone long distance. I have been the only one To travel to see him.
He is scared to fly and I’m understanding of that so I don’t mind doing the traveling. But my family and close friends are growing bitter (haven’t met him either accept for the friend who introduced us a couple years ago) because they feel I should not be the only one doing the work. They think he should find a way to visit me.

Am I being too understanding or are they being too judgmental?
What are your opinions on this?
Don’t get me wrong I’d be beyond happy if he came to visit me but If he is uncomfortable flying then it is what it is. I am not going to hold I against him.

He has been the one to initiate visits lately and he said he wants to pay for me to fly down soon.
It’s about a 21 hour drive so I wouldn’t expect that.

clownloyal
silence is loud
you should also obtain the fear of flying

how about taking a bus? honestly, if he starts paying for the trips I see nothing wrong w/ you being the one to go down there cuz he is meeting you half way by paying and such
Posted by clownloyal
you should also obtain the fear of flying

how about taking a bus? honestly, if he starts paying for the trips I see nothing wrong w/ you being the one to go down there cuz he is meeting you half way by paying and such


Yeah he hasn’t paid yet but offered this time. We will see.
If he contributes I don’t see a issue either, he also drives a couple hours to pick me up at the airport. I mentioned something such as taking a train to him he seemed uninterested.
UnicornSag
30 years old female
Sun, Venus, Mercury ♐Moon♈Mars♏ASC♓-inside 🦄/outside🐲
wait, so there is a bus/train option beside plane and he doesn't accept that either? That would be a warning sign to me. Personally I wouldn't listen much to what others think but if there is land option for him to reach you I'd definitely get suspicious if he doesn't express desire to do so. I drove 32h in a bus and here I am still alive and perfectly fine, so if he can't take plane should be willing to do bus at least. Did you ask him about that option?
nano
Earthy Gemini 🌱💎
It really doesn't matter what we say, as long as it's working between you and him. You should also think about how important your family is to you, and how he is effecting his own reputation with them.

In my own opinion, I think that's something that he needs to overcome if he is going to be in a LDR... what is more important to him - allowing his fear to hold him back or you? I don't think it's wrong of your family to be concerned either. I think it's quite ridiculous to engage in LDR but be too scared to travel, lol.
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wait, so there is a bus/train option beside plane and he doesn't accept that either? That would be a warning sign to me. Personally I wouldn't listen much to what others think but if there is land option for him to reach you I'd definitely get suspicious if he doesn't express desire to do so. I drove 32h in a bus and here I am still alive and perfectly fine, so if he can't take plane should be willing to do bus at least. Did you ask him about that option?


Have not mentioned bus but not much different from train is it? Still an alternative. He’s a very cautious person and doesn’t take many risks. I know he cares but idk maybe the cancer with Virgo moon nature being too cautious
UnicornSag
30 years old female
Sun, Venus, Mercury ♐Moon♈Mars♏ASC♓-inside 🦄/outside🐲
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wait, so there is a bus/train option beside plane and he doesn't accept that either? That would be a warning sign to me. Personally I wouldn't listen much to what others think but if there is land option for him to reach you I'd definitely get suspicious if he doesn't express desire to do so. I drove 32h in a bus and here I am still alive and perfectly fine, so if he can't take plane should be willing to do bus at least. Did you ask him about that option?


Have not mentioned bus but not much different from train is it? Still an alternative. He’s a very cautious person and doesn’t take many risks. I know he cares but idk maybe the cancer with Virgo moon nature being too cautious
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yeah, train even better and safer option. It's just laziness of a Cancer I guess then lol but sure why not suggest him those options and see what he says, simply tell him you'd love for him to see your surrounding as well and to know how and where you live too...can't hurt I guess
Arielle83
Sam Rockwell is bae
So I guess you'll be travelling alone the duration of your relationship?

Hope you're independent.
Posted by nano
It really doesn't matter what we say, as long as it's working between you and him. You should also think about how important your family is to you, and how he is effecting his own reputation with them.

In my own opinion, I think that's something that he needs to overcome if he is going to be in a LDR... what is more important to him - allowing his fear to hold him back or you? I don't think it's wrong of your family to be concerned either. I think it's quite ridiculous to engage in LDR but be too scared to travel, lol.


