yamilette7410
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Where my male Sagittarius at doe?
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By saying texting "continuously" I meant there hasn't been a break in conversation since we started talking on Saturday.
I did stop texting him, hence my use of "LAST TIME I TEXTED HIM".
I just imagine if I liked someone I would want to talk to them frequently and no way in hell would I leave them hanging without an explanation. If he wants space I don't care, I told him if he needed space then it was fine but to TELL ME.
I'm a university student trying to get to medical school, and what are you doing? I have a life, didn't realize being worried about a guy meant I didn't have one.
If the boy is bored I need to find another boy, tbh I have two boys WAITING to take his place.
No idea why you gotta be so rude when I'm just asking a damn question about a sign I've never dealt with before, goddamn.
I did stop texting him, hence my use of "LAST TIME I TEXTED HIM".
I just imagine if I liked someone I would want to talk to them frequently and no way in hell would I leave them hanging without an explanation. If he wants space I don't care, I told him if he needed space then it was fine but to TELL ME.
I'm a university student trying to get to medical school, and what are you doing? I have a life, didn't realize being worried about a guy meant I didn't have one.
If the boy is bored I need to find another boy, tbh I have two boys WAITING to take his place.
No idea why you gotta be so rude when I'm just asking a damn question about a sign I've never dealt with before, goddamn.
I didn't realize that double-texting cause I hadn't heard from him and was worried if he was, I don't know, physically SAFE or OKAY was chasing him...I swear water and earth do not do this stupid ass "space" thing. I'm thisclose to just dropping him completely. Absolutely NO REASON to leave someone hanging when you're working on building a relationship with them. I'm pissed.
I have been staying busy. I am gonna wait and let him contact me, but if what he is doing signifies that he isn't interested anymore or is fucking around/playing me, I would like to keep the line moving. THAT'S WHAT MY ACTUAL QUESTION IS ABOUT. I do not need to waste my time with people who disappear without an explanation and expect to come back like everything is fine. In my book, that's disrespectful. All he had to do was say "Imma do me for a minute." Okay boo, DO YOUR THING. As long as he comes back to me, he can do whatever he wants as long as he stays loyal.
The poor guy? There are plenty of other guys WISHING I texted them back frequently. He don't have to be with me if he don't want to, but I'm finna tell him to get lost when he comes back.
I have been staying busy. I am gonna wait and let him contact me, but if what he is doing signifies that he isn't interested anymore or is fucking around/playing me, I would like to keep the line moving. THAT'S WHAT MY ACTUAL QUESTION IS ABOUT. I do not need to waste my time with people who disappear without an explanation and expect to come back like everything is fine. In my book, that's disrespectful. All he had to do was say "Imma do me for a minute." Okay boo, DO YOUR THING. As long as he comes back to me, he can do whatever he wants as long as he stays loyal.
The poor guy? There are plenty of other guys WISHING I texted them back frequently. He don't have to be with me if he don't want to, but I'm finna tell him to get lost when he comes back.
24 hours of no response doesnt mean anything come back when it's been atleast 6 weeks
Let me be clear AGAIN so you can understand me.
First off, his Venus is in Scorpio and his moon is in Cancer, so indeed he SHOULD be pretty clingy in return. And again, by "TEXTING CONTINUOUSLY", I meant he initiated conversation last Saturday and we had been texting back and forth since up until yesterday/today. I am not "constantly leading" because he initiated the conversation and it had been ongoing since! My Venus is in Scorpio and I am a Scorpio. I BLEED Scorpio. No apologies for a dominant nature.
I am giving him the damn chance, LIKE MY POST SAID, I haven't texted him since around midnight LAST NIGHT. I've left him the hell alone. And you bet I'm insecure. We've been talking for maybe a month now, and no we're not exclusive right now, so hell no I don't trust him. But I'm gonna feel VERY disrespected if he's gonna treat me like we're going to build something TOGETHER and then skip out. It's not polite to lead someone on. It'll be a cold day in hell before I open up to someone for them to screw me over.
First off, his Venus is in Scorpio and his moon is in Cancer, so indeed he SHOULD be pretty clingy in return. And again, by "TEXTING CONTINUOUSLY", I meant he initiated conversation last Saturday and we had been texting back and forth since up until yesterday/today. I am not "constantly leading" because he initiated the conversation and it had been ongoing since! My Venus is in Scorpio and I am a Scorpio. I BLEED Scorpio. No apologies for a dominant nature.
I am giving him the damn chance, LIKE MY POST SAID, I haven't texted him since around midnight LAST NIGHT. I've left him the hell alone. And you bet I'm insecure. We've been talking for maybe a month now, and no we're not exclusive right now, so hell no I don't trust him. But I'm gonna feel VERY disrespected if he's gonna treat me like we're going to build something TOGETHER and then skip out. It's not polite to lead someone on. It'll be a cold day in hell before I open up to someone for them to screw me over.
