What is this Sag mans motives?

We started talking online the end of last year and only met for the first time 3 weeks ago. We're in a friends with benefits.

After the first meet we were really keen to see each other again and i went over to his house after he asked me to, about a week ago. His attitude was very different and reserved, and neither of us had that much fun.

He said sorry to me a few nights later about his rude behaviour blaming it on work and his headspace...

Since then (its been a week) he hasn't really spoken to me much at all.

Why has this sag man suddenly become so reserved from me when he was begging to see me after the first time?

Should I believe him, or do you think this is just a cover up.

They are always excited in the discovery phase when you were out of reach. Once you become a real person that has the potential to a real relationship, you are perceived as a threat to his freedom. He is pulling away and plotting his exit strategy.

Posted by Sagsagsags
@firefis1996

Well, although I know what's going on, I'm a girl and Sag guys are like 120 degrees different from us. We only share 60 degrees similarity..

So, I suggest you read the love vs lust thread. I think @NobleSag made a few points there that I know are right coz I have a lot of Sag guy friends and geeeezzzzzzzz 100x nope ? They're the real MVPs ?

Is your name Charlie Green by any chance? Meow

@Sagsagsags

I'm a shark, deer. I'd eat the cat and then I'd eat HIM.......plenty to eat as well. You roast him, you'll have enough meat to feed an army for 6 months.

Posted by Illuminati
They are always excited in the discovery phase when you were out of reach. Once you become a real person that has the potential to a real relationship, you are perceived as a threat to his freedom. He is pulling away and plotting his exit strategy.

Yup, pretty much it's that. I love challenge, and I love to hunt...if I conquer easily some person, I get bored quickly, and do not feel motivated anymore. Yet, if it's hard for me to get that first date, I will persist...from time to time, I must get it if I want to. So yeah, we like to discover, and if there is not much going on about that person, then there is nothing more to explore, and there is no excitement...so we look for another challenge. And I contact many girls online that I like, so if I can pull five girls, I will do that. 🙂 All in all, if I feel that I am far superior in almost every way, my interest drops quickly.

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Posted by Illuminati
They are always excited in the discovery phase when you were out of reach. Once you become a real person that has the potential to a real relationship, you are perceived as a threat to his freedom. He is pulling away and plotting his exit strategy.

Yup, pretty much it's that. I love challenge, and I love to hunt...if I conquer easily some person, I get bored quickly, and do not feel motivated anymore. Yet, if it's hard for me to get that first date, I will persist...from time to time, I must get it if I want to. So yeah, we like to discover, and if there is not much going on about that person, then there is nothing more to explore, and there is no excitement...so we look for another challenge. And I contact many girls online that I like, so if I can pull five girls, I will do that. 🙂 All in all, if I feel that I am far superior in almost every way, my interest drops quickly.

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You are very honest and you totally express what most sag men do.

If a girl is hard to get you guys would try hard like bringing the meeting friends / family game early on and such. However once she reciprocate your effort by saying yes more often or start to initiate meetings you guys get bored too. Even if she is not inferior to you.

True, even then. We don't like when girl gets so turned on that she's calling and texting very often, and wants to see us often...damn. 2-3 per week is more than enough for us...I want time for myself, and my exploring, and personal development. 😄 I noticed that Libra girls can be very clingy, when they get so turned on by our presence, lol. I am attracted to them very much, but I don't like when they get clingy...Sag girls can be like that too. 😄

I cannot imagine myself caged, and to be only with one person...I just like to constantly discover and learn new things, and I like to meet many new girls. It's in our nature.

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Posted by Sagsagsags
@firefis1996

Well, although I know what's going on, I'm a girl and Sag guys are like 120 degrees different from us. We only share 60 degrees similarity..

So, I suggest you read the love vs lust thread. I think @NobleSag made a few points there that I know are right coz I have a lot of Sag guy friends and geeeezzzzzzzz 100x nope ? They're the real MVPs ?

Is your name Charlie Green by any chance? Meow

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It's the Internet. It can be whatever you want it to be hoss.

Posted by ozzzy
True, even then. We don't like when girl gets so turned on that she's calling and texting very often, and wants to see us often...damn. 2-3 per week is more than enough for us...I want time for myself, and my exploring, and personal development. 😄 I noticed that Libra girls can be very clingy, when they get so turned on by our presence, lol. I am attracted to them very much, but I don't like when they get clingy...Sag girls can be like that too. 😄

I cannot imagine myself caged, and to be only with one person...I just like to constantly discover and learn new things, and I like to meet many new girls. It's in our nature.

