Sagittarius guy does he just want to hook up?

I'm absolutely puzzled with this Sagittarius guy, I've known him for 8 years he was my first real relationship back in middle school I'm an Aquarius so I've read that our signs are compatible. He is the first person I fell in love with.Since then we've never fallen out of contact for more then 8 months. We're off and on with talking, we don't talk like we did when we were together. Since 9th grade 80% of the time he contacts me he asks if we can do"no strings attached stuff." He's closed off about just about everything, I have to carry the whole conversation even if he txts me first. We've dated other people since him and I dated. He never talks to me while he's in relationships(I don't try to talk to him while he's in them. I've txted him not knowing he's dating someone "he doesn't like people to know his business" he says, and he didn't answer.) When I'm in relationships he contacts me and tries to get me to cheat on or break up with who I'm dating.(Which I haven't done.) I've only done stuff with him while we were both single we've never done anything past oral, the first time was 4 years ago we've only done that 5 times from the first time up to now. The times I've been single he seems to want to do something once or twice then talks to me less and I end up in a relationship with someone else then the cycle repeats. A year ago I asked him why he still talks to me since we dated. I want to know what the point of him hitting me up is. I've asked if it's just for booty call purposes he says that that is part of the reason but not the only reason. Last week was his last week in the state he told me he wanted to see me to do stuff with me a few times before he moves he barely talked to me that week and blew off the few times he said he wanted to see me.The beginning of the week I asked him if we could have sex since we never have, he said we would some point before he leaves, but then ignores me the day he said it would happen(the day before his flight). He promised me that he was going to tell me why he still talks to me in person the day before he left and said if he didn't he'd txt it to me. I haven't heard from him since the night before he left, it was only a response to something I txted him. Why do you think he still talks to me? I hold out hope that maybe he's the one for me, and someday in the distant future we'll be together but, Should I move on since it sounds like it's just for booty calls and try to get over him? What should I do?

lol, I couldn't get past the part that said "8 years" 😛

Sorry! I want to get as much information as I could within the 2500 characters. It originally had paragraphs but then wouldn't let me use as many characters =/ I probably should have posted 2 messages... sorrrry!

Posted by Wynter
lol, I couldn't get past the part that said "8 years" 😛

hahaha, i did the same thing...

Here I'll try to make it easier to read haha sorry,

Basically this person who was my first relationship, will still talk to me ever since he broke up with me. We've dated people since each other. If I'm in a relationship he tries to get me to cheat on or break up with whoever I'm dating so I can do hook up stuff with him.

When he contacts me 80% of the time he asks if we can hook up. Other then that he won't say much I have to carry the whole conversation even if he txts me first. He's very closed off about everything, if I ask him something that's too personal he'll just not respond until the next time he feels like txting me.

What really confuses me are times that I'm single and he bugged me all through a relationship "to be single," then he backs away. I don't know if he's just likes the chase of everything and that's why he backs away?

A year ago I asked him why he still talks to me off and on when it's been like 8 years since we dated. I asked if it's just because he knows I'll do stuff with him while we're both single (I think that's the only reason but I can't get him to admit that, I've tried several occasions. I don't know if he doesn't want to admit it because he thinks he'd lose the booty call thing?) he tells me it's not just that but won't tell me anything else about it, he told me he wanted to tell me in person instead of through txt, and at a few of the last times I brought my question up he said he would tell me the next time we're both at the same place at the same time.

2 Weeks ago, he told me he's moving and isn't coming back and wanted to do stuff with me before he left. I'm single so we could and had a week to do stuff. He came on strong about wanting to meet up and more then once.I asked if we could have sex since we never have and he said we would some point before he'd leave. The first time comes to hang out he says he'd rather do it tomorrow night. Tomorrow night comes around I sent him 2 txts that day and didn't hear back from him until 2 days from then. I did get to see him once before he leaf. It was the day before, the day before his flight. When I saw him he said that we'd meet up tomorrow to have sex and he promised he'd tell me why he talks to me and said if he couldn't then, he'd txt it to me. He blew me off that day I only heard from him that night at 4am it was a reply to something I said. I haven't heard from him since then.

I'm so confused because, If he just wants booty calls why would he blow most of the occasions for them off? But if it's more than that why wouldn't he say so in some way? Why would he be so guarded with everything he says to me? This has been going on for quite a while and I just want to know what the point is, why would someone be like this?!

boy this sounds like me lol.

he's just extremely flaky and probably has problems returning phone calls with everyone unless they demand differently. even then, fat chance on him returning phone calls.

he's not interested in anything serious.

to DMV: Yeah he probably isn't interested in anything serious. I just don't know why it's been going on for like 8 years and why he'd try and get me to cheat on or break up with whoever I'm dating. He even went as far as to lie about moving away for ever a few times and that "we'd never get another chance to do stuff ever again."

to MzSag: Yeah that's probably what he is doing. I think he's just stringing me along, I've been hoping it's otherwise but I'm pretty sure that's the reality. I think he has an idea of how I feel about him and takes advantage of it by just hitting me up when, like you said, he wants the attention but because he knows I'll give it to him. =/ I hate that! hahaha I think about him all the time and hope that one of these days he'll txt me again and then I'll get him to admit to why he talks to me but, I really don't think it's going to happen lmao. I kind of want all my hope to be killed so I can hopefully FINALLY move on.

these always make me feel lazy

What do you mean? What makes you feel lazy?

Hey, swoaplh, I wish I could contribute some more, but the truth is I'll have to agree with above posters. Yes, he probably enjoys having sex with you and he more than probably enjoys your attention. He gets a kick out of persuading you to cheat or end your relationships just to sleep with him because, in a sick way, it validates his EGO. Sort of, whoa, check this out, I'm SOOO good she's willing to sacrifice/risk her relationship just so she can bang me again. (Rolls eyes). Very mature, I know, but that's the kind of vibe he's giving off - to me.
And MzSag has her share of right too: if he was that much into sex with you, he'd take most of the opportunities you were offering. But I believe that, ultimately, what he really is into is getting attention, chasing chicks he knows won't turn him down (you, that is), and having his ego validated. Even so, he's not exactly willing to go to great lengths to acquire all of these and only makes an effort when HE's in the mood...
Now, assuming you do end up seeing each other again, your best option is to try and make him work for you, even if it's just to have sex with you. Don't offer him anything. There's always the risk that he won't take the bait and just forget the whole deal, but at least you'll know where you stand.
And if he does take the bait and actually makes an effort to get to you... well, that would be quite an improvement on the current situation, wouldn't it? 🙂