Online Dating- Yay or Nay?

Hey everyone! Thx for reading!
So, I've been contemplating trying online dating....I was curious if anyone else here has tried it? If so, please let me know of your experiences. In addition, if you know someone who has tried it and know how it went for them...let me know too! Furthermore, How long do you think one should wait to meet someone from online? After a few messages? Days? Weeks?. I know about the potential catfish scenarios, but those are easily solved with
phonecalls & video chatting. =) I look forward to reading everyone's posts!

My brother has been dating a girl that he found on this one dating website. They've been going at it for about half a year now aha. I recently met her like the last week of March and I like her

I do, but I never meet any of them. Their either extremely hot which I dislike, or extremely obese which I also dislike. The ones I actually find attractive and my type never make it far, normally from me not putting enough, or too much effort into it. Its actually quite hard :/

I normally get around 70 profile likes between POF and okc yearly. I use that data to figure out which signs I attract the most which sounds lame, but interesting in my opinion.

Seems my identical profiles with pictures and a brief description of myself attracts Aquarius the most, and Sag a tiny bit behind. Those two compared to every other sign are near double when it comes to profile likes.

What does this mean? No fucking clue.

flowingwater, How long did you chat with him prior to meeting in person?

Always meet in a public well lighted place.. I just deleted pof, and I am on okc...but I see a few on there and pof.. haha.. I even confronted one. He lied to me. Ended that. Happened to be a Aries...lol.. met an Aquarius, Taurus, and shut it down to talk with the Taurus male.. lol still talking....

Soul- how long have you been on pof?

Everytime I go on pof it's Aquarius, Gemini, Sagittarius, Aries, Scorpio, and Capricorn.. just met my first twin the Taurus male ever...wow...

Before you leave the house take mace with you..

Pick sites that cost money which is a small indicator of intention (premise that nothing that's worth it, is easy or free)

POF is a meat market.
First signs of a market are too many compliments. Buttering you up isn't a good thing in this case.
Depending on your desire, don't respond to anyone that says they aren't looking for "long term", don't have a pic, or partial pic (or one of those that's so far away you know they are hiding something), no effort in their profile.
Be safe and smart about it. Meet for coffee, not drinks. Don't get swept up in the "passion" and overlook the obvious precautions. Even go as far as making sure a friend knows where you met him and his info before you go on a date.
Hmmmm ... Thinking.
Don't send pics of yourself! Lol
Anyone that messages you after appropriate hours is probably looking for a booty call.
Sure I have more but have to go to school. Lol

*marker ... (First signs of a marker not market)

Right red it's exhausting truly. Like I have experienced it. It's not for me. But it does peek my interest..then it's gone just that fast. I have met friends and that's it..red flags start popping up surely. And mentally tiring..probably on both parts depending on the signs I meet. And watch out for felons in prison I got lucky this time....ask.the right questions before meeting..

Well weigh the advantages & disadvantages. And once you have, ask yourself if you can afford to endure any of the consequences or disadvantages that may sway your way, since ya know, life doesn't always go the way we want it to.

There's no doubt that online dating has been a success for thousands of people, so the question of whether or not it's effective is absolutely YES.

My advice is to go into knowing exactly who you are...don't change with the seasons & the wind. Don't fly away from your standards just b/c a few fish will try swaying you or convincing you that your wants & standards are too much to ask for.

Know exactly what you want BEFORE you sign up. Yes be open-minded, but don't stray from the core non-negotiable values & assets you want a potential mate to have. So many people go into online dating with their heads up & backbone strong, but come out of it limping. That doesn't have to be your story.

Don't try to live by a certain 'rule' b/c all rules aren't compatible with who you are as a person or how your heart/emotions/mind likes to do things. Who cares that the next woman may make a man wait a month before she meets a guy. Who cares. If the chemistry is there, if you have the urge to meet a man who shares a mutual interest & if you feel safe meeting him at the right place, then go for it.

Just do what feels right, always go with your gut & be honest with yourself & others about what you want...and if you see what you want, have confidence & go get it. You'll win some & lose some. Dating is a numbers game. Every guy won't be 'the one' but considering that millions of men sign up every day, there's a high likelihood that you'll find a guy who's good enough & who deserves you =) Good luck.

FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428, Thanks for replying. I was actually thinking on joining POF. lol. I have certainly heard mixed reviews. What did you think of that site/app?

FixedWater, Thanks for replying. You made a lot of great points especially with the sites that require payments. I think your reasoning might be true. Because they are paid, people are more serious about their intentions.There are so many sites, which ones would you consider?

Koniucha, Thanks for replying. What site did they use? If you don't mind me asking.

krysrenee7, I really liked reading your post! So true. Sometimes it's easy to lower one's expectations or to settle in order to get more dates.

POF and OK Cupid are both free, and both are cool for meeting new people. But just make sure you have a full body pic and a great tag line...Please avoid the user names 69 or deepinu shit like that..Don't give your number right away talk on there a few times. At times I feel there are hackers or viruses because the site acts up way too often..

Stay away from Craigslists..

My friend online told me he received a call from my friend from POF. Hm no I don't give my number out unless we both argee. So that was weird because you do type your number in and began conversations offline. It just so happened I shut my account down 3 weeks ago and he got that phone call.

I have been on datehook up, but really only go on there for encounters no one is serious.. Lol
Be careful with paid sites and freee sites no one screens for criminal backgrounds and the last chat I had was a guy who was a felon and was in prison. EW. Ask the right questions..Or let's all do the old fashion way meet people on the streets, can be better or worse.

Yeah good luck...I am shy and busy that's why I snoop around and see what's up alittle bit online.

I am not going to lie but the sites do state their zodiac signs. Lol haha I definitely see what projects...alot of them don't put it on their profile so that's fun too..

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