Guys: Would you knock her if...

She gave you oral sex the 1st day you met her OR early on in the relationship?

Nowadays, so many people swear that having sex on the 1st date or early on in the relationship may NOT ruin things b/c hey, it's all about the "chemistry" right?

Well guys, you may not necessarily knock a woman for being willing to go all the way with you, but what if she seems anxious to give you oral sex early on (even if she doesn't ask for it in return)?

I've seen twice as many guys knock a woman and/or call her "easy" if they met a woman who was willing to give them head moreso than they'd knock a woman who was willing to go all the way. Idk, maybe it's just me, but that seems kind of backwards! You'd think that if a woman was willing to go ALL the way, that you'd knock her alot quicker vs. her just going to level 4 (oral sex) with ya.

Weird. I've had guys beg to give me oral sex way before we even had sex or even made it to week 3 of us dating! I was kind of weirded out! I guess I'm so used to guys naturally wanting/wishing to have sex with me, but when a guy seems to be a little TOO anxious to give me oral sex (w/o expecting any in return), I start imagining all the OTHER women he's probably done that to as well, therefore I'll immediately get turned off.

I've heard some people say that giving oral sex is wayyyyy more PERSONAL than just having regular sex with someone. Still kind of seems backwards to me...

... but my friend brought this to my attention a few years ago when she discovered that her man had been cheating on her. She always used to say, "I can't believe that SOB gave her oral sex! That's 10 times worse than him actually having sex with her b/c it's more personal. Guys are way more anal about who they give oral sex to, so if my man was willing to perform that on another woman, that must mean he likes her!"

I thought my friend was a nutcase when she'd said that but over the years, I realized that ALOT of people actually think that way.

How is oral sex more personal? I personally think that sex is as personal as it gets! If my man were to give oral sex to another woman instead of screwing her, sure I'd be upset still, BUT I'd be twice as upset if he F'd her, considering now I've gotta worry about THREE things: 1. Him cheating on me 2. Him taking the risk of getting/giving an std AND 3. Him taking the risk of getting another woman pregnant. Oral sex only poses 2 out of the 3, thus my reasoning & rationale tells me that full blown sex is worse!

lol Krysrenee, you're so logical. And therein lies the problem of why you don't understand it 😛 I think its because people aren't willing to do oral (taste issues?) so its something they'll only do with someone they really care about and want to please. So therefore its more personal.

Well maybe I should have said women? I can't stand the taste and I know I'm not alone.. but I'll give oral to someone I care about. Course otoh, I don't really do anything sexual with someone I DONT care about. I'm speculating really.

I mean I get the whole theory that giving oral is more personal. I personally wouldn't give oral sex to a man that I didn't care about, but then again I wouldn't have sex with a guy I didn't care about either.

I'm just wondering if guys will think a woman is def. easy if she's willing to give him oral sex before sex OR before he's even given her the impression that they'll be serious any time soon.

I made a post awhile back, asking people what their definitions of what a "hoe" was & now that I look back, I am 10 times more quick to consider a woman a slxt if she's going around giving more blowjobs than she is actually having sex with guys!

I've heard about the whole "power theory" when it comes to guys getting head. Some guys feel that women are in a position of submission when they give a man oral sex...ya know, she's on her knees, basically bowing down to this guy & pleasing him. Yikes!

Posted by DazedScorp
I don't even care for getting head. Never been able to get off from it. All it is to me is foreplay, to get me hard. So no, me personally, I wouldn't consider her a slut.

1 of my male friends told me this years ago. He still swears up & down that head doesn't phase him at all. And then another friend of mine said the exact opposite: he'd rather get head than have sex! WHAT THE!

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Posted by DazedScorp
I don't even care for getting head. Never been able to get off from it. All it is to me is foreplay, to get me hard. So no, me personally, I wouldn't consider her a slut.

Also, saying that you can't get off from head has gotten me way more blowjobs than I can't count. I've told alot of my female friend this and they usualy accept the challenge. All of them have failed.

HAHAHA! Omg I'm guilty as charged! 1 guy told me this a long time ago & I def. thought about going for the challenge! It's an ego thing =P (I'd like to point out that I never participated in the challenge) lol

Posted by everevolvingepithet
"I've heard about the whole "power theory" when it comes to guys getting head. Some guys feel that women are in a position of submission when they give a man oral sex...ya know, she's on her knees, basically bowing down to this guy & pleasing him. Yikes!"
How do you figure that when his crown jewels are in her mouth ?

Exactly. Submission my ASS.

@wmgamdor: Very true. The only problem is that if a girl is a little TOO good, it leaves room for the man to automatically get the sense that she's THAT good b/c she's been giving the same "service" to THAT many other guys too!

I've actually heard the opposite. If a woman comes out full swinging & gives him the best & her all during the very 1st time, yes he might be sprung & in "oral heaven" BUT he also won't have anything to look forward to! In the book, "He's Just Not Into You" the author talked about this. He talked about how it might actually be a BAD idea for a woman to show up with 65 sex toys, lube & lingerie early on b/c while yes it may temporarily be heaven for a guy, it also leaves room for him to get bored more quickly. Hey, once you run out of your best tricks, then what? =P