Unforgiveable

What are some of the things someone can DO or SAY that you'd consider unforgiveable?

Well, other than domestic violence and/or cheating...what are some other examples of what you guys consider unforgiveable? And when I say unforgiveable, I mean things that will take you a lonnnnng time (longer than usual) to forgive, if you even forgive at all?

Mine are:
1. Cussing out or disrespecting my parents. If my man EVER got crunk or violent with my parents, that'd be an unforgiveable offense. There'd be NO justification or excuse for it; if someone will disrespect the people who created me, they can't possibly respect me

2. Cheating on me with a family member or best friend. Yes, cheating period if hard to forgive, BUT people often forgive AND forget eventually depending on who their partners cheated on them with. If someone will screw someone I love, there's NO way I'd ever be able to look them in the face/trust them again.

3. Physically and/or sexually abusing me and/or our kids. If my child ever came to me with allegations of abuse, I'd NEVER protect the villian. My kids come 1st & I'd never be able to live w/ myself knowing that I choose that "forgive and forget" crap over my own kids. The LEAST I can do is protect them from all harm, even if that includes enemies within the household. Plus, I'd never be able to live with myself if I showed my kids that staying with someone who abuses me is ok

4. Having a child with someone else while we're still together. It shows that NOT ONLY did you cheat on me, BUT you also had raw sex with that person AND jeopardized my health! I only get 1 life & anyone who feels 20 minutes of sex with an outsider is worth MORE than my life is someone I'll never be able to respect/look at again.

5. Giving me an std (permanent)

Well, I tend to forgive and forget because I think life is far too short to hang onto stuff but ......

Posted by cappysweetie
Well, I tend to forgive and forget because I think life is far too short to hang onto stuff but ......

I agree that 1 should never spend their entire life holding onto something another person said/did. BUT by unforgiveable, I mean the things that would automatically DISQUALIFY you from ever being in a relationship/having a friendship with that person again.

Just b/c you forgive someone doesn't mean that you have to/should continue being with them and/or keeping them in your life. Forgiving them for what they've done/said is 1 thing; keeping them around afterwards is a whole 'nother story.

My Unforgivable List

1. Do not, under any circumstances blast me in front of others. If you have something to say, you can pull me aside and say it. If it's not done that way, consider yourself dead to me. Putting me on blast is a friendship deal-breaker if there ever was one. If I can't trust you with personal stuff, then why are we friends to begin with?

2. Don't steal from me. OMG, it's like my own personal sin. Why in the world would you steal? Just ask.

3. Secretly plot against me ... and I find out about it. ahahahahaha, this has happen before.

1. Frontin' or feeling the need to pretend you're something that you're not. Meaning...don't lie about what you got, who you are, or what you're doing with you're life.

2. Lying. I know sometimes people lie and it's human nature. However, if I catch you once...I'll ask that you don't lie to me again. Catch you twice...I'm done.

3. Everything that krysrenee7 said.

Public humiliation
Stealing from me (unless it's my heart your stealing 🙂)
Talking about me, my family or loved ones behind my back
Disregard for the lives of others (person or animal)

HUM I gusee Im out with Elle, Al k hall OH well there is always LLLTBL.
As for unforgiven great movie.

sorry about that happy birthday babe, may your birthday be great and the year ahead.

I think I could pretty much forgive/get over/forget about anything you do to me once I've emotionally let go, but NEVER if you've done something hurtful or disrespectful to someone/something I love.

@Shadows: Yeah that's a big no no for me too. If someone targets my parents, any of my family members, my children or any of my bestest friends, I'm done forever. You can hurt me all you want, but DON'T hurt/target my loved ones. That's a line you don't want to cross!

Right?!? Yeah, when I read your OP I thought OMG, don't even THINK of disrespecting my parents! Just reading that got my blood boiling! 😄

Posted by Let*It*Be
"What are some of the things someone can DO or SAY that you'd consider unforgiveable?"

Leaving a relationship without trying effort/compromise first

Good one! I think making up just to break up is also a very CRUEL thing to do. Someone who will continually walk away from me/break up with me is someone who will never respect me. When someone uses breaking up with you simply as a tool for devestation and/or manipulation, that is about the cruelest thing you can do. Where I come from, when you break up with someone that's you basically saying that you no longer want me a part of your life, therefore if someone continually gives me that impression, I'll give them what they asked for & be gone for good. Playing with someone's heart is about the cruelest thing anyone can do

As with the parents thing...A person can talk big shxt about me, hit me and/or do whatever they want, BUT don't touch/get crazy with my family/kids/best friends. That's the ultimate betrayal! I'd take back the man who cheated over the man who cussed my mother out any day! Of course both are horrible & unnacceptable, BUT purposely targeting my loved ones ON TOP of everything else you've probably done wrong to me, is about as cruel as it gets!

