Will a guy still chase you if...

You appear to be too hard to get?
Out of their league? ( Without sounding to full of it...classier)
Too confident?
And best mates with their (girl) flat mate?

Met an awesome girl and became fast friends but she has a honey of a flat mate who is very popular with the ladies and commitment phoebic but certainly has an eye for me, even offering me a place to sleep in his room on the sly to which I gracefully declined, as I know he can just snap his fingers and have girls running and that's not me!

Not sure what I'd want myself but certainly not to be used! Or maybe it's been too long and I'm just wanting or needing a little fantasizing🙂

You sound like you are unsure .. I know you said you didn't want it, but, then your description leaves the impression as if you do want to be chased by this guy, eventhough you know he's ... what?


Out of your league? Is that what this is about? Your self esteem?

You said it the other way around, to suggest you are out of his league ... but, I don't get that impression from what you said .... "to which I gracefully declined, as I know he can just snap his fingers and have girls running"


Again, I know you meant this in a different context ... but, that's how it sounds to me. Why would you even question whether a guy would keep chasing in this situation, unless you were entertaining the notion that he might keep chasing you down eventhough you have "played" yourself off as being impossible.



Perhaps, this is a sure sign to you ..... it's time to come down off the high horse and enjoy a relationship with an average man, a 5ver, rather than a 10 .... humbling.

A nice man.



I work with a very nice man, and he is always talking about how it's nearly impossible for him to find a girlfriend, and he has only had one so far, and he's 26 years old .. ONE !!!!!

He's not ugly, he's very kind .. a good boy.


A good boy, and women don't like him because of it. I would wager that a woman who usually goes for bad boys could learn somethign valuable from being treated like a lady for a change.

So, what is your fancy? Bad, or nice?

Posted by P-Angel
A nice man.



I work with a very nice man, and he is always talking about how it's nearly impossible for him to find a girlfriend, and he has only had one so far, and he's 26 years old .. ONE !!!!!

He's not ugly, he's very kind .. a good boy.


A good boy, and women don't like him because of it. I would wager that a woman who usually goes for bad boys could learn somethign valuable from being treated like a lady for a change.

So, what is your fancy? Bad, or nice?

I bet that nice man hates your fucking guts like everyone else in this world. ^_^

Yes P I'm unsure because

1. I dont just jump in bed with any guy and he's use to having anyone he wants
2. There is certainly attraction there on both sides and also hesitation, almost like a stalemate...

Out of his league - my reference to the girls he would normally take home, no class and easy. I'm definetly classier than that and proud of it!!! Girls throw themselves at guys now a days and so most guys just think what the heck and run with it.

If I was to go down that path then it would be to explore the possibility of something more meaningful where as I feel he would probably just want to get his rocks off as he has done with others.

looking at it now as it's written down, the answer is staring me in the face...leave well enough alone...

female here. my take? i genuinely fall for the nice, good guys. the only "bad" i like them to be is the quiet revolutionary type. it's a turn-off for me if they're the type of bad boy that causes others (and/or their property) harm and is an asshole for the sake of being one. the huge "but" is that i think, like me, some of us want the package deal. i have to be attracted in all areas to the man. so even if he is sweet, nice, and good, but say, for example, i'm not physically attracted, then it's not gonna work. that is something i'm going through right now actually. i met a guy who i totally connect with on a mental and spiritual level but i am neither physically nor sexually attracted to him. he is incredibly kind and i hate that it has to be like this. i even gave it a chance to see if his appearance would "improve" so-to-speak (u know how it is sometimes when ur not immediately physically attracted to someone but the more u get to know them the better they look) but it didn't work.

Thanks SF, have been observing and decided to keep him at arms length. Apart from the odd text he isn't giving me anything that makes me want to spend time with him. Or makes me think that he will be and treat me any different from anyone else he has been with. And Yes certainly DONT want to go down the "getting over someone" again sooo soon, as I'm doing very well and have plenty of options!

Yeah certainly got that suit of armour on🙂 He is also a really nice person to talk to and I'm happy enough being his friend without those benefits and just hanging out in a group. But I know positively he could never be a FWB cos I'd fall for him!!!:S