Sag89
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So I Finally Got Some Things Back From Ex Scorp...
y hard and even hope for a friendship but he seems to only do what he wants.
At least I got some of my things I guess. That is good.
At least I got some of my things I guess. That is good.
"I asked if he wanted to meet my boyfriend and he said " Maybe some other time " which I felt was in a smug way personally. "
That was weird, I mean who says that after hugging all up on an ex boyfriend, I'd speed off too and avoid you after the whole hug thing, I'd feel awful inside if I were him.
I'm so not criticizing you, just my observation. I can tell you love him still because you didn't just go in and get your things and leave, you spent a portion of that time asking questions, observing his movements, responding to his energy and pointing out tension, it seemed like you were deeply engaged in it all, the most uncomfortable part was you initiating how you feel about him during that hug, telling him you miss him and still think about him after the break up and then turning around and asking him does he want to meet your boyfriend...What the?? That's push/pull behavior on your part.
That was weird, I mean who says that after hugging all up on an ex boyfriend, I'd speed off too and avoid you after the whole hug thing, I'd feel awful inside if I were him.
I'm so not criticizing you, just my observation. I can tell you love him still because you didn't just go in and get your things and leave, you spent a portion of that time asking questions, observing his movements, responding to his energy and pointing out tension, it seemed like you were deeply engaged in it all, the most uncomfortable part was you initiating how you feel about him during that hug, telling him you miss him and still think about him after the break up and then turning around and asking him does he want to meet your boyfriend...What the?? That's push/pull behavior on your part.
I know I do love him still yes of course he was in my life for a very long time. 3 years. I really want to have a friendship. I was trying to be really nice. Yes I'll admit I did do the push pull too. But it was because I felt so rejected after him just pushing me off him like I'm a horrible person he hates. That hurt.
why would you act like that if you guys are broken up? hugging and talking like you're sorry and regret it and you were coming back or something. this is why he pushed you off and said you're making it harder.
sounds like you're playing games with the dude. especially when hes emotionally weak. i feel for him.
sounds like you're playing games with the dude. especially when hes emotionally weak. i feel for him.
Playing games with him? He plays games with me! He is the one who dumped me.
Posted by Sag89
Playing games with him? He plays games with me! He is the one who dumped me.
obviously he thinks that was a mistake
I know I want too much validation sometimes 😢
Posted by westsidePosted by Sag89
Playing games with him? He plays games with me! He is the one who dumped me.
obviously he thinks that was a mistakeclick to expand
Maybe but it's only a little part of him. If it was all we would ask be back and he hasn't.
Posted by Sag89Posted by westsidePosted by Sag89
Playing games with him? He plays games with me! He is the one who dumped me.
obviously he thinks that was a mistake
Maybe but it's only a little part of him. If it was all we would ask be back and he hasn't.click to expand
in due time dear.
Posted by westsidePosted by Sag89Posted by westsidePosted by Sag89
Playing games with him? He plays games with me! He is the one who dumped me.
obviously he thinks that was a mistake
Maybe but it's only a little part of him. If it was all we would ask be back and he hasn't.
in due time dear.click to expand
You think?
Posted by Sag89Posted by westsidePosted by Sag89Posted by westsidePosted by Sag89
Playing games with him? He plays games with me! He is the one who dumped me.
obviously he thinks that was a mistake
Maybe but it's only a little part of him. If it was all we would ask be back and he hasn't.
in due time dear.
You think?click to expand
i do. but more importantly is the way you react.
but also, are you saying that you would leave your current..."bf" ,if he does?
important*
I am aware of patterns. I just have a really hard time trying to change them.
Posted by westsidePosted by Sag89Posted by westsidePosted by Sag89Posted by westsidePosted by Sag89
Playing games with him? He plays games with me! He is the one who dumped me.
obviously he thinks that was a mistake
Maybe but it's only a little part of him. If it was all we would ask be back and he hasn't.
in due time dear.
You think?
i do. but more importantly is the way you react.
but also, are you saying that you would leave your current..."bf" ,if he does?
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Yea I would. I know he won't ever want me back though. And if he does it will probably be at a time I know longer care.
Posted by NemesisPosted by Sag89
I am aware of patterns. I just have a really hard time trying to change them.
you said your new scorp guy drove you to the ex??s place? what did your new guy do while you inside packing? did he wait outside?click to expand
Yeah
Posted by Nemesis
would you have - after all the hugging and stuff - felt like going to meet your ex??s new girlfriend? and pretend all is fine?
No but If I was him I would say to myself that I want you back lol
Posted by exoskeletonPosted by Sag89
I know I want too much validation sometimes 😢
ding ding ding.
glad you realized it on your own though. you like knowing that some part of him still wants you even if you don't want him. right? so you dramatize this whole mess.
anyway, this is just another reason why you should be single.click to expand
No not at all. I always want him every second of everyday. He broke up with me and I wanted to die. I know what I really should do is be alone and forget all my past and move on but it is hard and I don't think it'll happen over night.
