@VenusStar
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Would you date a girl who has rejected you in the past?
Posted by Impulsv
I always thought that Taurus feared that.
Where would I waste Time and energy just to get revenge.
I'm not like that. But just outside of signs do you think there is a chance. Rejected him a few times because I was having a pity party and didn't think a serious boyfriend would work. I didn't realize how much I liked him until he left but I know he's pretty resentful.
I honestly think this is exactly what happened to me with the Taurus. I brushed him off at first due to age, and when we reconnected I was ready to actually consider something but he took that opportunity as payback.
I had NO idea people operated this way, but it was my first experience, so I learned .
If you sense this guy is capable of doing this to you I say stay faarrr away.
Posted by Impulsv
I didn't realize how much I liked him until he left but I know he's pretty resentful.
Then I wonder what it's going to happen when he's back in your life again ................. But anyway, be honest about this if you do want to start something with him.
Posted by KinglyCrab
If he really liked you he would have respected your answer.
Explain this please
Posted by Impulsv
I always thought that Taurus feared that.
Where would I waste Time and energy just to get revenge.I'm not like that. But just outside of signs do you think there is a chance. Rejected him a few times because I was having a pity party and didn't think a serious boyfriend would work. I didn't realize how much I liked him until he left but I know he's pretty resentful.
If you see anyone bearing the signs of "resentment ", why on earth would you want to go there...!!!
Let it go!! Fish in the ocean instead of a pond!!!
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Despite that he's a decent guy that I've known since I was a kid, we have the same background, he's hardworking and kind but a bit a lose cannon. I wouldn't want the opportunity to pass but I know if I were on the outside looking in this situation would involve some hurt.
Posted by KinglyCrab
If he really liked you he would have respected your answer.Explain this please
Meaning if he has any respect for you he would understand no means no. The way the world is now men won't chase due to being called bad things. Just be upfront and concise. If what he says doesn't show anything happening just leave it. You had your chance. Doesn't he deserve to have someone to like him back the way he likes her. Unrequited love isn't like the movies and novels you girls read and see. You'll find out later how weird you are. We make social interaction hard on us because of the delusions we put in our head, men and wonen.
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Good words.. I don't know, I'm someone who won't have an easy time letting go of a girl I deeply care about, actually.
I think this isn't only about how you view that particular woman, but also how you view yourself as a man.. Some men feel insulted when they get rejected, but that's just what happens when you try to seek validation based on someone else's opionion. Plus some think they deserve something.
Posted by KinglyCrab
If he really liked you he would have respected your answer.Explain this please
Meaning if he has any respect for you he would understand no means no. The way the world is now men won't chase due to being called bad things. Just be upfront and concise. If what he says doesn't show anything happening just leave it. You had your chance. Doesn't he deserve to have someone to like him back the way he likes her. Unrequited love isn't like the movies and novels you girls read and see. You'll find out later how weird you are. We make social interaction hard on us because of the delusions we put in our head, men and wonen.
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its not his fault to some degree. I give mixed signals, my body language says " I like you" and my mind and mouth gives excuses as to why I can't. There have been times when he stops talking to me or hanging around for years (the most 2-3yrs). This time he moved out of state and I know I had something to do with it. Not 100% but maybe 50. He's someone I've known for a long time and I don't want to lose contact. I'd be willing to be just friends but I know he want more or nothing at all.
Kinglycrab - if he's receptive to me talking to him and he doesn't avoid me I'll apologize and ask.
(I do know its about to be intense. He's the kind of guy that is macho and sensitive at the same time. and I'm not the mushy type).
Before he left he told me in no direct words that he thinks I won't date him because of hes a truck driver. Now he's a firefighter. I expect him to be uber resentful.
Sounds very immature to me. He can be spiteful and petty, that is a red flag. Sure people can change, but it has to be a consistent effort of change. If you are already creating hypothetical scenarios where he is enacting revenge, do not go for it. Save yourself the trouble and let this one go
No, I would be skeptical and suspicious of the sudden change of attraction. I'm also a crab and I really dislike rejection, especially the chance of several rejections.
Not bothered to read this shorter than average thread but if a girl rejected me for a date it would depend upon her reaction when I asked her out, the reason, if any, for the rejection coupled with how much I like her as to whether or not I would go on a date in the future with her.
A nice vague answer for you :-)
He's super social and talks to every one but right after that incident he crossed the street to avoid me a week after. Three weeks after he didn't see me coming smiled and said "hi beautiful" . we had one awkward encounter after that where I tried to cut it short and walk away but he would keep talking. After that he avoided me a few more times and finally moved Dec/Jan last year out of state.
Took me a while to realize how hurt I really was and months to cry. I think his brother keeps him up to date on what I'm doing though.
Posted by Impulsv
I didn't realize how much I liked him until he left but I know he's pretty resentful.Then I wonder what it's going to happen when he's back in your life again ................. But anyway, be honest about this if you do want to start something with him.
This is t my quote lol
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Oh shit I'm sorry 😆
Posted by Impulsv
I always thought that Taurus feared that.
Where would I waste Time and energy just to get revenge.This OP.
I would always fear "revenge ".. So I would just cut my losses.
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You make choices based on fear a lot then?
