Cheating!

Have you done it and why?? Has it been done to you—

Sorry to hear that.

I was just venting 'cause a cap friend has a crush on me and he is married! He is getting creepy on me and I'm starting to back away. I hate that he is looking to cheat on his girl.
IM NOT THAT WAY.....

I've made my mistakes before but this is not something I would ever do.

Why do you think these ppl cheat on you?

J- why would you risk loosing a good friend for some fun. In the end everybody loses. It's better to be real friends.

Plus I don't find him attractive at all. He doesn't have a good intelect either. So sometimes I feel like i cant really talk about a lot with him.

he has been there for me in tough times, i value that. Doesn't mean i find him attractive in the physical sense. I just started to notice that he is not that polished.... but when we started off as friends it was just that we talk shit to each other and it's all good fun.

Not saying that im a genius either,

ive read your post on the Aries girl....and i think she is using you to feel better about herself. Like she is desired by more than just her husband?.maybe or maybe not just going with my instinct.

a cap friend has a crush on me and he is married! got the same from a Sag guy ! friendship was too good so kicked his ass - still close friends 😉

If he's looking to cheat, he'll find someone to cheat w/ eventually. why shouldn't you be the one to have some fun?
Jru ! come on now - fun ?

sex, presents, attention, etc he's a cappy, except for the sex...none of that's going to happen in any of that order 😛 sorry caps...

he does nice things for me, but now i think that it was not out of kindness but attraction to get somewhere. When i help someone i never expect anything back in return. He just wanted to talk to me i guess about the other night but i said i don't want to talk. my mistake was hanging out with him alone, having drinks and talking a lot. i think i put myself in a position for trouble even though i never liked him in that way at all. he always says stuff like i miss you and i have dreams about you. and i ignore it and say "get your mind straight!"

Like i told my friend the other night "NO....Ever" would I get with him under any circumstance, i need to stay away.

i don't know how this happened..... i never thought he would end up liking me. i just thought he is more like my brother or cousin. when a bunch of us are hanging out he is always dodging his wife's calls and doing things to get away from her. if he is miserable why doesn't he just solve his problem instead of trying to make his problem worse and bringing me down with him. how dumb can someone be. he doesn't even know that he tried to cock block someone that was trying to talk to me at the club. I thought why the hell does he want to do something like that for. thats when another friend said he liked me.

I'm not interested and never acted like i was. he's getting so clingy i am running now. i hate to be mean but i just want to stay away from that drama.

Having opposite sex friends is hard, someone ends up liking the other and if the other doesn't feel that way then things gets weird.

Ive never cheated on anyone
Ive Been cheated on once,showed them the door, and slammed it shut.

The most disrespectful thing you can do is cheat on someone.
And its true unfortunately, once a cheater, always a cheater

j- he is always trying to but i have also returned the favor. I told him once too that its not a good idea to let men pay for you and treat you because then they get mad if you are not "feeling it" for them. So that's why I treat too.

One thing I do is talk a lot of smack.....so sometimes i say suggestive things in jest. But I'm not directing them to this dude in particular. I guess he got the wrong idea. everyone that just jokes around like that doesn't mean they want to get all cozy. it depends on the relationship. That to me that is innocent flirting....it's all just a joke. if we were intimate on other levels then it's more serious.

SageTree, if your "friend" never let on that he was the least bit interested in you, you'd be on here writing about ... "How can I get this man to notice me?" But, he gave himself away.>>>

I don't think so J. I am not attracted to him in that way. It really is just friends for me. he doesn't have what it takes for me to be interested. if he was single i would still pass. and by not interested i mean he's NOT GOOD LOOKING to me and I don't think our personalities would be a match for long term. I also know im not good looking to everyone either.

Agreed Ash........i know that we are open in social scenes but that doesn't mean we sleep with many men. i know some gems that act like they only flirt but i know they slept around. They just tell everyone that they are not that way......

lol jru - got what?

HAHA-

Glad to see you are still with it J. How are things going??
About this flirt stuff- I agree with Sag. girl remark.

We tend to fit in well because of our outgoing personalities. I find that when I am friendly with guys they think I like them. And well, I do- but that dont mean I want to sack him. I joke and get joked on alot. And I like it. Its just having a good time.

When I am interested in a guy, I watch his reactions. Most of the time- he is already interested before I even notice him. If there is a connection- you just know. If they get clingy-oops- they might have to go. If they try to get serious- more than I want- they will have to go. I bore easy so I want someone who can blow my mind at times- without overdoing it. I like to chase and I like to be chased. HAHA

I am happy to see you are in your second childhood. LOL
And you are enjoying your new friends- good for YOU!!

SageTree- He has the wrong idea. And maybe it sounds like you helped him get it.
You just have to be up front and tell him.

It's bad when you want to be friends and then "damn" they want to be "more" than friends. Then you feel uncomfortable and have to dodge them.



I have cheated and have been cheated on. It hurts both ways.

well if i gave it to him i didn't mean too. so now i just keep with small talk and stuff. i think he would have ended up liking someone, anyone.....that's what i really think.