Opinions please! I also posted on cap board!

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KekeB
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8 Years

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I've been knowing this cap man for over a year. We're casual sex buddies trying to see if anything more comes of it.

So here's the problem. I've fallen into some really strong feelings for him and I have no clue how he feels about me. I tend to like everything to be black and white and he's so gaurded when it comes to his feelings that he stays in the grey area. If I text him, he ALWAYS responds. If I call he always answers and if he doesn't, he calls right back. Usually within the hour and if he can't call back, he'll text and let me know he's busy. When we hangout, we always have a great time but when we're alone, I can't help but feel uptight with him. Probably because I'm insecure about his feelings for me. A few months ago I told him I had feelings for him and I asked where does he see this relationship going. He said he's not sure but he sees potential in me. I usually bombard him with random questions about relationships, his future and whatever comes to mind and he is always willing to answer. Well tonight, I asked how he feels about me and his reply was "good". What the hell does that mean? So I asked him to explain. He saidit means he feels good about intentions , motives and if someone is good to keep them in his circle. I still don't understand. Probably because that's not the answer I was looking for. I was looking for a simple answer more along the line of, I care about u and I want u in my life or I don't care about u and it doesn't matter if u leave my life or not. Also, I asked how important was our friendship to him and he said it's important to him because when ur friends u have some type of love for them.

What do u think? Do u think he has feelings for me or is he just being polite and not trying to hurt my feelings. I haven't been in many relationships. Only 2 so I'm not used to the dating thing. Last relationship was 10yrs and I've only been single for 3yrs.
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goutte
@goutte
10 Years

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To me it seems like the answers you're getting are foggy because your questions are foggy. what is it that you want to know? "do you wanna be with me or nah?" right? plain and simple.

So, just ask him again and be clear and straight forward. You said you told him you have feelings for him and he said he sees potential in you. So, instead of asking him questions about his future and what not just get right to the point. If you told him you have feelings for him, what does that mean for you? Does that mean you want to take things further and be in a relationship or do you simply want to know if your feelings are reciprocated? This is what you need to know for sure and I'm sure you know, so communicate exactly that and then ask him what direction he wants to take as well.

Don't sit and analyze and hypothesize just communicate as clearly as you can and do it in a way so you get that same clarity in return.

Best of luck!