Trapping a man

There's NO such thing.

If a woman gets pregnant b/c the man didn't put on a condom, she's only pregnant b/c HE chose not to protect himself. Even if the woman secretly wanted to get pregnant w/o his knowing, it's still impossible for her to have trapped him IF he did all he was supposed to do in protecting himself.

If a woman gets pregnant b/c the man put on a faulty condom OR b/c the woman poked a hole in it, it's still 50% his fault.

The ONLY way a woman can "trap" a man is if she's got 100% control over what happens next...the only thing she has complete control over is if she decides to keep the baby...now THAT can be considered "trapping" b/c whether he's a sinner or a saint to her after the pregnancy test is positive, doesn't guarantee that she'll listen to him, take his advice or make a decision WITH him on whether or not to keep the baby.

I hate to see the mothers/fathers of these young men always throwing this line: "She trapped you son!" or "She's trying to trap you!" That's bull! Take responsibility! If you're not ready to have kids, your sex life should NOT be void of protection. And if it is, YOU trapped YOURSELF!

Another thing...Having kids with someone you didn't want to be with OR want to have kids with period does NOT mean that you're life is over. Technically, if you had the drive, motivation, resources, attitude, mentality, & will power to succeed & acheive all your goals, you'd do so REGARDLESS of whether you have 1 unwanted child or 5! Some of the most successful men in the world have children or came from the most unfair of backgrounds.

Granted there are def. some manipulative, sneaky, deceiving & triflin women out here, it's STILL the man's responsibility to protect himself.

Even the most manipulative women has NO power IF the man she's dealing with or sleeping with protects himself.
The only thing this kind of woman will be left with is just her sneaky thoughts or "wishes" that she could trap him. But WITHOUT HIS concent, it's impossible.

i dont know about birth control...they have too many side effects.

I was on the IUD for 10 years had it removed and immediately went to birth control pills (my gem is trying to get me pregnant....not happening 😢 ) anyway I started having chest pains and high blood pressure.

I dont know what they are putting in birth control these days but I had to stop taking them.

I got sick as a dog on the pill. I was always on the verge of vomiting, pasty, nasty. Felt like straight up butt. The doctor kept putting me on lower dosages to counteract that, didn't work. And I got pregnant with both of my daughters on the pill. Granted the women in our family seem to get pregnant breathing, not the point. Something to consider.

As to 'trapping' a man in that manner, it's straight up BS. Never in the course of history has this been an effective way of improving a relationship or keeping hold of a man. It's a low down dirty trick is what it is. I think women that pull that should be strung up from the nearest yard arm. And congrats Momma, now you have 18 years and beyond of responsibility, comfort indeed picking up the check every week.

And as to the 'she trapped you son', I'd slap that boys eyes out of his head for being a dolt. I've already had this discussion with my son. Wrap it boy, I do not need some tearful Miss on the porch telling me she's pregnant. And if such a thing were to occur in future ( after the cuffing session for bypassing Mothers sense you see ) he would be fully expected to man up and do right by that child.

Posted by dward417
i dont know about birth control...they have too many side effects.

I was on the IUD for 10 years had it removed and immediately went to birth control pills (my gem is trying to get me pregnant....not happening 😢 ) anyway I started having chest pains and high blood pressure.

I dont know what they are putting in birth control these days but I had to stop taking them.

The IUD is really good I had it for 5yrs and had no side effects unlike the pill, however I did get pregnant quickly right after I stop using the IUD......

I also agree the men has the control in the getting pregnant and the women has the control of deciding to keep the baby, I choose to keep mine even if she was created out of lust I wouldn't trade her for all the riches in life.

I can't believe any woman on earth would think a man is worth going thru all that shit for. Poor kids who are born for this reason. I know some.

You want his money? Come on, there has to be an easier way than getting knocked up. Just steal it.

^ LOLOLOL And fix the DVD player while you're at it.

Birth control is effective if taken religiously as directed. It still has a failure rate though!! With the pill you have to take it AT THE SAME TIME *EVERY* day! And DO NOT take antibiotics with any form of BC (or at least use back up if you have to), it lowers the effectiveness by about 25% .

