So I talked with the Scorp...

Oh well. I talked with the Scorp I'm seeing today about the direction in which our relationship is going. I'd told myself I would talk to him last week when we saw each other, but I really missed him and we were having so much fun, I just chickened out lol. Today, I tried joking and easing my way in, and he wriggled and squirmed his way out everytime. So...out of the window went the subtlety and in came my regular bull in a china shop m.o.

I explained how his lack of calling and carelessness in making plans bothered me. His response was, why am I making such a big deal over something so meaningless? So we went back and forth blah blah blah. I also pointed out, that he seems much more carless and less attentive in certain things than he did over a year ago when we first started dating. Again, he reiterated, he cares more for me now than he did then, and what's the big deal? My reply was, if it keeps going in the same downward spiral, where did he actually see us down the line? He replied, " Oh that's too deep. I don't want to go there. Im very one track minded. Right now I'm thinking about buying a car and I can't think about anything else.".

My blood was boiling by this point, but I tried to keep my cool. I told him, "There is really no such thing as being too busy. But there is such a thing as someone not being a priority. It's obvious I have no priority in your life.". I got my bag and headed towards the door. He walked me to my car and said, "Stop being cranky. You're always like this around this time of the month.". I told him it was much deeper than that. He said he'd call me later to which I replied, "Why don't you call me after you buy your new car?". He got upset and said he didn't mean it like that and he knew I'd twist it. I just drove off.

I called him about a minute later. He was driving. I told him there were no hard feelings. He was being honest and I needed to do what was best for me. He asked some completely off topic irrelevant question, then said cops were behind him so he was putting the phone down and just hung up.

And that was that. Over a year of my time wasted. I knew I should have stayed to myself. I hadn't slept with someone in 3 1/2 years when I got with him. Just for this 😭

awwwww...


he is just keeping cool, mebs. Don't read into things too much. We truly have a one-track mind and I'm sure he cares for you because we don't like to waste time with nonesense. That is.. a scorp rather prefers to be alone than trying to convince you. 🙂

it is a lovely chemistry by the way...

Posted by FUMRedFairy_tales
awwwww...


he is just keeping cool, mebs. Don't read into things too much. We truly have a one-track mind and I'm sure he cares for you because we don't like to waste time with nonesense. That is.. a scorp rather prefers to be alone than trying to convince you. 🙂

it is a lovely chemistry by the way...

Fairy tale!

Your so funny because I never see you post on the scorp bored and every now and than you pop up over here lol

It's so nice because I really think you are one of the more understanding and kind scorpio's and you seem to really care for our sign 🙂

Posted by FUMRedFairy_tales
awwwww...


he is just keeping cool, mebs. Don't read into things too much. We truly have a one-track mind and I'm sure he cares for you because we don't like to waste time with nonesense. That is.. a scorp rather prefers to be alone than trying to convince you. 🙂

it is a lovely chemistry by the way...

Thanks...Lol that fire and water together. Whoa!

im happy you put your foot down. now you cant blame yourself for never speaking up. trust me, he is thinking about every word you uttered. its now up to him to change things, but you have to stick to your guns.

dont think of it as a year of your time wasted. now you know to speak up sooner than later.

relationships are like jobs. your first job, you didnt know squat. what salary to ask for, benefits,etc. but by the time you get to your 2nd and 3rd job, you know exactly what you want and demand it.

he will respect you more for speaking your mind.

i was telling this scorp the other day what i will and will not stand for. put your foot down ladies.

Posted by DMV
im happy you put your foot down. now you cant blame yourself for never speaking up. trust me, he is thinking about every word you uttered. its now up to him to change things, but you have to stick to your guns.

dont think of it as a year of your time wasted. now you know to speak up sooner than later.

relationships are like jobs. your first job, you didnt know squat. what salary to ask for, benefits,etc. but by the time you get to your 2nd and 3rd job, you know exactly what you want and demand it.

he will respect you more for speaking your mind.

Thank you. You're right girlie. It's gonna be what it's gonna be regardless. Dragging it out won't change things

So good for you for putting your feet down and I know it is so hard, like DMV said I wouldn't think of it as a year wasted just think of it as a learning experience that you can grow from. He is thinking about everything you said and he is going to realize his loss .......

Posted by scorpdiva
So good for you for putting your feet down and I know it is so hard, like DMV said I wouldn't think of it as a year wasted just think of it as a learning experience that you can grow from. He is thinking about everything you said and he is going to realize his loss .......

Thanks lady. It was hard. But I figured it would be harder to go through another year of me dealing with his carefree, lazy attitude. I really liked him a lot, but the only one who was consistently happy was him. And that is no good.

