Confused about my Sag girlfriend

I've fallen for her completely and we have been in a relatioship for a few months now. Sometimes I feel like she's neglecting me and our relationship a little. But when I talk to her about it, she denies it and tells me she thinks about me all the time and such. Then I feel like an idiot for asking. Other things like she has a rude behavior in regards to common courtesy - and even admits this - comes out when I do special things for her like prepare a dinner, that she'll just take in the next room so she can watch tv or just leave in the middle of a casual conversation without a word...
I sometimes ask if I'm doing something wrong and she tells me that I'm doing everything right and that it's her.

This is very confusing to me. Is there anything I can do to gain understanding of this?

Hey thousand, I'm a sag girl and my boyfriend is a scorpio. I feel like he feels the same way you do sometimes. I care for him alot and I do think about him all the time but it's like that isn't enough for you guys. You still feel like you need to have control over the person and that isn't gonna fly with a sagittarius. We need our freedom and independence. So my suggestion to you is lighten up a little bit and DON'T try to take those two things away from her and she will be yours forever.

Sagittarius89: Thank you. A statement I can actually benefit from.. the other ones I've had said "fine another sign" which is easier set then done when you have fallen for someone already.

And you are right. And honestly I like that about sags that you want your freedom and don't want to be tied down. I've been very careful about not acting possessive. I am, believe it or not, not prone to jealousy as I have made it a stern principle not to be jealous if there is no reason to. You know how one can get jealous over half told stories or small misunderstandings and such. I refuse to fall into that trap.

The 'tied down' part I can only agree with, I wouldn't want to be tied down either. I think what might be lost in translation is when the hopeless romantic comes out in the scorpio he/she wants to do the best they can at showing their affection for the person they're with by for example cook a nice dinner or take them out and such and don't always sense sag's thankfulness in this as it is often not directly communicated.

But hopefully I understand you correctly: Give it time and space and it should all be good?

"I've been very careful about not acting possessive. I am, believe it or not, not prone to jealousy as I have made it a stern principle not to be jealous if there is no reason to." Yeah, thats a good thing.


"I think what might be lost in translation is when the hopeless romantic comes out in the scorpio he/she wants to do the best they can at showing their affection for the person they're with by for example cook a nice dinner or take them out and such and don't always sense sag's thankfulness in this as it is often not directly communicated." Personally, I think it's because sags, well most I know take that as manipulation thinking those actions are rooted by insecurity and not love. We aren't big on the romance as we see it as shallow. Same with the idea of wanting to control. So she may not thank you cause she either doesn't think it's from a genuine place or she may feel like your trying to take care of her when she is compeletly capable of doing it herself and may feel insulted. But will bare it to spare your feelings but won't pretend to be too happy about it. I'm just throwing these out there cause I have seen this be issues with sag women that I know.


"Give it time and space and it should all be good?" Yeah I mean make sure you show you show her feelings for her but don't over do it. Do sweet things but not all the time. Trust her and her feelings. Sags and scorpios love very differently but sometimes that can be a really good thing.

"....she has a rude behavior in regards to common courtesy - and even admits this - comes out when I do special things for her like prepare a dinner, that she'll just take in the next room so she can watch tv...."

Maybe it's just me and I'm reading this wrong, but I don't see THIS ^^^^^, as being possessive or controlling. I see THIS ^^^^ as rude and inconsiderate behavior. What happened to manners? If she recognizes this as rude, as you said she does, then SHE needs to change - NOT you.

Yes, it's one thing to be controlling and possessive, but it's another to be downright rude and inconsiderate. Time to go back to manners 101 I think.

I see that you did nothing wrong.

If it was me making the dinner for my Sag (which I'm an Aries female and heavily involved with a Sag male), and he walked out to watch TV with his plate in hand; the plate would be immediately ripped out of his hands and thrown in the garbage followed by some verbal "what that hell do you think you're doing?, were you raised in a barn?" Nope can't say I'd put up with that crap for long.

I'm not sure what the deal is with the pet cat, but otherwise this has been very helpful, more so than you may realize. A lot of scenarios have been very accurate. I'm not sure if I should say that the following is to my defense, but I have been careful not to crowd her and push her into talking about these things too much. I've only brought it up when I've been frustrated about her negligence in a situation where she initiated to spend an evening together with a movie or something else casual, and ends up talking on the phone for most of the night while putting her shows on TV. Granted the conversation on the phone wasn't strictly gossip, I was still surprised that I would be ignored to that extent.
Now, I'm not a person who needs to be the constant center of attention, actually I'm somewhat the opposite, but if something has been planned in advance, I stick to it. So if I'm asked to cook or buy dinner or in other ways provide for the evening, I do expect some form of common courtesy to be returned. But that may have something to do with the way I'm brought up.

