scorpio24
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calling all my fellow scorps :)
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What's the reason for the break up?
"I am very capable of taking revenge but im not going to cause i believe in karma too much haha"
I think this is a big clue Ray
I think this is a big clue Ray
Yes but the fact that she said that she's afraid to break up, makes me wonder? Is it cheating, physical abuse ect?
Oh dear.. where to start.. if you look at all my topics i have started in the virgo forum you would understand. all the virgos there dislike me cause i wrote so many haha i have tried so hard to fix our relationship..
but basically its to the point where he "loves me but isnt sure if he is IN love with me" he gets annoyed by me alot, and only ever over analyzes all my NEGATIVE traits and blows them out of proportion. dont mean to sound like i love myself cause i dont, but in everyone else's eyes i am a pretty great girlfriend. would go out of my way for him, am extrememly loyal etc. i have more positive points about me then i do negative, but all he notices is the negatives cause hes a annoying virgo.
anyway, at the end of the day if we break up i think it will be because i am completely overly passionate scorpio who wants to devote everything to him.. but he doesnt.
its hard to explain.
but basically its to the point where he "loves me but isnt sure if he is IN love with me" he gets annoyed by me alot, and only ever over analyzes all my NEGATIVE traits and blows them out of proportion. dont mean to sound like i love myself cause i dont, but in everyone else's eyes i am a pretty great girlfriend. would go out of my way for him, am extrememly loyal etc. i have more positive points about me then i do negative, but all he notices is the negatives cause hes a annoying virgo.
anyway, at the end of the day if we break up i think it will be because i am completely overly passionate scorpio who wants to devote everything to him.. but he doesnt.
its hard to explain.
Posted by Rays Heart
Yes but the fact that she said that she's afraid to break up, makes me wonder? Is it cheating, physical abuse ect?
nooooo! nothing like that
Posted by scorpio24
hey guys,
i am currently in a relationship with a virgo who i love BUT, it needs to end cause it is just not working out. Just wondering, how do other scorps deal with a breakup that needs to happen even if they dont want it to? I am too scared to do it 😢 i know i'll be a complete mess to begin with, but will get over it eventually.
my plan is to:
1. break up, but have NO contact (even though he said he still wants to have contact, i told him this will be impossible to do at the begining.)
2. delete his number, delete and block him off facebook so i dont have to see anything he's doing/who he's talking to cause it will break my heart.
3. if he tries to contact me, to ignore him at all costs, and ignore going to social events thaty i know he will be at.
I am very capable of taking revenge but im not going to cause i believe in karma too much haha
revenge for what?
Oh I see, so the break up will probably be harder on you. You'll have to do whatever it takes to stay sane. I also think it's best to be clear on what keeps you attracted to him under those circumstances and why is the break up necessary for your growth. The break up can come from an emotional reaction without some clarity. Otherwise you'll find yourself going back to him in search of answers.
"The break up can't come from an emotional reaction ..."
this has been going on and off for the last 8-9 months. we have never broken up cause we both know that when we do thats IT. we have had good batches but then crap times like now aswell.
maybe it would help to read my most recent thread in virgo forum to understand what actually happened lastnight.
he said he doesnt want to break up with me cause he thinks he will regret it. :/
maybe it would help to read my most recent thread in virgo forum to understand what actually happened lastnight.
he said he doesnt want to break up with me cause he thinks he will regret it. :/
@DMV revenge on the fact that i have been nothing less then a GREAT girlfriend for the last 1.5 years and hes now taking me on a joy ride and doesnt know what he wants or if hes "in" love with me. 😢!
Posted by CluelessCancer
He "thinks" but what does he "feel?"
pfft, if only i knew. his head is obviously all over the place.
cant help but feel strong resentment towards him and the quote "there is a fine line between love and hate" fits how i am feeling perfectly right now.
