Period of Loneliness After Divorce

My husband I have been separated and estranged for a while. I was kind of talking to a Scorp who was also separated from his wife, but decided to reconcile. I’ve had many guys interested in me, but the ones who are I find out after talking to them for a while that they’re already in relationships and lied about it, or there’s something preventing us from dating. The first few months I became single it was fun because I got to do things with my friends I couldn’t do when I was married.... and even date a bit. Now... I’m seeing there’s not much out there to chose from to date, and when my kids are gone on the weekends if I don’t have a big event to attend I get bored. I enjoy my own company, and needed some reflection time especially after my sister passed away. However, it doesn’t prevent me from wanting a friend that I could date and have fun with on the weekends, no strings attached. How did you guys go about this? How did people who divorced get back into the swing of romance? It’s weird to me... I feel like my ex is all I know.

Posted by Wineaux15
My husband I have been separated and estranged for a while. I was kind of talking to a Scorp who was also separated from his wife, but decided to reconcile. I’ve had many guys interested in me, but the ones who are I find out after talking to them for a while that they’re already in relationships and lied about it, or there’s something preventing us from dating. The first few months I became single it was fun because I got to do things with my friends I couldn’t do when I was married.... and even date a bit. Now... I’m seeing there’s not much out there to chose from to date, and when my kids are gone on the weekends if I don’t have a big event to attend I get bored. I enjoy my own company, and needed some reflection time especially after my sister passed away. However, it doesn’t prevent me from wanting a friend that I could date and have fun with on the weekends, no strings attached. How did you guys go about this? How did people who divorced get back into the swing of romance? It’s weird to me... I feel like my ex is all I know.

That’s why I don’t divorce unless I found someone who I can be with LTR.

Good luck and trust me - there are men out there!

Posted by Wineaux15
My husband I have been separated and estranged for a while. I was kind of talking to a Scorp who was also separated from his wife, but decided to reconcile. I’ve had many guys interested in me, but the ones who are I find out after talking to them for a while that they’re already in relationships and lied about it, or there’s something preventing us from dating. The first few months I became single it was fun because I got to do things with my friends I couldn’t do when I was married.... and even date a bit. Now... I’m seeing there’s not much out there to chose from to date, and when my kids are gone on the weekends if I don’t have a big event to attend I get bored. I enjoy my own company, and needed some reflection time especially after my sister passed away. However, it doesn’t prevent me from wanting a friend that I could date and have fun with on the weekends, no strings attached. How did you guys go about this? How did people who divorced get back into the swing of romance? It’s weird to me... I feel like my ex is all I know.

@starshine.

I went through this myself when I moved out. It was fun, and great. Then the lonlieness kicked in. The quiet I once completely enjoyed, started to be something I hated. I missed my son, I missed companionship.

I went on a few dates. Nothing really came about for me. So I just started planning fun things for myself to do to get out of the house. I began painting ceramics, going to farmers markets, all these things that didnt need someone else, so i wouldn't sit at home and focus on being alone.

Eventually I found my boyfriend, when I least expected it. If I were to be honest, I thought he would be just a but of fun.

Posted by nikkistar
I went through this myself when I moved out. It was fun, and great. Then the lonlieness kicked in. The quiet I once completely enjoyed, started to be something I hated. I missed my son, I missed companionship.

I went on a few dates. Nothing really came about for me. So I just started planning fun things for myself to do to get out of the house. I began painting ceramics, going to farmers markets, all these things that didnt need someone else, so i wouldn't sit at home and focus on being alone.

Eventually I found my boyfriend, when I least expected it. If I were to be honest, I thought he would be just a but of fun.

Yes! Exactly! I’ve began feeling that bored stage and really missing my kids when they are only gone for like 2 days knowing I need the rest. Right now I’m scared to get serious with anyone especially after what I went through with my ex, but I do want someone for fun and companionship. I do like this one Aries guy, but he cut me off and said that if we aren’t going for more than fun then I’m just a distraction 😐.

Posted by Wineaux15

Posted by nikkistar
I went through this myself when I moved out. It was fun, and great. Then the lonlieness kicked in. The quiet I once completely enjoyed, started to be something I hated. I missed my son, I missed companionship.

I went on a few dates. Nothing really came about for me. So I just started planning fun things for myself to do to get out of the house. I began painting ceramics, going to farmers markets, all these things that didnt need someone else, so i wouldn't sit at home and focus on being alone.

