Advice on unhappy scorp male pleez

Hi guys Im a newbie and just looking for advise on scorp male. I am a married Librian woman (sorry)in an unhappy albeit faithful relationship, I met this emotionally unhappy scorp BD(17 th Nov)online and have fallen madly in love with him (emotions I have never known) . I feel such a strong emotional bond to this man although we have never met and I have a strong feeling of pastlife connection although almost certainly an unhappy one. The thing is that hes sort of stung me and is completely ignoring me, he wont respond to my text and has blocked me on MSN, the only time he responds is when I threaten to cut ties completely then he will be blunt and to the point, but will respond. I feel strongly that he loves me deeply and I certainly love him deeply tho my situation is very complex at the moment and I know I need to fix my mess before I can give myself to him. Tho I am not sure if he will ever allow me in. Therefore my question is do I persevere? My instinct is that I should but Im confused(unusual for a LIbrian I know) All advice gratefully received. Incidently Im Scottish so please forgive my use of words.

> The thing is that hes sort of stung me and is completely ignoring me, he wont respond to my text and has blocked me on MSN, the only time he responds is when I threaten to cut ties completely then he will be blunt and to the point, but will respond.

Hello my little Libra friend!

This is my experience with scorp men. They kind of circle around, not really doing anything, say they have feelings for you or whatever, then disappear for a few months only to come back in a couple of months and do it all again. (None of them have stung me though ... just look at me with their moon eyes and scurry away when I show any interest.)

BTW, be wary of giving your heart away on-line. He may not be who he says he is ... even if he is who he says he is ... you know nothing about him other than what he says. The truth is ... it is a fantasy relationship, not the real deal till you meet in real life.

here is a message on Scorp-Libra relationships

http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/message/?id=381183

Hi Sparrow,

Thanks for your reply. I know what you mean, and online has never really been my thing, the thought filled me with horror as I need to read the body language, if you know what I mean. Yet this bloody man has me hooked and I have never been so sure of my feelings in my life and yet they may just drive me mad. It almost seems so surreal hes psychic I fear. Go on I'm being indicisive what should I do. Lol??

Thanks for you reply Branh,

I wouldnt say desperate really, just looking for advice from others who may be in tune with his emtions. I am working on dealing with my marriage, tho thank you very much for your comments.

Hi again Branh,

I feel his pain, but that doesnt mean that I want to be part of his misery, could it be that he may want to be part of my happy wee life, its not so bad here really. Sorry hope this isnt rude.

Thank you branh,

Yes I think you are very intuative and I hear what you are saying. I know that the grass isnt always greener on the other side, but sometimes when a relationships time has come it may be futile to hang onto it even with all the bomb debrise that there will be when it comes to an end.

Ive read that an encounter with a Scorpio however brief can also be a catalyst for change in a person and this scorpio man has certainly shown me many things about myself that have been dormant for a long time and has created changes within me that will ultimately be to my benefit but ultimately my husbands detriment.So if at least this has come of it then it will not be a lost cause. Maybe Im not sure Im Librian of course.

Thanks KennyG,

Yes I think he is a control freak, although Im not easily controlled and my intuition is very strong I guess Im wondering if such an unhappy scorpio man can be true and maybe you have answered my question very well. Oh I dont know maybe I am naieve. Im not sure its all a bit of a nightmare really.

Libra's and scorps relatinship that i have been in, is great in the fact that we think on the same lines. We can support in words and talk for ever. Its my intuition i know exactly how he/she feels. He's the best friend I would want to have on my back and suppport me thru my trouble times. As you are having problems in your marriage, it will always seem great that the scorp will be there and give you the answers you want to hear, but its jsut that online. we can say anything becuase we arent afraid online. its in person, that he may be different and that's where his true self lies. We can be anybody online, but in person, our true self shines thru and until you mean him, you really dont know how he really is. You also need to seperate the lines of finding yourself and what you want to do with this marriage before you do anything iwth this scorp becuase either way its going to be a rebound relatinship if you dont heal yourself first and give yourself atleast a year time alone, before you start in a relationship with a new guy or its just the fact of loneliness and it wouldnt last. Believe me I was in sort of the same boat. tho my husband is in Iraq for over a year now and legally I cant file when he's serving. I just decided I cant live my life not seeing him and the things the military life has made things difficult on top of the signs of two scorps together is a tremendous amount of stress and highs and lows constantly. Goodluck in your decision. Fnd yourself first, before you do anything irrational.