And men, if you want a woman NOT to get pregnant, don't bitch if she's a few lbs overweight. Probably means she isn't lying to you about taking BC. It almost invariably causes weight gain. And I mean weight gain that is nearly impossible to get off unless you get off BC. BC tricks your body into thinking its pregnant, which is why you can't GET pregnant. So it adds extra calorie storage for the (non existant) baby in case you were to run out of food.

Posted by ImpressMe
Is birth control pills effective if taken as directed? I have never taken them so I was just wondering.

yes.

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Posted by dward417
i dont know about birth control...they have too many side effects.

I was on the IUD for 10 years had it removed and immediately went to birth control pills (my gem is trying to get me pregnant....not happening 😢 ) anyway I started having chest pains and high blood pressure.

I dont know what they are putting in birth control these days but I had to stop taking them.

I am scared to take birth control. I think I took it at 20 for like a week and I threw it away. Never looked at it again, and I didn't have side effects. What the hell is an IUD? Damn, I need to start reading about this stuff.

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if youve never had a child there is a implant that keeps you pregnant free for 3 years.

the implant im talking about goes in your arm. the other implant is for women whove had kids already. that one goes in your uterus.

also with the IUD there is no weight gain so that's why I would recommend this for women who already have children, they don't advise this for women who have kids already.

^^^sorry who don't have kids

Abstinence is the ONLY "protection" that is 100% .

Birth Control is just as protective as condoms; they both can be fautly & leave room for error or malfunction.

Technically, the only way to guarantee never to get pregnant or get a girl pregnant is to NOT sleep with her to begin with. And since MOST people can't handle the aspect of never having sex with anyone, the LEAST they can do is atleast make sure that all their sexual partners are people they'd be ok with persay a pregnancy test were to be positive.

Seriously, having sex is a great thing, I get that. But 20 min. of pleasure is NOT worth 18+ years of a baby that you didn't even want NOR is it worth 18+ years resenting/regretting the person you had the child with.

If you wanna screw everything that walks, atleast have some standards & choose wisely when it comes to picking sexual partners. That way, if the woman gets pregnant, the guy won't feel like the world is about to end!

Guys, if you can't even imagine making a woman your regular ole girlfriend, don't freakin' sleep with her w/o protection b/c trust me, you'll have BIGGER problems if the girl you never even wanted/respected becomes the 1 woman you'll have to see/deal with for the REST of your natural born life!

Common sense isn't so common nowadays. Smh

Posted by THEKingofLibra
Wow this is like estrogen central up in hurrr. No guy dared to comment yet? Personally I want to get a vasectomy because I don't plan to have any children.

Now only if all men thought this way.....

^ The ex sure didn't. No way was anyone touching the 'sacred sack', nope, that was all on me.

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Posted by venusianbull
Granted the women in our family seem to get pregnant breathing, not the point. Something to consider.

LMAO! Lucky for your family, I think. 😢

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LOL Depends on how you look at it. GREAT if you want to birth a passel of farm hands or a football team, not so hot if you wanted to keep it to two and under.

Of course the men are giving us the silent treatment right now! It's b/c half of the men reading this are G-U-I-L-T-Y!

When the shoe fits, that's when the innocent speak out & the guilty gets quiet!

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Posted by Sagittarius89
I can't believe any woman on earth would think a man is worth going thru all that shit for. Poor kids who are born for this reason. I know some.

You want his money? Come on, there has to be an easier way than getting knocked up. Just steal it.

The whoregig in all it's forms.
If only equality existed I'd do the same with the right breed of woman though, fwiw.

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Come on, it was a joke. Bull got it! 😛

Posted by venusianbull
^ LOLOLOL And fix the DVD player while you're at it.

HAHA

Posted by krysrenee7

If a woman gets pregnant b/c ..... the woman poked a hole in it, it's still 50% his fault.