I'm fine with the fact that she needs space and freedom. I think that's one of the main reasons I've fallen for her - the sense of independence along with an elaborate personality. It's not the first time I've been in a serious relationship with a sag, and I've been in a few relationships with other signs as well as sags aside from that, without making it sound terrible, but the sag-relationships have been the most successful. For some reason there have always been a stronger connection despite the things I've not understood about what can be perceived as a selfish behavior.
I've got a career with either a very busy schedule or quite a bit of downtime, so I enjoy the fact that my 'significant other' knows what she wants in life already and will not feel left to the side when I'm out of time (I still call and inform her that I'm still alive).
The natal chart that I had made a few months ago surprised me, in that I realized I'm not 100% Scorpio. I'm leaning into Leo and Aquarius a lot too. I finally figured out where the sense of dominance and blind will-power comes from and can now undermine it more successfully, because I find it obnoxious when I see it in other people. I've impressed my self even, by proving that I can abstain from frustration and unnecessary jealousy simply by forcing my mind to be rational.

See scorpio forum for thought on "unnecessary jealousy"

Thank jd🙂

HAHAHAA wow, sounds like me.

Thousand, my 2 cents as a guy and Sag mooner.

I would lay off the doing nice things for her bit. Like Sag89 or someone said, women can get suspicious and uncomfortable about these kinds of things unless its a special occasion like an anniversary or birthday.

Dont ask her how she feels about you. That can be a huge turnoff for not just sags, but women in general.

Lean back a bit, and stay on the giving her space path.

Guys seem to forget that you have to still be a little bit of a challenge for women in a relationship. Otherwise you are on the road to dumpsville.

HOWEVER, even though I do disagree on the cooking dinner bit, there's one thing that would piss me off. If a girl does not say thank you for my effort, she can walk herself out the door.

Using being a sag as an excuse for being discourteous in terms of manners is inexcusable. That's just being a selfish and immature jackass.

Maybe it's because I live in the south. We are all about southern hospitality 🙂

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still feeling deranged !

Hi im heather 🙂
yea ive felt like a bad person so many times in relationships just because I have been chased away.
As a female sag(sun moon and mercury all in sag) I can relate to how she must feel. I always am telling myself in relationships, "I LOVE THIS PERSON, WHY DONT THEY THINK I DO?" then It goes into this whole philisophical battle in my brain of relentless self analysis.
Am I a bad person?
I've come to figure out I cant change how I am but I can try to be more sensitive to the ones I love and understand why they feel the way they do.



Trick is. If you want her to be head over heels act like you have your own interesting life and hobbies that you would still be WAY into without her caring that she cares. Show her new things. BE FUNNY. to me as a Sagi humour is the biggest turn on and a light hearted attitude.
NEVER be moody or boring or needy. BE INDEPENDENT. LOVE YOURSELF AND LOVE ALL THAT YOU ARE, EXCLUDE CONFIDENCE.

GET IT BOY! what sign are u by the way?

Sounds like Typical Sag behaviour to me.

I find their "needs" to be strange and unusual, difficult to fulfill.

Case and point

Trick is. If you want her to be head over heels act like you have your own interesting life and hobbies that you would still be WAY into without her caring that she cares. Show her new things. BE FUNNY. to me as a Sagi humour is the biggest turn on and a light hearted attitude.
NEVER be moody or boring or needy. BE INDEPENDENT. LOVE YOURSELF AND LOVE ALL THAT YOU ARE, EXCLUDE CONFIDENCE.

I personally dont like dating or even friends that cater to my every need, I am very independent, I dont like to feel guided, like if I need someone to open my door for me, or cook for me everytime,

I was interested in a guy, turns out, he is very caring, but he gets toooo caring, wont let me stand up to grab more napkins etc.. I cant stand it, and I start rebelling, so That's when we start forgetting about manners, its just us trying to let you know its too much!!

We need to be able to appreciate special things you do for us, by doing it ocassionally, like celebrating, but if you do it on a daily basis its routine and we cant be extremely taken by something that is common,

so change it up a bit, be exciting, im sure she'll have fun, and she'll enjoy if you have fun,

do things out of the blue, fun, sporty, unusual it's always a blast!!!!

My boy, asks me at odd hours to go play some football catch, or things like that, its not the sports I like its the new thing I crave, we would be walking out of a store or anywhere and suddenly pick me up, do a turn, kiss me, in the least expected moment it's just the best!!!!!

hope I helped!

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
"NEVER be moody or boring or needy. "

Everyone is moody, boring or needy from time to time..wheres the sag broad-mindedness here?

Haha, you can be boring, moody, and needy all you want ... just don't do it around us!!!! ... around a guy or lady sag.

It's the way their brought up idk that rude I could never do that to my hubby I always pay close attention n appreciate all he does for me if she doesn't appreciate u don't waste ur time someone else will theres no excuse for letting anyone treat u bad

Posted by Ezzyway1
It's the way their brought up idk that rude I could never do that to my hubby I always pay close attention n appreciate all he does for me if she doesn't appreciate u don't waste ur time someone else will theres no excuse for letting anyone treat u bad

I totally agree.

Gosh this thread is so old, but I feel i had to say my piece.

There are a lot of sags who display this type of behavior, but it is the more mature ones, or I should say more mature people in general, who can appreciate a good man and will treat him with respect and courtesy that every human deserves.