Advice on this Sag/Scorpio guy?

So, my Scorpio friend met a Sagittarius guy who checked in at her work, and she had all three of us hang out. This guy was a blast! It was love at first sight for me. He had me laughing 'til I cried, and he talked about one of my favorite subjects - dating/relationships (I just think people are interesting.) He asked me if I was single, and why, bought me drinks, and we debated back and forth 'til the restaurant shut down. The rapport between us was great and I've never experienced anyone so refreshing. Then the boom lowered. We took him to a bar and him and I started playing pool. I was in line for another beer when he came over to talk to me. He goes "Man, your friend," looks over at her, turns back to me "...she is so sexy."

What.

It didn't even make sense. He'd been flirting with me the past two days - heavily. When I would go to the bathroom, my friend said they didn't even say anything to one another except he told her I was fiesty (damn straight...!). I got mad (alcohol just intensified it) and it was obvious. We didn't end well before he left. Not that there was any "we" to begin with.

After he left the next day I immaturely deleted him off Facebook (c'mon, you do it too - don't lie.) and he texted my friend saying "Your friend deleted me..." and then told her he figured it was because of what he said to me (oh, so he's not stupid apparently...) he wrote me asking about why I got mad again. This is months later so obviously it was no big deal anymore and I was surprised he even brought it up. I played it off and didn't really give a detailed answer since it honestly had more to do with my friendship with the Scorpio girl than him.

During one of our discussions in the beginning , my Scorpio friend had mentioned I sing like Adele (I sing well, but not THAT well) he'd wanted to hear. Fast forward to now when we're Facebook friends again, he randomly posted a cover to Someone Like You on my wall and told me to check out that particular group.

His placements are Sag sun Libra Moon Scorpio Mercury Scorpio Venus Mars in Pisces

I never heard from him again, (but he would return my friend's texts if she wrote him...from time to time) but I was wondering if you think he left that song on purpose, and not just casually as I originally thought? I took it at face value at first and it occurred to me a lot later maybe he was trying to be sweet. Sorry for the long story I just thought it would make more sense if you knew the background.

Do you think he was trying to "amend" things posting that? How do you know when a Sagittarius loves you? Do they love fast like an Aries does? Do you hate my post?

did u tell your scorpio friend that the sag had asked about her?

Yes, because she knew immediately that I was furious. I didn't tell her in front of him, but we talked about it later. She acted very surprised but I question that.

Sags flirt. Some more than others. This sounds like he wanted to "show" your Scorpio friend that he can get a woman. We are usually shy towards the one we like at first. I think he knew he played you wrong, so he posted that FB thing. IMO, it didnt mean anything-he did it as a friendly gesture.

Posted by AriesQueen89
Do you think he was trying to "amend" things posting that? How do you know when a Sagittarius loves you? Do they love fast like an Aries does? Do you hate my post?

a song is a song. whatcha gonna do.

saggi love is different with every sag based on venus and moon. but for this guy, love is possession, scorponic. sag men are very direct and upfront, but water in the chart can make a sag "slower" more cautious. yours has a mars in pisces and venus in scorpio.

i think that if a saggi calls you, he/she is diggin you.

why would we hate your post? sure, you come off as a girl who didnt get the guy and is feeling salty. aries are used to getting what they want, when they want...childlike. but do you really like this guy or do you just want bragging rights?

Posted by AriesQueen89
Yes, because she knew immediately that I was furious. I didn't tell her in front of him, but we talked about it later. She acted very surprised but I question that.

you should question that. scorpios are intuitive. is she feelin him? she may be a bit slow to pull the trigger as well. whats her chart look like?

if she digs him and he digs her, leave it be.

DMV - I appreciate your honesty without being rude, really. And I asked her over, and over again if she liked him before we all hung out the first time because this was exactly the kind of thing I wanted to avoid. She would just shrug and say "He's okay looking to me, I mean..." *shrug* "I think he's funny..." and I've known her for 8 years. If she can't say "YES." or "NO" to me by now then we really have a serious problem on our hands. I took her response to mean "No," and aside from that she had even outright said "I think you and him would really hit it off." So.

She is Scorpio ASC, Scorpio Sun, Cap moon, Mercury in Scorp, Venus in Scorp, Mars in Libra.
Me: Gem ASC, Aries Sun, Taurus moon, Mercury in Aries, Venus in Aries, Mars in Gemini.

Intrigued Scorp - As an update for everyone I apologized to him for flying off the handle (he brought it up, I hadn't even thought of it then.) I might've given a little more credit to drinking than was due, but hey. To answer your question about why I was mad: In the heat of the moment I was mad he liked her and not me. Usually I'm accepting of this but this had been about the fourth time someone I liked, liked her. It's not that she isn't likeable but as an Aries I'm always putting forth effort and she doesn't, so I guess I'd finally had it. Like I said, he was the tip of the iceberg. Ego based, yes, but I never said I was perfect.

