Sibling issue

I wasn't entirely sure where to put this, but I figured it might work here.

Anyway, my older brother is one of my best friends/only male role model. We have different fathers, which we both were raised without them really being in our lives (mine was around a bit more, but he comes in and out and isn't a really stable figure). I place my brother on a very high pedestal and he has probably been one of the most positive influences in my life. My brother is in the military, so I don't see him often anymore, but we still keep in touch regularly. So, not too long ago, my brother met his half sister (who is older than me) for the first time when he went to meet his father for the first time. After getting back from Ohio, they seemed to stay in touch regularly for a bit; I only spoke to her once when my brother put me on the phone with her. She seemed nice enough, but we didn't really click. Anyway, his half sister often started to send him messages saying, "I love you big bro!" or "You're the best big brother ever!" Needless to say, the more she did that, the more upset I became. I attempted to ignore it. It didn't help that we had nothing in common, especially when it came to our religious views, and I sometimes found her insensitive to things I felt strongly about. When my brother married, his sister began to his wife the same way. Either way, she never really spoke to me. As childish and selfish as I knew it was, I couldn't help but feel jealous and felt like she was inserting herself into our life/assert herself into the "only" sisterly position available.

I don't necessarily like to feel this way, but I can't seem to let it go.

It could just be the other half sisters way to connect Candeh, she's probably a bit overwhelmed herself. To talk about something is one thing, but having it real and in your face is quite another. Wow, I have a brother now. And you speak of your brother with such pride and affection. Surely she sees the good in him as well. I do understand your feelings though. You grew up with him, in a sense he's your brother alone.
It could go one of two ways I think. She could form a bond and keep it, or things could drift due to unfamiliarity. But ultimately that's your brothers call. I don't think anyone should expect you to throw on a happy face and fall immediately in league, that's silly. Your feelings on the matter are your own, and no one should discount them. Maybe set aside something for just the two of you, movie, hang out, just chill and enjoy his company.

wow ... you should work on your jealousy.


People are allowed to have people, brothers and sisters are allowed to have each other.


He is just as much yours as he is hers ... your jealousy in this case is pathetic because it is groundless.


You should seriously work on that because if you can't get it past your own family ... then how are you suppose to have a man of your own who might have a mother? What are you going to do then?

What the hell?


People babble just to hear themselves talk?



You, Fiesty, as well as Candeh and VenusB make it sound like this other girl is the issue ... you reference her, as if this whole thing is something she has done ... when in reality, the only thing she has done is been born, relatively.


The problem, or issue isn't this girl and what is up with her ..... this issue is Candeh's jealousy issues over the brother having another female relative.




::: rolls eyes at stupid Aquarians ::::

I meant nothing of the sort. I approached it as what it is. A new influence in her brothers life. And carving out a space for just her and bro to laugh and enjoy each others company is a very good niche for reassurances.