@_Dazed
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Ladies.. if a guy says
Understanding What It Means When He Says He Wants You but Allows Others
When a man says he wants you but permits sleeping with others, it often indicates a non-traditional relationship dynamic or an open relationship. Clarifying boundaries and intentions is essential to ensure mutual understanding and respect. Open communication helps determine if this arrangement aligns with your values and comfort level.
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He wants you to be his, but you're welcome to sleep with other men/women (as long as you are safe)...
What is your response?
response: who do you think you are? how you dare to "allow" me to sleep or not to sleep with others?
I would ask what is the Catch 22 here.
Well I don't like to share- so I'd say naw as I wouldn't want to share him. Assuming that was his plans for himself. 🙃
Bye!
He wants you to be his, but you're welcome to sleep with other men/women (as long as you are safe)...
What is your response?
response: who do you think you are? how you dare to "allow" me to sleep or not to sleep with others?
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Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe.
Yes, ALLOW! If you're not free to sleep with others OR ELSE your partner dumps you it means he/she is allowing/not allowing it. Get over yourself
He wants you to be his, but you're welcome to sleep with other men/women (as long as you are safe)...
What is your response?
response: who do you think you are? how you dare to "allow" me to sleep or not to sleep with others?
Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe.
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"Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe"
🙂
not offended, but rage-blinde mad
you do your own rules regarding sleeping/not sleeping with others, thats fine, just dont "allow" me, dont make rules for me, thats what I would feel, you are not my "free will guardian"
(not you, but as a response)
I mean, if he would say: I want you, but I will sleep with others, thats okey, you are doing your own rules, I can say okey or not for me
but dont say: I want you, but you can sleep with others as well - dont you dare to decide for me 🙂
feel the difference? 🙂
I will fart in his hand, and ask him to smell it, and will told him :”this is my answer “😃
He wants you to be his, but you're welcome to sleep with other men/women (as long as you are safe)...
What is your response?
response: who do you think you are? how you dare to "allow" me to sleep or not to sleep with others?
Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe.
"Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe"
🙂
not offended, but rage-blinde mad
you do your own rules regarding sleeping/not sleeping with others, thats fine, just dont "allow" me, dont make rules for me, thats what I would feel, you are not my "free will guardian"
(not you, but as a response)
I mean, if he would say: I want you, but I will sleep with others, thats okey, you are doing your own rules, I can say okey or not for me
but dont say: I want you, but you can sleep with others as well - dont you dare to decide for me 🙂
feel the difference? 🙂
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It's literally the same thing
So no I don't feel the difference. Your problem is semantics, you are basically looking to feel offended
He wants you to be his, but you're welcome to sleep with other men/women (as long as you are safe)...
What is your response?
response: who do you think you are? how you dare to "allow" me to sleep or not to sleep with others?
Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe.
"Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe"
🙂
not offended, but rage-blinde mad
you do your own rules regarding sleeping/not sleeping with others, thats fine, just dont "allow" me, dont make rules for me, thats what I would feel, you are not my "free will guardian"
(not you, but as a response)
I mean, if he would say: I want you, but I will sleep with others, thats okey, you are doing your own rules, I can say okey or not for me
but dont say: I want you, but you can sleep with others as well - dont you dare to decide for me 🙂
feel the difference? 🙂
It's literally the same thing
So no I don't feel the difference. Your problem is semantics, you are basically looking to feel offended
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"So no I don't feel the difference. Your problem is semantics, you are basically looking to feel offended"
ok 🙂
we all have our view and opinion on this
you dont feel the difference, someone feels the difference, we are all different, which is good
thats why we discuss and offer our views of point, noone´s personal opinion is the absolute true, not mine, not yours, right? 🙂
He wants you to be his, but you're welcome to sleep with other men/women (as long as you are safe)...
What is your response?
response: who do you think you are? how you dare to "allow" me to sleep or not to sleep with others?
Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe.
"Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe"
🙂
not offended, but rage-blinde mad
you do your own rules regarding sleeping/not sleeping with others, thats fine, just dont "allow" me, dont make rules for me, thats what I would feel, you are not my "free will guardian"
(not you, but as a response)
I mean, if he would say: I want you, but I will sleep with others, thats okey, you are doing your own rules, I can say okey or not for me
but dont say: I want you, but you can sleep with others as well - dont you dare to decide for me 🙂
feel the difference? 🙂
It's literally the same thing
So no I don't feel the difference. Your problem is semantics, you are basically looking to feel offended
"So no I don't feel the difference. Your problem is semantics, you are basically looking to feel offended"
ok 🙂
we all have our view and opinion on this
you dont feel the difference, someone feels the difference, we are all different, which is good
thats why we discuss and offer our views of point, noone´s personal opinion is the absolute true, not mine, not yours, right? 🙂
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He wants you to be his, but you're welcome to sleep with other men/women (as long as you are safe)...
What is your response?
response: who do you think you are? how you dare to "allow" me to sleep or not to sleep with others?
Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe.
"Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe"
🙂
not offended, but rage-blinde mad
you do your own rules regarding sleeping/not sleeping with others, thats fine, just dont "allow" me, dont make rules for me, thats what I would feel, you are not my "free will guardian"
(not you, but as a response)
I mean, if he would say: I want you, but I will sleep with others, thats okey, you are doing your own rules, I can say okey or not for me
but dont say: I want you, but you can sleep with others as well - dont you dare to decide for me 🙂
feel the difference? 🙂
It's literally the same thing
So no I don't feel the difference. Your problem is semantics, you are basically looking to feel offended
"So no I don't feel the difference. Your problem is semantics, you are basically looking to feel offended"
ok 🙂
we all have our view and opinion on this
you dont feel the difference, someone feels the difference, we are all different, which is good
thats why we discuss and offer our views of point, noone´s personal opinion is the absolute true, not mine, not yours, right? 🙂
"proclaiming their opinion as absolute facts"
is it what you are doing? is it what I am doing? 🙂
the six and nine pic is my favourite, I use it all the time
the red text is .... well 🙂
(edit: a good research is a basic tool, what is exact. A chair is a chair, a table is a table, it was yesterday, it will be tomorrow. How people feel is not something "exact", they feel it now, it may change... or not. Good research also include different opinions on a given topic)
I’d say I don’t get it
Then how am I yours.
I don’t understand
He wants you to be his, but you're welcome to sleep with other men/women (as long as you are safe)...
What is your response?
Been there. It wasn't a question so... no real response. It was my first serious relationship.
isnt this the dream situation?
Yes! So Dazed is dreaming...don’t wake him up or he will dream another shit...🤷♀️
He wants you to be his, but you're welcome to sleep with other men/women (as long as you are safe)...
What is your response?
response: who do you think you are? how you dare to "allow" me to sleep or not to sleep with others?
Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe.
"Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe"
🙂
not offended, but rage-blinde mad
you do your own rules regarding sleeping/not sleeping with others, thats fine, just dont "allow" me, dont make rules for me, thats what I would feel, you are not my "free will guardian"
(not you, but as a response)
I mean, if he would say: I want you, but I will sleep with others, thats okey, you are doing your own rules, I can say okey or not for me
but dont say: I want you, but you can sleep with others as well - dont you dare to decide for me 🙂
feel the difference? 🙂
It's literally the same thing
So no I don't feel the difference. Your problem is semantics, you are basically looking to feel offended
"So no I don't feel the difference. Your problem is semantics, you are basically looking to feel offended"
ok 🙂
we all have our view and opinion on this
you dont feel the difference, someone feels the difference, we are all different, which is good
thats why we discuss and offer our views of point, noone´s personal opinion is the absolute true, not mine, not yours, right? 🙂
"proclaiming their opinion as absolute facts"
is it what you are doing? is it what I am doing? 🙂
the six and nine pic is my favourite, I use it all the time
the red text is .... well 🙂
(edit: a good research is a basic tool, what is exact. A chair is a chair, a table is a table, it was yesterday, it will be tomorrow. How people feel is not something "exact", they feel it now, it may change... or not. Good research also include different opinions on a given topic)
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You can sit on the table...(you know...) and eat on the chair...
