
DMV
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Posted by beautifuldiasterUmm we dont go on dates. We meet up at mutual events.
Spice it up.
Get out of your and his element. Try a new date idea perhaps?
Its rather early on to feel like this, that transit sucks! Think this is a sign of the end?

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Yep, same guy.
@ DMV- is this the same aries you have mentioned before on here? Why are you having a change of heart? Happened is ot too much balancing, too many female friends, too much of what exactly?

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Ummm good questions. i could be comparing him to the Sag. Sag is very masculine. Aries is a tad more feminine.
Wait I get the butterfly feelings and so does he with me no one esle. In my experience ia was good but over time when little lies or compatibility questions I would ask him didn't match so kinda went away..but still makes me nervous..
What happened too many lies? What types of guys do you attract? Fire with earth, another fire with mutable, fire with water, or fire with fire.. or are you changing into more feminine signs and less masculine?

Posted by Impulsv
Op u have to look at yourself when it becomes a pattern. No one can make u happy, no one can bring u excitement. All the responsibility lies within you.
Yup completely true.

Posted by SsupesBetter benefitsPosted by DMVAre you wanting more than the "benefits" or just "better benefits"? LOLPosted by beautifuldiasterUmm we dont go on dates. We meet up at mutual events.
Spice it up.
Get out of your and his element. Try a new date idea perhaps?
Its rather early on to feel like this, that transit sucks! Think this is a sign of the end?
He doesn't seem to be the typical dating type.
Imo, this was a once passionate fwb but now im bored with the benefit part.click to expand

Posted by ImpulsvThis could be a fleeting moment. You're right, i will go out and get the fun that i need and masturbate more.
I suspect u could have the perfect man n at one point if return to this feeling


Posted by DMVPerhaps simply remind yourself of this. To some degree it sounds like you created expectations (aka fantasy) and it just isn't coming through. So what were you hoping the "benefits" would look like? Can you create that with him without drama?
I dont want to be bored but I am. This is after being so obsessed and thinking about him 24/7. Maybe things are too routine for me now, too easy, and not as exciting and differnt as I fantasized them to be. Hes doing nothing wrong. Sex is a bit humdrum, but that could be synastry. Anyways, I dont get butterflies anymore. My scorp moon is just not being fed. Feels like causing drama. This is all a personal problem.
it could also be this uranus sq venus transit. This transit makes me want to shake things up dramatically.
Do you guys experience anything like this? How do you stick it out? How do you fight the boredom?



Posted by PhoenixRisingId like some better, more passionate, thrown aganist the wall sex. When we were having our bout of miscommunication, that sex was AWEsome! Now that were on the same page, its kinda lost a bit of thrill.Posted by DMVPerhaps simply remind yourself of this. To some degree it sounds like you created expectations (aka fantasy) and it just isn't coming through. So what were you hoping the "benefits" would look like? Can you create that with him without drama?
I dont want to be bored but I am. This is after being so obsessed and thinking about him 24/7. Maybe things are too routine for me now, too easy, and not as exciting and differnt as I fantasized them to be. Hes doing nothing wrong. Sex is a bit humdrum, but that could be synastry. Anyways, I dont get butterflies anymore. My scorp moon is just not being fed. Feels like causing drama. This is all a personal problem.
it could also be this uranus sq venus transit. This transit makes me want to shake things up dramatically.
Do you guys experience anything like this? How do you stick it out? How do you fight the boredom?click to expand

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428I can do fwb as long as they dont wanna cuddle or kiss. Thats where shit goes topsey turvey.
Explain benefits without drama for me? There's always going to be drama..




Posted by WeedsSo im damned. I sure cant play the same cards ive already played lol. That would make me crazy. Not the progressive type of crazy.
there isnt anything wrong with drama as long as it is contained. the issue is since your classifying it close to fwb. then their isnt a solid foundation to create a contained chaotic experience in order to form sparks that will keep you happy. I dont think you can find a suitable substitute that is going to keep you interested.