Posted by scorpio24
this has been going on and off for the last 8-9 months. we have never broken up cause we both know that when we do thats IT. we have had good batches but then crap times like now aswell.
maybe it would help to read my most recent thread in virgo forum to understand what actually happened lastnight.
he said he doesnt want to break up with me cause he thinks he will regret it. :/
From the little I have read, he doesn't seem happy in the relationship and therefore, soon everything coming out of you will irritate him. I think if he finds something better, he will leave.
i dont think its the case of "finding someone better" some days everything i do irritates him but other days he seams to really enjoy my company. he is weird. and i think he doesnt know what he wants.
i am so sad i could just curl up in a ball right now and stay there forever
i am so sad i could just curl up in a ball right now and stay there forever
Obviously I don't know the whole background of your relationship, but just reading this makes me wonder why you want to stay with this guy. I say break up with him and find someone who does think you are a great girlfriend and doesn't point out every negative trait about you. And boy have I seen that these virgo men seem have many of their own imo 🙂
Who wants to be in a half-hearted relationship anyways? I know a scorp doesn't. I think you know what to do, but its like you said you are "scared". We can hold on to some resentment like no other, so that will not go away. Of course it will be hard, but have faith that you will end up with someone better suited for you. I like numbers 1,2 and 3 😉. Good luck
Who wants to be in a half-hearted relationship anyways? I know a scorp doesn't. I think you know what to do, but its like you said you are "scared". We can hold on to some resentment like no other, so that will not go away. Of course it will be hard, but have faith that you will end up with someone better suited for you. I like numbers 1,2 and 3 😉. Good luck
Posted by scorpio24
i dont think its the case of "finding someone better" some days everything i do irritates him but other days he seams to really enjoy my company. he is weird. and i think he doesnt know what he wants.
i am so sad i could just curl up in a ball right now and stay there forever
just saw this about finding someone better. It should not be all about what he wants, if he enjoys your company or if he is not weird one day and weird the other. It sounds like you want to prove that you could be good for him, but for what? Once that happens will you be happy, or will you be resentful and flip the switch on him?
Posted by QUlETstormPosted by scorpio24
Maybe take a break from each other. You actually might find that you're a lot less stressed WITHOUT him around. Lolclick to expand
well about a month ago he went away for 2 weeks inter state partying with his friends, i wanted him to have fun so i left him alone and let him do most of the iniating contact cause didnt want him to feel tied down! he ended up telling me how much he missed me and wished i was there too! which is BIG of him to do cause he never shows emotion much.
lastnight after our talk we decided to go on a "break" i have deactivated fb and even deleted his number for the time being. im going to try my absolute hardest to focus on myself for the next few days and be extremely productive! im so used to sleeping in his bed every night though so ill probably be very sad when bed time arrives. 😢 ohh. wish i could just get over him.
Posted by tiziani
And others are right to point out that this isn't about what he wants. This should be about what you want. Throughout all your threads on this issue it's obvious what you want to believe in is that you are a loving person and a great girlfriend.
You may very well have many positive attributes about you and even how you write is quite adorable actually. But you disadvantage yourself by giving yourself way too much credit in the girlfriend and love department. So what if so far you have been a "great girlfriend" in other's eyes? You can take a break, be single and learn how to be a better one. That job is never done. You have found one form of love but are denying yourself the opportunity to find out an even greater plane of love through learning how to let go. The last stage of self-control is letting go. If you really want to be a caring person, doesn't that even tempt you (moreso than your fear of losing this relationship) to find out what that's all about? Think about it, because you need to stay true to your own personal individual motivations and what is important to you.
you are right im probably giving myself too much credit. he has said to me himself a few times in the past aswell as lastnight that he thinks "im a beautiful person with a good heart and a pretty good girlfriend" i guess the reason i keep saying it is cause im trying to use it as an excuse for him to be with me.
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Posted by QUlETstorm
I understand. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years, have slept in his bed for 5 years, have shared meals and conversations for 5 years etc, so I am putting myself in your shoes right now and can practically FEEL that "achy" feeling that you feel, just imagining the disappointment & despair that you're feeling right now. It will definitely not be easy love, but you deserve more than that and you know this.
Just know that the sadness is only temporary. I know sometimes we can feel like he is the last man alive, and you might even feel like you'll never feel like this again. Sad to say, I have felt that A COUPLE times, LOL and that's why I say YOU WILL bounce back. I can't tell you how many times I felt like I could never replace someone, or I felt like I'd never find someone who could make me feel the way that man did.. which makes it all the harder to let go. But love has a way of always reappearing under new management! Lol Trust me when I say, you are young, and he won't be the last man to love you, in fact there will be someone who will love you better. We also hate "giving up" because when we want something or someone, we go hard and give it our all. When a relationship fails, we somehow feel like WE failed. Break-ups are ROUGH on a Scorp, but this is not the end.
I have gone through this before so I understand how tough it is on your heart. Just keep reminding yourself that it is only temporary anytime you feel yourself slipping into that panicky rut.
