Sag pair - he's stubborn!

Hi all 🙂 Sag here dating a sag guy for over 2 months 🙂 He's amazing, kond, gentle... he's calling and texting all the time and wants to see me everyday if i'm free (if i'm not out with friends that is). I began to open up after the first mont... but he was open like a book from the begining. 🙂
The problem is, and it's reoccuring from time to time - he disrespects my time. He tells me the day before he's available, and on that day he stays at his workshop - fixing smthing for himself, or plays a video game or plans something with his friends - i met them, they don't really see eachother often. It happens once in 10 days and then I tell him that's selfish - he should inform me the date is off like hours before not minutes.
I don't think he's cheating or anything, I trust him completely, he said too many times he's in love with me and i feel that too. It's just that he's sometimes inconsiderate... I don't stay up everynight until 3am, cause I'm an early riser, and he's work time is flexible, so he chooses to work in the afternoon - he makes furniture and i'm finishing phd studies. - I know i know - too different, but that's not the issue.
He cries like a baby if i leave his place around midnight, but he won't wake up earlier so he can be available around 9pm... and some days he makes time, others (when things are great) he just... well goes back to his olad habbits. I changed my shedule to mathc his, but... 😢 Like he just gets too comfortable in the relationship... I hate playing games, but when I complain about it he changes for a week or 2 and then - AGAIN. 😢

"he disrepects your time."

*cmon you know better. saggis do things on their time. we just have to find people who can respect that. shit, were the most inconsiderate people i know.

"Like he just gets too comfortable in the relationship... I hate playing games, but when I complain about it he changes for a week or 2 and then - AGAIN."

*he reverts back to his usual behavior because 1.)this is who he is. this is his personality. love it or leave it 2.)he hasnt found the motivation to change. when im motivated, i will change forever.

😉 we actually see eachother 5-6 times a week 🙂

i don't want him to change, just.... if WE make plans he should respect that. When he makes plans without me, I'm cool. I do smthing else that night. But I inform him - always if i'm busy so he can plan the evening - maybe see someone or do something. And I don't just cancel dates like that, and don't fuss if he's busy.

I guess I need to talk to him AGAIN but... I just rememberded.. he did exaxt same thing before Valentine's cause he was making me a present, and tomorrow it's March 8th, so maybe I should wait too see if he's been working on a surprise for me 😉 if not, then I'll talk to him.
I tried doing what he does and he got pissed off! - regarding a different matter. When I said I was just doing what he does he felt ashamed and promised not to do that again ever! (... 🙂 well, he did change those things - small to him, but BIG for me 🙂 and I modified some things too cause he felt that when I do that I'm angry at him, or similar, so I changed that too - small for me, BIG for him 😉
Thanks for replying 🙂

I get it - he won't change, it's who he is... well I'm a sag too and I always put others first - so we're not all the same.
It has to be his virgo ascendant, but he's way too emotional sometimes - pisces moon, scorp venus 🙂 Hey I'm not perfect either, I've got temper 🙂 and he deals with it every day 😉

Posted by shysaggirl
I get it - he won't change, it's who he is... well I'm a sag too and I always put others first - so we're not all the same.
It has to be his virgo ascendant, but he's way too emotional sometimes - pisces moon, scorp venus 🙂 Hey I'm not perfect either, I've got temper 🙂 and he deals with it every day 😉

so your saying that youve never flaked out on people or commitments? im notorious for doing that. his pisces moon is damn near psychic. actually virgo rising would make him more attentive to his partner. caretaker.

he probably just not motivated. i would 2nd the comment about doing it to him. but beware the venus in scorpio!

Posted by bassace

try doing it to him. say you'll meet him for lunch or dinner or whatever, then call him an hour before and cancel. don't be a b-tch about it, just let him know you want him to see how it feels

lol, that shit would piss me the fuck off lol. i would be pissed for days! probably wouldnt talk to you for awhile.

Posted by MzSagittarius

Posted by DMV
"he disrepects your time."

*cmon you know better. saggis do things on their time. we just have to find people who can respect that. shit, were the most inconsiderate people i know.

"Like he just gets too comfortable in the relationship... I hate playing games, but when I complain about it he changes for a week or 2 and then - AGAIN."

*he reverts back to his usual behavior because 1.)this is who he is. this is his personality. love it or leave it 2.)he hasnt found the motivation to change. when im motivated, i will change forever.

PREACH IT!! lol

I'm like that...It's not that I don't have the motivation...I just don't wanna change 😄

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"i like me"

I'm a pisces moon too 🙂 hehe 🙂
he was bread and butter last night... I walked in without a care in the world and all dressed up, beeming smile, like - like I DONT'T need him at all, but I still was there with him 🙂 He was so turned on, and mesmerised, and in shock: "There's something different about you, I love it 🙂 "
I did't complain or anything - he said he was expecting that 😉 I was just - well, self-suficient 😉 and he wanted to BE with me more, stoped all he was doing (something silly for himself, he said he'll continue when I leave 🙂 I didn't ask for attention, or looked like I needed it or like I was mad about some past behaviour...
My vibes were different I guess, and so was his 🙂 for the better. I can't explain in words, but in his eyes and actions - felt the difference! 😉
I wont do the - oh, I have to cancel the date in last minute - thing, It's not me 🙂 but this - being radiant on my own - that's my thing 🙂 just so he can see what he's missing 😉

Thanks people 🙂

Posted by shysaggirl
I wont do the - oh, I have to cancel the date in last minute - thing, It's not me 🙂 but this - being radiant on my own - that's my thing 🙂 just so he can see what he's missing 😉

Thanks people 🙂

im proud of you. dont be anything that your not.

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