Just saying...🤷♀️😂😂😂
Marry me? Lol
I would say that I don't want to sleep with anyone else. Does he ?
He wants you to be his, but you're welcome to sleep with other men/women (as long as you are safe)...
What is your response?
response: who do you think you are? how you dare to "allow" me to sleep or not to sleep with others?
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Just trying to pick your brain here, but why do you take this as "allowing" in the context of dominance from the man?
The initial question is phrased as saying you are welcome to sleep with others if that is what you choose to want as long as safety is thought of.
He wants you to be his, but you're welcome to sleep with other men/women (as long as you are safe)...
What is your response?
response: who do you think you are? how you dare to "allow" me to sleep or not to sleep with others?
Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe.
"Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe"
🙂
not offended, but rage-blinde mad
you do your own rules regarding sleeping/not sleeping with others, thats fine, just dont "allow" me, dont make rules for me, thats what I would feel, you are not my "free will guardian"
(not you, but as a response)
I mean, if he would say: I want you, but I will sleep with others, thats okey, you are doing your own rules, I can say okey or not for me
but dont say: I want you, but you can sleep with others as well - dont you dare to decide for me 🙂
feel the difference? 🙂
It's literally the same thing
So no I don't feel the difference. Your problem is semantics, you are basically looking to feel offended
"So no I don't feel the difference. Your problem is semantics, you are basically looking to feel offended"
ok 🙂
we all have our view and opinion on this
you dont feel the difference, someone feels the difference, we are all different, which is good
thats why we discuss and offer our views of point, noone´s personal opinion is the absolute true, not mine, not yours, right? 🙂
"proclaiming their opinion as absolute facts"
is it what you are doing? is it what I am doing? 🙂
the six and nine pic is my favourite, I use it all the time
the red text is .... well 🙂
(edit: a good research is a basic tool, what is exact. A chair is a chair, a table is a table, it was yesterday, it will be tomorrow. How people feel is not something "exact", they feel it now, it may change... or not. Good research also include different opinions on a given topic)
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I feel...
You feel....
They feel...
Facts don't care about your feelings.
Big turn off.
+ Relationships are a two-way street ( in my books anyway)
and I'm not cool with an open rel, so goodbye it is!
Very doubtful I'd be confronted with this type of scenario, pretty good at reading people and especially good when it comes to my potential partner.
Is there something wrong with you where we cant just be together? Is it a fantasy or fetish?
Id want to try to understand the situation before answering lol. If its some rando, fuck off. But someone I really care about, hell Im flexible.... haha
I feel like there is a lot of man hate in this thread -___-
He wants you to be his, but you're welcome to sleep with other men/women (as long as you are safe)...
What is your response?
response: who do you think you are? how you dare to "allow" me to sleep or not to sleep with others?
Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe.
"Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe"
🙂
not offended, but rage-blinde mad
you do your own rules regarding sleeping/not sleeping with others, thats fine, just dont "allow" me, dont make rules for me, thats what I would feel, you are not my "free will guardian"
(not you, but as a response)
I mean, if he would say: I want you, but I will sleep with others, thats okey, you are doing your own rules, I can say okey or not for me
but dont say: I want you, but you can sleep with others as well - dont you dare to decide for me 🙂
feel the difference? 🙂
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No.. I don't.
Just feels like he’s looking to sleep around himself but being weird and manipulative about it instead of just coming out with it🤷♀️
Not the case.
I would say that I don't want to sleep with anyone else. Does he ?