This isn't about being controlling, this is about I'm not gonna wait around like a fucking fool for him to go flirt with a bunch of whores and then come back to me. I do not want to give this boy the impression that I'm gonna wait around for him while he can go do whatever he wants. Just went through that with a Gemini, not gonna do it again. Maybe you're right, I should stick to Scorpio or Cancer.
They're not fucking targets. They're people who have the decency to text me daily because they like me and are interested in me and want to know about my day and how I am doing and want to build a relationship with me. There's no manipulation involved here, they genuinely like me. Wrong assumption to make.
At a sun sign level it's a bad match but the other planets indicate things should be fine. But I'm about to take your advice and break things off completely because I can't do this.
They're not fucking targets. They're people who have the decency to text me daily because they like me and are interested in me and want to know about my day and how I am doing and want to build a relationship with me. There's no manipulation involved here, they genuinely like me. Wrong assumption to make.
At a sun sign level it's a bad match but the other planets indicate things should be fine. But I'm about to take your advice and break things off completely because I can't do this.
I really don't suspect it to be games, we both know we like each other. Option 1 is seeming more and more likely.
I had been down lately because finals really stressed me out, I was leaning on him for support a little bit, so I haven't been all happy-go-lucky lately. But I'm not about to text him for the fourth time.
I had been down lately because finals really stressed me out, I was leaning on him for support a little bit, so I haven't been all happy-go-lucky lately. But I'm not about to text him for the fourth time.
Jesus. Your impatience is going to be your undoing. Remember this? You wrote it not too long ago:
You just got back to a good place right? You state you are talking as friends, so how has this leaped to having all of these demands and expectations? He's going to be slow to move because of the stuff that went down. Especially with that water Moon and Venus. Be patient as you claimed you would be, unless that was just lip service.
Also, stop letting the Bull rile you up. You get set off so easily. I can see that backfiring if you don't learn to manage it better and not let people's bs roll off your back. Especially when it has little to do with what is actually happening in your relationship(s). You're going to channel it and direct it towards the wrong person. In this case, the Sag. Give him space. When he comes back around, don't come at him guns blazing like he owes you something. You are friends (or so your last post in your other thread stated), so he doesn't owe you much at this stage. Simply check in and find out what's going on. Not in a demanding way, but a simple "I want to make sure we're on the same page and I don't want to crowd you" sort of way. You know, actually talk with the man. Not at him. His answer will tell you how to move.
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I got a text from him this morning...And we've been talking like friends since. I'm so relieved. and have definitely learned my lesson.
Gonna take this slow as molasses and really build something strong and solid here......
You just got back to a good place right? You state you are talking as friends, so how has this leaped to having all of these demands and expectations? He's going to be slow to move because of the stuff that went down. Especially with that water Moon and Venus. Be patient as you claimed you would be, unless that was just lip service.
Also, stop letting the Bull rile you up. You get set off so easily. I can see that backfiring if you don't learn to manage it better and not let people's bs roll off your back. Especially when it has little to do with what is actually happening in your relationship(s). You're going to channel it and direct it towards the wrong person. In this case, the Sag. Give him space. When he comes back around, don't come at him guns blazing like he owes you something. You are friends (or so your last post in your other thread stated), so he doesn't owe you much at this stage. Simply check in and find out what's going on. Not in a demanding way, but a simple "I want to make sure we're on the same page and I don't want to crowd you" sort of way. You know, actually talk with the man. Not at him. His answer will tell you how to move.
I know, I know. I calmed down a bit after some time had passed. I learned my lesson about what I did, of course. And I was good with taking it slow, but I felt like he had brought it back up to speed. He was flirting with me heavy in a sexual way, and he was back to asking the random questions and everything!
And then POOF.
I guess you do have a good point, that friends can ask friends to hangout and stuff. I guess I just assumed since he asked me to hang out when he moved back home that he wasn't just gonna stop texting me randomly out of the blue.
And then POOF.
I guess you do have a good point, that friends can ask friends to hangout and stuff. I guess I just assumed since he asked me to hang out when he moved back home that he wasn't just gonna stop texting me randomly out of the blue.
I just worry cause laat time there was a valid reason, I screwed up, that's on me. But disappearing without a reason has me worried. My thoughts are following the line of if he's not talking to me, who is he talking to? I can't confirm whether or not he's on Tinder still, though the other day I asked him and he said that he swipes when he's high but other than that, he doesn't use it.
Thanks for your advice. It's been proven true and has helped me a lot. But I'm not sure how I would bring that up to him without sounding like this, you know?
Thanks for your advice. It's been proven true and has helped me a lot. But I'm not sure how I would bring that up to him without sounding like this, you know?
Well, keep in mind I haven't experienced Sags the way some post about. I don't see the disappearing act---if we can even call it that. If you step back and try to take your emotions out of it, his response reflects your status. Friendship. Hell my friends are lucky if I remember to text them back the same week. You're excited that he's engaging you again, but that doesn't mean you're back to where you were so work from there.
