What hurts more?

Inspired by another thread on cheating about how healthy it is to leave as supposed to cheat:

1. Is leaving someone doesn’t hurt them? Or how do we measure hurt of cheating vs of hurt by leaving?

2. Does anyone ever think that a lot of people would prefer to forgive a partner who cheated and stay together vs losing them?

second one definitely hurts more imo, because i could relate to it more. forgiving someone who cheated but the damage has already been done . being stuck with the hard choice of leaving them or staying in the relationship, because you still love them

I rather they leave me first.

I've been cheated on twice, it hurts like hell. They didnt broke it off first, they just went on and do it. I found out later.

1 ex broke it off first and then went to the other. That hurt less than the cheating. Cause in the end, it was the sensitive and responsible thing to do. Its also more respectful to your partner. I actually thanked him for being honest and open about it.

2. Does anyone ever think that a lot of people would prefer to forgive a partner who cheated and stay together vs losing them?

Its all about trusting the cheater again..and to continue the life as nothing happened..

I tried and didnt work...the mind is playing with you around a cheater every single day.

Of course at the age of 60's we may forgive and dream different..