Is he gone for good?

So I'm a Scorpio Sun Sag Moon Venus in Scorpio. He's a Sag Sun Aries Moon Venus in Scorpio. We met and hit it off instantly although I felt no sexual attraction for him initially-- he was interesting to say the least. He would text me everyday starting at 7am non stop all day. He has requested to see me everyday but because of my schedule I was unable but did meet with him for lunch one day, another day he invited me to watch him play baseball. We have a good time he tells me interesting stories about his family, growing up in Puerto Rico and introducing me to Spanish "Trap" Music. Anyways I had to tell him (although I am insanely attracted to him now) that he's wasting his time with me. I told him I will never kiss him, or have sex with him and just only want to be friends. He said he's fine with that and just enjoys spending time with me. However I felt we needed some space. I'd only known him a week and saw him 4 days in that week. Each time I tried to depart he would always find a way to make me stay longer. Tell jokes, a funny story, anything to distract me and nothing has happened I felt like he was catching feelings. Something I didn't expect from a Sag.

He started mentioning when he's at home he thinks about me a lot. Wonders what I am doing right now, why I am taking so long (30 min—) to text him back and I'm like uh oh... when I'm with him he doesn't want to let me leave. HE's always probing me... do you like roses? where is your job? lights on or lights off lol! So I felt things getting really intense, more and more each time we meet. I made a comment... what if I never see you again? I could tell he picked up on that instantly and he said I would feel bad but I wouldn't worry. You'll call me again one day. 1 month from now, 3 mos, 1 year and when you do-- I'll be waiting cause I will never forget you so I think you'll never forget me either. So the last time we departed he text me in the car I miss u already, Can I call and talk to you? So I just said no I have my daughter with me now. I told him I couldn't see him the next day and not to text or call me unless I call or text him first.

I think I drew a line in the sand maybe? He hasn't called or text. After day 1 I was relieved... Day 2 I'm a little anxious-- I think I miss him but I have to stay strong. I cant give him what he wants and I don't want to lead him on. I think he's a big boy and can take care of himself but I just don't want to take chances in things becoming physical and far more complicated.

Just wondering if you make a sag back down-- will they stay down?

Posted by Distilled
Never kissing or having sex-

This man will get that out of you and run after. Or play more games.

He knows you like him.

I do like him... and obviously he likes me as well. Since I've distanced our contact I'm very cautious moving forward that any outreach from him will be aimed at getting me to give in and that's not going to happen. He'd try to get what he can because he knows I'll probably push him away again therefore he will turn the tables before I have a chance to sting him again.

My hope... is that he doesn't call or text. My plan was to close the door because the relationship is not going anywhere and I'd be delusional to think we could be "just friends". I know if someone asked me not to call or text them they wouldn't ever have to say it again... some people are a little more persistent. Just wondering if that's the case with Sags.

Posted by sagoya
Well ... " I told him I couldn't see him the next day and not to text or call me unless I call or text him first"

Have you text or call him first?

And btw, lady, you keep turning him down and rejecting him like that, even if he'll be back, mark my word he will only be staying for another 2 weeks max and then poof..

No I did not call or text him first. 2nd I was clear from the start that this ain't what you want trust me. Most guys would take off after that however-- he seemed more interested. I'm choosing to close the door on this because it's not going anywhere. I'd rather see him invest his efforts elsewhere. He's confident-- told me he 100% guarantees that he will have me. When he said that I thought to myself nope get out now-- In fact quiet as kept this will be the last time you see me. It's been real-- and no I'll never forget him. I'm certain he won't forget me anytime soon.

Oh yeah. Sag sun and Venus Scorpio will hunt you down and will not stop until they get what they want for sure... They don't play nice, they don't play fair. They're kinda cruel but will confuse you because they love you Sooooo much. Underneath their cool composure, is a ball of steam. After years of dealing with one; I still question if mines meant anything.



Good luck.

Posted by arose32
Oh yeah. Sag sun and Venus Scorpio will hunt you down and will not stop until they get what they want for sure... They don't play nice, they don't play fair. They're kinda cruel but will confuse you because they love you Sooooo much. Underneath their cool composure, is a ball of steam. After years of dealing with one; I still question if mines meant anything.



Good luck.

Ok I could definitely feel his intensity. I respect it because I have the same. I want the one I like to like me that much this early on. I can't get into the hows and whys but I can't go there with him and I wanted to get out before things went any further. I truly believe if we had sex... I can't even begin to imagine the obsession and addiction that would form between the two of us. I was almost tempted to text him and provide an explanation for my failure to contact because I know as much as I'm thinking about him calling/texting he's thinking about NOT calling or texting me even more and even praying I will call or text. (I've been there before). I just figured I'd better leave it alone and move on. I just feel bad because I don't want to be that girl. I've had guys do this to me and its extremely hurtful. Just be straight up! Men are wired different so I don't know if it would bother him the same. I just want if nothing else to be a good person and at least explain what happened and that its me not him so we can both have closure and move on.