Overall, Sags are easy going, playful. When they have Scorp bits they are a bit more sensitive, moody and intense (e.g. heavy texting for days then nadda). With that water I'm not surprise he has disappeared, which may not (and probably doesn't) have anything to do with you. As a Scorp and his friend try not to personalize his behaviour. We tend to be guilty of that.
As for the convo, you're a Scorp. Learn how to feel out the situations. You can't do that through text, so seriously try to reduce that and try to increase your face to face time. None of the Sags I know do well with texting so I don't even bother unless it's to make plans. Period. They are face to face people. As a Scorp that works in your favour because you can get a sense of how he's feeling you.
Find some time after your finals to do something fun and easy going. Don't force it though. When you're together you bring it up if and when the situation allows for it and in a way a Sag can hear and appreciate. It's all about timing when it comes to communication. I've learned a long time ago to patiently wait for the right time to address something. Even if it takes weeks. Wrong time, wrong results. A good balance of sarcasm, playfulness while being direct when a Sag opens the door works for me. Intensity and being forceful on my terms does not.
Give the fact that you are friends and he stated he couldn't be in anything serious at the moment, you can't come at this from a "are we back together?" approach. Just genuine concern about how he's feeling and take it from there.
Overall, Sags are easy going, playful. When they have Scorp bits they are a bit more sensitive, moody and intense (e.g. heavy texting for days then nadda). With that water I'm not surprise he has disappeared, which may not (and probably doesn't) have anything to do with you. As a Scorp and his friend try not to personalize his behaviour. We tend to be guilty of that.
As for the convo, you're a Scorp. Learn how to feel out the situations. You can't do that through text, so seriously try to reduce that and try to increase your face to face time. None of the Sags I know do well with texting so I don't even bother unless it's to make plans. Period. They are face to face people. As a Scorp that works in your favour because you can get a sense of how he's feeling you.
Find some time after your finals to do something fun and easy going. Don't force it though. When you're together you bring it up if and when the situation allows for it and in a way a Sag can hear and appreciate. It's all about timing when it comes to communication. I've learned a long time ago to patiently wait for the right time to address something. Even if it takes weeks. Wrong time, wrong results. A good balance of sarcasm, playfulness while being direct when a Sag opens the door works for me. Intensity and being forceful on my terms does not.
Give the fact that you are friends and he stated he couldn't be in anything serious at the moment, you can't come at this from a "are we back together?" approach. Just genuine concern about how he's feeling and take it from there.
Btw, I'm not trying to get on your case about being impatient. I've just learned that things went a lot easier for me when I developed that area of my life. You'll find your way at some point. Right now you're all about acting out your insecurities, propping up that ego and instant gratification. Been there. Still going through it at times 🙂.
Good luck 🙂.
Good luck 🙂.
you gotta slow down Scorp Moon. I 2 get very impatient when i want someone to act a certain way because any deviation makes me feel insecure. But, you cant control people. You can only control yourself.
Phoenix is right, when he comes back around dont act pissed off like he owes you something because he doesnt.
I will say that i stopped seeing a sag because i felt like he was playing games and i couldnt handle him what it seemed like, him popping in and out. I eventually had to call it quits because i started coming across as a clingy nag and it was making me real insecure.
Phoenix is right, when he comes back around dont act pissed off like he owes you something because he doesnt.
I will say that i stopped seeing a sag because i felt like he was playing games and i couldnt handle him what it seemed like, him popping in and out. I eventually had to call it quits because i started coming across as a clingy nag and it was making me real insecure.
When PR wrote this - "None of the Sags I know do well with texting so I don't even bother unless it's to make plans. Period. They are face to face people. As a Scorp that works in your favour because you can get a sense of how he's feeling you."
It definitely rang through. The one I'm currently speaking with/gone out with is a horrible texter. He even tells me that he texts because he knows I like texting and that's about it. His preference is to talk on the phone all day or night so he can deduce emotion and intention etc. (or hang out but that's new with us).
It definitely rang through. The one I'm currently speaking with/gone out with is a horrible texter. He even tells me that he texts because he knows I like texting and that's about it. His preference is to talk on the phone all day or night so he can deduce emotion and intention etc. (or hang out but that's new with us).
HoneyDip, I haven't texted him since 12:17AM Thursday morning, and I plan to keep it that way. I really tend to lean on who I'm dating for emotional support and I have an anxiety disorder. This is actually really aggravating my disorder, but switching boys won't necessarily fix the problem. No less, the disappearing act hits my mental health hard each time he does it. I don't expect him to know how hard it hits me because it's hard to relate about something you've never been through, but I might have to break this off for the sake of my health if this becomes a pattern. A Gemini ripped me to shreds and wrecked me this way, and I can't afford to go through it again.