😭 😭 😭
you are right in everything you are saying
*adds to favorite people* lol
yeah i'll get over it 😢 doesnt help that i have libra in venus either 😢
Posted by QUlETstorm
I also responded to your thread on the Virgo board with a personal story of my own that is similar to yours. Check that out when you get a chance, and best wishes to you, keep your head up.
I've got some reading to do before bed. Have a good night.
i read it just before 🙂 thanks, i know its mean but it helps to hear that other people go through these things aswell.. im not naive but yeah. thanks for your help 🙂 im in australia so its still the afternoon, but you have a good night 🙂 hehe
really? i am not as advanaced in astrology like other people seam to be! so any insight is so helpful 🙂
i have a capricorn moon! and so does he, but he also has cancer venus :/
does any of this explain why he "doesnt want to break up with me cause he belives he will regret it" ??
i have a capricorn moon! and so does he, but he also has cancer venus :/
does any of this explain why he "doesnt want to break up with me cause he belives he will regret it" ??
Posted by scorpio24
i dont think its the case of "finding someone better" some days everything i do irritates him but other days he seams to really enjoy my company. he is weird. and i think he doesnt know what he wants.
i am so sad i could just curl up in a ball right now and stay there forever
He made references to not enjoying having conversations with you and thinking that you're immature not knowing what you want to do with your life career wise ect. He may not know what he wants yet but he's very specific on what he doesn't like about you and those including personality traits that just don't go away. It's part of who you are as a person.
When I say "someone better" it's not in the sense of a better individual than you but someone more in line with his ideals, what ever those ideals are.
Posted by aNEWdayPosted by scorpio24
i dont think its the case of "finding someone better" some days everything i do irritates him but other days he seams to really enjoy my company. he is weird. and i think he doesnt know what he wants.
i am so sad i could just curl up in a ball right now and stay there forever
just saw this about finding someone better. It should not be all about what he wants, if he enjoys your company or if he is not weird one day and weird the other. It sounds like you want to prove that you could be good for him, but for what? Once that happens will you be happy, or will you be resentful and flip the switch on him?click to expand
Well said!
I agree with you RAYS HEART, but the thing is he is a virgo, alot of them are like this. they can and never will find someone PERFECT enough and will ALWAYS find something to critisize, but secretly they are even more critical of themselves although they dont show it, and hes exactly like that. 2 months ago he was critizing me about OTHER things.. like he "felt tied down" even though im so chill. so i chilled out even more, but now im "immature" lol. there is no winning with them they will always find something to pick on. but they dont necesarily do it to put people down, in their heads they are trying to help. it's really quite odd.
i said to him in our conversation that he will never find someone perfect, there will always be something negative, and thats why he should focus on the GOOD things, cause the ratio is about 10/2 on the positive and negative scale so why is he looking at the smaller things. it's not getting us anywhere. i also said he should focus on making himself better instead of constantly picking out my traits, cause although i too believe some work can be done on my behalf, overall i like the way i am. he didnt say anything...
i said to him in our conversation that he will never find someone perfect, there will always be something negative, and thats why he should focus on the GOOD things, cause the ratio is about 10/2 on the positive and negative scale so why is he looking at the smaller things. it's not getting us anywhere. i also said he should focus on making himself better instead of constantly picking out my traits, cause although i too believe some work can be done on my behalf, overall i like the way i am. he didnt say anything...
i also often find that as soon as i make a clear point he has nothing to say cause he knows im right.
he should start taking in MY opinions instead of me constantly taking in his.
he should start taking in MY opinions instead of me constantly taking in his.
i think a big part of the reason we are still together is cause we are both 100% trustworthy and loyal.
THANKGOD! if there was cheating going on, eff knows what i would do haha
THANKGOD! if there was cheating going on, eff knows what i would do haha
I like Virgos but I agree, they can be too analytical sometimes, especially when it comes to their feelings. They're guilty of trying to rationalize their emotions too much and the outcome is often horrible.
You have to look for yourself at some point because it will drain you. You started the thread knowing that this has to end, so you can't keep worrying about whether he'll ever find someone perfect.
You're okay with who you are as a person, so what's left is for him to change his ways and I think you know what are the chances of that happening. Your senses are telling you that you can't take this any longer.
I think a relationship should be about growth at the end. The individuals involved in a relationship should always try to put each other in a position to grow. So what you have to ask yourself is ... who is growing in that current setting?
