Calling all scorpios and those with placements:

What are the characteristics of yourself that you/others hate the most? How do you handle your scorpionic intense nature? Are you more emotional, sensitive, stubborn, etc? I feel like my placements all are correlated with each other. I had an argument with my mom (libra sun leo rising) , saying I'm such a negative person, cynical, and paranoid. I immediately got defensive and aggressive because I felt attacked. Now I'm a 3rd decan scorpio sun (cancer traits), and 3rd decan pisces rising (scorpio traits) amongst other negative placements. I will admit I have battled some mental health issues, self-esteem, and anger on and off (probably my aries moon too). I envy leo risings because of their innate positivity, optimism, and unique beauty. My mom said I act as if I have a chip on my shoulder which isn't untrue. I know scorpios are self destructive yet transformative. I have trouble with the transformation part. I don't know how to channel my pessimistic energy. Sorry for the rant, just looking for some answers and some people who relate.

Younger days - controlling others

Right now - self-control is top priority

Your morher sounds unsupportive and stupid and in part is probably contributing to the way you think and act

I really try to fight my jealousy and my immediate instinct of not being happy for people when they gain something that I do not have. When I reflect on my feelings of jealousy and see how pointless they are they go away and I am able to be happy for people but I just hate my instinct reactions.

Posted by MyStarsShine
Your morher sounds unsupportive and stupid and in part is probably contributing to the way you think and act

That's the thing. She's very supportive and highly intelligent. It's just that libra and leo that gets me fired up. She's not the bad guy, I think scorpios just naturally push loved ones away. Which is very irritating to me. My mom is very strong and loving.

Posted by Biboroon
I really try to fight my jealousy and my immediate instinct of not being happy for people when they gain something that I do not have. When I reflect on my feelings of jealousy and see how pointless they are they go away and I am able to be happy for people but I just hate my instinct reactions.

Oh jealousy is a big thing with me. My pisces rising makes me look unassuming and supportive but they don't even know how intensely envious I am on the inside.

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Posted by MyStarsShine
Your morher sounds unsupportive and stupid and in part is probably contributing to the way you think and act

That's the thing. She's very supportive and highly intelligent. It's just that libra and leo that gets me fired up. She's not the bad guy, I think scorpios just naturally push loved ones away. Which is very irritating to me. My mom is very strong and loving.

Hey bro, my Mums a Libra sun also, I think Virgo moon. I really struggled growing up to get her to understand anything about me. I wouldn't let the things she says to you impact that way you feel about yourself, libras really have no clue about the trials of being a Scorpio, they just see the world the way they see it and that is how it is to them. Another different perspective of the world cant exist, to much for a libra brain to deal with so they just ignore it.

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True. I tell her all the time that she just won't understand me fully. She does tend to ignore anything remotely negative and pretends as if it doesn't exist. I love her still, we're literally just from different planets.

Posted by Wannabedoc97

Posted by MyStarsShine
Your morher sounds unsupportive and stupid and in part is probably contributing to the way you think and act

That's the thing. She's very supportive and highly intelligent. It's just that libra and leo that gets me fired up. She's not the bad guy, I think scorpios just naturally push loved ones away. Which is very irritating to me. My mom is very strong and loving.

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I took issue with this

*I had an argument with my mom (libra sun leo rising) , saying I'm such a negative person, cynical, and paranoid. I immediately got defensive and aggressive because I felt attacked. Now I'm a 3rd decan scorpio sun (cancer traits), and 3rd decan pisces rising (scorpio traits) amongst other negative placements. I will admit I have battled some mental health issues, self-esteem, and anger on and off*

To me, when your son knowingly has mental health issues, you don't criticise him, you build him up. You had every right to feel attacked ? I don't call that intelligent behavior and I am not surprised you have suffered from self esteem issues

I have a son and know how difficult life can be growing up, love and understanding is so important

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Posted by MyStarsShine
Your morher sounds unsupportive and stupid and in part is probably contributing to the way you think and act

Damn.

Why call his mother stupid?