Phoenix, your points are most definitely valid. I just feel like I've been teased, for him to go back to texting me and flirting with me and asking to spend time with me again, and then he's gone. The only thing I can chalk up to his disappearance is him moving out of the dorms and going back home, but he always found time to text me, even when he was out with friends, which is why I'm alarmed about the silence. I'm going to try really hard to not personalize it, but each time he does this I find myself less and less willing to be open and vulnerable with him because I'm not gonna trust him to stay. I'm at the point where I'm not even sure that if he asked me to be his girlfriend, I would accept. I may mention if/when he does come back that I don't want to text anymore except to set up meetups and such, so I can feel it out. My sixth sense is fairly developed already. My finals are now over, and his ended before mine. Since he offered to ask me to hangout when he moves home, I'll let him initiate.
Something just clicked. He told me a while ago..."I could tell you more about how I'm feeling and what's going on inside but I'd say it in person. I don't really share my feelings often..." Sounds like Sag+water bits, like you said. And no, it's fine! Please be on my case. I really respect older Scorp wisdom, reminds me all the growing pains aren't pointless. Thanks for you advice, means the world.
Phoenix, your points are most definitely valid. I just feel like I've been teased, for him to go back to texting me and flirting with me and asking to spend time with me again, and then he's gone. The only thing I can chalk up to his disappearance is him moving out of the dorms and going back home, but he always found time to text me, even when he was out with friends, which is why I'm alarmed about the silence. I'm going to try really hard to not personalize it, but each time he does this I find myself less and less willing to be open and vulnerable with him because I'm not gonna trust him to stay. I'm at the point where I'm not even sure that if he asked me to be his girlfriend, I would accept. I may mention if/when he does come back that I don't want to text anymore except to set up meetups and such, so I can feel it out. My sixth sense is fairly developed already. My finals are now over, and his ended before mine. Since he offered to ask me to hangout when he moves home, I'll let him initiate.
Something just clicked. He told me a while ago..."I could tell you more about how I'm feeling and what's going on inside but I'd say it in person. I don't really share my feelings often..." Sounds like Sag+water bits, like you said. And no, it's fine! Please be on my case. I really respect older Scorp wisdom, reminds me all the growing pains aren't pointless. Thanks for you advice, means the world.
DMV, again, definitely a valid point. I found out I'm Pisces moon, but with Scorpio in Sun and Venus I'm basically bleeding Scorpio, same difference. I'm debating when he comes back around, ignoring his first text (unless it requires an answer) to a)prove I'm not waiting around for him and b)create this chase that Sags seems to need. But I also don't want to seem bitchy or make him think I'm giving him the silent treatment because to me that seems immature. I'm not sure what my first move should be, but you're right, he owes me nothing right now. I may end up doing the same if this is/will become a regular thing.
trashedbliss, I'm considering telling him if/when he comes back around that I only want to text to set up and confirm plans. It used to take him anywhere from 1-6 hours to reply to my texts as it was anyways. I'm not sure this boy is a phone call person.
dontgetmewrong, I'm taking her advice word for word, as I have done before. I'm trying to avoid being possessive but I'm a full-fledged Scorp and it's hard for me not to be. I'm gonna leave him be until he reaches out, but I'm thinking anything past dating, if this proves to be continuous, will be short-lived. I struggle with trusting as it is, and I'm trying to grow and be better about it, but it's difficult for me. I would be fine letting him do his thing if I knew he would behave himself and return to me, but I can't ever have that guarantee with anybody...It's tough.
trashedbliss, I'm considering telling him if/when he comes back around that I only want to text to set up and confirm plans. It used to take him anywhere from 1-6 hours to reply to my texts as it was anyways. I'm not sure this boy is a phone call person.
dontgetmewrong, I'm taking her advice word for word, as I have done before. I'm trying to avoid being possessive but I'm a full-fledged Scorp and it's hard for me not to be. I'm gonna leave him be until he reaches out, but I'm thinking anything past dating, if this proves to be continuous, will be short-lived. I struggle with trusting as it is, and I'm trying to grow and be better about it, but it's difficult for me. I would be fine letting him do his thing if I knew he would behave himself and return to me, but I can't ever have that guarantee with anybody...It's tough.
100% correct. People make time for what they want.
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DMV, again, definitely a valid point. I found out I'm Pisces moon, but with Scorpio in Sun and Venus I'm basically bleeding Scorpio, same difference. I'm debating when he comes back around, ignoring his first text (unless it requires an answer) to a)prove I'm not waiting around for him and b)create this chase that Sags seems to need. But I also don't want to seem bitchy or make him think I'm giving him the silent treatment because to me that seems immature. I'm not sure what my first move should be, but you're right, he owes me nothing right now. I may end up doing the same if this is/will become a regular fling.
yeah after daily calling and texting, I didnt hear a peep out of him for almost 2 weeks. I broke the silence and I asked him about it. He gave me a laundry list of excuses. I wasnt convinced. I eventually ended whatever it was like a few days later.
I just dont think he was interested.
