I'd like your opinion regarding my love life. My name is Lydia, I’m in my early thirties. I have been in a relationship off and on with my boyfriend/father of my four year old child for the past 14 years, Leonard (cancer with cap moon). We have broken up at least once every 6-18 months for most of our time dealing with each other due to his infidelities. Six years ago I caught him having inappropriate conversations and texts with females as well as catching him watching transgender pornography and I also seen an email that he sent to a transgender that he found online. Being in my mid 20s at the time I sought out revenge by seeking another man to have an affair with. I met a man by the name of Dre (cancer with leo moon) that is two years older than me. We clicked immediately. We did not have sex for 2 months after several dates, phone conversations, and texting. It was amazing how we had so much in common. Our connection was indescribable. Dre was simply wonderful and well rounded. Leonard could not compare to him at all. Dre was a self-made successful college graduate, had a great career, a wonderful personality, and great communication skills. Integrity was a major characteristic with him, he always proved himself even when he did not have to, and he was honest, upfront, and trustworthy. Leonard on the other hand had a dead-end job, was a liar, and had the advantage of a silver spoon upbringing. Dre gave me a feeling that I never felt before. It felt like fate. It turned out that he was seeking revenge on his girlfriend/mother of his child (4 yrs. old) of 12 years, as he caught her cheating on him. We finally had sex and it was the best that I ever had. I really felt like we were made for each other. We thought a like, finished each other sentences, and more. Our connection felt like it was sent from heaven. I fell deeply in love with him. We continued to date and hook up for about 2 months. I wanted to be with him and asked him if he wanted the same. He confessed the affair to his girlfriend and ended the relationship. Then I made the mistake of not ending my relationship with my boyfriend. Dre and I continued to date and have sex until he grew tired of waiting for me to end my relationship with Leonard. Leonard and I had a long history since we were teens and had many family ties which made it harder for me to let go, even though our relationship was not good. Dre contacted Leonard and told him everything. SEE NEXT LINE FOR THE REST OF MY POST
Am I crazy? What do you think of my situation
I then ended the relationship with Leonard. Dre and I were together officially for a year and things were great, his child loved me and I loved his child. His child took to me immediately. I ended the relationship because I felt like he didn’t trust me based on the fact that he questioned my love for him and felt like I dragged my feet to end my prior relationship. I admit I was young and dumb for leaving him. A few months later Leonard and I reconnected and I ended up pregnant. I found out that it was Leonard’s plan to impregnate me in hopes of it keeping me from leaving him again and to keep me away from Dre. While six months pregnant I caught Leonard watching transgender pornography again and broke up with him. We ended up working things out before I delivered our child. When my child was six months old I noticed Leonard seemed to be up to something and I went through his cell phone while he was asleep and found messages between him and another woman where he made comments about my postpartum weight gain. I was only 10lbs heavier than I was before I was pregnant and I was always a fit woman. I broke up with Leonard again, then reconciled about five months later. Three months later I ran into Andre, at that point we had not been in contact for 2 years. It was like we never split up. He was the same man that I fell in love with and had continued to evolve in every way. During the time apart I often thought of him and really missed him. After our first conversation we would message each other often to catch up on things. We both admitted that the connection and love was still there.
Two weeks later due to strong influence from his family and friends Leonard proposed to me. I accepted, however when I said yes I knew that I did not want to marry him. I forced myself to try to go through with it because we had a child together. I called off the wedding after a few months of heavy planning which caused us to lose lots of money from deposits and such. Dre and I started dating again for well over a year and it was incredible! Our love and connection exploded and everything was perfect. Dre showed me what true love is and catered to me in many ways consistently and I returned the effort. Dre also inspired me to achieve my career and educational goals and I believe he made me an overall better person. I view him as a blessing from above. Leonard started drawing me back in by using our child as bait and saying he wanted to do right and raise our child together. I did miss not having my child two days each week. After a couple of months of thinking about it, I decided to give Leonard another chance because of our child and the fact that I did not have both parents in the same house growing up. My father was never in a relationship with my mother and moved away across the country. He barely interacted with me while growing up. Dre was devastated that I would leave the perfect situation with him and it was beyond hard for me. I continued to communicate with Dre every day and see him a couple times a week. He was not only the love of my life but also my best-friend. Not even a month after moving back in with Leonard I was told by a close friend that Leonard was seen on two online dating sites. He was active on the sites several times a week. I did not say anything about it because I had still been seeing Dre and occasionally having sex with him. It has been over a year and Leonard still has been spotted active on online dating sites.
I have still maintained my friendship with Dre and still see him a few times a week and still occasionally have sex with him. I keep telling myself that I am going to stay with Leonard for my child but on the other hand I know that my heart is with Dre. Dre is an amazing man in every single way. I really want to be with Dre and I know we have a once in a lifetime connection, he is willing to go above and beyond to make things work with me. The problem is I also want to see my child every single day and not miss anything. I know if I am with Dre I would have to let Leonard have our child for at least 2 days a week. I do love Leonard but not in the same way that I love Dre and I know Leonard is not the man for me but he is a great father to our child. I do not want Dre out of my life, he is my best friend and I believe he is my true love. I would really like your opinion.