No.
He wants you to be his, but you're welcome to sleep with other men/women (as long as you are safe)...
What is your response?
That he doesn't care and he's lying
I feel like there is a lot of man hate in this thread -___-
?
Explain.
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Just the assumption that he wants to sleep with others but isn't being honest about it.
If he was old or couldn’t get it up then fair play, otherwise I’d be turned off by it...
Just feels like he’s looking to sleep around himself but being weird and manipulative about it instead of just coming out with it🤷♀️
Not the case.
What does it mean to him to ‘be his’?
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His companion. Life partner. Etc.
He wants you to be his, but you're welcome to sleep with other men/women (as long as you are safe)...
What is your response?
response: who do you think you are? how you dare to "allow" me to sleep or not to sleep with others?
Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe.
"Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe"
🙂
not offended, but rage-blinde mad
you do your own rules regarding sleeping/not sleeping with others, thats fine, just dont "allow" me, dont make rules for me, thats what I would feel, you are not my "free will guardian"
(not you, but as a response)
I mean, if he would say: I want you, but I will sleep with others, thats okey, you are doing your own rules, I can say okey or not for me
but dont say: I want you, but you can sleep with others as well - dont you dare to decide for me 🙂
feel the difference? 🙂
No.. I don't.
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"No.. I don't."
I do
I am not telling everyone should feel the same
Its me, how I would feel and respond
tbh, I think I would respond only in my head, and would leave without a word and never look back 🙂
I would say that I don't want to sleep with anyone else. Does he ?
No.
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then I would wonder why he was even telling me that - I mean what does he think about me that he'd say something like that - weird ...
Just feels like he’s looking to sleep around himself but being weird and manipulative about it instead of just coming out with it🤷♀️
Not the case.
What does it mean to him to ‘be his’?
His companion. Life partner. Etc.
Why is he offering? If not for his own intentions then did she make some sort of sign that she is restless or not all in? Is this a real situation? Is it fwb situation getting confused? Gay guy/beard situation? Why would it just be one of them cheating?
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Lets say that he doesn't care for sex all that much.
He wants you to be his, but you're welcome to sleep with other men/women (as long as you are safe)...
What is your response?
response: who do you think you are? how you dare to "allow" me to sleep or not to sleep with others?
Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe.
"Of course the 21st century woman would find ways to be offended by this 😒
Cringe"
🙂
not offended, but rage-blinde mad
you do your own rules regarding sleeping/not sleeping with others, thats fine, just dont "allow" me, dont make rules for me, thats what I would feel, you are not my "free will guardian"
(not you, but as a response)
I mean, if he would say: I want you, but I will sleep with others, thats okey, you are doing your own rules, I can say okey or not for me
but dont say: I want you, but you can sleep with others as well - dont you dare to decide for me 🙂
feel the difference? 🙂
No.. I don't.
"No.. I don't."
I do
I am not telling everyone should feel the same
Its me, how I would feel and respond
tbh, I think I would respond only in my head, and would leave without a word and never look back 🙂
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Would you feel different if he said you can't sleep with anyone else?
Just feels like he’s looking to sleep around himself but being weird and manipulative about it instead of just coming out with it🤷♀️
Not the case.
What does it mean to him to ‘be his’?
His companion. Life partner. Etc.
Why is he offering? If not for his own intentions then did she make some sort of sign that she is restless or not all in? Is this a real situation? Is it fwb situation getting confused? Gay guy/beard situation? Why would it just be one of them cheating?
Lets say that he doesn't care for sex all that much.
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That's a very open minded person in my opinion, wanting his partner to be satisfied. Does he want to watch them?
Just feels like he’s looking to sleep around himself but being weird and manipulative about it instead of just coming out with it🤷♀️
Not the case.
What does it mean to him to ‘be his’?
His companion. Life partner. Etc.