Bumping this because of new developments:
I recently got two tickets to the symphony, and so I decided to use this opportunity to gauge where he was.
I asked him if he liked the symphony, and he said he had never been and asked me why I asked that question. I told him I got tickets for Saturday at 8PM and was trying to see which friends might be interested in going. He replied and said he was sorry, but one of his buddies was having a get together on Saturday night and he said he would go and he can't bail because he did last time, but thanks anyways.
I am very compelled to cut my losses, especially since there were no emojis or no initiation of further conversation on his end, i.e. still not having spoken to me/I had to reach out + rejection of invite = I think I'm just going to let it go.
I deleted his number from my contacts so that I won't reach out to him again if I'm lonely. I'm just still irritated that I don't have an explanation for why he fell off so suddenly and why he even bothered to come back into my life if he was going to just leave again.
Thanks everyone for the advice, I appreciate it.
I recently got two tickets to the symphony, and so I decided to use this opportunity to gauge where he was.
I asked him if he liked the symphony, and he said he had never been and asked me why I asked that question. I told him I got tickets for Saturday at 8PM and was trying to see which friends might be interested in going. He replied and said he was sorry, but one of his buddies was having a get together on Saturday night and he said he would go and he can't bail because he did last time, but thanks anyways.
I am very compelled to cut my losses, especially since there were no emojis or no initiation of further conversation on his end, i.e. still not having spoken to me/I had to reach out + rejection of invite = I think I'm just going to let it go.
I deleted his number from my contacts so that I won't reach out to him again if I'm lonely. I'm just still irritated that I don't have an explanation for why he fell off so suddenly and why he even bothered to come back into my life if he was going to just leave again.
Thanks everyone for the advice, I appreciate it.
Ahh, secondary thoughts.
Unless any Sags out there know how I can phrase something to where I ask him what's been going on/propose another type of meetup to get an answer. When he stopped speaking to me the first time, he did promise me that he would let me know if he moved on, and I want him to keep his promises to me so I'm not sitting around waiting for him to text me, which I know is repelling to Sags. I have been going on dates with Scorp, Virgo, Cap, but I don't want to be hung up on this Sag if he's not worried in the slightest about me/what I've been doing/who I'm dating. I really fell for this guy and it's so stressful.
Unless any Sags out there know how I can phrase something to where I ask him what's been going on/propose another type of meetup to get an answer. When he stopped speaking to me the first time, he did promise me that he would let me know if he moved on, and I want him to keep his promises to me so I'm not sitting around waiting for him to text me, which I know is repelling to Sags. I have been going on dates with Scorp, Virgo, Cap, but I don't want to be hung up on this Sag if he's not worried in the slightest about me/what I've been doing/who I'm dating. I really fell for this guy and it's so stressful.
Always be aware of the sagittarian flight risk
In all respect yamilette
I think you need to let go of the expectations you have of him.. youd be a whole lot more mellow if you did.
Treat him as he treats you a friend... not as someone who will declare his undieing love for you any minute.. if you cant do that then yes separate from him completely.
I think you need to let go of the expectations you have of him.. youd be a whole lot more mellow if you did.
Treat him as he treats you a friend... not as someone who will declare his undieing love for you any minute.. if you cant do that then yes separate from him completely.
What Weeds said. You need to relax.
He already had plans. You have to let him lead. You wont be telling him what to do and how to act anytime soon.
Maybe you need to just go your seperate ways.
He already had plans. You have to let him lead. You wont be telling him what to do and how to act anytime soon.
Maybe you need to just go your seperate ways.
You dont need no mans permission to move on.
Be like a train and keep it moving. Trains dont wait for people.
Be like a train and keep it moving. Trains dont wait for people.
Weeds, I am letting go of the expectations. I was ruminating on the situation and came to realize two things.
1) Him and his ex currently live in the same town (for the summer, we all attend the same university), so there could very easily be something going on between them since they're both home now, although I have read and heard that once a Sag moves forward they do not look back.
2) After spending a year and a half (out of the two years total of university) with this girl and meeting all his friends through her (he and his ex share 99.9999% of friends) and also losing his v-card to her, I really am asking a lot for a Sag, much less a male one, to jump right back into something. I feel as though I may hear from him when he is done exercising his freedom muscle (both socially and sexually), he seemed to value me greatly. No less, I don't want him to think I'm sitting around and waiting for him, or that he can do as he pleases with other women and then return to me because he knows that I'm here. Thus, your flight risk argument makes perfect sense. I may have been too intense when we started talking again, possibly causing him to realize he wasn't ready to stop having fun yet. It could potentially explain why he fell off mid-conversation as well, even though what we were talking about wasn't too heavy. Someone else who was happier/bubbly/more fun at the time might have stolen his attention.
1) Him and his ex currently live in the same town (for the summer, we all attend the same university), so there could very easily be something going on between them since they're both home now, although I have read and heard that once a Sag moves forward they do not look back.