Oh if we are talking about relationship, oh then I have a different list, I thought we were talking about *In General*

My current list still applies but ..

Posted by katie2333
yeah i thought we were talking about in "GENERAL".

and why does krysenee and L*I*B have the same IP address? :/

Oh don't pay attention to IP address dear, people got me confused with alot of peeps here because they were trying to "track" me -- hahahahahaha STALKERS xD

No, DXPNET screws up the IP addresses here on purpose. I'm glad he started doing that.

Unforgivable Relationship List

1. Cheating -- just because I don't like the fact that I work hard to be faithful to you but you can't do the same in return. It's almost like I'm being used in a relationship/ marriage if you cheat. Plus, there's something that's broken after going outside the relationship that cannot under any given circumstances be fixed or mended simply by staying together.

Get out of the relationship for healing time, works best -- you still think about it if you remain in the relationship

2. Abuse -- been there before and there's no way I can stay if I think you will do bodily harm to me. Verbal-abuse is just as bad (if not worse), I refuse to be cut-down all the time because then I start doing it too and then I'm no better all then him. Can't deal with any form of abuse.

3. Hygiene -- this may be a little vain but I'm BIG on being clean. I don't like slobs, it's a hug deal breaker if you are gross. There's no reason why you should know how to use :

1. Soap
2. Water
3. Deodorant
4. Toothbrush and Toothpaste
5. Shampoo and Conditioner

AND PLEASE! Don't see you can't afford it, go to the Dollar Tree, you can get this stuff of under $ 5.00 for heaven's sakes

Don't be all nice in clean then after we are together for a bit you become all gross Ewww, yes it's shallow but it's unforgivable.

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Posted by katie2333
yeah i thought we were talking about in "GENERAL".

and why does krysenee and L*I*B have the same IP address? :/

Oh don't pay attention to IP address dear, people got me confused with alot of peeps here because they were trying to "track" me -- hahahahahaha STALKERS xD

No, DXPNET screws up the IP addresses here on purpose. I'm glad he started doing that.

:/

oh ok i see it happening a lot.

you must get a lot of secret admirers, cappysweetie 🙂

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4 of them are just haters hahahaha, the other 2 are just weird as hell but I'm not going to get into that. I don't want to xD

Posted by katie2333

Posted by cappysweetie
Unforgivable Relationship List

1. Cheating -- just because I don't like the fact that I work hard to be faithful to you but you can't do the same in return. It's almost like I'm being used in a relationship/ marriage if you cheat. Plus, there's something that's broken after going outside the relationship that cannot under any given circumstances be fixed or mended simply by staying together.

Get out of the relationship for healing time, works best -- you still think about it if you remain in the relationship

2. Abuse -- been there before and there's no way I can stay if I think you will do bodily harm to me. Verbal-abuse is just as bad (if not worse), I refuse to be cut-down all the time because then I start doing it too and then I'm no better all then him. Can't deal with any form of abuse.

3. Hygiene -- this may be a little vain but I'm BIG on being clean. I don't like slobs, it's a hug deal breaker if you are gross. There's no reason why you should know how to use :

1. Soap
2. Water
3. Deodorant
4. Toothbrush and Toothpaste
5. Shampoo and Conditioner

AND PLEASE! Don't see you can't afford it, go to the Dollar Tree, you can get this stuff of under $ 5.00 for heaven's sakes

Don't be all nice in clean then after we are together for a bit you become all gross Ewww, yes it's shallow but it's unforgivable.

LOL OMG same here with hygiene. 😄 I cannot stand a stinky person!!! gross. And sometimes they just smell even if they have washed up. Something about their strange body odor!!

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OMG, I know this sounds mean, but I'm sooooo serious OMG don't you try to be all over me and you haven't put an ounce of what on your face. Been there, done that and .... yeah, I gotta be honest here lol

Posted by katie2333
I am a b*tch when it comes to hygiene to my man. Clean up GOOD before you touch me then it's ON!!

Good thing he is always accommodating!! 😄!! LOL! Or else there's going to be hell to pay and a COLD night. Nothing beats a good smelling clean yummy man!! mmm mmm.

