does falling in love feel different...

from one relationship to the next.

In the past, whenever I fell in love, I always had a happy/giddy kind of feeling. This time it is way different and I'm not sure what's up. It's more like I'm addicted to her or something. I get way more concerned about what she's doing when she is away (even though I'm still the one most likely to be flirting around), I get really uncomfortable when I don't get to spend as much time with her as I want, but that happy/giddy feeling hasn't really happened this time around.

Thoughts anyone?

Yea everyone has a different effect.

Posted by MzSag


It sounds, to me, like you genuinely love and care for this girl.

Yes, that's true ... but she's also the sexiest person I've ever dated ... so I guess I'm trying to make sure I'm not thinking with the wrong brain 😛

Posted by jru2

Posted by MzSag


It sounds, to me, like you genuinely love and care for this girl.

Yes, that's true ... but she's also the sexiest person I've ever dated ... so I guess I'm trying to make sure I'm not thinking with the wrong brain 😛

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Ahahha sex haze!

Posted by jru2
from one relationship to the next.

In the past, whenever I fell in love, I always had a happy/giddy kind of feeling. This time it is way different and I'm not sure what's up. It's more like I'm addicted to her or something. I get way more concerned about what she's doing when she is away (even though I'm still the one most likely to be flirting around), I get really uncomfortable when I don't get to spend as much time with her as I want, but that happy/giddy feeling hasn't really happened this time around.

Thoughts anyone?

I think that as we get older and our views on love change, we fall in love differently. Experiences make all the difference. What I've noticed is that at my age, I don't fall in love as easily(except if it's a Libra). Now, accompanying the happy/giddy feeling is a strong sense of peace, joy, and freedom. While I have loved all of the women I've dated, I've only been in love once...at it was the best relationship I've had to date. It only lasted a little while though(four months), but those were the happiest days of my life. Why did it end? I do not know because it ended abruptly. This was with a Libra...my first.

Is that really love or fear of losing her?

@DMV .. I don't know ... that's why I'm asking.

ok, now this is a little embarrassing for me to post even on dxp ... but, she made me give up porn. That's been having some strange effects too. Y'all have heard me complain about sex frequency ... well that's why it's such an issue. I don't have any other outlet. Play time is better with her than anyone else (for me anyway 😛 ) but trying not to watch porn ... after a few days of no sex either, I just start going ape shit crazy.

At the same time, I'm getting really attached to her. There are a lot of differences between us that scare me in terms of LT relationship so it's all just getting a little weird. Definitely a huge learning experience. I'm still struggling with the thought of only being able to be with one woman too. That is soooooo not me. I wouldn't wander often, but I can't stand feeling trapped. I was hoping we might be able to work something out along those lines, but not looking like that now. When i meet a girl that takes me to a bar and says, "do your best picking up another chick" ... I'd have some fun, but I'd be ready to marry the girl I came with on the spot. ...and yes, I'd be ok with her hitting on guys as long as everything that happens is out in the open

Wow why won't she let you watch porn?

this girl is an aqua— and u have to give up flicks!!!

i def see her reasoning for her being your only outlet for sexual pleasure. that is some game right there. but it also controls you sexually. case in point when she turned you down the other time. she holds the cards of whether or not u get ass or not... how is that even fair?

ive been thinking more and more about this. i do think its hard to know if i'm just dick whipped or in love....

how does one tell the difference. i do the same thing for both cases. if im dick whipped, i want to give the guy the world and all my money. same if im in love.

Posted by DMV
ive been thinking more and more about this. i do think its hard to know if i'm just dick whipped or in love....

how does one tell the difference. i do the same thing for both cases. if im dick whipped, i want to give the guy the world and all my money. same if im in love.

lol, she's been gettin' a lot of money too. She doesn't ask, she just has a subtle way of letting me know when she needs something. I know she's broke so I help her out with stuff.

Really, I'm the type that doesn't care about spending the money on myself anyway. The only reason I'd like to be rich is so I won't have to waste so much time working for someone else. Since that's not in sight in the near future anyway, I'd just as soon have a girl to spend anything extra I have ... this aqua seems fine with that 😉

I got to figure out how to get the open relationship though. She's very jealous .. I dare say insecure sometimes. I think she would like it if she could just find a way to get past the jealousy and know that by giving me freedom to do whatever I want ... will make me want her more than anything. I guess I should enjoy this time that she's in love and doesn't want to be with anyone else right now. lol, my experiences with married women in the past teaches me that that situation does not last forever 😛

wait, whose married? the aqua girl??


i feel you on spending money. i love spending money, especially on my friends and family. i just love the look in people's faces.

oh, no, the aqua I'm dating is single ... I was referring to the Aries, who is married. The Aries is my informant on what it's really like inside the mind of a woman😉 She tells me all the stuff she doesn't want to tell her husband, but she's just one example. The sag back in SC was married too ... lol, and I've kissed at least two married women that I just met at bars while their husbands were right there ... don't know if they saw, but didn't do anything if they did.

Anyway, the Aries is also why I'm really fighting to have a completely honest relationship. It's so refreshing to be able to tell someone EVERYTHING and they tell you EVERYTHING, and you just trust each other to be able to deal with it. I don't want to be like the Aries' poor husband ... clueless and out of the loop. I also don't want my girl to be clueless and out of the loop either, as it has been with some of my previous relationships.

Hmmmm, interesting.

why all the hidden messages, that just makes me curious

@ellessque

yep, that's why it bugged her ... she said I was addicted. lol, but certainly it was cost effective as far as addictions go ... the alternative being a gf which is way more expensive than free internet porn.

anyways, its working out, I probably was wasting too much time on that in the past. Especially since she is living with me now, any porn time would be less time for me to spend with her in general. Haha, now i get grumpy when I really need sex ... and she get's sweet and says, awwe does my baby need a bj ... its working out.

the really funny thing is that she likes porn too ... it was very confusing to me why we couldn't just watch it together. In retrospect, I'm seeing that she's right.