Men are hunters

By nature. I hear this a lot. Here and there, older women with significant successful experience let the younger population know that "a woman must not let a man catch/conquer/figure her out completely, and always keep the 5-10% in the shadows". Otherwise, once the prey is caught and there's nothing more to it, the game becomes stale and the hunter looks to new prospects. I'd like to hear a man's take on this. What do dxp men think about this? Also, women who have been married for longer than 5 years (i.e. P-Angel and others) could give their 50 cents.

No bitter 30-40y.o. lone feminist opinions please, go catfish somewhere else.

Thanks for the input @NovemberStar. As for feminism, that's what it should be but that's not what it is in most parts of the world novadays.

Posted by RamOfPeace
By nature. I hear this a lot. Here and there, older women with significant successful experience let the younger population know that "a woman must not let a man catch/conquer/figure her out completely, and always keep the 5-10% in the shadows". Otherwise, once the prey is caught and there's nothing more to it, the game becomes stale and the hunter looks to new prospects. I'd like to hear a man's take on this. What do dxp men think about this? Also, women who have been married for longer than 5 years (i.e. P-Angel and others) could give their 50 cents.

No bitter 30-40y.o. lone feminist opinions please, go catfish somewhere else.

I'm sure that there are some men who only want the hunting game and abandon the prey once caught. However, I think the philosophy behind this theory is that traditionally for a man to develop feelings, he must invest in the woman. When a man makes more efforts, he is more likely to develop feelings. So, this theory isn't about playing hard to get, it's about letting the man do the asking out and initiating contact, doing things for the woman, feeling useful and appreciated, thinking about strategies on how to capture her heart, etc. The new feminists don't seem to want to give the man a chance to play his role, therefore he doesn't get to invest his time, energy, etc in "hunting".

Qualifications per OP - married 18 years (though divorced), LTR for 4 years.

Posted by Koniucha
That sounds awful to me. I hate playing games and don't really even know how to. I think if two people like each other, they should tell each other.

Also, I do not fit your qualifications lol

It's not a game, it's about letting the man invest in the relationship.

Posted by Koniucha
That sounds awful to me. I hate playing games and don't really even know how to. I think if two people like each other, they should tell each other.

Also, I do not fit your qualifications lol

It's not a game, it's about letting the man invest in the relationship.

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Posted by RamOfPeace
By nature. I hear this a lot. Here and there, older women with significant successful experience let the younger population know that "a woman must not let a man catch/conquer/figure her out completely, and always keep the 5-10% in the shadows". Otherwise, once the prey is caught and there's nothing more to it, the game becomes stale and the hunter looks to new prospects. I'd like to hear a man's take on this. What do dxp men think about this? Also, women who have been married for longer than 5 years (i.e. P-Angel and others) could give their 50 cents.

No bitter 30-40y.o. lone feminist opinions please, go catfish somewhere else.

I'm sure that there are some men who only want the hunting game and abandon the prey once caught. However, I think the philosophy behind this theory is that traditionally for a man to develop feelings, he must invest in the woman. When a man makes more efforts, he is more likely to develop feelings. So, this theory isn't about playing hard to get, it's about letting the man do the asking out and initiating contact, doing things for the woman, feeling useful and appreciated, thinking about strategies on how to capture her heart, etc. The new feminists don't seem to want to give the man a chance to play his role, therefore he doesn't get to invest his time, energy, etc in "hunting".

Qualifications per OP - married 18 years (though divorced), LTR for 4 years.

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I absolutely agree. Ive also read about this topic. Playing cat and mouse games where you constantly keep yourself out of arms reach doesn't invoke trust in the other. Doesn't invoke a feeling of "safety" for neither parties. Its all an ego feed.

I think it's the women also who don't use "feminine energy" whilst dealing with a man. Not letting the man do his steps you mentioned in order for him fall in love.

Nice to read various opinions, thanks

Sometimes if you make yourself too available (read easy prey) and do too much at the beginning it paints yourself as clingy.

Whereas if your busy doing your own thing and not constantly up the dudes ass your gonna be more enticing as you have your own life and interests outside of him. He knows he's gotta step up his game and pursue you (read hunt) to qualify himself to you before some other dude comes along and sweeps you out from underneath him.

I don't believe in game play. However I do believe in exercising emotional restraint, especially when things are in the beginning stages.