Weird patterns in your partners/exes

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by SassyKiwi on Tuesday, March 24, 2020 and has 22 replies.

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@SassyKiwi
10 Years5,000+ Posts

Occasionally during my free time I like online stalking my exes, ex-friends, etc. I get curious how the people who were once so close to me are doing now. However, of all the people, every one of my exes have been difficult to stalk because they’ve all deactivated/hid their social medias. No they have not blocked me (I do not keep them added to begin with) and I don’t even use my own account to stalk. Heck even my own husband ceases to exist on social media. It just made me realize why at some point I was so into all of them. I’m insanely attracted to men with aversions to social media, like sweep me off my feet level attracted. I guess that’s always been my type.

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@Damnata
16 Years25,000+ PostsVirgo

I was always looking for patterns because physically and emotionally I can't see it and neither can my friends - I asked them at length.

So far I only have this:

- Don't like football

- Circumcised - as a result of all sorts of accidents. I live in a country where I wager 80% are uncircumcised so it's this pattern that is most puzzling to me.

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@Romz-
7 Years1,000+ Posts

I’ve always been into

Privileged

Confident

Stoic

Clean

Emotionally loyal

Socially handicapped

Above average good looking

Emotionally hard to read men...

I want to think they’re out of reach and out of touch without the threat that they are.

The times I’ve deviated from my type and tried to convince myself to try a new flavour, I’ve always found myself wishing I’d never even started down the path that I should try new things. Never works.

I have this hyper sensitivity to men who are emotionally secure and financially secure. It’s like I look for a sense of them being unstable and I flee. I wonder if I can blame my issues on my Pisces moon because my Aries bits I know don’t give a shit how we is fed 😂

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@Lostthoughts
6 Years1,000+ Posts

-Huge hearts. I mean really compassionate. Not just a soft spot for things here and there.

-Strong personalities with different sides to them.

-Intelligent, book smart or street smart. All were super perceptive in their own right as well. Earned real respect from me.

- They have had girlfriends before and not as a experiment.

-Strong emotional attachments and nature. Relationship oriented would fit here too.

-Possessive/territorial in a relationship with some level of clinginess. One was at a really unhealthy level :- /

-Takes the relationships and friendships seriously.

-Strong sexual appetite with a lot of energy in bed. Passion over kinkness.

I genuinely like and look for these qualities and obviously most would, so slim pickings. These qualities are also known to be most commonly expressed unhealthy/negatively. Greatly reducing the chance of coming across eligible versions 30+. I already know what kind of partner I want. I don't settle. I'll wait. As you can see I've put a lot of thought into this before lol

None of my ex's or even past interests have a real social media presence and are private people by nature. It is hard to keep tabs on them from a distance or even get a hold of them🤷

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@PuzzlePieces
7 Years1,000+ Posts

Rides a motorcycle, dirt or street, even better if they race or have raced

Cool vibe.. not nerdy or awkward

Extrovert

Alcohol issue

Many times rich daddy and they just don’t have it together so i’m their rock 😳

Tough guy, hides emotions

Loyal

Yes I have checked on them, some check on me. But during marriages no.