Why—

Every time I start to like someone or see any dating potential there the universe is just like "nope". And it's pissing me off because with every person over the past 1-2 years it's just been getting closer and closer to being in a relationship, or not even that, just a point where we both like each other and it's cute and ev. Is ok. but then it dissipates and never works out.

What do you think the problem is? Do you discover a lack of chemistry, do they have offputting habits and behavior, or do things just quickly fizzle out? Maybe you wake up and think "What am I doing" and just can't continue?

Posted by Trillian
What do you think the problem is? Do you discover a lack of chemistry, do they have offputting habits and behavior, or do things just quickly fizzle out? Maybe you wake up and think "What am I doing" and just can't continue?

Things usually just fizzle, or there was nothing there to begin with. The fizzling always happens on their end, not mine.

And it's not like I'm some type of typical, clingy, over emotional girl that is clearly doing things wrong and doesn't realize it. I've just come to a point where I want to share things and my life with someone and I just feel kind of alone. Being the independent warrior woman isn't all it's cracked up to be. The ones that Id want to get serious with just aren't having it though.

Posted by Scorsagian21
Yeah...Going through the same thing, it does suck. I just learned to not try anymore or expect anything no more. I know that sounds depressing but im actually quite happy not putting myself out there for potential relationships. Just accepting friendships only.

Yeah, I do that too, probably need to do it less halfheartedly. Even when I'm doing my own thing it just pops out at me unexpectedly, like my friend tells me about this guy and tries to set us up or something.

@augustmoon
So basically they just want some temporary fun and when you want to take it further, they disappear? That sucks.

How do you meet romantic interests generally? Workplace/school/through friends/online...?

Yeah. I meet them at school and through friends. I didn't even think of it that way, as they just want temporary fun, but it's pretty accurate.

Hm. Well, perhaps what you need to work on is establishing a bond with someone. Easier said than done, but if you can become friends with a romantic interest while at the same time making sure you or they are not 'friend-zoned' then you'll have more of a connection there and perhaps the chance for a genuine romantic attachment will develop. If they know you care about them *as a person* not just as an infatuation, they might be more open to exploring the possibilities of an actual relationship.