I can't even

Posted by Mystik_Enigma+ WTF
I can't even



This should be an episode on Dr.Phil lady you need professional advice.



i feel like i just got though watching a very bad soap opera. i have to cleanse my mind after this one.



😱
Stay with Dre.
/thread.
Stay with Dre.
/thread.
Fix it Jesus.

Posted by KaptainKhaos😆
Fix it Jesus.

OP... TL😄R.
Everyone else... I haven't laughed this hard in a long time.. keep those comments coming!!!
Everyone else... I haven't laughed this hard in a long time.. keep those comments coming!!!

TLDR*

Ok I read it.... however in my it was narrated by a clueless preppy white with daddy issues

Head*

OMG. I am Scorpio with cancer moon. My bf is cancer with cap moon. We are talking on and on an even proposing me almost every day. .
But I am not easily get carried away of those emotions and sweet nothings. emotions change. feelings are not..
You need help. Stop comparing the 2 guys. If you love Dre then stay. If you don't love Leonard set him free. Stop playing his emotions as well.
Get well soon.
But I am not easily get carried away of those emotions and sweet nothings. emotions change. feelings are not..
You need help. Stop comparing the 2 guys. If you love Dre then stay. If you don't love Leonard set him free. Stop playing his emotions as well.
Get well soon.


keep your life simple - stay with the love of your life and cut off everyone else
you most likely won't change your messy way until you lost the love of your life though, unfortunately.
you most likely won't change your messy way until you lost the love of your life though, unfortunately.

x)

The only person I feel sorry for is the child. Sheesh.
To answer your question yes you are crazy.
Frankly based on what you wrote I don’t think you deserve Dre, you’re lucky he has the patience of Job. I swear you’re not going to be happy until you look up and he’s grown sick and tired of your back and forth and gets on with a more stable and “100% AVAILABLE” woman. One that’s available emotionally and physically, one he doesn’t have to compete for.
And Leonard is gay. Flat out. You wont be happy until you walk in your home and see him back-dooring a transgender. And you are also being selfish. You want to be happy and move on, but you don’t want to share the child with it’s father—? Seriously?? Stop it. Just stop it. You are not that slow. I don’t believe it. I also think Leonard is only with you and proposed to you to cover up coming out the closet, cuz that man is definitely gay. If he’s looking a women that were born with dicks, and he KNOWS they were born with dicks, he’s gay! Flat out. Don’t care what anyone says.
To answer your question yes you are crazy.
Frankly based on what you wrote I don’t think you deserve Dre, you’re lucky he has the patience of Job. I swear you’re not going to be happy until you look up and he’s grown sick and tired of your back and forth and gets on with a more stable and “100% AVAILABLE” woman. One that’s available emotionally and physically, one he doesn’t have to compete for.
And Leonard is gay. Flat out. You wont be happy until you walk in your home and see him back-dooring a transgender. And you are also being selfish. You want to be happy and move on, but you don’t want to share the child with it’s father—? Seriously?? Stop it. Just stop it. You are not that slow. I don’t believe it. I also think Leonard is only with you and proposed to you to cover up coming out the closet, cuz that man is definitely gay. If he’s looking a women that were born with dicks, and he KNOWS they were born with dicks, he’s gay! Flat out. Don’t care what anyone says.

you just want to two time. you're so caught up in ridiculous feelings that your logic is nonexistent. i really think you enjoy juggling these two men. whenever your mood switches, you have a man to accommodate it. in the end, it's not about the kid. it's about you being too weak or stupid to let the man who has cheated and done you in go. you're being a major hypocrite. can't you see that you're doing the same thing to dre that leonard did to you? it's obvious dre is better suited to be with you, but you cant let leo go. so you go back and forth. this is beyond ridiculous. why dont you just have a threesome and get it over with? then afterwards, you all can live in a commune and procreate as much as you want... *sigh* too much water makes for very bad decisions and stupid people. does no one in that group have an ounce of brain? i feel like taking you and slapping some sense into you.