2) After spending a year and a half (out of the two years total of university) with this girl and meeting all his friends through her (he and his ex share 99.9999% of friends) and also losing his v-card to her, I really am asking a lot for a Sag, much less a male one, to jump right back into something. I feel as though I may hear from him when he is done exercising his freedom muscle (both socially and sexually), he seemed to value me greatly. No less, I don't want him to think I'm sitting around and waiting for him, or that he can do as he pleases with other women and then return to me because he knows that I'm here. Thus, your flight risk argument makes perfect sense. I may have been too intense when we started talking again, possibly causing him to realize he wasn't ready to stop having fun yet. It could potentially explain why he fell off mid-conversation as well, even though what we were talking about wasn't too heavy. Someone else who was happier/bubbly/more fun at the time might have stolen his attention.
DMV, I'm considering it, but I worry he might rope me right back in if he texts me again, although the if is big.
If I hear from him again, on his own time, of his own doing, I will bump this thread again.
If I hear from him again, on his own time, of his own doing, I will bump this thread again.
dontgetmewrong, I just said "Okay, no worries!"
And the conversation ended there.
And the conversation ended there.
Eeeh the whole ex thing and sags can get iffy..
if the sag ends it they are pretty much over that hill but if the ex ended it they might come back in a year or two. now that doesnt mean they cant still be friends.
just go with the flow dont over think the situation because its not a situation yet its just your imagination.
something you have to really understand is you cant keep a sag locked in a cage all to yourself. They always want to be out and about sometimes with you sometimes without you. Does that mean they dont care or are done with you? No it means that they need time to do there own thing. When they are done theyll remember to come back. Some cant handle a flighty sag and need a more home body type of person where you always know where they are at and that may bring more comfort.. something to consider.
if the sag ends it they are pretty much over that hill but if the ex ended it they might come back in a year or two. now that doesnt mean they cant still be friends.
just go with the flow dont over think the situation because its not a situation yet its just your imagination.
something you have to really understand is you cant keep a sag locked in a cage all to yourself. They always want to be out and about sometimes with you sometimes without you. Does that mean they dont care or are done with you? No it means that they need time to do there own thing. When they are done theyll remember to come back. Some cant handle a flighty sag and need a more home body type of person where you always know where they are at and that may bring more comfort.. something to consider.
Lol yes ive had my share of experience
Posted by dontgetmewrong
Seems like Weeds has had some experience with Sags..
You know I always use to think sags would make excellent marriage partners if they weren't so flighty.
if you could just find one that was homey or atleast had the whole flight risk under control they would be perfect... i still think that.
if you could just find one that was homey or atleast had the whole flight risk under control they would be perfect... i still think that.
Where's your Mars yami? I'm going to guess it's a fire sign. Ram or Sag perhaps.
er mind....I don't go looking for info because frankly I don't are enough. I did happen to come across this while reading another thread though:
Sag board:
Posted by yamilette7410
Context: I, the OP, scorpio sun, scorpio moon, sagittarius venus. He is sagittarius sun, cancer moon, scorpio venus. I can do more natal/synastry if needed.
Scorp board:
Posted by yamilette7410
I'm Scorp Sun, Pisces Moon, Libra Mercury, Scorp Venus, Sag Mars, Cap Ascendant
click to expand
Which is it?
*care
Weeds, he said she broke up with him. He was caught off guard by it, but he always told me he was over her but not the relationship. The only response they gave either privately or publicly was "It just wasn't working out." His ex even said that she loved him with all his heart. I'm trying to avoid overthinking it, but I'm trying to make sure I know all the angles of the situation, regardless of the outcome of all of this.
He really seems like such an amazing guy, but damn this flightiness is so frustrating! And as I go on dates with other guys, I'm forgetting about him more and more the longer he stays away.
He really seems like such an amazing guy, but damn this flightiness is so frustrating! And as I go on dates with other guys, I'm forgetting about him more and more the longer he stays away.
OP, i have nothing against women dating as many men as they'd like. But, like with me, you cant get mad when your roster wants to do other things or other people.
A scorpio man will not claim you if u are courting other suitors. Same for homeboy on this thread. You really think they dont know you are messing around?
You can't go around being pissed off because your ego boost is busy.
Dating is dating.
A scorpio man will not claim you if u are courting other suitors. Same for homeboy on this thread. You really think they dont know you are messing around?
You can't go around being pissed off because your ego boost is busy.
Dating is dating.
*Like with men
*loved him with all her heart.
PhoenixRisisng, the synastry I used in the original post of this thread was incorrect. The one from the Scorpio board is right, and I corrected myself in this thread as well. My Mars is in Sag.
PhoenixRisisng, the synastry I used in the original post of this thread was incorrect. The one from the Scorpio board is right, and I corrected myself in this thread as well. My Mars is in Sag.
DMV, the Sag most likely does not know that I'm dating other people. Last he spoke to me, he was still under the impression that I wanted to be his girlfriend at some point.