You have to look for yourself at some point because it will drain you. You started the thread knowing that this has to end, so you can't keep worrying about whether he'll ever find someone perfect.
You're okay with who you are as a person, so what's left is for him to change his ways and I think you know what are the chances of that happening. Your senses are telling you that you can't take this any longer.
I think a relationship should be about growth at the end. The individuals involved in a relationship should always try to put each other in a position to grow. So what you have to ask yourself is ... who is growing in that current setting?
Posted by scorpio24
I agree with you RAYS HEART, but the thing is he is a virgo, alot of them are like this. they can and never will find someone PERFECT enough and will ALWAYS find something to critisize, but secretly they are even more critical of themselves although they dont show it, and hes exactly like that. 2 months ago he was critizing me about OTHER things.. like he "felt tied down" even though im so chill. so i chilled out even more, but now im "immature" lol. there is no winning with them they will always find something to pick on. but they dont necesarily do it to put people down, in their heads they are trying to help. it's really quite odd.
i said to him in our conversation that he will never find someone perfect, there will always be something negative, and thats why he should focus on the GOOD things, cause the ratio is about 10/2 on the positive and negative scale so why is he looking at the smaller things. it's not getting us anywhere. i also said he should focus on making himself better instead of constantly picking out my traits, cause although i too believe some work can be done on my behalf, overall i like the way i am. he didnt say anything...
SOOO much I could say about this duo. I am Scorpio with Capricorn moon as well, and dated a Virgo for a year, and I had to end it. I pulled the back off maneuver along with ignoring texts and calls for a short period. I explained to him when I was ready that I couldn't be in the relationship anymore, he was okay with it. He did end up messaging me months later asking to go for coffee so I did, it was nice and friendly (didn't talk about our past, only what we have been up to) and haven't heard of him since. He got his closure I guess?. There wasn't anything absolutely wrong with the relationship, but it no longer felt right anymore. Kinda boring actually. It lacked a lot of passion. He loved claiming I was immature all the time when we argued. He picked out all my faults and flaws. He had a huge ego. Very cautious with things. Way too practical. Gotta say I will probably avoid dating a Virgo in my future if I ever need to scope the dating scene again!
WHY IS THIS SO HARD 😭 i am sooooooooo SAD! im about to try to sleep if i ever can stop crying over this JERK!!!!!! i WILL NEVER DATE ANOTHER VIRGO MAN AGAIN EVER!!!!!
Without reading this ENTIRE thread, I will say as a scorp who was in a marriage with a virgo, it is impossible to articulate exactly why you feel you need to breakup. Virgos seem to have some kind of voodoo over scorps, maybe anyone who falls for them. They are hard to breakup with. All the flaws they point out, have a bit of truth in them, and a scorp has that desire to transform for the better. The problem is, that its never gonna be good enough. From my experience a virgo will turn you into another virgo. You will start worrying all the time. You spontaneity will disappear. You will lose your passion (because virgo thinks its illogical, and theyre correct) and you will become like they are. Then they get bored with you because you became boring to please them and they move on
^^^ smhat
I never felt an attraction to virgo's,but I do notice they are like the poster said above.
Everyone here is giving great advise for you.
Best of luck to ya! 😢
Piggy
I never felt an attraction to virgo's,but I do notice they are like the poster said above.
Everyone here is giving great advise for you.
Best of luck to ya! 😢
Piggy
It only applies to MALES in a romantic context, MM!
I have a virgo bestie since highschool, and I adore my virgo brother, but no way in hell would I want to be in his wife's shoes...
I have a virgo bestie since highschool, and I adore my virgo brother, but no way in hell would I want to be in his wife's shoes...
Posted by MellyMelPosted by AreTwoFour
It only applies to MALES in a romantic context, MM!
I have a virgo bestie since highschool, and I adore my virgo brother, but no way in hell would I want to be in his wife's shoes...
lol, I bet her shoes are elegant and kept immaculately clean, even if they are uncomfortable 🙂
and the females can be the same way. Just depends on the individual and the context. I'm quite comfortable with being a Virgo. I'm not complaining about them, and I know you aren't either. I just know how we can be sometimes, and it appears that you know too 🙂click to expand
No, she is chill about her shoes, but thinks you have to take a bath twice a day, lol.
