I’d appreciate any help from Scorpio guys here.

I’ve been in love with a Scorpio guy since birth, our families are close so he’s always been around. In October, I saw him after years of me living in a different state and a divorce. He said he’d always been in love with me, I reciprocated and for two month things were great - long distance relationship blooming. He flew me to spend the weekend with him and talked marriage- know da all of it.

Fast forward to December, he said something that hurt me and I called him out. He apologized and said he felt like he was drowning, shared some things in his life that were killing him, but I was still angry so I didn’t contact him for a week - but he didn’t reach out either.

I finally reached out, he won that emotional hold out battle. I apologized for disappearing on him- which is what he said I did- and that I crushed him. He said he’d put himself out there like he had never before.

But since then, he’s a ghost. He responds sometimes to my texts but more often doesn’t. Says he loves me but he’s in he’ll due to some circumstances I won’t go into. I have no idea how to handle this, my mars I’m Scorpio wants to inundate him with proof of my devotion but I don’t want to scare him off.

Any advice is appreciated 🙏🏻

I forgot to include a more detailed astrological picture of his chart.

Sun, moon, Venus, mercury, in Scorpio in the 8th house

Mars in libra

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp
I forgot to include a more detailed astrological picture of his chart.

Sun, moon, Venus, mercury, in Scorpio in the 8th house

Mars in libra

Oh girl! Hope some one will come and save you...what’s his friggingvproblem—

I don’t know. I wish I could understand. We’ve known each other our entire lives and it seems wrong to do this. I’m really hurt but I keep trying to fix it

It’s perplexing that he could’ve changed his mind overnight. And I know he didn’t lie about always having been in love with me- too many details of occasions throughout the years and often ones I remember.

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp
I don’t know. I wish I could understand. We’ve known each other our entire lives and it seems wrong to do this. I’m really hurt but I keep trying to fix it

It’s perplexing that he could’ve changed his mind overnight. And I know he didn’t lie about always having been in love with me- too many details of occasions throughout the years and often ones I remember.

I’ve been dealing with ‘you hurting me’

‘I didn’t meant to’ ‘so why are uou’ ‘I don’t know’...until this morning!!!

You don’t know? Go fuck your self!!!

People with poorly aspected Scorpio placements or the really unconscious types hurt those they love sometimes to test them. It’s not good but that may be why he ‘doesn’t know’ why he hurts you.

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp
People with poorly aspected Scorpio placements or the really unconscious types hurt those they love sometimes to test them. It’s not good but that may be why he ‘doesn’t know’ why he hurts you.

So yours does it as well as mine?

And how long are we supposed to wait for test results? 🙂 😢

I don’t know if that’s what mine is doing. I’m an amateur astrologer and know the signs pretty well but I’m myopic when it comes to my own situations.

For you, it would be more informative to look at his Venus and moon signs to see what his behavior in love reflects.

My guy has a stellium in Scorpio, including sun/moon/Venus.

Posted by UnicornSag
And that's why you Caps lose people you care about. Ghosting.

He apologized, he explained what's going on with him yet you still ghosted on him, means you didn't understand him or believed him or accepted apology. From what I've seen on forum only Scorpios actually can reflect your behavior back to you and it gets you hurt. You both hurt each other and both are too blind to see and to move past those issues...idk why even try pairing Scorp and Cap like

peachy said...except for very few successful examples

My sun being in the 8th house and mars in Scorpio literally eliminates the possibility of me dating someone without Scorpio in their chart so..... but this guy has a stellium with no grounding so he has me perplexed.

I’ve apologized several times and continue to try as reach out to him. I’ve been sending a song or something I’ve written (he loves my poetry)

Today I sent Linger by the Cranberries

Yesterday was a quote by Sarah Kay “nothing is more beautiful than the way the ocean refuses to stop kissing the shore no matter how many times it’s sent away”.

I love him and I’m willing to fall on my sword here. I just don’t know if it’s too late.

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I'd never understand Scorpios who date Capricorns, this pair is just...ewwwww.

Riiiight! My Scorp would NEVER date my Cap! That’s for sure...😂💦😆😭

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Posted by UnicornSag
And that's why you Caps lose people you care about. Ghosting.

He apologized, he explained what's going on with him yet you still ghosted on him, means you didn't understand him or believed him or accepted apology. From what I've seen on forum only Scorpios actually can reflect your behavior back to you and it gets you hurt. You both hurt each other and both are too blind to see and to move past those issues...idk why even try pairing Scorp and Cap like

peachy said...except for very few successful examples

My sun being in the 8th house and mars in Scorpio literally eliminates the possibility of me dating someone without Scorpio in their chart so..... but this guy has a stellium with no grounding so he has me perplexed.

I’ve apologized several times and continue to try as reach out to him. I’ve been sending a song or something I’ve written (he loves my poetry)

Today I sent Linger by the Cranberries

Yesterday was a quote by Sarah Kay “nothing is more beautiful than the way the ocean refuses to stop kissing the shore no matter how many times it’s sent away”.

I love him and I’m willing to fall on my sword here. I just don’t know if it’s too late.

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Wait! Maybe you’ll have a chance to fall on his ‘sword’... just believe in yourself! 😂

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It might be too late.

Capricorn pettiness works well on cardinals. Sometimes Virgos. Those signs understand what’s behind being petty more. Not on fixed signs though. And that’s what ghosting him after he apologized was, petty. Especially for long distance which has its own set of strains already.

You already had both what you deserved and wanted, but decided to punish him. He probably read that as a power play on your part and it caused a loss of trust. Now everything you do is looking through that new perception.

Your best shot is a straight up honest approach.