Eventually I found my boyfriend, when I least expected it. If I were to be honest, I thought he would be just a but of fun.

Yes! Exactly! I’ve began feeling that bored stage and really missing my kids when they are only gone for like 2 days knowing I need the rest. Right now I’m scared to get serious with anyone especially after what I went through with my ex, but I do want someone for fun and companionship. I do like this one Aries guy, but he cut me off and said that if we aren’t going for more than fun then I’m just a distraction 😐.

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Yea. I've found the older guys are now wanting to settle down. While women in our situation are essentially free for the first time in a very long time. So we aren't really in a rush to do that yet because we have been there and done it. So the next time we do it, we want to get it right.

Have you tried online dating? Sounds kind of hokey. But some men on there end up being good friends just to hang with. For half a second I tried it, but I put it out there that I'm just looking for a movie and sushi buddy. Ended up finding a good guy friend I could bother that would ask me for advice on girls lol.

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Posted by nikkistar
I went through this myself when I moved out. It was fun, and great. Then the lonlieness kicked in. The quiet I once completely enjoyed, started to be something I hated. I missed my son, I missed companionship.

I went on a few dates. Nothing really came about for me. So I just started planning fun things for myself to do to get out of the house. I began painting ceramics, going to farmers markets, all these things that didnt need someone else, so i wouldn't sit at home and focus on being alone.

Eventually I found my boyfriend, when I least expected it. If I were to be honest, I thought he would be just a but of fun.

Yes! Exactly! I’ve began feeling that bored stage and really missing my kids when they are only gone for like 2 days knowing I need the rest. Right now I’m scared to get serious with anyone especially after what I went through with my ex, but I do want someone for fun and companionship. I do like this one Aries guy, but he cut me off and said that if we aren’t going for more than fun then I’m just a distraction 😐.

Yea. I've found the older guys are now wanting to settle down. While women in our situation are essentially free for the first time in a very long time. So we aren't really in a rush to do that yet because we have been there and done it. So the next time we do it, we want to get it right.

Have you tried online dating? Sounds kind of hokey. But some men on there end up being good friends just to hang with. For half a second I tried it, but I put it out there that I'm just looking for a movie and sushi buddy. Ended up finding a good guy friend I could bother that would ask me for advice on girls lol.

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No I haven’t. I was apprehensive about online dating, but I guess I could give it a try.

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Posted by Wineaux15
My husband I have been separated and estranged for a while. I was kind of talking to a Scorp who was also separated from his wife, but decided to reconcile. I’ve had many guys interested in me, but the ones who are I find out after talking to them for a while that they’re already in relationships and lied about it, or there’s something preventing us from dating. The first few months I became single it was fun because I got to do things with my friends I couldn’t do when I was married.... and even date a bit. Now... I’m seeing there’s not much out there to chose from to date, and when my kids are gone on the weekends if I don’t have a big event to attend I get bored. I enjoy my own company, and needed some reflection time especially after my sister passed away. However, it doesn’t prevent me from wanting a friend that I could date and have fun with on the weekends, no strings attached. How did you guys go about this? How did people who divorced get back into the swing of romance? It’s weird to me... I feel like my ex is all I know.

That’s why I don’t divorce unless I found someone who I can be with LTR.

Good luck and trust me - there are men out there!

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So your 8 year affair with the scorp doesn’t count as a LTR? Your full of shit.

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My husband I have been separated and estranged for a while. I was kind of talking to a Scorp who was also separated from his wife, but decided to reconcile. I’ve had many guys interested in me, but the ones who are I find out after talking to them for a while that they’re already in relationships and lied about it, or there’s something preventing us from dating. The first few months I became single it was fun because I got to do things with my friends I couldn’t do when I was married.... and even date a bit. Now... I’m seeing there’s not much out there to chose from to date, and when my kids are gone on the weekends if I don’t have a big event to attend I get bored. I enjoy my own company, and needed some reflection time especially after my sister passed away. However, it doesn’t prevent me from wanting a friend that I could date and have fun with on the weekends, no strings attached. How did you guys go about this? How did people who divorced get back into the swing of romance? It’s weird to me... I feel like my ex is all I know.

That’s why I don’t divorce unless I found someone who I can be with LTR.

Good luck and trust me - there are men out there!

So your 8 year affair with the scorp doesn’t count as a LTR? Your full of shit.

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No. Because he is married. If I had divorced I would end up alone with a lover which would make me a single woman fucking married man! 😱