Posted by beautifuldiaster0_0Posted by DMVBe drastic. And yes, by drastic I mean go crazy in an unprogressive type way. 😱 mwahahaa.
I'd like to break this cycle that I have. I do this every time. Pursue, get bored, leave. Rinse n repeat.
Just a fwb, what's the harm? You're bored as it is, nothing to lose.
Here's what I have in mind....
Suggest a date out. Get a few in you and slap him, hard! Then devour him, and when he gets into it, bite his lip and slap him again.
Thats sure to bring fire out hahaha.click to expand

Posted by beautifuldiasterthe sag sun, cap moon ? Nope haven't heard from him. Besides he looked at me more as a business partner than a potential lover.
What happened to the sag guy that wouldn't make a move— Is he still on the sidelines??

Posted by beautifuldiasteryeah maybe a meet up at a bar b4 nookie.Posted by DMVBe drastic. And yes, by drastic I mean go crazy in an unprogressive type way. 😱 mwahahaa.
I'd like to break this cycle that I have. I do this every time. Pursue, get bored, leave. Rinse n repeat.
Just a fwb, what's the harm? You're bored as it is, nothing to lose.
Here's what I have in mind....
Suggest a date out. Get a few in you and slap him, hard! Then devour him, and when he gets into it, bite his lip and slap him again.
Thats sure to bring fire out hahaha.
Or be reasonable and carry on, wash, rinse repeat.
When I'm in your situation, it's for a couple reasons.
1. I need to occupy my time better, make myself busy
2. I like someone a lot and need more in return
3. I've become complacent
I dunno DMV. Let us know what happens.click to expand

Posted by beautifuldiasterhes used to crazy 2. Pisces girl used to go gaga over him trying to get him in a relationship and a leo girl had his baby trying to get him in a relationship.
Thanks weeds.
You want crazy? I'm here to please. 😄


Posted by DMVDMV, you already know the answer. At some point you're going ti actually face your options because eventually you will reach the bottom of the "better benefits" where there's simply no one left to iffer you better benefits as you describe them. From what I surmise...your going to actually have to try and have a real fruitful relationship with actual depth to sustain you. Can't keep running Love.
I'd like to break this cycle that I have. I do this every time. Pursue, get bored, leave. Rinse n repeat.

Posted by DMVHmph. Do you mind being aggressive in the bedroom? I need a good balance of dominating and being dominated, but I'm not into verbalizing that. When I've been with ho-hum partners I just up the aggression factor. If you're not into verbalizing get a lot more physical with him. Push him up against a wall, force him down on his knees, put you leg over his shoulder. No words required. At least I hope not. Be forceful when he begins to eat your kitty. Tell him to stare up at you while he pleases you. You're in command.Posted by PhoenixRisingId like some better, more passionate, thrown aganist the wall sex. When we were having our bout of miscommunication, that sex was AWEsome! Now that were on the same page, its kinda lost a bit of thrill.Posted by DMVPerhaps simply remind yourself of this. To some degree it sounds like you created expectations (aka fantasy) and it just isn't coming through. So what were you hoping the "benefits" would look like? Can you create that with him without drama?
I dont want to be bored but I am. This is after being so obsessed and thinking about him 24/7. Maybe things are too routine for me now, too easy, and not as exciting and differnt as I fantasized them to be. Hes doing nothing wrong. Sex is a bit humdrum, but that could be synastry. Anyways, I dont get butterflies anymore. My scorp moon is just not being fed. Feels like causing drama. This is all a personal problem.
it could also be this uranus sq venus transit. This transit makes me want to shake things up dramatically.
Do you guys experience anything like this? How do you stick it out? How do you fight the boredom?click to expand

