Romance novels (BoyxBoy) and real life

So in the past few days i have been reading this amazing romance books and they have me thinking on how nice it would be if life actually worked as the story is told. I am reading one now that really has me going there is two books to it and im on the second one the first ones called my best friends brother is straight right ? the second one i am reading is called our epic love jace & kadence now these two boys started out a little rocky but omg now they are hot and heave jace is this six foot two inch greek god and jace is this little guy prolly my height 5'9 and they are madly in love with the perfect relationship and ya no as i love these books and they bring me joy they also bring me a sence of saddness in the since of saddness i think to myself why am i single why am i unable to attrack such a great fairytale guy . for those of you who dont no me i attend to attracked losers like the guy im kinda seeing now we will call him idiot ... we have been seeing each other now for two months and he will only see me on the weekends and we have only been out in public togather one time that was about 5 weeks into the relationship and yeah he was an a** that day he was supposed to take me out make me happy and us do things togather....well that didnt really happen we met at my work and went in his to go about our date well guess where the first stop was? his freaking moms work he just couldnt go all day with out seeing his mommy wich kinda ticked me off but i let it go the second stop was at pokagon state park because thats where we were gonna do dinner i was cool with that its a nice dinning place. well we had like an hour before the dinning room was open so i suggested a walk and he said yeah what ever i guess that was number two on the tick off list we walked for about 20 minutes and we got to the nature center that he wouldnt let me go into so we kept walking and all through ou this walk he b**ched about everything then towards the end he started telling me about all these hot college guys he has been going to the bar with and all that other crap mind you he refuses to go to the bar with me . i ignored as much as i could and then we finally go to eat and when the check comes that a** hat hands it to me and says here you pay the bill i bought you rum last night ( i didnt ask for the rum) noteing he makes over 600.00 a week i make 240.00 a week so that kinda ticked me off then he refused to stop and have coffee with a few of my friends he is a real drag.

i had to write more here lol any ways that for example is the type of "men" i get ... they all lie cheat or steal from me oh yeah they steal the last one got all my jewelry including my class ring and a bunch of costume jewelry rings bracelets necklaces ect. god why do i have crap luck? i want a jace and kadence romance happy loveing and safe to where i can hold all the trust in the world in my man . .... i hope some day it happens but so far all the men in my area are A-HOLES!!! with

You want someone good and dear. That much clear. I do too.

But you must treat yourself better. It is because of how you uphold yourself now that you attract lesser folk. Outside of Science humans don't work completely the same. Opposites don't always attract.

Stick up for what you've always wanted--stick up for yourself. Be your own friend--just as we learn while we grow that true friends make each other happy.

But its not enough for me to provide encouragement. You must truly want this yourself.

thanks for the encuraging words but other than the idiot men that i find i am happy with my life i mean i run a great business and i have a great group of friends and an ok family life isnt all crap just the no no department

You'll never find or have the chance to meet the "one" if you're constantly entertaining the men whom you've already admitted are NOT the "one."

Don't be the person that always settles. If/when you DO actually meet the right guy for you, this is NOT a trait within you that will necessarily turn him on

Since you can't control others, atleast work on YOU so that when you DO meet the right guy, he'll meet/get the "best" version of you vs. the damaged version of you

Sometimes it's not even that we've never met "the one." Chances are, you probably already did, BUT might've scared him away. And yes, baggage & a pessimistic viewpoint towards 1 gender is not something most people hide well even though they trick themselves into believing that this about this is something no one else can see

Try not to seek the perfect or "fairy tale" partner b/c you're setting yourself up for failure

Instead, think of all the traits (physical, emotional, sexual, spiritual, financial, etc.) that are the most important to you & while dating new guys, go back to that list in your head & DON'T settle until your guy passes that list

Having a list of standards in your head is NOT unrealistic. But having standards in your head that are based on fairy tales/fiction books IS unrealistic!

It's true...You are what you attract. You are the common denominator in all the men you attract

I'm not saying you're an A hole just b/c you attract A holes, BUT perhaps there is something you're doing/saying/being at the time they 1st see/approach you that sends them the signal that you are the right "prey."

Instead of concentrating on how good of a person another person should be, concentrate on & work towards YOU being the example of what you want someone else to be to/for you

When the quality of your thinking changes, the quality of the men you attract changes! E.I. Happiness is NOT a person, place or thing; it's a mentality =)

I just spend more time thinking about life lessons than the average young person thats all.

Thank you for luffing me. 🙂

Posted by mrpopular
thanks for the encuraging words but other than the idiot men that i find i am happy with my life i mean i run a great business and i have a great group of friends and an ok family life isnt all crap just the no no department

When I said, "treat yourself better" I meant your relationships specifically.

I was trying to get you to look into yourself and ask, "Am I going to put up with these unwholesome people and continue to be unhappy?"

Mr. Popular...i hope you find true love someday.
Maybe instead of trying to attract guys like the ones in your romance novels
....how about YOU BECOME ONE OF THEM?
Be the desired one.

Posted by wgamador2
Mr. Popular...i hope you find true love someday.
Maybe instead of trying to attract guys like the ones in your romance novels
....how about YOU BECOME ONE OF THEM?
Be the desired one.

You know. Thats exactly what I'm doing now. 🙂

Change myself into a hero.