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I was going to type foolish, so probably wrong choice of word there on my part

"noted"

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My mars is in Scorpio I will demolish anyone when I am angry! I also have a Scorpio moon that kinda gives fuels my anger. I have to feel hurt to be angry, and to feel hurt I have to be disrespected or betrayed. I will never let those two things slide.

I personally have always found libra to be annoying as hell. They are so superficial. Anyways, I do looking at things negatively. I noticed that a lot when i was with my leo friend, she would only look at the bright side when there is me pointing out all the problem that might happen and that's when we crashed.

Another traits that i find a lot from people saying about me is that I am a good leader (when i didnt even ask to become one) i dont personally demand for manipulation or to control anyone unless they give me the power to do so .For example, in this project they asked me to be a leader (that's when i start to order ppl around in a friendly way tho) but that started to happen (me being a friendly leader) when i have become older though, I still remembered i was so controlling and bossy in my early age.Also, i'm a type of leader that when other ppl already gave up on the project because it's hard or whatsoever, i would still stay there to make things work.

Talking about I do I control my negativity,not sure if there is anything to do with this but im a scorp with cancer moon and a lot of ppl come to me for my curative power (most of the broken heart girls you know or like ppl who have problem, stressed etc.) that's when i know how to handle with negativity because i have to look at the bright side of those problems and speak it out to them. My sagittarius dominance also helps me a lot to be positive since i need that a lot as for myself and as well to cure other ppl.

If i have to give you suggestion for you to discover yourself better,it would be to stay away from air sign. I personally was surrounded by a lot of air ppl when i was in high school and i also have grown up with 3 gemenis cousin,1 gemini uncle and another 1 libra uncle. I was so confused back then cause they can speak so well and they can make ppl think that they are smart and then there was me who prefers to be quiet LOL.

When the air sign ppl are together they can fuck your head up cause I only see superficial ppl talking about superficial things and i was so confused back then LOL. Air sign will not and will NEVER reach the dept that we have, it's super annoying to have convo with them cause they switch the topic every 1 min and i can't tolerate that (but they are SUPER SUPER good at negotiation and socialize which is something i cant do)

Posted by Wannabedoc97
What are the characteristics of yourself that you/others hate the most? How do you handle your scorpionic intense nature? Are you more emotional, sensitive, stubborn, etc? I feel like my placements all are correlated with each other. I had an argument with my mom (libra sun leo rising) , saying I'm such a negative person, cynical, and paranoid. I immediately got defensive and aggressive because I felt attacked. Now I'm a 3rd decan scorpio sun (cancer traits), and 3rd decan pisces rising (scorpio traits) amongst other negative placements. I will admit I have battled some mental health issues, self-esteem, and anger on and off (probably my aries moon too). I envy leo risings because of their innate positivity, optimism, and unique beauty. My mom said I act as if I have a chip on my shoulder which isn't untrue. I know scorpios are self destructive yet transformative. I have trouble with the transformation part. I don't know how to channel my pessimistic energy. Sorry for the rant, just looking for some answers and some people who relate.

I mostly dislike how suspicious my nature is. I can never seem to trust that people are just genuinely thoughtful...towards me specifically. For whatever reason when they're that way towards others I love to watch that.

I've stupidly destroyed relationships with men that have had a gentle and caring nature because I was always misinterpreting their actions. They would say something innocently enough and I would sting...wildly and out of place. When I was a teenage girl, I was dating a Cancer guy. He told me that I'm the most beautiful girl in the world. I pushed him into a bush. -saying I'm beautiful and or that HE believes that I'm beautiful (at the time) would've been truth, honest. But telling me generally that I'm the most beautiful girl in the world just sounded like it's so dishonest. (It's impossible to be true)

I've since learned the nuances of these type of communication style s and show appreciation, gratitude, and am humbled. But man do I hate, haTE, HATE being lied to about anything on any level.

I have this weird thing with Taurus men. I have a ridiculously hard time trusting that they are genuinely as into me as they behave to be. It's hard to explain. It's not a self-esteem thing. I believe I'm confident. It really is a suspicion thing.

Any other Scorpios deal with this (trust/suspicion?)