@Exo lol. You said from the jump I should kick his butt to the curb.

""" Oh that's too deep. I don't want to go there. Im very one track minded. Right now I'm thinking about buying a car and I can't think about anything else.". ""
LMFAO sorry but that sounds friggin hilarious to me.He was caught offgaurd and threw in a dash of humour.

You did the right thing mebs but from the looks of it , definitely aint over yet.Only a twist in the plot i feel. 🙂
A fixed water sign,he's processing all that has transpired .I suggest go by your instincts.Dont jump your horse as of yet cuz therein lies the complexity of his action.Give some more time if you feel there;s still something left

He follows you to the car explaining shit but was evasive eh..Hmnn.I concur with redfairytales views.I have similar views and I'm placing my money on the table he'll call you.Dont initiate contact from your side again.If he does call consider it as a confirmation on your part for not wasting a year with him.Its highly improbable he passed a year casually,so if he does get back ,rest assured he will make amends to all the aforementioned problems within.But it wont happen in an instant tho..I got a hunch he's gonna move his lazy azz around ,may snoop a lil to check out whether the 'out of the blue' outburst of complaints was premeditated indeed or if some other guy is after you, to quench his suspicions.lol.Deal with him in a straightforward manner and hold your ground when your right,dont give an inch.

Having said that lemme also add scorps are not the king of the world.We are human beings afterall and commit mistakes un/intentionally at times likw everyone .Dont cry over spilled milk .Keep your heart safe and comfy anyways is all i can say 🙂
Darn gemini moon 😢

@Piro So you Scorp/Gem moons find that crap funny huh? Lol. Please believe me when I tell you, your words were flying through my head like subtitles. I was ready to RAAAWWWRRR, but I was like, "No. Show through actions. Be cool show through actions.". LMAO. We both have a crazy sense of humor, but that one flew right over my head. I was livid! But now you're making me chuckle about it 😄

But thank you. And safe and comfy I shall try to keep my heart. I hit the gym with a vengence today! I'm going to just keep moving and see what happens.

Posted by bluebetty
It's not over, not by a long shot...😉

He'll be back.

Scorpios don't know how to express their feelings. They are no good at it, unless they have Airy placements. They can show you better than they can tell you. If he's spending time with you, if he's being faithful to you, if he listens to you...that speaks volumes. You've been together a year? Scorpios don't waste time either.

He's going to come back at you stronger than ever, because he realized he could lose you.

Then...he's going to get you back for hurting his feelings, because you did, inadvertently. Sensitive critters those Scorpios.

Thanks Bluebetty. You are so right about the sensitive part. While I was talking he said, "You have got some mouth on you Miss Thing.". I was like whatever. I know you're not complaining after trampling all over my feelings with your carelessness. But I guess that was his way of complaining. And hanging up on me like that, was a shot right back lol.

So today he calls, but I didn't answer in time. No message. I guess that's the first exploratory bite lol...

LOl!,present yourself as a challenge to him.As me and others pointed out,please dont budge ,not until all the demands are met. 🙂
Gemini moon's are wayward ,if not firm in your dealings(with regards to what you expect from him) ,we'll exploit every nook and corner to get oue way.As simple as that. 😢
Very selfish of us goddamn gemini moon i admit 😛 😛

I definitely hear ya loud and clear Piro. Thanks for the inside scoop on you Gem mooners. A smooth bunch you are 😉

what happened with this?

Posted by DMV
what happened with this?

I spoke to him briefly yesterday. He got busy with work and said he'd call back. Didn't. Then he apologized for not calling today. With sarcasm dripping from the corners of my mouth, I told him I understood since deciding between leather and velour is a heavy decision and I couldn't expect him to think of anything else. His work started up again, and he said he would call me back, but hasn't.

He's being a dick, because he knows this is my pet peeve and is going out of the way to irk me. I'm honestly fighting myself to not call him up, tell him he's a little bitch and to go fuck himself. But I won't. I'll probably hold out until tomorrow morning 😛 That smile in my face, stab me in the back bull just makes me want to get in his face. But I'm really going to try to control myself. Woosah!

maybe try knitting or cross-stitching. lol....

it is soooooo hard not to bring out the sarcasm. i dont know if u remember by the acorp i was talking about is a gem moon as well.

one thing i learned about gemini moons, they have alot of things going on at one time. like us saggis.

You're definitely right about that. He's got his hands in everything. This project, that idea, this idea. ADD having motherfucker 0_0
Lmao! Hmmm. I shouldve learned how to crochet from my Grandma.