Posted by Ellybean
What people nowadays call "Stalking" behaviors take place in context too. A guy you've been on one-three dates with sending flowers to your work will be judged creepy or romantic depending upon how the woman feels about him at that exact second she receives the flowers. Plus a lot of people are so used to the shared social network that they freely give out info and then act shocked when someone who they met in high school for two classes sees them in the grocery store and says at the end of the typical polite chit chat of five minutes "Oh have fun in Costa Rica!" And people get freaked the person saw what they volunteered to show all their friends list. Silly if you ask me. You can't share your whole life with the world(or at least all your friends, family and loose acquaintances) and still be a private person, it doesn't work like that.
Not to take away from serious stalking problems. Some people are very sick and need help though. Some are so ill that nothing will help them. Some stuff is def creep factor, strange and odd. But not everyone with stalker tendencies becomes a hunting serial killer. Be safe and aware for sure, but don't be paranoid imo.
I had an Ex that you could say by standards stalked me for a while after the break up. It didn't scare me then and doesn't really now even when I think back on it. Despite I called the cops on him once(wasn't for a stalking related incident though) He was just really mentally ill. The break-up sent him into a breakdown. I wouldn't label him a stalker though. Ironically he was a Taurus lol.
I 'stalk' places sometimes. I like to drive by or sit at places where I shared memories, sometimes good, sometimes bad. It makes the memories feel stronger just to pass or be where me and the ones I love had the memory. Tons of times I've driven by a friends house when in the area, but only for people who have said to me before "Drop by sometime if your in the neighborhood"
Maybe I'm a stalker. LOL.
Posted by IntriguedScorp
If its on your Facebook and its viewable by people, its for public consumption. I don't see how looking at someone's Facebook page can be considered Stalking. Then again I might just be thick so could someone explain this to me? Thanks.
Posted by beautifulsoul74
As for Facebook, early a relationship with an ex, I was surprised that she had went through my Facebook account...as in my friends list. She politely mentioned it to me and I explained the composition of it. It didn't bother me per se, but it made me aware of the fact that she was investigating me, which has all sorts of implications. To me there is a difference between doing it out of obsession and simply trying to get information and one can argue that both are simultaneous reasons when you do it. I have a very high level of value and respect for privacy, but sometimes seeing it with your own two eyes serves the best purpose.
Posted by Mya
This subject is quite serious although it's not always taken that way. I think at some point of time we have all done some level of stalking be it showing up somewhere to "accidently" bump into a person, seaching internet sources for information, riding pass their home or job, or more extensive things, but when you get to the point where a whole chunk of your day is spent searching out a person's whereabouts or information on a person that want's nothing to do with you, it's time to seek proffessional help, plain and simple.