My brother is a shoe W..H..Or..e, lol
I have a stellium in virgo, and my mars is there, so it makes me a tad OCD about small crap. It pisses me off, lol
Posted by AreTwoFour
Without reading this ENTIRE thread, I will say as a scorp who was in a marriage with a virgo, it is impossible to articulate exactly why you feel you need to breakup. Virgos seem to have some kind of voodoo over scorps, maybe anyone who falls for them. They are hard to breakup with. All the flaws they point out, have a bit of truth in them, and a scorp has that desire to transform for the better. The problem is, that its never gonna be good enough. From my experience a virgo will turn you into another virgo. You will start worrying all the time. You spontaneity will disappear. You will lose your passion (because virgo thinks its illogical, and theyre correct) and you will become like they are. Then they get bored with you because you became boring to please them and they move on
This is so true!!!
But how on earth do they ever find someone who is "perfect" enough for them?! it's gotten to the point where I don't even mind his criticism if its something that will help me but telling me that I am immature because I am yet to find what I want to do with my life career wise is a joke. Especially since a lot of his friends girlfriends who are also friends with us don't know what they want to do either and are all working in office jobs Aswell and their boyfriends still adore them cause ITS NOT EVEN A BIG ISSUE. The other thing is my virgo KNOWS that I already have stressed out about what I want to do, it's not like I ENJOY not having a stable career and he knows this but still made if out like I don't care about it. Seriously, why? It's like he has nothing left to criticise me over so he makes stuff up. Lol it is also devastating how all the things he said he LIKED at the beginning he is now criticising. 😢
P.s can someone tell me how to upload photos on a post?
Also let me add... I work for the government which in aus is a VERY GOOD THING. I have been there for almost 3 years and am doing
Quite well, it's definetly not what I want to do for the rest of my life but the fact that I got into it without ANY formal qualifications is GOOD. So WHAT GIVES?!
Quite well, it's definetly not what I want to do for the rest of my life but the fact that I got into it without ANY formal qualifications is GOOD. So WHAT GIVES?!
Virgo logic is only logical to virgos...
And yes, everything that attracted them to you will be beaten out of you with a criticism whip.
Then I think they lose respect for you changing who you are to please them and it makes them feel sadistic toward you and want to tear you all the way down.
My taurus bestie handles her virguy by not giving a sh_it about pleasing him. It seems to work
And yes, everything that attracted them to you will be beaten out of you with a criticism whip.
Then I think they lose respect for you changing who you are to please them and it makes them feel sadistic toward you and want to tear you all the way down.
My taurus bestie handles her virguy by not giving a sh_it about pleasing him. It seems to work
how does she do that?? whenever i have tried to stand my ground and be like "nah, i like doing it this way" he will just throw out more reasons why it should be done his way, even if i make a VERY good logical point, he will usually find a better answer.
Because she doesn't care about being logical, and she lets him know this. She SHUTS HIM DOWN with a quickness when he tries it. You cannot out-logic a virgo in any argument, they are in their element with that. She just doesn't go there with him, lol. So in hindsight, maybe I should have been that way?
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Posted by AreTwoFour
Virgo logic is only logical to virgos...
And yes, everything that attracted them to you will be beaten out of you with a criticism whip.
Then I think they lose respect for you changing who you are to please them and it makes them feel sadistic toward you and want to tear you all the way down.
My taurus bestie handles her virguy by not giving a sh_it about pleasing him. It seems to work.. she doesn't care about being logical and she lets him know this. She SHUTS HIM DOWN with a quickness when he tries it. You cannot out-logic a virgo in any argument, they are in their element with that. She just doesn't go there with him, lol. So in hindsight, maybe I should have been that way?
THIIIIS. Is the ONLY way to deal with them. You have to STAND your ground.
LOGIC doesn't matter when Taurus wants what SHE WANTS..cuz she will GET it.
You Literally have to master the look of "I DON'T CARE dude." combined with the "STAREDOWN of DEATH"..DOWNpat.
Virgos do crack & give up, but they will nag & complain on the way to the destination to GET or DO what TAURUS wants..bcuz Virgs don't have the will or the stubborn stamina to keep it going with her.
Just ignore and hold ur ground. Never change yourself. They like having a reason to complain. So GIVE it to them.