Hello again,

Apologies for the delay in replying(time difference). Strangely enough Scopiobabe,both my husband and the scorpio are in the armed forces and I guess this has been one of the main causes of my situation with regard to my marriage, along with other things of course. I appreciate your comments about finding and healing myself and that is completely true and I am trying to find time to heal myself spiritually and holistically(if only I could find the time amongst all the chaos). I am a 38 year old woman and still trying to find me(how sad) but really looking forward to doing this,although hubby is making this hard.

Strangely enough when I speak to scorp on the phone he is completely different really upbeat and happy and yet online he is sad and unhappy and often angry.If only I could switch off my feelings and emotions for this man, it will be very difficult but I suppose the advice is that I will have too,Scorpiobabe, thank you very much.

Thank you Jack also, yes you understand him well and this is him, I guess that answers my question about his truthfulness and how genuine he is. I guess the old cliche is that it was 'never meant to be like this' with me falling in love with him, nor him me, maybe I am just a librian drama, never meant to hurt though, not him not myself. Anyway Best wishes and thank you.

> Scorpio however brief can also be a catalyst for change in a person

I think this is very true ESPECIALLY between Libra and Scorp because of the sympathies between the two.

I actually went through something very similar. A Scorp came along and reminded me about all the things I had forgotten about. It was as if I suddenly woke up. I ended up leaving my mediocre relationship and falling in love with someone else soon after. The Scorp never really forgave me for finding someone else ... but he was just the catalyst to change.

I never for a moment regretting leaving the mediocre relationship. If you do leave your marriage, leave for yourself not for the Scorp.

Also as a Libra your greatest learning comes from relationships and partnerships ... those are the lessons you are here to learn. Perhaps you have learned all you can from your current marriage and it is time for you to move on.

Just a thought.

Thank you LS,

Your posting is so true and very sensitive. The blessing and curse of a Librian is the need to be in a relationship Im sure, but yes this man has made me change profoundly and look at myself so deeply and spirtually its almost uncanny.

The problem is the pain of leaving my marriage, my hubbies that is and mine of course because I am deeply fond of him and the commitments that go with it. The need to hang onto a dying relationship so as not to cause anyone pain only myself. A true Libra martyr me thinks(tee hee).

I feel that this one may be in the hands of the gods, but this Scorp man, curse him he has me hooked, no logic in my life at all at the mo, going mad. Thank you so much for your comments and Im sure I will join you in the Libra forum Little Sparrow.

Regards

I have zero doubt that this will all work out the way it is meant to.

I sometimes wonder if Libra's have a divine sense of timing. I have noticed I have great timing. I will procrastinate and procrastinate and then make the decision and right away the right thing happens. I wonder if deep down we know the answers and know time in which things are meant to happen. In the meantime, we fret and recheck our thinking over and over and over again even though we know the decision. We are just thinking to pass the time.

Libras don't need to be in a relationship though. I read somewhere that Libras have the hardest time of any sign when it comes to relationships. We aren't happy unless we are in them. We aren't happy when we are in them. We suffer from the grass is greener syndrome in the extreme.

I have been relationship free for 9 months now. It has been so much fun. I date occasionally but nothing serious ... and let me tell you ... I don't remember the last time I felt this balanced.

You'll be fine!

Please drop by the Libra board. It isn't very busy, but perhaps in time.

> I healed during that time. I found myself. I found I was self sufficient. I found I didn't need a partnership to make me whole.

Yep. I think Libras really struggle with the Am I self-sufficient question. It is quite flooring when we find out we are.

🙂

Thanks for sharing your story Kenny_G.

Guys thank you so much,

For your words of encouragement, its so strange how Ive lost myself so much, pleasing my husband minding the kids, thinking about everyone else all of the time. This scorpio man made me find myself yet stung himself in the process, I would say a truly wonderful feat almost selfless if it could be believed.

Yes girls its so true, my husband has worked away on and off in the past two years leaving me to bring up the kids and I let him because I would never supress desires and dreams and allowed him his (He's Sag). His job took him away for six months and I suffered, strangely enough before his journey I told him that it was a bad thing for him to do and I dont know why I felt the need to say this to him.

It was through this time and during my encounter with my scorp that I saw a window of a the life that I wanted even through all the chaos, that could never include my husband because it meant me gaining my independence and following my dreams.

So girls I am working on gaining the strength to leave, when the time is right and as for my scorp, he will be mine, when the time is right, it is fate you see another chapter in a past life I know it without doubt and that's not like a Libra.Go on tell me is it, really I just cant make up my mind(tee hee)

Kenny thank you for your comment about my name. I am loud Im Glaswegian.

Bless you.