Scorp Sag confusion

Hey y'all!

I'm very confused about this Scorp.

Going back. In October in a text he said "love you". I kind if ignored it. Didnt take it seriously. Then right before his birthday he said "I love you baby.". I didn't respond out of fear even though I did love him. I have been saying ever since I vowed to tell him

Well, Friday I was speaking with him and said Id talk to him later. He said "Ok. Love you.". I still didn't respond. Smh I know.

Well we after a difficult 3 weeks,we saw each other late Saturday night. We had a beautiful evening. He was very affectionate, kept saying how much he missed me and everything. I realized it was now Father's Day and wished him a happy one. I hugged him and kissed him all over his face. He put his head down and smiled and said thank you. He looked really happy even though he was tired. I was mad I punked out so 2 minutes after I left I called and said "I really hope you enjoy your day. I love you baby. Talk to you later.". There was a pause and he said "Thanks sweetie.".

Monday afternoon I called him at work he was very short with me. It sounded busy, but whatev. I spoke to him later and he made a comment about me being downstairs (in the dept. where he works but not in his area) a lot. I didn't think about it at the time, but I think he was making reference to me not coming to see him. Then he asks "Where are you?". I said I'd just gotten to my car. He asked where I was going. I said "To pick up my daughter.". He said "Oh I have a softball game today. I'm going to play and see how my back feels. It's down here. I'm playing not my son.". I said "ok. Good luck.". he said he had to go buy some sweats and would call me back. He never did.

Now last year I went to all of his games. But I didn't want to volunteer to go. Especially since he was being a little aloof. It seemed like he was hinting towards that, but again, I don't want to push myself.

Tuesday we had no contact. Wednsday I found out he was hurt at work. I called him but didn't answer. I called later and he said he was in the emergency room. It turned out his finger was broken. He said they were calling him in and he'd call me back. Never did.

I'm going to fall back lol. But I'd just like to understand what happened. He invited me to a BBQ Friday. Great time. Went out Saturday night. Great time. Monday. Issues. Smh.

do NOT fall back. you have to show him consistency. he probably thinking in his head what made you say "ILY" all of a sudden because thats not consistent for you! they just do alot of thinking.

stay focused.

its crazy right, the bouts of their withdrawal are hard to get used to. the bouts always make you feel like its "the end." but its not.

when i do my thinking, i cant have the person im thinking about all up in my face...i need some space.

Ok girlie. Cuz I'm like wtf? I have Merc in sag and it's making me think "Was he playing when he said it? Now he's like hell no I don't want to be with her?". Now I'm paranoid like nope. I'll run along then lol.

Dang how did this come up again? It's hard to see how to remove it on my phone 😢

Posted by Mebs
Dang how did this come up again? It's hard to see how to remove it on my phone 😢

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yeah, now he's just scared that you'll never say it again.

This mofo gon make me not say it again if he doesn't stop ignoring me lol.

No he's not playing, you know WHY you don't TRUST what he's saying Mebs, don't read so much into it, RELAX, ENJOY whatever gift he's GIVING you, yes saying "I LOVE YOU" is a beautiful gift and there aren't any bad gifts when it comes to love just bad RECEIVERS, try to be a better receiver when he's expressing love which I know is not easy for him to do and I equally know how hard it is for you to trust what he's saying to you, he's a great man, not the greatest communicator and we kinda know why that is, accept how he is and he'll be more GIVING thus you won't have to guess about certain things regarding his behavior. He's not ignoring you, he's hurt, let him get his act together, a broken anything is no joke and painful as well, he's probably under pain medication right now, he'll be back, until then FIND SOMETHING TO DO with yourself and your time, thinking too hard about it will only create fear and doubt, if you find something to do you won't have too much time on your hands to wonder, next thing you know he's back.

Posted by tiki33
No he's not playing, you know WHY you don't TRUST what he's saying Mebs, don't read so much into it, RELAX, ENJOY whatever gift he's GIVING you, yes saying "I LOVE YOU" is a beautiful gift and there aren't any bad gifts when it comes to love just bad RECEIVERS, try to be a better receiver when he's expressing love which I know is not easy for him to do and I equally know how hard it is for you to trust what he's saying to you, he's a great man, not the greatest communicator and we kinda know why that is, accept how he is and he'll be more GIVING thus you won't have to guess about certain things regarding his behavior. He's not ignoring you, he's hurt, let him get his act together, a broken anything is no joke and painful as well, he's probably under pain medication right now, he'll be back, until then FIND SOMETHING TO DO with yourself and your time, thinking too hard about it will only create fear and doubt, if you find something to do you won't have too much time on your hands to wonder, next thing you know he's back.

Ok lady. Thanks. I'll do that. It was just so hard for me to say "I love you.". I jad to pull over and catch my breath after i said it lol. And when I did, and he scurried, I went into defensive, I'm retreating "I knew I should never have said it to his a $ $ " mode lol. I'll busy myself while he's on the mend.

Posted by DMV
its crazy right, the bouts of their withdrawal are hard to get used to. the bouts always make you feel like its "the end." but its not.

You're right about that girlie

You don't have to say it until YOU are ready, he doesn't want a forced "I love you", it has to be genuine and filled with love not fear, so take your time, you got a good man, he ain't going nowhere.

i remember when i told my scorp that i loved him for the first time.

i called him at work and he was rushing me through what i had to say. i finally just blurted it out. i can hear him typing away and he says in a real monotone voice, "thats wonderful." i might as well said that i just found a dollar on the ground.
he never mentioned it..ever. ive told him once again after that initial time but it was face to face.

i remember when i told my scorp that i loved him for the first time.

i called him at work and he was rushing me through what i had to say. i finally just blurted it out. i can hear him typing away and he says in a real monotone voice, "thats wonderful." i might as well said that i just found a dollar on the ground.
he never mentioned it..ever. ive told him once again after that initial time but it was face to face.

silly me, after i told him i thought he would do a song & dance, call his mama, circle it in his daybook as the best day ever, plan the wedding, get me pregnant. all in the same hour.

Posted by DMV
silly me, after i told him i thought he would do a song & dance, call his mama, circle it in his daybook as the best day ever, plan the wedding, get me pregnant. all in the same hour.

I'm sorry but I guffawed when I read this. Lol.