Reference: I was raised by TWO Virgos..dated one SUPER cheap Virgo..& never dated another..lol
hmmm... maybe i should then, he says that i take him too seriously (which i admit i do, but i sometimes cant help it) he says when we are in a group of friends and he says something he notices that i just laugh it off, but when its just me and him i get angry and upset about it.. it will be hard to stand my ground with him, but maybe i should try that. it's sometimes like he is secretly testing me, telling me something to see how i respond, if i respond in a insulted way it annoys him? but if i made a joke out of it he might secretly have more respect for me for sticking to my ground.
its hard though cause he can be un predictable.. for example sometimes when i do stand my ground (by giving him my also logical point of view) he will just get more annoyed at the fact that im not listening to HIS logical way..
maybe its HOW i stand my ground, maybe i need to actually act like i dont really care but act like im happy to do it my way, if that makes sense? :/ he's said to me before that he needs someone that can HANDLE how he is.. (i do my best, but being a scorp it can be hard) haha
its hard though cause he can be un predictable.. for example sometimes when i do stand my ground (by giving him my also logical point of view) he will just get more annoyed at the fact that im not listening to HIS logical way..
maybe its HOW i stand my ground, maybe i need to actually act like i dont really care but act like im happy to do it my way, if that makes sense? :/ he's said to me before that he needs someone that can HANDLE how he is.. (i do my best, but being a scorp it can be hard) haha
Posted by MellyMelPosted by AreTwoFour
Because she doesn't care about being logical, and she lets him know this. She SHUTS HIM DOWN with a quickness when he tries it. You cannot out-logic a virgo in any argument, they are in their element with that. She just doesn't go there with him, lol. So in hindsight, maybe I should have been that way?
When they(virgos) start in on the criticizing, just calmly put them in their place. Much in the manner described above.click to expand
well the other night when he was saying the whole "you are immature because you dont know what u want to do with ur life career wise" i straight out said, "umm i dont know what i want to do yet, but it doesnt mean that i am not constantly stressing about it, i have been flat out looking into different career paths for the last 3 weeks on a daily basis and researching. just because i dont tell u every single thing i am doing in my life doesnt mean im not doing it" he then said "well how will u know what u like if u dont just do something, youve been researching for the last year" and i said "well i have done courses in the past which i didnt end up enjoying and it was a waste of thousands of dollars" he had nothing to say to this cause i think he knew i was right.
thats when i said "look, overall i am not perfect and i have things i personally need to work on, but so do you. i know that you are critical of youself even though you would NEVER admit it. but why dont u focus on yourself, and making yourself a better person coz the potential is there instead of constantly pointing out my negatives" again he had nothing to say.
it annoys me cause there is nothing really wrong with the relationship, we were the most PERFECT couple until he began being a WEIRDO and looking for things to critisize. seriously, i am 22. me not being sure what i want to do is the smallest issue ever, and thats all he has got. :/ apart from the fact that i cant "handle" him and get emotional easily.
well in todays society people appreciate selfishness. So I'd just dump his ass if thats what you want and who cares how he feels. I mean it should be all about you right?
just trying that on for size.
just trying that on for size.
Posted by scorpio24Posted by MellyMelPosted by AreTwoFour
Because she doesn't care about being logical, and she lets him know this. She SHUTS HIM DOWN with a quickness when he tries it. You cannot out-logic a virgo in any argument, they are in their element with that. She just doesn't go there with him, lol. So in hindsight, maybe I should have been that way?
When they(virgos) start in on the criticizing, just calmly put them in their place. Much in the manner described above.
well the other night when he was saying the whole "you are immature because you dont know what u want to do with ur life career wise" i straight out said, "umm i dont know what i want to do yet, but it doesnt mean that i am not constantly stressing about it, i have been flat out looking into different career paths for the last 3 weeks on a daily basis and researching. just because i dont tell u every single thing i am doing in my life doesnt mean im not doing it" he then said "well how will u know what u like if u dont just do something, youve been researching for the last year" and i said "well i have done courses in the past which i didnt end up enjoying and it was a waste of thousands of dollars" he had nothing to say to this cause i think he knew i was right.
thats when i said "look, overall i am not perfect and i have things i personally need to work on, but so do you. i know that you are critical of youself even though you would NEVER admit it. but why dont u focus on yourself, and making yourself a better person coz the potential is there instead of constantly pointing out my negatives" again he had nothing to say.
it annoys me cause there is nothing really wrong with the relationship, we were the most PERFECT couple until he began being a WEIRDO and looking for things to critisize. seriously, i am 22. me not being sure what i want to do is the smallest issue ever, and thats all he has got. :/ apart from the fact that i cant "handle" him and get emotional easily.click to expand
Fuck anyone who says that shit to. There is nothing wrong with you because you don't go around pretending to know exactly like what you want or where your going.