Out of curiosity. After you "escape" from a girl when she gets clingy or things start to settle down. You probably are expecting her to cling, 8; she simply let you go and doesn't even quest about your disappearance. Would you get back in touch as you would become curious about why isn't she clingy like I expected?

Posted by ozzzy
True, even then. We don't like when girl gets so turned on that she's calling and texting very often, and wants to see us often...damn. 2-3 per week is more than enough for us...I want time for myself, and my exploring, and personal development. 😄 I noticed that Libra girls can be very clingy, when they get so turned on by our presence, lol. I am attracted to them very much, but I don't like when they get clingy...Sag girls can be like that too. 😄

I cannot imagine myself caged, and to be only with one person...I just like to constantly discover and learn new things, and I like to meet many new girls. It's in our nature.

I'm Virgo Libra cusp. At first he wanted to see me everyday.. I couldn't make it and only sees him 2 days a week..

Not sure if this is what you define as clingy? he text a lot everyday and I was only replying to him.. until one day he is not responding so I sent another text. And I felt bad for saying no to him a lot, also after he admit he has STD (we never had real sex) I thought he could be feeling vulnerable so I initiate meet up. He happily accpeted and he gave me a book of his that he believed I would enjoy reading and also help me out in different area in my life.

he initiated 2 more dates. Then I initiated a 30 mins catch up on my birthday and he said he can't. I didn't say it's for my birthday but he does know it is that day.. I simply responded no problem, talk to you later.. then our communication stopped..

Posted by Sagsagsags
@Illuminati

Depends on the nature of the relationship that both of you had. If there were no feelings involved, people who arent clingy are a breath of fresh air and we're very happy you dont complicate things. And we'll return if we need a rebound or simply bored and too lazy to talk to anyone new.

But if there were feelings involved, we run because we freaked out as to why we feel this way and may return because reality finally hit us in our heart and head, not because we expected you to cling.

It takes us a long time to make sure of our feelings. long time...



What's ur sign?

I'm Virgo. I can't tell if there were feelings involved. He has introduced me to his friends. When I arrived he already had a few drinks. I asked did you miss me? He said yes.

Apart from that he never said anything mushy. He did act caring towards me though. He likes to give me playful insults but I know he respects me for my intelligence and achievements.

Posted by Sagsagsags
@Illuminati

Depends on the nature of the relationship that both of you had. If there were no feelings involved, people who arent clingy are a breath of fresh air and we're very happy you dont complicate things. And we'll return if we need a rebound or simply bored and too lazy to talk to anyone new.

But if there were feelings involved, we run because we freaked out as to why we feel this way and may return because reality finally hit us in our heart and head, not because we expected you to cling.

It takes us a long time to make sure of our feelings. long time...



What's ur sign?

im a pisces sun, virgo moon 🙂

Posted by firefis1996
We started talking online the end of last year and only met for the first time 3 weeks ago. We're in a friends with benefits.

After the first meet we were really keen to see each other again and i went over to his house after he asked me to, about a week ago. His attitude was very different and reserved, and neither of us had that much fun.

He said sorry to me a few nights later about his rude behaviour blaming it on work and his headspace...

Since then (its been a week) he hasn't really spoken to me much at all.

Why has this sag man suddenly become so reserved from me when he was begging to see me after the first time?

Should I believe him, or do you think this is just a cover up.

OP, I'm curious. When you met this man online...what were you're expectations? As in exactly what were you looking for? You said that you're in a FWB...exactly how do you expect to be treated? He treated you like a friend...nothing more. I'm not defending him or saying you're wrong but it appears you expect the same level of treatment as if he was trying to date you. Those two things don't mix.

Posted by ozzzy
True, even then. We don't like when girl gets so turned on that she's calling and texting very often, and wants to see us often...damn. 2-3 per week is more than enough for us...I want time for myself, and my exploring, and personal development. 😄 I noticed that Libra girls can be very clingy, when they get so turned on by our presence, lol. I am attracted to them very much, but I don't like when they get clingy...Sag girls can be like that too. 😄

I cannot imagine myself caged, and to be only with one person...I just like to constantly discover and learn new things, and I like to meet many new girls. It's in our nature.

i know a sag who is consistently in touch with some of his female friends. he constantly brings them up when talking with others. they are also most of them married. what does this mean? he does not seem to mind calling them or them calling him frequently, yet he has a hard time calling/talking with me (virgo). he is very social yet it feels like he sticks with his circle of female friends (taken or not) and is consistently in touch with them.