Posted by thinktoomuchEven then its too much for some people.
"I am sure Dre is the love of my life" - so out of all the love I had for him, I kept on seing my ex.
LMFAO! Come on women, you´re on the internet, anonymous, you can be honest here.
This forum is full of liars and hypocrites

This is the funniest fucked up shit I've read in ages!!

threesome

^^^ ha! Told you the Scorp board was more entertaining at the moment. Taurus board is boring... ‰

Posted by AgentP911lol! it's true - and i'm only here because of you!
^^^ ha! Told you the Scorp board was more entertaining at the moment. Taurus board is boring... ‰

Posted by starloverWhy is P-Angel considered by so many to be a cunt? Why is the sky blue? I like learning and seeing that I'm not the only fucked up individual on the planet. However, I am honest. This is an online forum where people have the ability to let out all their fear and emotional outburst and say all the truthful fucked up shit they want! Yet, sadly they still lie.Posted by HappygoluckySo why post here?Posted by thinktoomuchEven then its too much for some people.
"I am sure Dre is the love of my life" - so out of all the love I had for him, I kept on seing my ex.
LMFAO! Come on women, you´re on the internet, anonymous, you can be honest here.
This forum is full of liars and hypocritesclick to expand

They lie, deny and manipulate. For what?
That's the real question to ask.
That's the real question to ask.

Just like asking this question on the Scorp board. Will never get an honest answer. This much I do know.

Posted by Happygolucky
Just like asking this question on the Scorp board. Will never get an honest answer. This much I do know.


Posted by MontgomeryYupPosted by Happygolucky
Just like asking this question on the Scorp board. Will never get an honest answer. This much I do know.
http://img4.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20140411060510/jackinthebox/images/2/2f/Tumbleweed.gif

(Crickets)


No way this is for real.
Dre is an Aqua.
Dre is an Aqua.

Anyway, there's a lot of families out there that would want a child to care for and love.
Look into that because people like you should never be parents. You can do right by your child in finding him/her parents who would put their interest first.
We really should need certificates for breeding.
Look into that because people like you should never be parents. You can do right by your child in finding him/her parents who would put their interest first.
We really should need certificates for breeding.

Posted by Lyse
The only person I feel sorry for is the child. Sheesh.
To answer your question yes you are crazy.
Frankly based on what you wrote I don’t think you deserve Dre, you’re lucky he has the patience of Job. I swear you’re not going to be happy until you look up and he’s grown sick and tired of your back and forth and gets on with a more stable and “100% AVAILABLE” woman. One that’s available emotionally and physically, one he doesn’t have to compete for.
And Leonard is gay. Flat out. You wont be happy until you walk in your home and see him back-dooring a transgender. And you are also being selfish. You want to be happy and move on, but you don’t want to share the child with it’s father—? Seriously?? Stop it. Just stop it. You are not that slow. I don’t believe it. I also think Leonard is only with you and proposed to you to cover up coming out the closet, cuz that man is definitely gay. If he’s looking a women that were born with dicks, and he KNOWS they were born with dicks, he’s gay! Flat out. Don’t care what anyone says.
**sigh** I'll stick up for Leonard lol Gay men dont like transgenders.....SMH

Posted by starloverI don't need to ask a question. The lack of responses to it says all it needs to.Posted by HappygoluckyI am not sure who in particular you are referring to or whether you perceive Scorpio energy as a whole to be this way?Posted by starloverPoint proven. Thanks star.
Who is lying, Ram?
You are cool, btw
Over the years, i had a few Aries men cross my path ~ Dad being the first, and the honesty was amazing, but sometimes, the pushiness wasn't if i am honest lol 😛
(well not for me anyway)
If you have any questions, fire away, i would be happy to answer (if i can)
click to expand

Posted by P_AndsPosted by Montgomery+1
😱
Stay with Dre.
/thread.
and buy a bottle of leonard so everytime you feel like going back to him you can just spritz on some leonard
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-AWXc6PUGjmI/Ui2Dw9LNXRI/AAAAAAAABlg/YuK7F_7CIeI/s640/Leonard+pour+homme.jpg
Ha ha ha that is so funny I just spat out my coffee!!! A bottle of Leonard... ‚

his/her interest*
Posted by DamnataYes unfortunately the entire post is true 😢 I have no one that I feel comfortable asking the question to, so I felt like asking fellow Scorps to provide an outside perspective. I know its insane but sometimes hearing perspectives helps push a person to smarten up. Dre is not an Aquarius. He's a cancer with mostly fire in his chart.
No way this is for real.
Dre is an Aqua.

Posted by starloverSmh.Posted by HappygoluckyQUINCUNX, maybe?Posted by starloverI don't need to ask a question. The lack of responses to it says all it needs to.Posted by HappygoluckyI am not sure who in particular you are referring to or whether you perceive Scorpio energy as a whole to be this way?Posted by starloverPoint proven. Thanks star.
Who is lying, Ram?
You are cool, btw
Over the years, i had a few Aries men cross my path ~ Dad being the first, and the honesty was amazing, but sometimes, the pushiness wasn't if i am honest lol 😛
(well not for me anyway)
If you have any questions, fire away, i would be happy to answer (if i can)
click to expand

Me? No way babe. I am always real.