OMG right, if I smell good, then you need to smell good too lol. And he we are both a little tart ... then lets get clean together I say 😉

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Posted by katie2333
I am a b*tch when it comes to hygiene to my man. Clean up GOOD before you touch me then it's ON!!

Good thing he is always accommodating!! 😄!! LOL! Or else there's going to be hell to pay and a COLD night. Nothing beats a good smelling clean yummy man!! mmm mmm.

OMG right, if I smell good, then you need to smell good too lol. And he we are both a little tart ... then lets get clean together I say 😉

the best kind! 🙂

You are just tooooo sweet!!

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That happens a lot offline, because its that darn mercury in Sagittarius, gets me all the the time ^_^. But I try to be careful and I ask a lot of questions. So it's like, if I asked if something bothers someone and they say no, then I'm not held responsible because you told me no. Now, if you meant yes and just said no for the hell of it, then that's not my problem.

^^^ You seem okay to me, I don't know about others but you seem okay. I usually let people know when they are getting on my nerves 🙂

Keeps me in trouble lol

You are a Sagittarius!

:O

Whoa, you don't seem like one 🙂 Yet some say I don't seem like a capricorn hahahahaha whatever, I'm a goatie-girl damn it.

Posted by katie2333

Posted by cappysweetie
You are a Sagittarius!

:O

Whoa, you don't seem like one 🙂 Yet some say I don't seem like a capricorn hahahahaha whatever, I'm a goatie-girl damn it.

lol no, i was blaming sagittarius because that is the fire in my chart. And it's angle/degree is right smack in the middle, therefore the double sagittarius decan. It does go into OVERexpansion at times, and then you will get my fiery nature but alot of the times you will see the most meloncholy parts (i think that is the saturn influence)

yeah you dont seem capricorn but you might have alot of your aquarius and cusp sag going on. that's why it seems much more prominent than your capricorn side. But in truth your ego/personality will always be Capricorn. 🙂 Just influenced by other planets to make you more UNIQUE than another capricorn girl.

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It's funny you talk about decans because my Aquarius Moon is in 1st decan & I read somewhere that decans & cusps matter just as much as in other placements as it does in the sun placement. But my venus in Aquarius is on the 2nd decan BUT my mars is on the Aquarius-Pisces cusp -- this here is probably what helps and hurts me in relationships lol

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Posted by cappysweetie
You are a Sagittarius!

:O

ohh that would explain that..

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Hey, be nice lol

Wait a minute xD Saggie women are cool lol. I'm half archer 😛

So yeah 😛!!!!!!!!

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Posted by cappysweetie
Yet some say I don't seem like a capricorn hahahahaha whatever, I'm a goatie-girl damn it.

lol no, i was blaming sagittarius because that is the fire in my chart. And it's angle/degree is right smack in the middle, therefore the double sagittarius decan. It does go into OVERexpansion at times, and then you will get my fiery nature but alot of the times you will see the most meloncholy parts (i think that is the saturn influence)

yeah you dont seem capricorn but you might have alot of your aquarius and cusp sag going on. that's why it seems much more prominent than your capricorn side. But in truth your ego/personality will always be Capricorn. 🙂 Just influenced by other planets to make you more UNIQUE than another capricorn girl.

It's funny you talk about decans because my Aquarius Moon is in 1st decan & I read somewhere that decans & cusps matter just as much as in other placements as it does in the sun placement. But my venus in Aquarius is on the 2nd decan BUT my mars is on the Aquarius-Pisces cusp -- this here is probably what helps and hurts me in relationships lol

Supposedly too that the moon decan will give CLUES to a persons fate in personal one on one relationships. it is and can be VERY depressing. it is very occultish, actually. that's why the veil of deception of astrology itself. HOWEVER, it is positive for a person whose unfortunate fate in relationships are destined:a person concentrates more on the career aspects.

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I don't think it's depressing hahaha, you just gotta make the *Astro* cards you are dealt work for you. I already know having an Moon in Aquarius on the 1`st decan means One-on-One relationships are bad and if I were a 2nd or 3rd decan Aqua mooner, I would have a better time but whatever, I just gotta find what works lol

Posted by ianthepisces
katie, youd be surprised...

cappy, they are cool.. i just wouldnt date one..

we dont seem to mesh well in the romantic department..

so like katie said it would never get there..

i repel them, they repel me..

Ok I see lol

HUM perhaps the fact that my dogs do well rolling in sheep dung isn't a good sign I should before trying to get a date HUM!
Will try to remember this in the future.