I am thinking with more time he will get there he makes moves... slowly but It takes time with him. But there seems to be a lack of willingness to try. But like I said I accept it and he is offering to pay for my travel so there is some compensation. But in long term aspect, id like him to meet my family and friends. And see me in my own environment: I am beyond understanding, sometimes I put my own needs and wants aside. But part of me also (Leo sun venus and merc) I will do almost anything for my loved one but if I feel I am getting way less than I put out I subconsciously want to back up, I need reciprocity. But my lib Moon also makes me back up to create more of a balance when i see my side of the scale weighing down.
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wait, so there is a bus/train option beside plane and he doesn't accept that either? That would be a warning sign to me. Personally I wouldn't listen much to what others think but if there is land option for him to reach you I'd definitely get suspicious if he doesn't express desire to do so. I drove 32h in a bus and here I am still alive and perfectly fine, so if he can't take plane should be willing to do bus at least. Did you ask him about that option?


Have not mentioned bus but not much different from train is it? Still an alternative. He’s a very cautious person and doesn’t take many risks. I know he cares but idk maybe the cancer with Virgo moon nature being too cautious

yeah, train even better and safer option. It's just laziness of a Cancer I guess then lol but sure why not suggest him those options and see what he says, simply tell him you'd love for him to see your surrounding as well and to know how and where you live too...can't hurt I guess
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I feel in time he will he’s a slow mover lol
MyStarsShine
Venus ruled, Star gazing Scorpio with Moon in Taurus
Could he travel to you by sleeper train ?
Posted by Arielle83
So I guess you'll be travelling alone the duration of your relationship?

Hope you're independent.


Yes I have been traveling alone. And I am very independent actually. First plane trip and first long road trip were all on my own. I don’t need anyone to hold my hand unlike him lol
UnicornSag
30 years old female
Sun, Venus, Mercury ♐Moon♈Mars♏ASC♓-inside 🦄/outside🐲
Posted by oneday
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Posted by oneday
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wait, so there is a bus/train option beside plane and he doesn't accept that either? That would be a warning sign to me. Personally I wouldn't listen much to what others think but if there is land option for him to reach you I'd definitely get suspicious if he doesn't express desire to do so. I drove 32h in a bus and here I am still alive and perfectly fine, so if he can't take plane should be willing to do bus at least. Did you ask him about that option?


Have not mentioned bus but not much different from train is it? Still an alternative. He’s a very cautious person and doesn’t take many risks. I know he cares but idk maybe the cancer with Virgo moon nature being too cautious

yeah, train even better and safer option. It's just laziness of a Cancer I guess then lol but sure why not suggest him those options and see what he says, simply tell him you'd love for him to see your surrounding as well and to know how and where you live too...can't hurt I guess


I feel in time he will he’s a slow mover lol
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that could be it as well...well like I said, you know him better than people around you so make your own decision is he worth it or not, don't let anyone cloud your judgement is all I can say but also fair from him to offer to cover expenses so he sounds ok to me at least
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wait, so there is a bus/train option beside plane and he doesn't accept that either? That would be a warning sign to me. Personally I wouldn't listen much to what others think but if there is land option for him to reach you I'd definitely get suspicious if he doesn't express desire to do so. I drove 32h in a bus and here I am still alive and perfectly fine, so if he can't take plane should be willing to do bus at least. Did you ask him about that option?



Have not mentioned bus but not much different from train is it? Still an alternative. He’s a very cautious person and doesn’t take many risks. I know he cares but idk maybe the cancer with Virgo moon nature being too cautious

yeah, train even better and safer option. It's just laziness of a Cancer I guess then lol but sure why not suggest him those options and see what he says, simply tell him you'd love for him to see your surrounding as well and to know how and where you live too...can't hurt I guess


I feel in time he will he’s a slow mover lol

that could be it as well...well like I said, you know him better than people around you so make your own decision is he worth it or not, don't let anyone cloud your judgement is all I can say but also fair from him to offer to cover expenses so he sounds ok to me at least
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Thanks for your input. Like I said I’m fine with it, I knew how he was when we got into this predicament. You are right I think people are getting to my head, I just don’t want the people close to me to get a bad image of him. My brother is very judgmental and thinks he is not a good guy because he won’t come see me. But it’s definitely more complicated than that you know?
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Could he travel to you by sleeper train ?


I believe so
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