Question Of the Day. .Need some GOOD responses

QUESTION OF THE DAY?

Do you honestly think REVENGE makes the breakup go easier? (Even after knowing that any chance of getting them back is over now, especially since you got revenge, without even realizing that you MIGHT have had the chance of getting them back if you'd just taken the break-up maturely). Do you honestly think Revenge is worth it in the end?

Share some interesting/funny/crazy REVENGE STORIES

I'll share my crazy revenge story with you........

Me & this guy were together for 2 1'2 years, but he broke it off with me for my friend from high school. After we broke up, we were still sleeping together, but the relationship part of us was gone. So I used our sexual relationship to advantage, told him to meet me at a local park at night so we could "get it on." I knew no one would be at the park after closing hours so when he showed up, I peppersprayed his entire body! He started crying, & scratching everywhere because the pepperspray was not only in his eyes, but ON his whole body (clothes too). He got completely naked & begged me for water to ease some of the pain. Oh I had several water bottles in my car, and handed him one bottle (even though he could not see anything). He put the little bit of water on his body, but kept asking for more. Instead of me giving him another water bottle, I threw the water bottle at him again & peppersprayed him even more. At that point he was screaming & cursing me. I took the time to vent & go off on him about everything he'd done to hurt me & drove off....And left his ass. And the crazy thing is, even though I left him in pain, I STILL felt that he didn't feel even HALF of the pain he'd caused me. Even though I felt DAMN GOOD for bringing pain to him, that night still never took away all the hurt that he put me through, which in a way made the revenge pointless.

He could've went blind or even put me in jail for that. But in my mind, I thought YES, I got his ass good! But the next night, I still felt hurt, still felt betrayed & I realized no matter WHAT I do to him to cause him pain, it will never take away the hurt. Only TIME will take away that pain.

Er remind me never to get on your bad side lol. 😛

I normally don't do revenge, no matter what they've done to me I just leave them to it - ignore them and stay out of their way. No bitch fights or slagging them off nothing.

However, lol, this one guy was a total asshole - so I thought I'll teach you.

I created a fake profile for him on a sort of hook-up site called Faceparty. Pics of him the lot, where he was from his age everything. Made him out to be a total jerk, like under "interests" I put "banging sluts cos that's all they're good for" stuff like that.

I then looked for girls in his area (under the fake profile), and sent about 3 dozen of them really offensive messages, some of the girls had boyfriends too. As you can imagine he was not a very popular guy in his town after that lol.

Screw him though he deserved it.

Hmmm...Never thought of doing that...Pretty good idea LOL!

:: shakes head ::

"Do you honestly think REVENGE makes the breakup go easier?" No.


"Do you honestly think Revenge is worth it in the end?" No.

Revenge isn't my thing.

I'm an air sign. I get over it by floating away lol.

When I'm done wrong, I block the person out until they are basically dead to me, and then any time after that if I see them, I 'don't know them'. I've noticed that over time, I really do get over things and I don't get angry anymore. I just feel 'blah' about them.

GEMunine...The crazy thing is, I've had my share of days where all I knew how to do was get revenge. But now, that I've grown up, I'm older and more mature I am able to block out anyone who hurts me. My theory is, why should anyone not worth it in the end even have that kind of power over me to make me want to compromise myself? And my answer NOW, is, there is NO ONE worth it. When I get hurt or even suspect that I am about to be betrayed, I break off & some how train myself not to care. I guess that's the Aquarian trait of being a little detached and unemotional.

what goes around comes around,they get their come uppance eventually,the universe works in mysterious ways,sit back and wait

Good to know you've grown krysrenee7. As long as you learn from your mistakes, you should have no regrets.

hey krysrenee7...u said train urself not to care....im an aquarian to,but i find it very difficult to do that,i soooo badly want to have that power to "just not care",i have this saying in my dairy on like every page.."idc" meaning i don't care...but i can't get that to happen,im very emotional & that's sumthing i can't like about myself..my bigest wish is to not feel pain,im sick & tired of being sick & tired!!!i am in a relationship right now we've been together for like over 2 years but we broke it of then a few months later started over now we are togethet for 1year & 7 months!!!but he makes me soo mad sumtimes...he is a very unemotional person & sumtimes just dont gives a shit becoz he had a bad childhod!!!!i luv him to death and want to marry him sumday!!!!!but its just the pain tha gets in the way!!!!