Krys ... your idiocy has taken a new level.

women always try to trap men b/c they are equally horny but they are more apt to listen to society so instead of having freelance sex and releasing sexual tension they trap a man in some way to avoid a stereotype that they most likely created for themselves.


men follow stereotypes too, thats why penis enlargment is the biggest thing since the beatles

Posted by krysrenee7

If a woman gets pregnant b/c the man didn't put on a condom, she's only pregnant b/c HE chose not to protect himself.[....] Having kids with someone you didn't want to be with OR want to have kids with period does NOT mean that you're life is over.

Not true. I know I wouldn't want to drag some woman behind me for the rest of my life with our offspring just becuase I knocked her up. I mean yeah sure, it's my responsibility to put on a condom but if I don't it's her responsibility to make sure that I do... I mean it's her body, right!

So if I don't put on my rubber and she secretly wants to get knocked up so she doesen't make me put it on, who's more of an idiot really? She's the one who actually has to carry the baby around for 9 months and I can just blow my load and split. So I can't say I have much sympathy for women who cannot take responsibility for their bodies. IT'S YOUR BODY and it being your body you - and only you - have responsibility for it. I don't, because I don't get pregnant, but you do! To me it's that simple. If I could get pregnant I would assume it's my responsibility to make sure that I don't get pregnant...instead of relying on other people to take responsibility for me. How dumb is that?

In this particular topic MEN do have a responsibility, but only if they choose to. Actually it's more of a moral obligation, but since I only believe in moral as a social construction and not something imposed onto us by a higher power...well, let's just say I don't feel bad for stupid people. WOMEN however have no choice here. For them responsibility in this particular topic is a biological factor. They have to deal with it. Hopefully by taking necessary precautions before intercourse or by not bitching later about what an asshole the man is for not wanting to be "trapped". Tough break, but that's life.

BWWAAAHHHAAHHAA @ "freelance sex "

and

"The more I think of it, the more I want to get a vasectomy and stay single

You women with your vaginas.. and ovaries.. and uteri.. and mammary glands.. You are designed to trap our seed!!

*jumps out the window and runs away naked*"


I do agree that men need to take an active role not only in taking the proper percautions to eliminate unwanted pregnancies but also for health reasons as well. I cannot tell you all how mny time I have heard a man say that he was "trapped" and when asked about wearing a condom, he says something like,"well she said she was on the pill." Hello!?!? Who gives a rat's ass what SHE SAYS! I am not advocating women being dishnest about being on birth control, however, just bc a woman says she is on birth control, does not mean the man can lay back and conduct himself in a irresponsible way. Wear wear a condom regardless of what the woman says.

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Posted by krysrenee7

If a woman gets pregnant b/c ..... the woman poked a hole in it, it's still 50% his fault.

Krys ... your idiocy has taken a new level.

Um yeh...how the heck is this 50% his fault? Cuz he was on the other side?? I dun get it

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It's still 50% HIS fault b/c HE'S the one in control of the condom. He's the 1 who bought it. He's the 1 who put it on. He's the 1 who oughta check to make sure he's 1. NOT sleeping with a woman most likely to be sneaky enough to poke holes in condoms & 2. checking out his "device" before putting 100% of his trust in it.

Alot of males have started checking for holes in condoms, supplying their OWN condoms (instead of taking 1 that a woman gave him), flushing the condoms down the toilet after sex (to make sure that she doesn't try to be sneaky & get the cum out of it), etc.

Again, only abstinence is 100% guaranteed. But seriously, the person who supplies the condom is 100% responsible for it...not the person who sat back & got humped all day by the guy who put it on.

lmao@sungem..."tango". Ahhh ha ha ha!!

Posted by THEKingofLibra
The more I think of it, the more I want to get a vasectomy and stay single 😄

You women with your vaginas.. and ovaries.. and uteri.. and mammary glands.. You are designed to trap our seed!!

*jumps out the window and runs away naked*

LMAO Biology! It's RIDICULOUS!

What if she pokes a hole as he soon as he starts coming. Right then and there. I don't know how the hell one can do that real quick but lets say it actually was done. Is the man still partly responsible?

Posted by Amandus
What if she pokes a hole as he soon as he starts coming. Right then and there. I don't know how the hell one can do that real quick but lets say it actually was done. Is the man still partly responsible?

