When will I be me again

Long story short: bad break up, failed college, moved home, endless job, depression for about 6 months. Learnt a lot about so called "friends" and pretty much isolated myself from the world

Finally moved to a new town, new start etc and I just haven't been able to cheer up back to my old self and it's so frustrating. It seems to be pretty much !down time" for a lot of the sag folk that I know. Things that used to excite me just don't anymore. Festivals, holidays, events that I've been to recently have felt so dull to me. Food doesn't taste the same any more and I'm struggling to smile and hold conversations with new people (this used to be a natural thing for me, I could make friends with a rock! )
I find myself sitting silently in a van full of my new team mates instead of interacting like I know I want to. Staying in bed instead of spending the night out. Not wanting to do my hair and make up most days.

What is going on with me !? I want to be my old bubbly and fun self again 😭

Posted by dontgetmewrong
Snap out of it. (Smack)

Funny.. there was a zodiac book that recommended this exact thing. I was concerned... but now i understand

Focus on facing your problems, not running away. Get a hobby. Consider going back to school. Just think about what you want and what makes you happy and do that.

Posted by TheShire
Focus on facing your problems, not running away. Get a hobby. Consider going back to school. Just think about what you want and what makes you happy and do that.

I've decided to do so but I'm not sure on how to. I've now moved on from them. I'm keeping myself busy but joining a new sports team, I'm at a new university and I'm working towards the career and the life that I want,but I feel as though I'm constantly being overshadowed by this dark cloud of depression. I've even stopped drinking which I personally believe lead to mos of my dark times.

I feel as though I'm just waiting for the dark times to move over.

Posted by Weeds

Posted by dontgetmewrong
Snap out of it. (Smack)

Funny.. there was a zodiac book that recommended this exact thing. I was concerned... but now i understand

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Yeah I thought I could snap out of it but that too isn't working

Posted by Weeds

Posted by dontgetmewrong
Snap out of it. (Smack)

Funny.. there was a zodiac book that recommended this exact thing. I was concerned... but now i understand

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what is this a world without dgm? she should come back asap. (even if I'll be aloof. I mean maybe)

Posted by DwellingOnMove

Posted by Weeds

Posted by dontgetmewrong
Snap out of it. (Smack)

Funny.. there was a zodiac book that recommended this exact thing. I was concerned... but now i understand

what is this a world without dgm? she should come back asap. (even if I'll be aloof. I mean maybe)

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She is far more smarter then the rest of us by leaving.

You're not alone ..

Awww Come on, Cheer up!!

Start doing something that makes you really happy and stop thinking too much those problems are just temporary.

Posted by bnr7013
I thought I was typing all of that for a second...

I quit drinking too and I find myself constantly saying 'I wish I could get my fun bubbly personality' back A LOT. Pretty sure I slept for like a year straight. I don't have the answer for you but what I've been doing is traveling a lot....and trying to do new things that I've never thought about (building a bike, hiking, etc.) It's not a cure but it helps take my mind away from things. I am in the middle of moving to a new city and getting a new job myself - I hope it helps to have a new start.

I know that feeling! I did a lot of sleeping over the past few years to stop my mind from racing. Sometimes I think I did more damage than good but it's all I could think of to do to stop my mind from racing.
I tried travelling but it brought me more problems (financially) and I just couldn't enjoy myself
You're right, all these new things are taking my mind off things but I look back at pictures and my old life and I just feel so sad. Smiling and being me. I'm scared I'll never be the same old me and I don't know if this is a good or a bad thing.

Posted by risesafterall
You're not alone ..

Talk to me. It's good to know we are not alone in this. Who else do we have apart from each other.

Posted by Nathan912
Awww Come on, Cheer up!!

Start doing something that makes you really happy and stop thinking too much those problems are just temporary.

Nothing makes me happy anymore and that's the scariest part

Trust me! There's plenty of things that will make you happy. Maybe volunteer to some group similar to "Hope For Paws" you know the one who save abandoned animals in the street.

C'mon use your Sag optimistic nature lol

You might also be going through a quarter-life crisis. I know lots of people who went through a funk at that age. You don't see many people older than 25 who still act like kids or teens... I'd call it "emotional growing pains" and you'll feel ok when it's over.

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@op how old are you?

They say about every 7 years all your old cells have died and been replaced with new, so technically speaking you are never really the same you very long. I guess just make the best of the new you, and improvise it the best you can into the old from memory.

OP your optimism & vitality has been compromised over those unfortunate events. The negative feelings are a reflection of your mental state, which is unhealthy now. If you continue that, you might fell ill. Many people hae this syndrome in the city but really the only one who can help you is yourself. Have to readjust your mentality back to normal, we all experience negative things in life but we have to move on. You will be a stronger person after all that 🙂

Posted by Sagg101

Posted by bnr7013
I thought I was typing all of that for a second...

I quit drinking too and I find myself constantly saying 'I wish I could get my fun bubbly personality' back A LOT. Pretty sure I slept for like a year straight. I don't have the answer for you but what I've been doing is traveling a lot....and trying to do new things that I've never thought about (building a bike, hiking, etc.) It's not a cure but it helps take my mind away from things. I am in the middle of moving to a new city and getting a new job myself - I hope it helps to have a new start.

I know that feeling! I did a lot of sleeping over the past few years to stop my mind from racing. Sometimes I think I did more damage than good but it's all I could think of to do to stop my mind from racing.
I tried travelling but it brought me more problems (financially) and I just couldn't enjoy myself
You're right, all these new things are taking my mind off things but I look back at pictures and my old life and I just feel so sad. Smiling and being me. I'm scared I'll never be the same old me and I don't know if this is a good or a bad thing.

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Because you aren't The Same Old You, anymore.

You need to reassess and find out who you are, in light

of what you've gone through.

It's going to make you bitter or sweeter... whichever it is,

is your choice, but it's clearly time to move on and stop

trying to recapture what was essentially, your childhood.


🙂

I went through a similar situation before and it took me forever to snap out of it. What i realize now is that distracting yourself, isn't dealing with the problem. Getting all these hobbies and throwing yourself into a different environment is just a temporary solution. What really worked was being real with myself and coming face to face with my own demons. Learning to forgive myself for what i did and learning that i am worthy of love. That means spending time with myself to think about the situation. Give yourself enough time to grieve about it. Understand your flaws and your strength. Learning what you want out of this life. Truly love yourself.

I can't say that I returned back to my happy/bubbly Sag self. I don't think i ever could. But i am wiser and I know a different kind of happiness (peace with myself).

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ this is a good compilation. I co-sign.