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I don't think people (mainly women) are that upset about losing their man when a break up happens. They come in here and talk about how hurt they are, and look what he did .. and that it's all about losing him .. and I think that is a lie they tell themselves.

People are so goddamn afraid of the truth that they will go to any length to conceal it from themselves.


What they are upset about is that they missed the signs that were right in front of their face the whole time ... what they are pissed off about is that he was fucked up from jump and they let themselves hide that reality from their mind, so their hearts could behold.


It's not even about following your head or your heart ... because they lie to each other, so there's nothing valuable to follow.


You aren't mad because he looked at another woman .. you are mad because he's always looked at other women and you ignored it until now

You aren't hurt because he cheated on you ... you are hurt because he cheated on her to have you and you thought he wouldn't do it to you, and look how stupid you were for doing that

You aren't upset because he is being distant ... you are upset because you tried to play hard to get and ignored him and he was like ... okie-dokie



Open your eyes .... you already knew all those things, and let yourself fall prey to your own deception.

interesting... true...i'm usually angry with myself whenever hurt due to my own blinders... xoj

I really get frustrated with women when they think they are in love with a man who ...... to be with her, he cheated on another .... because he isn't worth it.

Love/hate is so close to each other that a person can barely tell the difference ... to be with a man like that = to hate yourself, to punish yourself, to hurt yourself .. but, you think it's love, you swear it's love.


It's very heartbreaking to watch women do this ... sex is the culprit.

Women use sex to get the man, and then get upset because he isn't considering her feelings.

It's like my best friend once told me, "You're not afraid of disappointing them (like not being good enough, so he leaves), you're afraid of being disappointed, so you either ignore them altogether or you pretend that they're perfect until they fuck up big time." Except, they were probably fuck ups all along, and I was too stubborn or too oblivious to connect the dots.

It's the egos self preservation.

As much as people would like to think that they have a handle on their egos ... it rears it's ugly head, so you can make it pretty.


Balanced? or Unbalanced?



Additionally, if you notice .... what is usually the breaking point, was also the attraction.

You liked his free spirit ... until it came to him being non-committal
You loved how many friends he has, and how loved he is .... until you felt like one of the bunch


Balanced? or Unbalanced?

Posted by dreamer23

To dis-identify with ones mind is hard; a work in progress for me. But Im getting there! :-)

Very hard, and the only true answer to all life problems ....

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Posted by dreamer23

To dis-identify with ones mind is hard; a work in progress for me. But Im getting there! :-)

Very hard, and the only true answer to all life problems ....

I have been single for two years. Then I got involved w/ this Aqua. I allowed him into my life because we had similar philosophies about all of this stuff and what I am really looking for is an enlightened relationship. Then he started doing the stupid Aqua stuff(disappearing, etc) - and I found myself being pulled back into that unconsciousness. Not his fault of course - I am responsible for my own reactions - but I thought, how can I be w/ someone who plays these games? So I ended it.

I have been a little sad and angry at times. But I really shouldn't be. I recognize that I can be disappointed that it didn't work out, but leave the other feelings out. They are just a projection of past hurts that this relationship has brought to the surface again. He has every right to be him and I have every right to be me. We just dont work I guess. Its easier said than done - but Im trying!

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This is how I feel with the aqua that I mentioned before. The only thing is the aqua told me that he couldn't be in a relationship, and it was the first time a guy openly admitted that he couldn't. And I appreciated it so much. So, my lingering feelings for him are not because he disappeared finally since he told me it wouldn't work (although, he did say he still wanted to be friends, but it's probably best we go our separate ways), but because I truly wanted to be with him. I often think that with the guys I end up with who pull the bullshit are guys I know I don't want to be with or shouldn't be with (more so the latter than the former). I will avoid what they are to see if something different might happen. In the end, it doesn't, and I only really have myself to blame, but I end up figuring things out regardless. With this aqua, that wasn't the case at all. He was a very special type, and I wanted to be with him of my own accord. The only pain I feel is that it couldn't be what I know it could have been and I still think about him all the time, but his honesty i

Yeah, you do live and learn. Aquas can be tough in general, but I think we got to see the positive more so than the negative. And yeah, I sometimes wonder why we couldn't have worked out. I didn't mention this, but one night while cuddling, the aqua, out the blue, said to me that I was "his girl." I just kind of sat there and said, "you think so?" And he just nodded and said it felt right. I haven't forgotten that since only because I truly believed it. And I'm not going to feel upset about it now only because I still feel if something were to happen in the future (although, I won't get my hopes up), he (and I) would feel the same. It just felt like we naturally fit together, and you don't get that all the time lol. I find so funny because it was with an aqua, one sign I felt I would never be with. But my lesson now is to just enjoy what things were and to not succumb to the bad things anymore.

I think most of it is made up
this is the land of the DRAMA QUEENS

I am back in town
but plan to leave tonight
will be back next week
then gone for quite awhile
hold the fort down bling

How DOES one wear a suit like that and not go completely bonkers?! I would lose my marbles picking at myself like an ape.

I always thought of ZULU LIKE THERE ALAMO

I always thought of zulu like the texas alamo