Posted by 13thThey were born with dicks tho...If a man knows another man was born with a dick and still pursues the he/she then he's gay. Thats my opinion. Now if she comes on here crying cuz he man a.k.a baby daddy leaves her for a man name Jim with cooche, i dont wanna hear it. LOLPosted by Lyse
The only person I feel sorry for is the child. Sheesh.
To answer your question yes you are crazy.
Frankly based on what you wrote I don’t think you deserve Dre, you’re lucky he has the patience of Job. I swear you’re not going to be happy until you look up and he’s grown sick and tired of your back and forth and gets on with a more stable and “100% AVAILABLE” woman. One that’s available emotionally and physically, one he doesn’t have to compete for.
And Leonard is gay. Flat out. You wont be happy until you walk in your home and see him back-dooring a transgender. And you are also being selfish. You want to be happy and move on, but you don’t want to share the child with it’s father—? Seriously?? Stop it. Just stop it. You are not that slow. I don’t believe it. I also think Leonard is only with you and proposed to you to cover up coming out the closet, cuz that man is definitely gay. If he’s looking a women that were born with dicks, and he KNOWS they were born with dicks, he’s gay! Flat out. Don’t care what anyone says.
**sigh** I'll stick up for Leonard lol Gay men dont like transgenders.....SMHclick to expand

Posted by LysePosted by 13thThey were born with dicks tho...If a man knows another man was born with a dick and still pursues the he/she then he's gay. Thats my opinion. Now if she comes on here crying cuz he man a.k.a baby daddy leaves her for a man name Jim with cooche, i dont wanna hear it. LOLPosted by Lyse
The only person I feel sorry for is the child. Sheesh.
To answer your question yes you are crazy.
Frankly based on what you wrote I don’t think you deserve Dre, you’re lucky he has the patience of Job. I swear you’re not going to be happy until you look up and he’s grown sick and tired of your back and forth and gets on with a more stable and “100% AVAILABLE” woman. One that’s available emotionally and physically, one he doesn’t have to compete for.
And Leonard is gay. Flat out. You wont be happy until you walk in your home and see him back-dooring a transgender. And you are also being selfish. You want to be happy and move on, but you don’t want to share the child with it’s father—? Seriously?? Stop it. Just stop it. You are not that slow. I don’t believe it. I also think Leonard is only with you and proposed to you to cover up coming out the closet, cuz that man is definitely gay. If he’s looking a women that were born with dicks, and he KNOWS they were born with dicks, he’s gay! Flat out. Don’t care what anyone says.
**sigh** I'll stick up for Leonard lol Gay men dont like transgenders.....SMHclick to expand
lol....You just gave me a great idea for a new thread....whats gayer.....guy sleeps with man to woman transgender or women to man transgender......I used to have the same thought on the matter til I had a convo with co-workers on the matter.....then I realized : gay guys dont like girls or guys who look like girls...can they?

Posted by KaptainKhaosI can't fucking breath right now! LMBO!!!!! I was about to try to say something insightful and read this comment. Bwah ha ha ha ha ha ha
Fix it Jesus.

Posted by 84scorpiocancermoonTo be fair it sounds like for whatever reason or messed up childhood experience(s), you started out way behind the healthy relationship curve. Kudos for finding some motivation, love, and other potentially healthy components in your relationship with Dre. Now, you have to deal with this unhealthy attachment to Leonard. Kids are resilient as hell and will be ok with spending two days with daddy and five days with you. In fact, they'll be happier and healthier if you move on to a lifestyle that allows you to be the best person you can in order to give them the nurturing that they deserve. It sounds like Leonard is one of those type of guys who requires more nurturing that you have with you being a mom and all. Dre allows you to be a mom. Dre probably isn't as demanding of your time and/or jealous or seemingly as attached as Leonard behaves. Breathing room in relationships is healthy. Your soul knows this better than your head and heart, hence why you've become a better woman after spending time with Dre. It may not last forever. In fact, there are some major unhealthy components in your relationship with Dre that probably won't stand the tests of time. However, if you move on to the healthier option, you'll have a better chance of becoming even better as time goes on. But if you stay stuck in the pit of the woman that you are with Leonard, you'll never grow. Eventually, your kids will resent you and you'll resent yourself, but you'll be so immature and retarded in your growth as a woman that you'll be bitter and blame everyone and everything but who is really in control of the situation....that's you Dear. Ultimately, this is not about Dre, Leonard, or the kids...it's about whether or not you're going to be brave enough to continue to come out of the pit of unhealthy living and grow up.Posted by DamnataYes unfortunately the entire post is true 😢 I have no one that I feel comfortable asking the question to, so I felt like asking fellow Scorps to provide an outside perspective. I know its insane but sometimes hearing perspectives helps push a person to smarten up. Dre is not an Aquarius. He's a cancer with mostly fire in his chart.
No way this is for real.
Dre is an Aqua.click to expand
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