Why is he offering? If not for his own intentions then did she make some sort of sign that she is restless or not all in? Is this a real situation? Is it fwb situation getting confused? Gay guy/beard situation? Why would it just be one of them cheating?
Lets say that he doesn't care for sex all that much.
That's a very open minded person in my opinion, wanting his partner to be satisfied. Does he want to watch them?
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No.
I actually had this relationship, my first serious relationship, and it lasted over 3 years. Only ended because he wanted to get married and have me move during my junior year of college.
I think it worked because he was the most sappy romantic ever.
Just feels like he’s looking to sleep around himself but being weird and manipulative about it instead of just coming out with it🤷♀️
Not the case.
What does it mean to him to ‘be his’?
His companion. Life partner. Etc.
Why is he offering? If not for his own intentions then did she make some sort of sign that she is restless or not all in? Is this a real situation? Is it fwb situation getting confused? Gay guy/beard situation? Why would it just be one of them cheating?
Lets say that he doesn't care for sex all that much.
That's a very open minded person in my opinion, wanting his partner to be satisfied. Does he want to watch them?
No.
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Just wants her to be satisfied? Or gets off on the whole knowing she's out banging someone else? Or sloppy seconds, that kind of thing? Mental sex is better than physical sex for some...
Just feels like he’s looking to sleep around himself but being weird and manipulative about it instead of just coming out with it🤷♀️
Not the case.
What does it mean to him to ‘be his’?
His companion. Life partner. Etc.
Why is he offering? If not for his own intentions then did she make some sort of sign that she is restless or not all in? Is this a real situation? Is it fwb situation getting confused? Gay guy/beard situation? Why would it just be one of them cheating?
Lets say that he doesn't care for sex all that much.
That's a very open minded person in my opinion, wanting his partner to be satisfied. Does he want to watch them?
No.
Just wants her to be satisfied? Or gets off on the whole knowing she's out banging someone else? Or sloppy seconds, that kind of thing? Mental sex is better than physical sex for some...
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Simply wants her to be satisfied. Nothing more.
Just feels like he’s looking to sleep around himself but being weird and manipulative about it instead of just coming out with it🤷♀️
Not the case.
What does it mean to him to ‘be his’?
His companion. Life partner. Etc.
Why is he offering? If not for his own intentions then did she make some sort of sign that she is restless or not all in? Is this a real situation? Is it fwb situation getting confused? Gay guy/beard situation? Why would it just be one of them cheating?
some people dont have issue w/ it. just bc one person doesnt feel the need to sleep w/ others doesnt mean they would have to feel hurt by their partner sleeping w/ others.
not everyone is just all in it for total & whole possession.
True everyone’s different. I guess I’m trying to figure out the difference between deep friendship and this kind of other relationship, if it’s not sex based?
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They still have sex. But her appetite is much larger than his.
Sex =/= Intimacy
Sex =/= Intimacy
They are related to me. I can't even fathom how they aren't for most people. It's the most private parts of your body and actions.
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And to each their own. But within the constructs of this thread. The "man" is offering the "woman" to find sexual gratification due to his lack of needing physical sex. For this "man" sex does not equate to intimacy. And the man is secure enough within himself, to understand that his "partner" needs a certain level of sexual gratification that he can not fulfill himself.
Intimacy therefore is most paramount. Intimacy is needed within a romantic relationship. Which can be achieved without sex. Therefore sex =/= to intimacy. It can add to intimacy within a romantic relationship, but it is not the ONLY avenue to increase intimacy in a couple.
I wouldn't trust a guy who says that.
Sex =/= Intimacy
They are related to me. I can't even fathom how they aren't for most people. It's the most private parts of your body and actions.
And to each their own. But within the constructs of this thread. The "man" is offering the "woman" to find sexual gratification due to his lack of needing physical sex. For this "man" sex does not equate to intimacy. And the man is secure enough within himself, to understand that his "partner" needs a certain level of sexual gratification that he can not fulfill himself.