You should be Alright. For real. He's still a sag, so he should be okay. At least he's letting you be rather than playing mind Games.

Well, he did text the other day... I was somewhat relieved that I could offer up an explanation as to why I haven't text him first. He was understanding. Also I could see he has the ability to fall back so we're cool and he seems way more chill now. He asked when he could see me again I just said I'd let him know when I was free, maybe we could hit some balls at the batting cages next time. He was cool with that and asked me to let him know something soon.

Proceeding with caution. So I guess the answer to my question is if they really like you, they will come back and they are capable of easing up the intensity level if you draw the line. I think they just love the chase.

Yeah, they do. But idk. Just be careful.

OP

You have a daughter and you pick name SCORPGYRL?

Just wondering...

Posted by arose32
Yeah, they do. But idk. Just be careful.

Girrrrl... I know right? I feel like this-- theres no point in me seeing him if things are not going any further especially when I know what he wants. Sooo... I'll leave it at that. I guess I was just feeling bad about ignoring him but since I finally did have a chance to explain how I felt things were moving too fast and I just want to be friends, I felt like he backed off. He's back to texting me every day... it's different though. Like not as early in the morning... and not as many texts. He is getting very insistent on seeing me again. When can I see you? I miss you and I want to see you today etc. I was starting to feel like maybe I'd over reacted but just wanted to be cautious. I don't want a stalker and I've only known him 2 weeks. I kind of want to give him one more chance but I am on high alert. But I also feel I have the upper hand because I'm deciding the terms and pace of the relationship but I also feel its too much to go through for what its supposed to be. I think I'm going to stay put and gently release him back into the water.

Why the issue with my Screen name and the fact I have a daughter? I also have a Son and a black German Shepherd should that affect my name? lol

@John the Baptist... I am honestly not trying to manipulate or play mind games. I was afraid the Sag was getting too close too soon. Like possibly stalkerish. It was making me a little uncomfortable only because I hadn't known but a few days. I didn't want to keep things going if he was getting too clingy which was what was happening. I felt with each time we would meet he would get closer and closer Maybe they are this clingy naturally idk I just didn't want to lead him on. I have strong willpower--I just don't see him like that especially now and theres no since in waiting til he gets bored enough to leave on his own.

I have a Taurus friend and we get along great... He set's the pace. Sometimes he disappears for weeks and comes back like nothing ever happened. This used to drive me insane now I just expect it. He's really sweet and we just have something but it'll never be more than it is so I just allow the connection to be what it is...

LOL, it's already a dead deal. I don't believe we can have a just friends friendship because he is too attracted to me. He started off really chill and laid back and then BAM! So I'm actually not going to give him another chance because he's already shown himself. He knows my situation.

My marriage is actually good at this time. Sure we've had our share of ups and downs. I am 36 and have been married 15 years this year. So I cant have friends— I enjoy the excitement of meeting fun new interesting people men and women! I meet new people all the time in my line of work and I have this very visible diamond that men usually notice but most importantly I'm also very clear on where I stand. I'm honest with my husband about meeting new people and I explain they have to understand to deal with me is to deal with you too. There's no me without you. He respects that and allows me the freedom to make my choices.

There is no emotional affair. I'm not getting any additional fulfillment out of our interaction in place of what I get in my own marriage. I don't share details about my marriage with him, discuss my feelings about my marriage with him, I even considered setting him up with one of my friends but he wouldn't go for it. So I'm out of it for good. I just really guess I felt like I didn't handle it well to begin with and I felt bad because I shut the Sag down without any explanation.

Souls come into. Return. Open. And sweep through your life for a myriad of reasons... Let them be who and what they are meant to be. -Nayyirah Waheed

I have the same placements like this guy but I never chase or reach out to anybody who I feel is not into me at all unless I want sex only. If he chases you then it's probably just for sex. He knows you are married which means he is safe. He is trying to win you over and that's it. I feel like sag males, especially those with my placements, aren't crazy enough to get involved romantically with a married woman with children, unless it's for fun. We are not considered to be bachelors for life for no reason.

Posted by TheSag
I have the same placements like this guy but I never chase or reach out to anybody who I feel is not into me at all unless I want sex only. If he chases you then it's probably just for sex. He knows you are married which means he is safe. He is trying to win you over and that's it. I feel like sag males, especially those with my placements, aren't crazy enough to get involved romantically with a married woman with children, unless it's for fun. We are not considered to be bachelors for life for no reason.