Well there is nothing wrong with caring & being emotional. We're human. But there is a way how to handle it & not let your emotions get the BEST of you & that goes for more than just relationships & love; that's life. One thing I've noticed about Aquarians is that before we fall for someone the "unemotional/distant" side comes out of us & we comfortably accept this, but the MINUTE we fall for someone, we fall hard. And the more and more deeper we fall in love & put that other person on a high pedistool, the harder (almost impossible) it is to WANT to let go. And I mean that makes sense, we are the ones that normally take FOREVER to commit to a relationship, but once we actually commit, we live by the "you broke it, you bought it" creed.
Training yourself not to care doesn't mean LITERALLY not caring because that's almost impossible. Sometimes you can't help what you care about. But training yourself not to care in my eyes just means always reminding yourself that YOU come first & that your mate should COMPLIMENT you, NOT SUPPLEMENT you. When you think about death, we all know it's going to happen to us & we're told to live life accepting & realizing that death is apart of life. So when people die, yes we cry & we get emotional, but we are constantly bombarded with "be strong, life moves on" type of statements from others & that is the "train yourself to move on" creed. That doesn't mean you won't care or won't have emotions, but things like heartbreak & anger are things that EVERYONE will experience in their lifetime at one point in time (just like death) & the best way to get through it all is to train yourself that "these things just happen" sometimes & that everything happens for a reason.
When I've gotten my heart broken in the past, I cried like a newborn baby! But eventually I got sick & tired of being sick & tired, I got tired of holding on to something that was never really the WORLLLD like I thought just to realize that I can't avoid what's coming to me just because I ignore it in the beginning. Whenever he makes you mad, ask yourself where the anger is coming from & if you're starting to make decisions about whether or not you want to be with him then you have to train yourself & ask yourself if you can REALLY deal with his problems that are angering you now (because trust me, if they anger you now, they will anger you later). But once you train yourself to not let EVERYTHING bother you, life will start going alot smoother for me. There's a

"There's always someone who has it worse than me."

I say this to myself EVERYTIME I can tell my emotions starting to get the best of me & me realizing this allows for me to step back & just chill. I have NOTHING To lose by having control and balance over my emotions but EVERYTHING to lose by not.

Wow, you give a bad name to Aqua's. When someone broke up with me, I let them go because it's their RIGHT to decide what they want. If they didn't want me, what right do I have to seek revenge? Why would I want someone who doesn't want me? I think this is a matter of pride and self respect, those who don't posses either perhaps have the inclination to seek revenge.

You might realize that this guy could have pressed charges against you for assault.

You must not have read a THING I said. You only focused on the fact of the literal revenge I got. But what you OVERLOOKED is the fact that I said I learned alot from the experience & that in the end it is pointless. And duh, I was the first one to say that he could've pressed charges against me & done alot worse to me in his own revenge. My point was that revenge may be sweet in the moment but might be bitter & worthless in the long run. And I am one person out of 50 million Aquas in the world. One person can't make ALL Aquas look bad. As a matter of fact, each Aqua is different. In my life experiences alot of the Aquas I know never give up the fight to get back someone they love & in YOUR world you might know Aquas who do differently. Either way, it really doesn't matter.

Maybe you realize your mistake now but you DID give a bad name to Aqua's. You can't take that back period. It's good to know you've learned your lesson but it's after the fact so what I said still holds as you admit. He could have pressed charges and it's just emphasizing the fact for all of those who think they might get away with what you did as you did. If I was him, I would've put your arse in jail. Just agree what you did was wrong and don't give me your crap.

Btw, that was the BEST response. 😉

Aqua_Duck...Who in the hell do you think you are? I don't owe any type of apology or explanation to you. Someone who reads my posts & (for some reason) gets out of it that it's OK to get revenge was going to do it rather or not they seen my post or not. And your point makes no sense, that's like saying they shouldn't show the news because it persuades people to do crime & think they'll get away with it. OR that's like saying A movie in which Spiderman jumped off a building is bad for children because it'll make them go jump off a building, thus that type of movie makes the Movie producers look bad! Come on now, GET REAL!

"If I was him, I would've put your arse in jail"
Sweety, you're just 1 random internet user on a website USED for sharing experiences (good or bad, life learning or life regretting). Do you think it REALLY matters that some random person named "Aqua-duck" would've taken me to jail? Hahahahahahahahahahah!

"Maybe you realize your mistake now but you DID give a bad name to Aqua's"
So what about all the Aquas who already ARE in Jail? Talk to them about giving "Us" a bad name (And not to the people who actually LEARNED from their mistakes which is what life is all about), What about all the Aquas who are police officers & wrongfully shoot someone? Talk to them (Not the police officer who made 1 mistake & received "training" techniques so it wouldn't happen again). What about all the Aquas who are on America's most wanted. Should they not show the people they want to capture just because they might make "US" all look bad?

Get it together Aqua-Duck

Oh and another thing...Maybe you should re-read the question initially asked on the post in the first place. Sharing Revenge stories (while also sharing rather or not you thought it was worth it) isn't what makes Aquas look bad. It's the Aquas who got revenge wayyyyyy before they even saw this post that make Aquas look bad. What you see is what you get, if you never get revenge & live happily ever after, good for you. But not everybody else has the same testimony as yours, so get over it. That's life.