Posted by beautifulsoul74How'd you know that I was lacing up my sneakers? Ssssssh.Posted by DMVDMV, you already know the answer. At some point you're going ti actually face your options because eventually you will reach the bottom of the "better benefits" where there's simply no one left to iffer you better benefits as you describe them. From what I surmise...your going to actually have to try and have a real fruitful relationship with actual depth to sustain you. Can't keep running Love.
I'd like to break this cycle that I have. I do this every time. Pursue, get bored, leave. Rinse n repeat.click to expand

Posted by beautifuldiasterI think I misunderstood what you meant by drama. Sorry. You're all talking about fiyah. Very different animal, which I dig. Unnecessary drama---how I was defining it, repels me, so I'm not here for it. What BD suggested sounds like a good way to take the lead and spice it up though.Posted by DMVBe drastic. And yes, by drastic I mean go crazy in an unprogressive type way. 😱 mwahahaa.
I'd like to break this cycle that I have. I do this every time. Pursue, get bored, leave. Rinse n repeat.
Just a fwb, what's the harm? You're bored as it is, nothing to lose.
Here's what I have in mind....
Suggest a date out. Get a few in you and slap him, hard! Then devour him, and when he gets into it, bite his lip and slap him again.
Thats sure to bring fire out hahaha.
click to expand


Posted by DMVFind the balance. That's why I suggested you fall back once he bites and begins to take the lead.
Dont u guys think that by me initiating, I will start to assume the male role? Cause once I start, I dont stop.

Posted by DMVThat's fine. The only option is communicating your needs then. As I asked, does he even know he's disappointing you? You desire him to be one way and he may be thinking it's all good. So close the gap.
@phoenix,
I will slap a man in the bedroom but thats the extent of my dominating nature. My sex life is purely servitude.

Posted by DMVI'm a damn Sag...I know my own 😛. But mind the word.Posted by beautifulsoul74How'd you know that I was lacing up my sneakers? Ssssssh.Posted by DMVDMV, you already know the answer. At some point you're going ti actually face your options because eventually you will reach the bottom of the "better benefits" where there's simply no one left to iffer you better benefits as you describe them. From what I surmise...your going to actually have to try and have a real fruitful relationship with actual depth to sustain you. Can't keep running Love.
I'd like to break this cycle that I have. I do this every time. Pursue, get bored, leave. Rinse n repeat.click to expand

Posted by PhoenixRisingPursue as in reciprocate interestPosted by DMVThat's fine. The only option is communicating your needs then. As I asked, does he even know he's disappointing you? You desire him to be one way and he may be thinking it's all good. So close the gap.
@phoenix,
I will slap a man in the bedroom but thats the extent of my dominating nature. My sex life is purely servitude.
One thing I found interesting though is you stated you're concerned about assuming the male role, yet you identified your cycle as "pursue, get bored and leave".
Maybe stop being with men you have to pursue. That's already setting the stage for what's to come. No? Cycle broken.click to expand

Posted by PhoenixRisingno you didnt. I definitely meant more emotional drama. Physical drama, besides slapping, I s not my forte.Posted by beautifuldiasterI think I misunderstood what you meant by drama. Sorry. You're all talking about fiyah. Very different animal, which I dig. Unnecessary drama---how I was defining it, repels me, so I'm not here for it. What BD suggested sounds like a good way to take the lead and spice it up though.Posted by DMVBe drastic. And yes, by drastic I mean go crazy in an unprogressive type way. 😱 mwahahaa.
I'd like to break this cycle that I have. I do this every time. Pursue, get bored, leave. Rinse n repeat.
Just a fwb, what's the harm? You're bored as it is, nothing to lose.
Here's what I have in mind....
Suggest a date out. Get a few in you and slap him, hard! Then devour him, and when he gets into it, bite his lip and slap him again.
Thats sure to bring fire out hahaha.
click to expand

Posted by beautifuldiasterMars in virgo, Venus in capricornPosted by DMVVirgo Venus right?
@phoenix,
I will slap a man in the bedroom but thats the extent of my dominating nature. My sex life is purely servitude.click to expand

