Oh you saggies.

Hola!

So I have something troubling me for the past um... *looks at calendar* since April.. so okay wow it's been almost 8 months now. The dreaded coworker. Won't bore you with too much detail so here goes.

The first fling happened probably 2 months in, god knows what attracted her to me seeing I'm very private and never talk about personal stuff at work. I knew she had been sleeping with another coworker before this and they just had a 'breakup' at the time. I tend to not care and just go with the flow as they say so asked her out, things were great for like literally 4 days then nothing.

Then it was the being weird treatment. I told her it's fine and I don't really care which prompted the classic line from her "we need to talk". I was expecting a lot more than "I don't want anything serious". I mean I totally could tell when she was pashing another guy when a bunch of us hung out for drinks after work.

During all of that I'm actually glad we salvaged whatever work relationship we had. She's training as Assistant Manager now and we ACTUALLY talk now yay! My revelation came when one of her friends mentioned that we had a '2 month fling'. I was actually surprised because I literally counted 4 days. By logic there was something she never told me or perhaps her time perception is totally fucked up.

Anyway I promised not to get to lengthy (soz) Tuesday we had a staff christmas party. I stayed at my friends place and she also insisted on coming over. I didn't think we'd be awkward sharing a bed so we both jumped in. What I wasn't expecting is she literally stripped naked, had a semi deep and meaningful and then fucked like crazy animals.

When I say that I mean half-fucked? Is there a term for that lol. In the back of my mind I just couldn't do it. Too bad my body didn't resist as much as my mind did so I guess I'm at fault here too. She mentioned sleeping with coworkers and how she didn't want to do it again, I mentioned I just couldn't because I care for her too much to just see her as a fuck buddy. I stopped half way through and god you guys have no idea how much will power it took lmao.

I honestly don't know what she wants. She's admitted to being an emotional retard but I can't just sit around like this anymore because I fear everytime we're alone we're going to do something we regret. For the record I've made it clear that I do like her so the ball's in her court.

What I'm asking is as Sags what do you make of this. I don't want to drag this out further and considering just confront her about why and how tuesday even happened.

im not even sure fromt he story that they had intercourse.

Not a threesome 😛

I would actually be relieved if it was just sex. Trying not to over think things at the moment.

Posted by DMV
im not even sure fromt he story that they had intercourse.

Oh she got there, I didn't. I'd explain it but I don't think it'll make sense.

She got hers, I had to stop, it just didn't feel right to me. I'm a bit sentimental like that. I care about her but I need at least some form of acknowledgement because I just don't want to be fuck buddies! Especially not with a coworker.

She has Cap venus, cancer mars. Aries moon if I recall.

Honestly I've not revealed too much to her in the way of my personal life. She talks to me about her family issues, she's got a lot on her plate and for the first time she feels like she's getting somewhere. She likes discussing what she likes in guys, her plans for the moment etc.

I've no idea, or I would rather say, I take no stock in what people tell me. Much as I like dissecting hidden meanings (like I'm doing now) when it comes down to it I prefer being more direct. As far as I know I'm just being what a person should be, be there fore her when she needs it, support her when she needs it.

cheers aquavita though sometimes it's hard to decipher what you write 😛

I guess that's the problem, we had a huge talk the other night discussing what happened. The dynamic is surprisingly like what you've described. Bit of a start and stop going on. I'll be perfectly honest and say I'm surprised she was actually genuinely honest. Not the kind of honest I wanted. We've established there's something there but she's making it overly complicated.