"Maybe you realize your mistake now but you DID give a bad name to Aqua's. "...hell, that's not giving just aquas a bad name, it's giving women a bad name your story tells a lot about you.

Is revenge worth it? not when it involves physical abuse.

Well I'm glad you think you're a psychologist & know everything about me Dr. Phil. NEXT!

KYRS, YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE BEEN SLEEPING WITH HIM ANYWAY...YOUR BODY IS , YOUR TEMPLE... YOU WAS STILL SLEEPING WITH HIM, BECAUSE YOU WASN'T READY TO LET GO AND THOUGHT THAT ONE DAY , YOU COULD MAKE HIM HURT.. U SHOULD HAVE PRAYED ABOUT IT.. THE HURT IS DEEP WITHIN YOU, SO THAT NEEDS TO BE ADDRESSED. DAMN , WHY DO MEN HURT US SO.. I THINK WE AS WOMEN, GIVE TOO MUCH OF OURSELVES.

i never claimed to knowing everything about you sweetie; just a lot. there's a difference. you asked if revenge was worth it; i answered. Dr. Phil rocks! 🙂

This one time a girl broke up with me, so I stalked her for a while, waiting for the right time to strike. Finally after weeks of frustration I spied her walking through a dark park, so I made my move and raped her. I know this sounds terrible, but I learned my lesson, so everything's alright, right?



You are batshit fucking crazy. Batshit. Fucking. Crazy.

If you say so...Whatever floats your boat

"Could you not have just used your words instead"


Look, why is everybody acting like I'm ABOUT to get this revenge on him versus me ALREADY getting it. And by the way, this happend almost 18 years ago & if I could go back in time I would, so why are you giving me tips on what I COULD'VE Done? Point of my ENTIRE story was to share that even when love gets the best of people revenge is still not worth it (an obvious sign that I am not an immature teenager anymore). The feelings I described in the post were feelings I had THEN (which is the phase alot of people might be in NOW). So I don't need your lectures, I'm a fully grown woman now who's married with 3 kids, trust me, revenge isn't even up my alley

your reactions to our opinions and comments indicate you still have anger issues.

that's my prognosis so get out of the bitter barn and come play in the hay. weeeeeeeee.

Dr. McGraw-

everyone should go see Horton Hears a Who...if you've read the book as a kid, you'll remember the moral of the story....those that don't remember, need to go watch the movie for a refresher. 🙂

This is what you guys DON'T know. There is way more to a 2 year relationship in hell than just a 2 paragraph post. I don't need to be critiqued for what I did when I was a teenager because only I know that I'm 100% different & that's only for ME to know. When I wrote my post as how I felt RIGHT THEN (And just because I remember how I felt back then doesn't mean my maturity level & sense of self-love hasn't changed).

"You should apologize to him, even if you have to write a letter and then tear it up, because I think that may have some therapeutic benefits"

I apologized to him years down the road when I finally grew up & he accepted my apology & to this day we are good friends but ONLY because I grew up & realized that love should never get the best of us & that is a way of thinking that either CAN or won't change with age; and fortunately for me, it DID.

"We all do stupid things when we're young and have probably seeked some sort of revenge, but not to THAT extent. Hello?"

Well, that's your opinion & that might be how it is in your world. LOOK around. People kill each other every single day over petty things, people kill their spouses because they found out about infidelity, these young men are killing eachother over nothing, & these young ladies are asulting other young girls (even in middle schools). Pepperspraying someone is NOTHING compared to what happens EVERY SINGLE DAY (without revenge even being the motive)

I don't have to explain the whole story because this is just the internet & some of you will NEVER agree with me no matter what I post. I was just giving you an overall general of what happend. Take it or leave it. Like I said, it happend almost 2 decades ago. There is no advice you can give me because I am not still in that mindframe.

"your reactions to our opinions and comments indicate you still have anger issues.
that's my prognosis so get out of the bitter barn and come play in the hay. weeeeeeeee.
Dr. McGraw-"

Do you know the definition of IGNORANCE Mr. Mcgraw? Ignorance can be a form of assuming or passing judgement on an individual or being without accurate or precise information pertaining to the individual or being.

and you my dear, would be a hypocrite...look it up.

🙂

Hope everyone had a great Easter!

You know what, I refuse to argue with you a single moment longer. I will NEVER let some faceless internet user try to critique my life through 2 paragraphs. Call me a hypocrite, call me whatever you want. I've got better things to do

apparently you don't.

NEXT!

Wow I feel so famous! The very same people who have sooooo many complaints can't seem to stop clicking on anything that says "Krysrenee7"...You can "NEXT" your own as* out of my post!