Intimacy there for is most paramount. Intimacy is needed within a romantic relationship. Which can be achieved without sex. Therefore sex =/= to intimacy. It can add to intimacy within a romantic relationship, but it is not the ONLY avenue to increase intimacy in a couple.
Well, okay, I can agree with that. @Dazed didn't give us any of that context, though.
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It's kind of funny how the lack of context brings out the worst fears/preconceived ideas from people.
Sex =/= Intimacy
They are related to me. I can't even fathom how they aren't for most people. It's the most private parts of your body and actions.
And to each their own. But within the constructs of this thread. The "man" is offering the "woman" to find sexual gratification due to his lack of needing physical sex. For this "man" sex does not equate to intimacy. And the man is secure enough within himself, to understand that his "partner" needs a certain level of sexual gratification that he can not fulfill himself.
Intimacy there for is most paramount. Intimacy is needed within a romantic relationship. Which can be achieved without sex. Therefore sex =/= to intimacy. It can add to intimacy within a romantic relationship, but it is not the ONLY avenue to increase intimacy in a couple.
Well, okay, I can agree with that. @Dazed didn't give us any of that context, though.
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True, but shouldn't those be the initial questions asked? Instead of provoking an immediate negative response?
Regardless if this man is or isn't the control subject that Dazed is making up. Sex still isn't the only avenue to build intimacy. I know I wouldn't be okay with "sharing" myself with another man, but I would likely ask if he expected to be able to have the same rules apply to himself and other women. Then the conversation and move from there.
Just feels like he’s looking to sleep around himself but being weird and manipulative about it instead of just coming out with it🤷♀️
Not the case.
What does it mean to him to ‘be his’?
His companion. Life partner. Etc.
Why is he offering? If not for his own intentions then did she make some sort of sign that she is restless or not all in? Is this a real situation? Is it fwb situation getting confused? Gay guy/beard situation? Why would it just be one of them cheating?
Lets say that he doesn't care for sex all that much.
That's a very open minded person in my opinion, wanting his partner to be satisfied. Does he want to watch them?
No.
Just wants her to be satisfied? Or gets off on the whole knowing she's out banging someone else? Or sloppy seconds, that kind of thing? Mental sex is better than physical sex for some...
Simply wants her to be satisfied. Nothing more.
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It would make me feel like a real slimebucket to get it elsewhere, simply because he was okay with it. I'd probably feel guilty...
Already kind of been in this situation...it's not much of an issue so far. If everyone's open n honest about shiz then why does it matter? If this is how it's gonna go down, it really depends heavily on communication, and adults being mature enough to handle their business like mature human beans. It's not for everyone but whatevs.
Just my opinion tho, different strokes for different folks 🙃
Sex =/= Intimacy
They are related to me. I can't even fathom how they aren't for most people. It's the most private parts of your body and actions.
And to each their own. But within the constructs of this thread. The "man" is offering the "woman" to find sexual gratification due to his lack of needing physical sex. For this "man" sex does not equate to intimacy. And the man is secure enough within himself, to understand that his "partner" needs a certain level of sexual gratification that he can not fulfill himself.
Intimacy there for is most paramount. Intimacy is needed within a romantic relationship. Which can be achieved without sex. Therefore sex =/= to intimacy. It can add to intimacy within a romantic relationship, but it is not the ONLY avenue to increase intimacy in a couple.
Well, okay, I can agree with that. @Dazed didn't give us any of that context, though.
i dunno, there wasnt really much of a lack of context. i understood what the question was & where it may have stemmed from. i dont see this as a troll thread.
but i can also relate bc of personal experience so 🤷🏻♀️
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Agreed.
Sex =/= Intimacy
They are related to me. I can't even fathom how they aren't for most people. It's the most private parts of your body and actions.
