why do Sags take their cheating ex's back— wtf?

no seriously.

my Sag. or what used to be mine, decided after over a year divorce, being with me, and her cheating on him while he was deployed, her moving in with the guy, and living there for over a year, she gets dumped not even 2 months ago, after what was like a 2 year affair and now she runs to him crying: i made a mistake, i miss you, lets be married again - BS.

wtf??
they were married for 15 year,they have a 15 and a 10 year old, but really? wtf?

why is he a such a wanker?
she cheated on him.
not once, but multiple times, had a full out relationship with the other guy.

omg! like I can't get over it and then 2 months ago we started to be on the rocky ship - so I guess she was rocking the boat and he gave in. He is alone stationed far from her and me now, and well, the beast is moving to him in June.

and I know she is already planning the new wedding, since everything she has on pinetrest is all wedding related. wtf? really lady? really? not even 2 months?

gah!


I dont get it.


He's a SAgg/Cap with Cancer moon, Venus in Sag, Mars in Scorp and Asc Taurus
I am a Gem with Virgo moon, Venus in Pisces, Mars in Cancer, and Asc. Scorp
She's an Aquarius with some more Aquarius placements, that I can't really recal


gawd!


what the hell is going on in this triangle—
and it's not me who is the Other woman - SHE is, She left, she wanted divorce, she didn't want to work on anything, she did it all and now she is all alone and can't handle it.

wtf—

is he going to shake this madness off?

He is going through depression right now and has been battling ptsd, so I get that he is not himslef, but really? he's doing it because he is just weak and well, wants to.


I have no idea what the reasoning here is.

blah...

😢 oh noes

I don't generally go back to exes...but I did go back to the same ex several times...my Libra.

:/

Who knows his reasoning...but as you pointed out, he is battling some personal issues right now and maybe he's feeling lost and insecure and she just happens to be a place of safety for him? Familiarity/comfort/etc



BUT regardless of his reasoning, the point is he chose her.

You have to take that for what it is I guess and move on without him.
Trying to figure out what he's thinking is only going to drive you nuts

You're free now. Just walk away, and don't look back.

he is still in love with the mother of his children. aint nuthing u can do bout that. precisely the reason i dont get involves with men who have kids.

yep.

I'm walking.


far.

and that's ok.

Yea who knows it probably has nothing to do with you. Most things like that don't.

Sag male here. I've never taken an ex back that cheated on me, but our signs are eternal optimists and gives everybody second chances. Couple that with a "never give up" attitude and our ability to easily forgive and we take a cheating ex back. I've had to learn the hard way not to be so trusting.

Totally agree with beautifulsoul74. We use judgement to determine if it's worth a 2nd chance and normally will pull from the good experiences more than the bad to aid in making our decision. If the bad times come back to a point where he cannot see the relationship moving forward, he may throw in the towel, for good. He'll say at least he gave it a try and this time, he knows for sure that it didn't work. Don't give up on him if you want him back.

Maybe it's just the Venus retro. *shrugs*

Posted by innergoddess
Totally agree with beautifulsoul74. We use judgement to determine if it's worth a 2nd chance and normally will pull from the good experiences more than the bad to aid in making our decision. If the bad times come back to a point where he cannot see the relationship moving forward, he may throw in the towel, for good. He'll say at least he gave it a try and this time, he knows for sure that it didn't work. Don't give up on him if you want him back.

That's the way that I have approached it in the past. I look to see if that person has changed. If they haven't, I put them in the friend zone and keep it movin. No hard. Feelings.

you guys are worse the Geminis lol

well. it's done. I don't take people back. Learned that hard way too. No one changes and not in circumstances like that. Not, when this was not a one night stand and temporary amnesia. This is her just getting bullied in the school yard and running home crying. I am better off without that drama though. He's a great guy under a lot of points, but this behavior is not something I can go back to. I myself would never trust him again, so there is nothing left. I wish them well.

It's not just Saggs - Taurus, Libra and Virgo, all believeing and going back to their ex's - and each one had a cheating ex, I've decided its an ego thing. Mixed with male competitevness.

I think it's their low self esteem, possessiveness and definitely ego. More like - this is mine and I'll take it back, no matter how stupid I look and how many more times she does is. It's kindergarten behavior.
meh... such a turn off the more days go by.

Posted by roamingfree
I think it's their low self esteem, possessiveness and definitely ego. More like - this is mine and I'll take it back, no matter how stupid I look and how many more times she does is. It's kindergarten behavior.
meh... such a turn off the more days go by.

i think people like that are needed in the world. people who believe in second and third chances.

he's actually turning me into someone that will not give second chances anymore. I used to. Always. Never worked.