Lol see, now yall are trying to come up with damn near impossible scenarious to try & take the blaim off of men! lol lol.

But good question...Hey, if a woman is THAT good at being that sneaky then of course part of the blaim is on her too. Even still, I'd find it hard to believe that a woman who'd be willing to stoop that low hasn't given off some kind of hint, red flag or signal that she's like that, at some point in time. Women who do that sort of thing are usually detectable & usually give clues away that they're psycho. And hey, if men would actually WAIT & get to know the women they're giving their "health/life" cards away to, BEFORE they sleep with them, there wouldn't be a Maury Povich show nor would there be so many unplanned pregnancies.

Just like it's 100% the MAN'S responsibility to buy, take care of AND protect a condom that goes on HIS body, the same goes for a woman & anything (cough: birth control) that is HER responsibility. That's like saying that it's a man's fault if her man steals 4 of her birth control pills! Sure, he's a douche for stealing them, BUT had the woman actually been responsible & watchful enough to make ure her Mon-Sun pills were there, she wouldn't end up in a situation where she's pregnant or burned by some douche who steals.

I'm not saying that everything is always 100% a man's fault. BUT I'm tired of society loving to place blaim on women for anything "unwanted." Men have to take responsibility too! It's mighty hard for a woman to "trap" a man if the man didn't do all that he could to protect himself. If he actually DOES everything he possible can to, that's 1 thing, but let's be real, most men don't. They simply "assume" that a woman wouldn't do such a thing. And we all know what they say about "assuming" don't we?!

Exactly! There's a "risk" that a man takes every time he sleeps with a woman, whether he uses the world's best condom or not. Therefore, if she accidently (or purposely) gets pregnant, how did she TRAP him?! It's impossible! No, she didn't trap him..it just so happens that the "risk" they both took backfired on the both of them.

That's exactly what I meant when I stated that I was tired of this whole philosophy that women "trap" men. Sure, some women do, BUT let's be honest. Most men have unwanted children or get unwanted stds b/c THEY didn't take the necessary pre-cautions OR b/c they were foolishy willing to take that risk. It's not fair to the woman to place all the blaim on her or label her as someone who "trapped" him all b/c the risk they both took backfired.

Posted by amethyst2002
It's equal responsibility. I think it's fucked up that so many men think it's all the woman's responsibility. Again, men not wanting to take any blame or accountability for their actions. *shakes head*

If women are going to be sexually active, they need to consider a form of birth control. Hormonal types are not the only ones that exist. There's the diaphragm. Not very popular, but it exists. There's also cervical caps, sponges, and use of spermicides.

For men, they can use that condom and stfu about how uncomfortable it feels, the selfish assholes. Women deal with hormonal birth control that can fuck with them internally, as well as not so pleasant other forms that they gotta shove up there. Meanwhile, men are bitching about how a condom feels? Deal with it. Regardless of getting knocked up or not, condoms should be used anyway with the rate of STDs nowadays. EVERYONE SEEMS TO FORGET THAT TIDBIT, LOL.

Women that "trap" guys by lying about taking birth control or poking holes in the condoms need to be locked up. They're clearly too psychotic to be procreating.

Either way, both scenarios involve way too much selfishness. You got a whiny, selfish guy bitching about condoms and expecting the girl to do all the work, and then you got a nut job chick trying to trap a guy with a baby. Both are assholes and should be shoved off a cliff.

Absafuckinlutely

Posted by amethyst2002
For men, they can use that condom and stfu about how uncomfortable it feels, the selfish assholes. Women deal with hormonal birth control that can fuck with them internally, as well as not so pleasant other forms that they gotta shove up there. Meanwhile, men are bitching about how a condom feels? Deal with it. Regardless of getting knocked up or not, condoms should be used anyway with the rate of STDs nowadays. EVERYONE SEEMS TO FORGET THAT TIDBIT, LOL.
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Exactly...I bet people stop complaining about how "uncomfortable" contraceptives feel the minute their std tests come back positive!

I can't believe the nerve of some of the people who actually walk around with their self-righteous views! Telling me that you "hate condoms" is the SAME as you telling me that you LOVE stds/unwanted pregnancy!