Posted by PhoenixRisingI will communicate my needs by showing him porn that I like. He does the same to me.Posted by DMVThat's fine. The only option is communicating your needs then. As I asked, does he even know he's disappointing you? You desire him to be one way and he may be thinking it's all good. So close the gap.
@phoenix,
I will slap a man in the bedroom but thats the extent of my dominating nature. My sex life is purely servitude.
One thing I found interesting though is you stated you're concerned about assuming the male role, yet you identified your cycle as "pursue, get bored and leave".
Maybe stop being with men you have to pursue. That's already setting the stage for what's to come. No? Cycle broken.click to expand

Posted by busyeyes88I think Impulsive had a thread about passion vs safe. I totally didnt get where she was coming from. Now I do.Posted by DMVI can relate to this feeling.. I too need passion of some kind to get and keep my blood going.. If not, boredom sets in and once passion has gone, nothing can reignite it!! It's especially hard work when it's left to the one person to bring in the passion and not both parties. It's sad really because for me once the passion has gone.. I'm gone and unfortunately I get bored of people real quick!!!Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Yep, same guy.
@ DMV- is this the same aries you have mentioned before on here? Why are you having a change of heart? Happened is ot too much balancing, too many female friends, too much of what exactly?
No, none of those things. He doesn't lie, im not feeling threatened.
I guess i just need a certain level of drama or pasion to get my blood going.click to expand

Posted by DMVAh. Noted.Posted by PhoenixRisingPursue as in reciprocate interestPosted by DMVThat's fine. The only option is communicating your needs then. As I asked, does he even know he's disappointing you? You desire him to be one way and he may be thinking it's all good. So close the gap.
@phoenix,
I will slap a man in the bedroom but thats the extent of my dominating nature. My sex life is purely servitude.
One thing I found interesting though is you stated you're concerned about assuming the male role, yet you identified your cycle as "pursue, get bored and leave".
Maybe stop being with men you have to pursue. That's already setting the stage for what's to come. No? Cycle broken.click to expand

Posted by Twodrinkminimumsubtlety yessssss. Good call with the mems.
DMV, you're going to have to give him something to work with. Throwing out some bait is not taking on the masculine role.
Just plant some seeds in his head every now and then. Coyly. I know you already do it anyway. When you wore that white bikini, you knew what you were doing 😉 lol. I think the porn thing was a good idea, except just send him a porn gif. I don't know what it is, but porn gifs are 10x sexier than porn. Faster and more efficient. Send it to him earlier in the day or when you know he's going to be busy so all he can do is think about it until he sees you.
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I just posted a link so no one gets fired while browsing dxp lol...but example send something like that and ask him "Have you ever done it like this in the kitchen?" ...I hope he's not stupid enough to say yes. but it doesn't have to be aggressive like you're thinking "I want you to do this to me" ...you're being facetious with him and playful.
90% of the time I'm not aggressive but I get them so worked up by playing innocent that it drives them crazy. Men and women both like to fantasize. Like I personally hate dick pix. It's just like in your face...okay, yep, that's a dick. But a pic of an outline of his dick in sweat pants...game over. Bc now my mind is reeling. Be subtle and alluring. You mentioned fishnets one time I think? I remembered because I have lace printed stockings and I love them and so do men...every single time I wear them. They're not revealing at all but they're semi indecent. Men love stockings. I dare anyone to find a man that doesn't. Wear them and find a way to subtley sneak them into a picture to send them. Not like "look at me" unless you want to but make him wonder "What is she wearing...bc that's sexy as fuck"
Essentially...just tease the hell out of him until he devours you instead of you devouring him.