Thanks @TheSag... My Pisces male friend told me to close the door on him quick because he could develop a fatal attraction from the looks of things and mess your life up. He might tell your husband or anything to get you back because he cant have you. Anyways that's water under the bridge now. He text me sunday to wish me a happy easter and asked if he could see me for a short time. I told him no and explained once again that I have plans... he said so are you saying your plans are more important than me? No emoji, no loll's he was serious. Umm sir what makes you think that you are more important than any plans I've made with my family? He said because I would drop whatever I was doing to see you if I had the chance.

I said and here lies the problem. I'm spending the day with my family. I'm not going to see you end of story. This is an inappropriate relationship, we're not on the same page I wish you the best. he said ok sweetie, I'm sorry. I'll talk to you soon. So now he's officially blocked.

Attention is the last thing I need. Anyone who knows anything about Scorpio would know that we are not attention seekers unless there are some strong air or leo placements. we are perfectly content in the background and we despise fake flattery. We are very magnetic therefore people are easily drawn to us. Scorpio ruled by mars-- a masculine planet. I am far more comfortable hanging out with my husband and his friends watching a football game than I am with the wives. I am feminine but just identify easier with male energy. Its just that simple!!!

Blame my Sag moon but I'm very confident and secure with myself. I don't need validation from another. My husband-- Gemini-- Venus in Cancer. His love, attention, affection and eagerness to express it is so overwhelming sometimes I have to tell him to fall back. I like a little elusiveness, a bit of mystery don't put it all out there!!!! But he can't help it bless his heart and just asks me to remind him when he's gone too far. What wife doesn't want that from her husband? Not a day goes by that he doesn't tell me how beautiful I am, how much he adores me and that I am his world... he smiles non stop ear to ear whenever we're together. From the time I come home from work he wants me to do the simplest things with him like go get the car washed or pick up dog food just so he can be with me so I know alllllllll about when someone is head over heels into you.

I picked up on the Sag's intensity early on but thought I'd over reacted. This place is Boring AF I read one boring thread after another so I decided to throw my hat into the pile. When I read threads I don't like or the person seems full of shyt-- I don't reply. Simple.

"fatal attraction",... Are you kidding me....... Lololololololol Lololololololol Lololololololol Lololololololol Lololololololol Lololololololol Lololololololol Lololololololol Lololololololol

Scorps LOVE the hype....





@johnthebaptist100 No I am not kidding you! This is NO joke. My friend is speaking from a place of knowing. It has happened to me before. Like a guy who falls in love with a stripper because she talks to him and he thinks she really likes him and begins to stalk her... I had a guy 6 years ago who I met once and gave him my business card which also had my cell phone number on it. He went from inviting me to meet him for drinks which I never did-- to offering money and other gifts to entice me to see him again. I flat out told him look I'm married, we exchanged info for networking purposes this is not what I was looking for please do not contact me again. He began sending me random text messages like baby, I miss you ( which was odd because we were never on that level) dic pics and other sext messages him telling me he needs me on his tongue and even though I blocked him he would text from other phones. THEN he started calling me after midnight during the weekday. We figured he was being an arse and purposely trying to sabotage me why I don't know.

Anyways It got to the point I had to tell my husband what was going on and lets just say-- it finally came to an end. Although it may not have reached the point of boiling bunnies the fact is some men are unstable and shyt gets real sometimes. My best friend has a PPO on a guy that turned into a fatal attraction. She also had to move, change her number so this is serious.

I can't make this up... why would I? Why is that so far fetched? I'm sure most women have experienced similar or worse situations and it's no laughing matter. It's so sick that you're so out to make Scorpio seem like such manipulative, self absorbed, attention seeking bytches that you cant see the forest for the trees.

You reproduced?

You're raising a child when you should just throw yourself off a cliff for your shit ass morals?

Please sterilize yourself. You're a cunt.

Lololololol @rockyroadicecream yes I do have 2 wonderful children. I wont brag on their accomplishments but they are great teens, good students, athletes, and citizens. Oh screw it They're honor students who participate regularly in religious and diversity cultural organizations, performing volunteer work in the community and travel internationally every year. Next April ICELAND... I have to say they're my greatest accomplishments in life!

I'm always astonished at the number of teachers or parents who tell me what a great job we're doing with our kids and how wonderful, manerable,sweet, compassionate, talented etc. they are.

soooo despite what you or others may think by the equivalent of one sneeze droplet of my life exposed on here I could care less. I am undeservingly blessed and eternally grateful. I may not always make the greatest life choices but I'd say I do pretty well for myself. I'm only human and a work in progress.

I only hope your life is as fulfilling... and that you don't spend too much time here commenting on random Shyt because you have nothing better to do. I hope you have a husband and children who love and adore you, a non dysfunctional family, fulfilling career, great friends, places to go people to see things to do...

Sincerely,

#unbothered