The Scorp from the other thread may have a suspicion that I'm dating other people. No less, whenever something comes up for us to spend time together, he's the first guy I invite. I invited the Scorp to the symphony, but he had to work. He did ask me if I was going to go anyways, and I said I was. He asked me how it was the next day, I said it was great, but I didn't imply I went with another guy.
The Scorp from the other thread may have a suspicion that I'm dating other people. No less, whenever something comes up for us to spend time together, he's the first guy I invite. I invited the Scorp to the symphony, but he had to work. He did ask me if I was going to go anyways, and I said I was. He asked me how it was the next day, I said it was great, but I didn't imply I went with another guy.
Lol. Gurl.
Your missing the point. You madam are not built for cuban linxs. Scorpios dont do casual sex.
You cant "my" every dude. You get attached and your level of expectations go through the roof. And you find yourself in a mess.
Ya know?
Your missing the point. You madam are not built for cuban linxs. Scorpios dont do casual sex.
You cant "my" every dude. You get attached and your level of expectations go through the roof. And you find yourself in a mess.
Ya know?
They both have Scorpio bits; they know
DMV, so then what is the solution? Drop one or the other, leave them both alone? How do I move forward from this?
To be fair, sex with the Sag was much better than the sex with the Scorp, but the Scorp is treating me the way I want to be treated.
To be fair, sex with the Sag was much better than the sex with the Scorp, but the Scorp is treating me the way I want to be treated.
Posted by DMV
OP, i have nothing against women dating as many men as they'd like. But, like with me, you cant get mad when your roster wants to do other things or other people....
You can't go around being pissed off because your ego boost is busy.
Dating is dating.
+1.
There is a difference with dating because you want to enjoy another person's company and just live vs trying to fill a void and forget about "who I'd rather be with" with "you will do for now". It's hypocritical, but not in Scorp logic because you're not dating because you like this other man. You're doing it in the hopes of manipulating an outcome.
I understand exactly why you're doing it. It will not get you to where you want to be though. Trust.
Valid, valid PhoenixRising. I acknowledge that while I'm hung up on this Sag, I may need to keep moving forward, and I'd prefer to do so with this Scorpio. It would be virtually impossible for the Sag to know I'm dating this Scorp. The Scorp is here in my town, they're different years in university, different colleges of study.I'm not even posting anything AT ALL on social media about dating other guys.
If I just knew the motive about why the Sag just up and left, I could find some peace and move on, but as DMV said, I don't need the Sag's permission to keep it moving. I wish I wasn't so hung up on him and the way he made me feel in our short time together.
So I don't know where to go from here. I'm not in a place where I want to be in a relationship, and I thought guys this age (20) would be overjoyed that I don't want an exclusive relationship. I mostly want to just date, maybe date the same person frequently but not being exclusive. I would maybe consider an exclusive relationship after a couple of months (2 or 3) of dating, but for now I just want to date around and by doing so make sure I pick the guy I really want to be with, not just the guy who gives me the most attention or who is good for the moment.
If I just knew the motive about why the Sag just up and left, I could find some peace and move on, but as DMV said, I don't need the Sag's permission to keep it moving. I wish I wasn't so hung up on him and the way he made me feel in our short time together.
So I don't know where to go from here. I'm not in a place where I want to be in a relationship, and I thought guys this age (20) would be overjoyed that I don't want an exclusive relationship. I mostly want to just date, maybe date the same person frequently but not being exclusive. I would maybe consider an exclusive relationship after a couple of months (2 or 3) of dating, but for now I just want to date around and by doing so make sure I pick the guy I really want to be with, not just the guy who gives me the most attention or who is good for the moment.
Posted by yamilette7410
DMV, so then what is the solution? Drop one or the other, leave them both alone? How do I move forward from this?
To be fair, sex with the Sag was much better than the sex with the Scorp, but the Scorp is treating me the way I want to be treated.
Well if u can't handle them doing whatever because you yourself do whatever, walk away fron both.
Besides neither one of then has what you want or u would have chosen already.
If you want the sex, the only expectation you have is the right to an orgasm on shared time.
I do get it tho. I sometimes want all the benefits of a relationship without committing. I need my roster ready for action at all times lol.
One thing I will say only because it annoys me when I see it in the Scorp board. Each sign gets saddled with a list of stereotypes and when they display certain behaviours that one can not understand or accept it must be because they are *fill in said generic stereotype*. I am referring to your comment about him being "flighty". Aside from this incident with the non responsive texts has he ever done anything like this before (e.g. been unresponsive/inattentive to you)?
The man told you what's up. It is unfortunate that he gave you the impression that he wanted more following the breakup with the sexting, but you seem to have all these expectations that one would see when they are in a relationship. He isn't being flighty. He's treating you like a friend he once had feelings for and had to cut off because you did something that disturbed him. Your job is to be firm in what you want and not be so quick to lap up crumbs.