I was also mad at her because I feel like she plays this game where she watches me get my hopes up for someone, and watches it play out. She knows my struggle with guys and part of me believes she tries to help by setting me up with friends of hers, but damn - how (as a Scorpio) are you going to be that naive to think introducing me is going to distract them from you? People's feelings don't change that fast. She competes with me in her own Scorpionic way, and I resent her for that. That isn't being a good friend and it's not something I ever do (consciously anyway) to her. You might be asking yourself what do I mean when I say she competes with me. Well, in this instance when we were getting ready to go meet him at a restaurant, she was telling me about him. She's like "Oh yeah he loves music a LOT, he's in a band, and is into heavy metal." We planned meeting him on the fly and I happened to be over at her house and had nothing to wear. What does she wear? Leather jacket, her extensions, a Nirvana shirt. I pointed that out to her after the fact and she rolled her eyes.

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yup haha i knew something was going on with that scorp friend of yours. maybe 8 years is enough time for you to be used for entertainment?


her mars in libra makes a bit hard for her to get off the fence. but still, you either like someone or you dont. keeping them in waiting isnt fair to anyone.

In the heat of the moment I was mad he liked her and not me.

ive been there 2. sucks. maybe start going out alone? i mean if she cant play nice, she cant play at all. that girl has a shitload of manipulation in her chart. i think that sometimes, she just cant help herself ya know?!

sorry bout the double posting. geez


well, aries love competition, but they dont like to lose. id seriously stop going out with her. party of one

IntriguedScorp - Maybe. Things between her and I are changing right now. Mainly because my view of her is changing a lot. I used to swear by her and feel good knowing she'd have my back if my other friends screwed me over (which they did. And she supported me through that.) but that's only 75% of the equation. If I'm uncomfortable bringing someone I'm dating around her, it's a red flag and I need to recognize that. Even still talking about this incident gives me a stupid knot in my stomach because she should've never done that to me. Ever. How can you do that to someone who's been loyal to you that long— And then insult my intelligence by denying it. I don't understand. I think she liked him in that time period, because she kept saying what a breath of fresh air he was. Ironically though, whenever I get that furious with her she 'bout falls out. It's funny because she doesn't know how to approach me then. It's probably better she doesn't. I've only been that angry at her twice now. In 8 years. In any case, I wish I could start fresh with this guy and he's not even worth it. I kind of left out the part he said he had a girlfriend back home (a baby mama...) but she "meant absolutely nothing." and then asked if I wanted a drink. Sigh. And then he has the nerve to get upset I deleted him a second time (don't worry I'm not getting into that. It's petty and deleting people is immature and a bad habit, I know.)

AriesQueen, I totally get where you're coming from. As an Aries myself I love how life is SO intense more often than not, but boy does that intensity get me into trouble, again, more often than not 🙂 It's just the way I am and I sometimes make an effort to keep that intensity and impulsiveness in check, but hey, you only live once so you might as well live your own life, not somebody else's expectations...
I understand why you deleted him a second time AND I agree it was somewhat immature. But why should people judge you for that? You WERE mad and rightfully so and it seems to me this Sag guy is really playing it dirty, hiding such important info as him having a GF at home. REALLY?! AND they have a kid together? And still she meant absolutely nothing? Meant or means? Is she his current or EX girlfriend? How much does he get involved in this kid's life?
I really don't want to judge him based on what might have been, ultimately, a couple of bad choices. And I'm certainly not judging you for liking him. Attraction is what it is. And he definitely did encourage it. But how much time and energy and hope do you want to invest in this guy based on what you know about him? ...
If I was to give advice that would be to see if you can find out more about him from a friend zone. IF he approaches you and tries to get friendly with you again, that is. Then make your choices 🙂

It might be a weird thing to hear for others, but the guys I like, I also want to set them up with my best friends. It's like buying a gift you would want to buy for yourself, but you buy it for someone you truly care. Emotions towards that gift are stripped off from ego.

Being a Scorp, I know the attention we can get .. also particularly from a Sag man, but that doesn't mean anything to me, because we are used being viewed as a sex object. It's totally not interesting because we care for meaningful sex/relationship. I love Sag men, ... I'm just taken away by their wit, charm, serious, funny, romantic, shy, adult-child but still very responsible .. so many good things to say. On the other hand, I also realized most Sag guys are so swept away by Aries girls. There is just something very natural about this matching.

Don't condemn your Scorpio friend. She truly means well for you, but I think she started thinking that you are a bit of a nut-ball with the way you come across. I rolled my eyes too when I read your line of jealousy on the leather jacket and hair.

Scorpio with Aries rising here...

what? he has a girlfriend with kid at home—

NOOO second thoughts.. move on!

I think I'm in the wrong thread...