Posted by KinglyCrab
@VenusStar
Also one last thing. How can you be sure he's resentful? You haven't seen him. That's just the insecurity that lies within all of us talking. If he is resentful then you're gonna have to learn to say"Fuck him" because otherwise you'll won't be able to let him leave your life. If things don't go well and you find it hard let him fade from your life, he'll be there but you'll notice less. Time and keeping busy does its work, don't worry.
thank you kc. I don't think he'll be resentful up front but if all goes well in time, if I mess up and he feels insecure. All of those old feelings will come back up.
Posted by Impulsv
I always thought that Taurus feared that.
Where would I waste Time and energy just to get revenge.This OP.
I would always fear "revenge ".. So I would just cut my losses.
You make choices based on fear a lot then?
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yes, I do. I'm trying to change that. I rarely go beyond my comfort zone.
Posted by Impulsv
I always thought that Taurus feared that.
Where would I waste Time and energy just to get revenge.I'm not like that. But just outside of signs do you think there is a chance. Rejected him a few times because I was having a pity party and didn't think a serious boyfriend would work. I didn't realize how much I liked him until he left but I know he's pretty resentful.
If you see anyone bearing the signs of "resentment ", why on earth would you want to go there...!!!
Let it go!! Fish in the ocean instead of a pond!!!
Despite that he's a decent guy that I've known since I was a kid, we have the same background, he's hardworking and kind but a bit a lose cannon. I wouldn't want the opportunity to pass but I know if I were on the outside looking in this situation would involve some hurt.
You can blame your mutable sag moon for that!! My taurus also has this moon... You guys are such hard work... I always say to him "you may have three things here but pick ONE and STICK TO IT!! Lol lol
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lol... And my rising. I think too much.
Posted by elguapolibra
Sounds very immature to me. He can be spiteful and petty, that is a red flag. Sure people can change, but it has to be a consistent effort of change. If you are already creating hypothetical scenarios where he is enacting revenge, do not go for it. Save yourself the trouble and let this one goYeah but that is just fear she has to learn to control
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i understand controlling fear, but she already knows this guy to be that certain way. She doesnt feel comfortable so she should not put herself in that situation.
Posted by elguapolibra
Sounds very immature to me. He can be spiteful and petty, that is a red flag. Sure people can change, but it has to be a consistent effort of change. If you are already creating hypothetical scenarios where he is enacting revenge, do not go for it. Save yourself the trouble and let this one goYeah but that is just fear she has to learn to control
i understand controlling fear, but she already knows this guy to be that certain way. She doesnt feel comfortable so she should not put herself in that situation.
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It is fear and I think that my actions put me in a bad light so it seems that it is very possible I may be ignored all together or he may try again with not the best intentions in mind.
Posted by elguapolibra
Sounds very immature to me. He can be spiteful and petty, that is a red flag. Sure people can change, but it has to be a consistent effort of change. If you are already creating hypothetical scenarios where he is enacting revenge, do not go for it. Save yourself the trouble and let this one goYeah but that is just fear she has to learn to control
i understand controlling fear, but she already knows this guy to be that certain way. She doesnt feel comfortable so she should not put herself in that situation.
It is fear and I think that my actions put me in a bad light so it seems that it is very possible I may be ignored all together or he may try again with not the best intentions in mind.
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Well then the issue isnt that you are seen in a bad light or you will be ignored, the issue is that you need to see who you are. You come off as very unsure of yourself. I believe that you should maybe not worry about being being ignored or getting the attention from this guy and maybe just working on being comfortably with yourself. You are walking into a situation where he can be vindictive toward you. Again it sounds like you are uncomfortable with the whole situation, and if this guy is able to be as spiteful as you say he can be, he will use it to his advantage.
Posted by VenusStar
This guy had a thing for me. I tried to apologize but he blew me off because he's so angry. I might see him in a few months . would he give me a chance or should I be scared that he'll take advantage of me out of spite. He can be spiteful and petty.Your profile pic â¤
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thank you
Posted by elguapolibra
Sounds very immature to me. He can be spiteful and petty, that is a red flag. Sure people can change, but it has to be a consistent effort of change. If you are already creating hypothetical scenarios where he is enacting revenge, do not go for it. Save yourself the trouble and let this one goYeah but that is just fear she has to learn to control
i understand controlling fear, but she already knows this guy to be that certain way. She doesnt feel comfortable so she should not put herself in that situation.
It is fear and I think that my actions put me in a bad light so it seems that it is very possible I may be ignored all together or he may try again with not the best intentions in mind.
Well then the issue isnt that you are seen in a bad light or you will be ignored, the issue is that you need to see who you are. You come off as very unsure of yourself. I believe that you should maybe not worry about being being ignored or getting the attention from this guy and maybe just working on being comfortably with yourself. You are walking into a situation where he can be vindictive toward you. Again it sounds like you are uncomfortable with the whole situation, and if this guy is able to be as spiteful as you say he can be, he will use it to his advantage.
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maybe so but I know that this guys has feelings for me and I hurt his feelings. A man with hurt feelings is nothing to play with.
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This guy had a thing for me. I tried to apologize but he blew me off because he's so angry. I might see him in a few months . would he give me a chance or should I be scared that he'll take advantage of me out of spite. He can be spiteful and petty.