And to each their own. But within the constructs of this thread. The "man" is offering the "woman" to find sexual gratification due to his lack of needing physical sex. For this "man" sex does not equate to intimacy. And the man is secure enough within himself, to understand that his "partner" needs a certain level of sexual gratification that he can not fulfill himself.
Intimacy there for is most paramount. Intimacy is needed within a romantic relationship. Which can be achieved without sex. Therefore sex =/= to intimacy. It can add to intimacy within a romantic relationship, but it is not the ONLY avenue to increase intimacy in a couple.
Well, okay, I can agree with that. @Dazed didn't give us any of that context, though.
i dunno, there wasnt really much of a lack of context. i understood what the question was & where it may have stemmed from. i dont see this as a troll thread.
but i can also relate bc of personal experience so 🤷🏻♀️
I didn't mean that it's a troll thread. I think he wanted answers. I also think he expected people to answer as they did and expected to scold people for not being as open-minded as him. I personally got offended at the idea that wondering if that means he expects the same is "man hating". No, it's the most obvious answer to why someone (male or female) would bring this up as part of a relationship discussion.
i dunno, i dont see him scolding anyone here.
just firm “no” responses & pointing out that everyone immediately jumps on the man for perceived shadiness.
i dont consider that “man hating” but to me, it shows just how romance can really traumatize people.
To be fair we do unfortunately live in the world that has shown the most prevalent scenario to be the one brought up. If we answer that we would have natural suspicions and seek clarification that is obviously the course that makes the most sense 🤷♀️
to me, it reads as projecting former relationship trauma onto the companion.
suspicion isnt natural, it’s a learned behavior. learned by lack of trust from others.
“he wants me to sleep with someone else.. he MUST be up to something”, stems from a learned behavior. not an inherent one.
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@nikkistar and I were discussing this earlier..
I thought maybe it was social engineering of sorts via TV/film/etc.
She went with religion.
Sex =/= Intimacy
They are related to me. I can't even fathom how they aren't for most people. It's the most private parts of your body and actions.
And to each their own. But within the constructs of this thread. The "man" is offering the "woman" to find sexual gratification due to his lack of needing physical sex. For this "man" sex does not equate to intimacy. And the man is secure enough within himself, to understand that his "partner" needs a certain level of sexual gratification that he can not fulfill himself.
Intimacy there for is most paramount. Intimacy is needed within a romantic relationship. Which can be achieved without sex. Therefore sex =/= to intimacy. It can add to intimacy within a romantic relationship, but it is not the ONLY avenue to increase intimacy in a couple.
Well, okay, I can agree with that. @Dazed didn't give us any of that context, though.
i dunno, there wasnt really much of a lack of context. i understood what the question was & where it may have stemmed from. i dont see this as a troll thread.
but i can also relate bc of personal experience so 🤷🏻♀️
I didn't mean that it's a troll thread. I think he wanted answers. I also think he expected people to answer as they did and expected to scold people for not being as open-minded as him. I personally got offended at the idea that wondering if that means he expects the same is "man hating". No, it's the most obvious answer to why someone (male or female) would bring this up as part of a relationship discussion.
i dunno, i dont see him scolding anyone here.
just firm “no” responses & pointing out that everyone immediately jumps on the man for perceived shadiness.
i dont consider that “man hating” but to me, it shows just how romance can really traumatize people.
Why? I don't like sharing my body with the masses. I don't find that to be a radical notion.
why what? i dont understand
is it the romance as trauma thing that you are asking why about?
not sharing your body w/ the masses isnt a radical notion. i think the responses in this thread establishes that.
Sorry for not being clear. I wonder why you view the reactions as trauma instead of logical responses from people who prefer to keep sex within the bounds of the relationship? I would find it very odd to be told I could do something I'd never expressed interest in for no reason at all.
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That's assuming we know your sexual preferences.
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He wants you to be his, but you're welcome to sleep with other men/women (as long as you are safe)...
What is your response?