People suck in general....when giving relationship advice.

Prove me wrong.....

1- people give advice based on their perspective

2- people rarely tell the truth about the reality of their relationships current or past and often tell you a cumulative storyline based on highlights. So really they leave out a huge chunk of the story and feed out the storyline they choose to acknowledge.

3- this means that you are often getting advice from people who selectively feed you their experiences, that are limited to what they want to portray and therefor are loosely based on reality

4- gather all of that together and what you have is......people often have a fantasy ideal of what they’ve experienced, who they are in relationships and they alter experiences they have to mentally cater to their wounds/ego/vulnerabilities etc.....

5- either way you’re getting bad advice and being fed sugar coated shit even by your most honest friend or family member male or female.



No one knows your relationship better than you and only you know how shit really be going down. So trust yourself to know yourself and your partner the best, this means you need to take full responsibility for how you perceive conflicts or issues and also how you find solutions or ultimatums. You are responsible for your fire. No one else is.

👏 now......shut up please

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Posted by Arielle83

Tbh I’ve seen more specific-sign-damaged chicks on here, giving bad advice because they think they’re experience is universal.

However, a lot of female posters want that advice, because it validates them without ever taking accountability for their part in the relationship issue.

Men who are bitter, are only obvious to me when they seem mgtow. Or go on rants about millennials or rants about traditional values gone, and have an overall disdain for independent women.

I don’t listen to any advice from above posters.

I think the best advice, from female posters, are the ones not empathizing, because it forces me to see the alternative. I like being called out to shit I can’t see

I'm glad to see that someone is saing that doesn't like sugar coating. Most people doesn't want to hear truth or they want to hear they did good although even them know they don't.

I also have to agree on what you say about giving advices. There isn't any universal solution. People can't be compared since they have diffrent expirences. For example I'm aware my expirences won't help anyone, because of culture I live in. People behave differently in every culture. Even if someone has same sun sign or whatever else in chart, we still developed diffrent body language for example, or ways in verbal expressing, some values may be diffrent too.

Honestly it doesn’t really matter what advice someone gives.

People ask a question and as soon as they do no matter the replies they figure out real fast what it is they actually want.

And that’s the clarification needed.

Maybe they do dumb things because of that, but there is nothing wrong with making dumb choices as long as no one gets hurt.

My real answer.

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I see our points crossing paths. 🤔

What Arielle said is true tho, very spot on.

I usually don't do this on dxp because I love all couples and people here and I only want your best but damn it I can't help it, I need to get this out of my swollen chest. 😢

People don't suck, long term relationships suck. Attraction fades away after years IMO, that's why children and tradition are the glue that keep couples together, especially nowadays when when they are just one swipe away from cheating and that's why you see a lot of open marriages and rl.

I have some married male friends who hit me up a lot just to get out of their homes and go out and it sucks because all I want to do is stay home and learn more about planets, astrollology and memes.

Notice in summer when many men are sitting together drinking beer, playing cards, watching sports all day long or after work just because they don't want to go home to their families. But I guess the Corona Karma finally got them bastards and they are forced to stay home!! 😡

Remember, I said this with lots of love!! 🙂

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I usually don't do this on dxp because I love all couples and people here and I only want your best but damn it I can't help it, I need to get this out of my swollen chest. 😢

People don't suck, long term relationships suck. Attraction fades away after years IMO, that's why children and tradition are the glue that keep couples together, especially nowadays when when they are just one swipe away from cheating and that's why you see a lot of open marriages and rl.

I have some married male friends who hit me up a lot just to get out of their homes and go out and it sucks because all I want to do is stay home and learn more about planets, astrollology and memes.

Notice in summer when many men are sitting together drinking beer, playing cards, watching sports all day long or after work just because they don't want to go home to their families. But I guess the Corona Karma finally got them bastards!! 😡

Remember, I said this with lots of love!! 🙂

How many happy single old men do you know?

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Happy? That's a tough question. I know the dads of my friends. Some of them aren't happy I guess, at least that's what my friends say.

But it doesn't mean I am right, all I am saying is that long term relationships are tough. There is a reason why divorces are high and I believe money has not much to do with it,

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I usually don't do this on dxp because I love all couples and people here and I only want your best but damn it I can't help it, I need to get this out of my swollen chest. 😢

People don't suck, long term relationships suck. Attraction fades away after years IMO, that's why children and tradition are the glue that keep couples together, especially nowadays when when they are just one swipe away from cheating and that's why you see a lot of open marriages and rl.

I have some married male friends who hit me up a lot just to get out of their homes and go out and it sucks because all I want to do is stay home and learn more about planets, astrollology and memes.

Notice in summer when many men are sitting together drinking beer, playing cards, watching sports all day long or after work just because they don't want to go home to their families. But I guess the Corona Karma finally got them bastards!! 😡

Remember, I said this with lots of love!! 🙂

How many happy single old men do you know?

Happy? That's a tough question. I know the dads of my friends. Some of them aren't happy I guess, at least that's what my friends say.

But it doesn't mean I am right, all I am saying is that long term relationships are tough. There is a reason why divorces are high and I believe money has not much to do with it,

I don't think you are wrong about sexual attraction fading, or at least changing, coming and going. I'm just curious what the alternative is. All of the old single people I know tend to be extremely bitter and unhappy, whereas the married ones are less so. The widows and widowers tend to be depressed.

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It might be a generational and cultural thing. The older generations have gone through highs and lows already and they can't imagine living the life that we live with all the distractions and options that we have. My grandma never married again after my grandpa died and she was only in her 20s. Same with my other grandma and my aunt whose husbands died when they were in ther 40s and 50s.

I’ve actually received some really solid dating/relationship advice from a lot of the older and more experienced women on this forum. Their are some True gems up here. Just have to use your own intuition and intelligence to apply it to your situation.

Posted by poeticseraphim

It depends on the person and their life experience relative to yours. If they have been in a marriage since 16 for the last 30 yrs ..i am not sure they can relate to me. Nor i to them. We shouldn't be giving each other advice.

Fuck off

Accurate but my reasons are different for agreeing. My reasons are as follows:

1. Most people settle or nowadays settle for breadcrumbs and that’s why they are in no position to give advice when they are pillars of toxic relationships;

2. People project their own thoughts in their advice as opposed to tailoring their advice to match the personality and situation of the person they are advising. For example, I’m not gonna advise my needy clingy, co-dependent financially on her partner friend to leave her cheating man. I know that’s not going to happen and nor does leave your man advice applies to every woman. The situation and personality is very relevant.

3. Most people think from their perspective/their experiences as opposed to the person seeking advice and seeing the problem for what it really is. People get emotional about others problems as if they are the ones in it or they think about the time when they were in the same situation. They give advice based on how they conducted themselves. This is like point 2 above.

4. Sometimes well-wishers aren’t your well-wishers. They give poor advice to fail you.

i've been saying it for ages.

if you can't keep your relationship issues to yourself. people are evil by nature. some just disguise it better. nobody wants the best for you. they want you to be miserable and single.

You’re so right.

I’ve given and received good advice in life. And of course you can only give advice based on what’s shared, there’s nothing wrong with that. You’re not going to know blow by blow of anyone’s situation unless your in it.