No one knows that. It's possible.
You can only have a plan and hope it works it out
dammit it cut me off
Posted by MellyMelPosted by AreTwoFour
Because she doesn't care about being logical, and she lets him know this. She SHUTS HIM DOWN with a quickness when he tries it. You cannot out-logic a virgo in any argument, they are in their element with that. She just doesn't go there with him, lol. So in hindsight, maybe I should have been that way?
YOU SHUT YOUR MOUTH with that whole "maybe I should have been that way?" Business!!! You shouldn't have been anything other than what you were because it made YOU who you are! Virgos reason and rationalize their way into and out of any given situation because that is how we are programmed (get it? Programmed? Like computers and such? 🙂 ) Scorpios usually respond emotionally to situations because that's how THEY are programmed. There's no right way or wrong way, just different ways.
For me, as a Virgo, one of the biggest reasons for my "logical" approach and subsequent "criticism" is to try and get people to REALIZE what they are doing and why they are doing it. If I perceive someone I care about to be unconsciously stuck in a habitual, destructive behavior pattern, I will point it out. Not just point it out, but give specific examples of said behavior and interpretations of the same. Complete with dates, Times, and exact quotes of everything said and by whom it was said. Yes, it is incredibly obnoxious and comes across as completely critical and uncaring 😢 The thing is though, that a lot of people in my life ARE completely oblivious to their behavior patterns. Some of the more self absorbed, extroverted people/signs in my life genuinely have no idea what they are doing or how they are coming across until it's pointed out to them.
However, Scorpios as a rule do not fall into the "self absorbed, unaware" category. Because Scorpio motivations are primarily emotion based (as a general rule. Obviously not all of them), I can see how virgos might interpret their actions as "unconscious" and immediately begin "pointing them out" (aka criticizing them). When they(virgos) start in on the criticizing, just calmly put them in their place. Much in the manner described above.click to expand
Lol, MM, I am not offended, I just really wished that marriage would have worked out. It didn't, and I still feel bitter (emotionally driven, as you astutely pointed out) so
Well I didn't read the entire thread but i know one thing
"If a person wants to be with you, he will be come what may, but if he doesn't want to be with you, then he will give you all kinds of excuses"
If you wish to move then the best thing is
1. Stop all contacts with him, delete his number & messages & have no contact with him
2. Keep yourself busy by being with friends, & do some activities that you like
3. Start meeting new people, start dating. & you will move on in some time.
Life is too short to waste your time on people who give you silly excuses to not be with you(rather people who don't want to work it out).
"If a person wants to be with you, he will be come what may, but if he doesn't want to be with you, then he will give you all kinds of excuses"
If you wish to move then the best thing is
1. Stop all contacts with him, delete his number & messages & have no contact with him
2. Keep yourself busy by being with friends, & do some activities that you like
3. Start meeting new people, start dating. & you will move on in some time.
Life is too short to waste your time on people who give you silly excuses to not be with you(rather people who don't want to work it out).
Dammit, got cut off...
so maybe I should have risen above the emotional reactions and had a more logical approach and less of a people-pleasing (or virgo-hubby pleasing) approach and remained the hot-mess he fell in love with.
So I should have logically kept the emotionality, like a living oxymoron, and kept him intrigued? 🙂
so maybe I should have risen above the emotional reactions and had a more logical approach and less of a people-pleasing (or virgo-hubby pleasing) approach and remained the hot-mess he fell in love with.
So I should have logically kept the emotionality, like a living oxymoron, and kept him intrigued? 🙂
Cuz I kind of think many virgos live their emotional lives vicariously. They need it, but loathe it? I can understand that paradox
Posted by scorpio24
Also let me add... I work for the government which in aus is a VERY GOOD THING. I have been there for almost 3 years and am doing
Quite well, it's definetly not what I want to do for the rest of my life but the fact that I got into it without ANY formal qualifications is GOOD. So WHAT GIVES?!
so don't let him know what you think about your career or that you are planning to change your job. Tell him once you figure out what you want to do or once you find something good for yourself. He doesn't need to know all that specially when he is criticizing you. You can just say that you are happy with your job for now.
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