^ Lol
Posted by GemFiregrl1978Posted by Sag89Posted by exoskeletonPosted by Sag89
I know I want too much validation sometimes 😢
ding ding ding.
glad you realized it on your own though. you like knowing that some part of him still wants you even if you don't want him. right? so you dramatize this whole mess.
anyway, this is just another reason why you should be single.
No not at all. I always want him every second of everyday. He broke up with me and I wanted to die. I know what I really should do is be alone and forget all my past and move on but it is hard and I don't think it'll happen over night.
Sag honey,don't feel bad.Really don't.I know EXACTLY what you are going through,for I am going through the same thing(read Scorp board,I post my stuff there).Most of the people here are giving you wrong advices,because they are giving it from personal perspective.But they are not you,they have not walked in the same shoes,not even similar.
The only thing I do agree with is there is a pattern.In you,me and any of us.That is what makes us who we are.Maybe love is this big lesson we have to learn,so we can learn to love ourselves,first and foremost.
Oh how I wish I could give you a hug.Every your word resonates with my situation.And I don't need this shit,right before new years and stuff:/click to expand
All back at you gemgirl
Posted by Pecheresse
As a new year's resolution, you guys should quit dating Scorpios!
Lolz I'm not blaming scorpios. I've had my fair share of bad and good times with them, but we can't base this all on just a sign.
Though scorpios and sags have proved to not be good matches...at least on this board
Yea some scorps are totally cool
Posted by risingabovethemasses
like me 😉
Scorp Sun/Aqua Moon or as some on this board call me Rising Above Them A $ $ e $ , which was intended to be The Ma $ $ e $
LMAO! Rising Above Them A $ $ es! Haha!
Yeah. Can't rule out a whole sun sign. People are people. And moon sign and venus play a lot into it as well. I didn't realize how many Scorps I had as close friends until I thought about it.
Posted by risingabovethemasses
like me 😉
Scorp Sun/Aqua Moon or as some on this board call me Rising Above Them A $ $ e $ , which was intended to be The Ma $ $ e $
Hahaha this gave me a good laugh
Thanks elly!
No I totally get what your saying. No offense at all. I hope to be that person someday too. 🙂
So my sun is in the 6th house and my venus is in the 7th house and by nn did you mean north node?
North node is in aquarius and the 8th house
No I totally get what your saying. No offense at all. I hope to be that person someday too. 🙂
So my sun is in the 6th house and my venus is in the 7th house and by nn did you mean north node?
North node is in aquarius and the 8th house
Posted by DazedScorpPosted by Sag89
All back at you gemgirl I know you know the road and I know you do the best you can. I agree with you
You are a treetrunking moron if you listen to any of that.
Seriously.
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How do you even know what I'm talking about?
Happy new year dazed
he did that because he felt you wanting him to 'meet your boyfriend' was more important than seeing that he didnt want to lose you....at least not that way. i would have sped off too. i hate seeing anyone with something that belongs to me or used to belong to me. that sounds like you were rubbing it in his face.
Posted by ScorpioHubby
he did that because he felt you wanting him to 'meet your boyfriend' was more important than seeing that he didnt want to lose you....at least not that way. i would have sped off too. i hate seeing anyone with something that belongs to me or used to belong to me. that sounds like you were rubbing it in his face.
I was a bit after I felt rejected that he didn't want to be friendly with me. But I've decided I've giving up on any chance of that happening or him being nice to me. *shrugs*
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Anyway, got there and it was like really awkward.
At first not because he was on the phone talking to his boss so I just went upstairs and started packing my things. But as soon as he got off the phone he came up to my room and was like " sorry, hey how are you? "
It was like all cuddly and sexual I just said fine and walked passed him and continued getting my things and putting them in the car. When I came back in the house he was sitting on a chair looking as if he was gonna cry.
I said " Whats wrong? " He said " Nothing, I'm just sad " Than it was was like quiet forever. He kept looking at me sometimes it seemed sexual like he was checking me out than he'd look into my eyes like he was upset.
I said " Do you feel that? " than he said " Feel what? " I said " Tension you making it feel like there is between us " he said " Sorry " than my cat came out of hiding so I got to hold her for a while and we talked a bit more than I went back to moving my stuff.
As I was about to leave we hugged for a bit I said " I miss you and still think about you sometimes " he said " Me too and I'm sorry I ignore you, I won't always ignore you it's just hard for me and I like to pretend this isn't happing I'm very avoident " I was like " yeah " than the hugging started to feel more intense than he said " stop your making this too hard" and pushed me off.
WTF?? I said " I was just going off of what you were doing and it felt like you wanted that " than he said " Yea well I try not to think about it " OK—
Than he said how his roomates were all out of town so he's just been alone and drinking. And I was like okay whatever.
Than he was like well I have to head back to work and he walked me out and gave me two more hugs and was like "take care of yourself. "
I asked if he wanted to meet my boyfriend and he said " Maybe some other time " which I felt was in a smug way personally.
Than he just speed off.
I texted him and said " why did you take off like that? " he said " there was a problem at work " and I said " Ok well nice to see you " and he just never replied.
So I guess he's ignoring me again.
He's so fucking push and pull with me. It's really frustrating and I don't know why he does it.
I try reall