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I don''t know if I believe this horoscope stuff. It''s funny because I went out with a capicorn, and duh I''m a sagittarius. We loved each other till the end of the relationship, I''m sure that my ex still cares about me. I think and wonder about him everyday. I would have given him my arm or leg if he needed it. I don''t care what this horoscope says about these two being together. I had him for a year untill he went for another girl to give himself what I couldn''t give him. He just looks angry now, and he avoids me. I don''t try to hide from someone that I once loved, but I don''t talk to him. If he wants to talk to me I''m here for him. Everyone says what a nice and good person I am. I would have never judged him or hated him. I really don''t know what my guestion is. I quess I''m wondering why guys try so hard to forget or hide thier past? Does this happen to other people? I have seen it before with my sister they hide and are angry then a couple of months later they want to talk again. Why are guys like that? My only explanation is because my ex was young and dumb, humm, I don''t think he knew waht he had. What are some good ways to deal with loosing someone? I know that I have to move on, and my ex was like stop dwelling on the past. I''m heart broken. I feel like he ripped a pieace out of me and took it with him. Maybe I''m weird because I feel like he took something from me and I''m not going to be whole agian, even if I find someone else I''m not sure if I will be whole. What I was. A part of me is gone, and I know it. all I have is memories. I feel pathetic because all I think about half the day is my damn ex. I just wished that I never met him or I could just forget. I have changed some how, I feel difrant. Maybe I''m stronger now. Just give me some advice. I just want to know what other people have done to deal with loosing someone that you loved? No my boyfriend didn''t die, he just hurt me. How can I deal with seeing him and not crying, or being afraid of seeing him? I cryied the other day when he happened to walk into the same restrant I was in... I still can''t believe i cryied. I was just happy that we all were leaving when he came into the restrant. I don''t know what to do. I know that I can''t just forget. Maybe in time I will know what I''m to do.

I have just the opposite dilema. I am a cap and he a sag. We are like fire and ice. A sag seems to say they are passionate and want passion in their life but are afraid and play many games. He admits to being very opionionated, insisting on everything being "just so" and flys off the handle at the very "little stuff" of life. I love him because he is simply him. I let him go off into the planet with my blessing and he returns when he is ready. A cap knows it's okay
to let go and to let another just be. Perhaps a reversal of outlook has been of help to you.

First what beautiful letter and I really feel for you.I ,ve lost some really long term relationships and come out of them. Could I say that most men seem to have adelayed reaction to breakups the first few weeks or months are usually the easiest.Then slowly some kind of reality sets in and then the regrets by this time the female has worked through her feelings and is beginning to come out the other side but its usually too late for the man who maybe wants to try and patch things up. I think that you are definetly the one who is going to get through this and be better off for it.You can love someone for the rest of your life and not be with them those that say they are in love then breakup and fall out of love were never in love in the first place. Love is love and it never goes away you just learn to live with it.On the practical side I reckon the get over phase is like this one month for every year long term one week for very month short term. good luck and i,ll have some good thoughts for you over here in the uk someone will be thinking of you.

Sweetheart...
I feel for you. I'm a taurus, and broke up with a sag. not too long ago. being with him was my personal heaven. But I do agree that sag's seem to like to play alot of games. I said good-bye to him for good last night, and perhaps that's what you should do. Arrange flowers throughout the house, and light some scented candles. Bask in your saddness for a little while and let it all out. I like to think of it as cleansing yourself. start fresh and new.
I love the show sex and the city, it makes me proud to be single. You should be proud to be single. think of what you can bring to life, and to this world, and maybe you'd be a little happier. Come to terms with everything and let go. Watch the movie "hanging up." It will teach you somthing, if you can't get the idea from the title. Be sad for a little while, that's ok, it's normal. But after that adjust...go shopping, stock the house up with ice cream, and indulge. Live life to the fullest, and remember, hang up...

I also had a relationship with a capricorn, that actually ended at the end of June/01.
We have always had an unusual relationship. Even though we were together (when we were kids) we always remained friends. After my separation with my ex husband (aquarius), the cap came back into my life and we were more friends than anything else. He unofficially adopted my daughter and she now calls him daddy.
When he left it was to go meet someone he met three years ago on-line. He too said it wasn't because of me, it was because he was unhappy with his life and he thinks this will make him happy. My heart shattered. I thought also if you love something let it go and if it came back it was yours. Well he did come back but now he is gone again. I never thought I would want to get married again (after the aquarius) but I thought I would marry the cap. What hurts is that he is still in contact with my daughter (a good thing) but his g/friend there, doesn't want us to talk.
I don't know if I am grieving because I lost a love or if I am grieving because I lost my best friend. He said that he would always be my friend and I believe him but when the g/friend won't let us talk unless she is there. She is a gemini and from what I read about gemini's are they can be very moody. I don't know if that is true. It is just really hard.
Sag's are suppose to be outgoing, fun and free but all I want to do is hide and cry (not so much crying anymore) and feel sorry for myself.
I know it will get better but I want to know when?
I have learned and accepted alot since he left (because we did talk) but it still really hurts. I think know, more so, it feels like there is a restriction on our relationship.
I know this is an usually story also but I have to still get along with him because of my daughter. Can anyone tell me how to help through this confusing (conflicting) time?
Thank you

I too was married to a cap, for almost 17 years. He left me in July. It was very painful for me. But, I am better already. If you would like you can read all about it in my board on "Relationships" I warn you, it is quite lengthy. But, I shared much. And met some wonderful people who gave me lots of advice and support.
You will be happy again. Though this is very painful now. I encourage you to learn all you can about yourself. Little by little. Let go of your fear for the future. Learn to trust that things will work out for your benefit.
My thoughts will be with you.
I wish you much happiness!

Laurie

Sorry, Sagittarius. You don't mix with Capricorn. Virgo does.