d would implement an edit button I'd be happy.
Anyway,
Posted by DMVYeah, skip the emotional drama it's not necessary given the nature of you're relationship. Basically you want to jump from expecting something more sexually intense with fwb and rather than communicate that (or initiate the intensity so he's on the same page---he doesn't live in your head after all) you're looking to spark a reaction by creating drama. Good way to end things. However that all depends on your target. He may thrive off of drama. If I get even a hint of it I'm gone.Posted by PhoenixRisingno you didnt. I definitely meant more emotional drama. Physical drama, besides slapping, I s not my forte.Posted by beautifuldiasterI think I misunderstood what you meant by drama. Sorry. You're all talking about fiyah. Very different animal, which I dig. Unnecessary drama---how I was defining it, repels me, so I'm not here for it. What BD suggested sounds like a good way to take the lead and spice it up though.Posted by DMVBe drastic. And yes, by drastic I mean go crazy in an unprogressive type way. 😱 mwahahaa.
I'd like to break this cycle that I have. I do this every time. Pursue, get bored, leave. Rinse n repeat.
Just a fwb, what's the harm? You're bored as it is, nothing to lose.
Here's what I have in mind....
Suggest a date out. Get a few in you and slap him, hard! Then devour him, and when he gets into it, bite his lip and slap him again.
Thats sure to bring fire out hahaha.
click to expand
beautifulsoul may be speaking to what you truly desire here.

Posted by DMVThat Moon is strong huh? Sounds like something my Mars would enjoy.
I guess I just like a certain level of mind screwing....

Posted by TwodrinkminimumThis is how I feel. Yes.
I get where DMV is coming from. If I have to explicitly state exactly what I want, I don't want it anymore? Then I feel like they're doing it out of obligation and not because it's what they really want to do. It's an act now and not spontaneous and exciting. I know this can't apply to everything but for me it definitely applies to the way I want to be sexed. There needs to be a little bit of a primal and animalistic approach to it. Not rehearsed and robotic because I told you to do it like that.

Posted by PhoenixRisingsag sun cancer moon mars scorpio was perfect in walking that tight rope. 6 years later, the sex is still truly the bomb.Posted by DMVThat Moon is strong huh? Sounds like something my Mars would enjoy.
I guess I just like a certain level of mind screwing....click to expand

Posted by beautifuldiasterOh he talks. Hes very satisfied. Ive made changes to how he wants it instantly. Whereas im less likely to speak up. The guy has to learn me. Anticipate my needs.Posted by DMVThats why I said spark it up.Posted by TwodrinkminimumThis is how I feel. Yes.
I get where DMV is coming from. If I have to explicitly state exactly what I want, I don't want it anymore? Then I feel like they're doing it out of obligation and not because it's what they really want to do. It's an act now and not spontaneous and exciting. I know this can't apply to everything but for me it definitely applies to the way I want to be sexed. There needs to be a little bit of a primal and animalistic approach to it. Not rehearsed and robotic because I told you to do it like that.
whereas him telling me what he likes is a mars in virgos wet dream.
Make him talk. Make him force out his wants. Make him tell you exactly how he wants it and how hard so you can ride him out.
I'm the opposite, I'd rather be the director. But it only shows after some foreplay... aka rough housing or seducing.click to expand

Posted by Twodrinkminimumyes. But their kinda consistent in their emotional manipulation. Mars in scorp is very demanding. Do this, do that. cancer moon will play with you. They relive everything looking for holes and they get insecure. Theyll blow u off days at a time, then bombard you with 15 callings a row. Then they meet up with you with small tokens of your favorite things. Then you realize that you never told them your favorite things. Then they start talking about the past to draw you in, its foreplay to them. Then you melt. Then you must reciprocate!!Posted by DMVDMV do Cancer moons like mind games? I'm dealing with one right now. Cancer moon is almost more cancer-y than cancer sun.Posted by PhoenixRisingsag sun cancer moon mars scorpio was perfect in walking that tight rope. 6 years later, the sex is still truly the bomb.Posted by DMVThat Moon is strong huh? Sounds like something my Mars would enjoy.
I guess I just like a certain level of mind screwing....click to expand
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it could also be this uranus sq venus transit. This transit makes me want to shake things up dramatically.
Do you guys experience anything like this? How do you stick it out? How do you fight the boredom?