For example, when he "came back" did he sit you down and say "I thought about it and think we can work through this. I want to try again"? Boom you're an item again. Or did he give you a lame "I miss you" (via text) add a little bit of small talk and go straight into sexting?
That^^^ is an example of lapping up crumps when you want the whole meal. Yet he's being labeled as "flighty" because his sex play didn't develop into more than you hoped. You need to take some personal responsibility ma.
The man told you what's up. It is unfortunate that he gave you the impression that he wanted more following the breakup with the sexting, but you seem to have all these expectations that one would see when they are in a relationship. He isn't being flighty. He's treating you like a friend he once had feelings for and had to cut off because you did something that disturbed him. Your job is to be firm in what you want and not be so quick to lap up crumbs.
For example, when he "came back" did he sit you down and say "I thought about it and think we can work through this. I want to try again"? Boom you're an item again. Or did he give you a lame "I miss you" (via text) add a little bit of small talk and go straight into sexting?
That^^^ is an example of lapping up crumps when you want the whole meal. Yet he's being labeled as "flighty" because his sex play didn't develop into more than you hoped. You need to take some personal responsibility ma.
Aside from this incident, no, he has not been inattentive or unresponsive with me. It was the opposite, especially in person. Again, point conceded PhoenixRising.
You're right, I did lap up crumbs. The closest to rebuilding we got was him asking me if I wanted to hang out with him when he moved back home. I would have loved to bring it up, but we hadn't met in person and I didn't want to scare him away again.
Lame "I was laying in bed and I was thinking about you" (around morning time for him) some small talk, some sexual flirting. 50/50. Personal responsibility will be taken.
DMV, I understand it's a two-way street. I'll keep that in mind as I continue dating.
You're right, I did lap up crumbs. The closest to rebuilding we got was him asking me if I wanted to hang out with him when he moved back home. I would have loved to bring it up, but we hadn't met in person and I didn't want to scare him away again.
Lame "I was laying in bed and I was thinking about you" (around morning time for him) some small talk, some sexual flirting. 50/50. Personal responsibility will be taken.
DMV, I understand it's a two-way street. I'll keep that in mind as I continue dating.
Posted by DMV
They both have Scorpio bits; they know
Right.
"I don't announce everything I "see". I just take note."
~Scorp motto
Posted by yamilette7410
DMV, so then what is the solution? Drop one or the other, leave them both alone? How do I move forward from this?
To be fair, sex with the Sag was much better than the sex with the Scorp, but the Scorp is treating me the way I want to be treated.
Hmmmm. Didn't you indicate the Scorp was treating you like FWB? Or is it the Scorp is simply responding to your text and giving you attention? So some attention and hanging out during "guys night" is a substitute for an a real relationship where someone claims you? Is that how you want to be treated? What is the point of this thread then if you just wanted FWB the whole time. Really read over that thread and what you just wrote.
Yami, what I find interesting is you are displaying the behaviours you're accusing the Sag of. No more than a few weeks ago you stated you didn't think you shouldn't be in a relationship, then as soon as you get a cutesie text from Charming Sag your like "naw, my boo is back". When that doesn't pan out you set sights on Scorp. You don't really want him, or really want to hook up, but you do so anyway (I believe that's what you stated in the other thread). You prefer the Sag, but you're making a thread about the Scorp to determine his intentions. Would his intentions even matter if the Sag was texting you as I post this? Lawd, and he's flighty? You're fluttering about these two men because you're unclear as to what you what and deserve.
Get that in check before you proceed.
Posted by yamilette7410
... I acknowledge that while I'm hung up on this Sag, I may need to keep moving forward, and I'd prefer to do so with this Scorpio. It would be virtually impossible for the Sag to know I'm dating this Scorp. The Scorp is here in my town, they're different years in university, different colleges of study.I'm not even posting anything AT ALL on social media about dating other guys.
I think you misunderstood the point DMV was trying to make.
Aside from that, your intentions are going to cause you to spin. You're using one guy (no matter how much you enjoy his company) while you really want another. Thing is, you're doing this to deal with the pain of losing Sag and wondering why he hasn't stepped up. "Wait, why hasn't the guy I'm using stepped up either!" F*ckin men. See the problem?
Posted by yamilette7410
So I don't know where to go from here. I'm not in a place where I want to be in a relationship, and I thought guys this age (20) would be overjoyed that I don't want an exclusive relationship. I mostly want to just date, maybe date the same person frequently but not being exclusive. I would maybe consider an exclusive relationship after a couple of months (2 or 3) of dating, but for now I just want to date around and by doing so make sure I pick the guy I really want to be with, not just the guy who gives me the most attention or who is good for the moment.click to expand
Well colour me confused with all of this right here. I'm at a lost. Truly.
Perhaps learn how to harness that Scorp Venus and Sag Mars then. If all of the above is how you truly feel and it's not Merc Rx at play, then ease up on the expectations and date away.
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