Something like

‘I was wrong to ghost you. I know I damaged the relationship in doing so. I’d like to work through it and move forward. Do you have any interest in that?’

If his answer is anything less than a yes, then consider if your time and effort is really worth investing any further.

I did that exactly. But he’s still distant.

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Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by UnicornSag
And that's why you Caps lose people you care about. Ghosting.

He apologized, he explained what's going on with him yet you still ghosted on him, means you didn't understand him or believed him or accepted apology. From what I've seen on forum only Scorpios actually can reflect your behavior back to you and it gets you hurt. You both hurt each other and both are too blind to see and to move past those issues...idk why even try pairing Scorp and Cap like

peachy said...except for very few successful examples

My sun being in the 8th house and mars in Scorpio literally eliminates the possibility of me dating someone without Scorpio in their chart so..... but this guy has a stellium with no grounding so he has me perplexed.

I’ve apologized several times and continue to try as reach out to him. I’ve been sending a song or something I’ve written (he loves my poetry)

Today I sent Linger by the Cranberries

Yesterday was a quote by Sarah Kay “nothing is more beautiful than the way the ocean refuses to stop kissing the shore no matter how many times it’s sent away”.

I love him and I’m willing to fall on my sword here. I just don’t know if it’s too late.

I have an 8th house placement and Scorpio mars. I don’t date people who are Scorpios or Scorpio dominant so please STFU with your Scorpio dick sucking.

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I’m not sucking anyone’s dick. I’m only being honest about my astrological chart and my experience with what I’m attracted to. There’s honestly no reason for anyone to be rude or accusatory.

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Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by Ellygant
It might be too late.

Capricorn pettiness works well on cardinals. Sometimes Virgos. Those signs understand what’s behind being petty more. Not on fixed signs though. And that’s what ghosting him after he apologized was, petty. Especially for long distance which has its own set of strains already.

You already had both what you deserved and wanted, but decided to punish him. He probably read that as a power play on your part and it caused a loss of trust. Now everything you do is looking through that new perception.

Your best shot is a straight up honest approach.

Something like

‘I was wrong to ghost you. I know I damaged the relationship in doing so. I’d like to work through it and move forward. Do you have any interest in that?’

If his answer is anything less than a yes, then consider if your time and effort is really worth investing any further.

I did that exactly. But he’s still distant.

Then respectfully, leave him alone.

You cannot make anyone come back.

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He said he loves me and misses me but that he’s in hell right now. I can’t leave him there alone unless he says that’s what he wants.

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Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by UnicornSag
And that's why you Caps lose people you care about. Ghosting.

He apologized, he explained what's going on with him yet you still ghosted on him, means you didn't understand him or believed him or accepted apology. From what I've seen on forum only Scorpios actually can reflect your behavior back to you and it gets you hurt. You both hurt each other and both are too blind to see and to move past those issues...idk why even try pairing Scorp and Cap like

peachy said...except for very few successful examples

My sun being in the 8th house and mars in Scorpio literally eliminates the possibility of me dating someone without Scorpio in their chart so..... but this guy has a stellium with no grounding so he has me perplexed.

I’ve apologized several times and continue to try as reach out to him. I’ve been sending a song or something I’ve written (he loves my poetry)

Today I sent Linger by the Cranberries

Yesterday was a quote by Sarah Kay “nothing is more beautiful than the way the ocean refuses to stop kissing the shore no matter how many times it’s sent away”.

I love him and I’m willing to fall on my sword here. I just don’t know if it’s too late.

I have an 8th house placement and Scorpio mars. I don’t date people who are Scorpios or Scorpio dominant so please STFU with your Scorpio dick sucking.

I’m not sucking anyone’s dick. I’m only being honest about my astrological chart and my experience with what I’m attracted to. There’s honestly no reason for anyone to be rude or accusatory.

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You are not found what—

You are in a wrong place, honey!

It’s dxp requirement...dick sucking a must! For all. Men and women equally!

And being rude is a yellow brick road that takes you home...sorry for misunderstanding. 😭

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Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by edgelord

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by UnicornSag
And that's why you Caps lose people you care about. Ghosting.

He apologized, he explained what's going on with him yet you still ghosted on him, means you didn't understand him or believed him or accepted apology. From what I've seen on forum only Scorpios actually can reflect your behavior back to you and it gets you hurt. You both hurt each other and both are too blind to see and to move past those issues...idk why even try pairing Scorp and Cap like

peachy said...except for very few successful examples

My sun being in the 8th house and mars in Scorpio literally eliminates the possibility of me dating someone without Scorpio in their chart so..... but this guy has a stellium with no grounding so he has me perplexed.

I’ve apologized several times and continue to try as reach out to him. I’ve been sending a song or something I’ve written (he loves my poetry)

Today I sent Linger by the Cranberries

Yesterday was a quote by Sarah Kay “nothing is more beautiful than the way the ocean refuses to stop kissing the shore no matter how many times it’s sent away”.

I love him and I’m willing to fall on my sword here. I just don’t know if it’s too late.

I have an 8th house placement and Scorpio mars. I don’t date people who are Scorpios or Scorpio dominant so please STFU with your Scorpio dick sucking.

I’m not sucking anyone’s dick. I’m only being honest about my astrological chart and my experience with what I’m attracted to. There’s honestly no reason for anyone to be rude or accusatory.

🙄🙄🙄

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Hon! When have you seen an eye doctor last time? Lmao jeez...

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Posted by edgelord

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by edgelord

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by UnicornSag
And that's why you Caps lose people you care about. Ghosting.

He apologized, he explained what's going on with him yet you still ghosted on him, means you didn't understand him or believed him or accepted apology. From what I've seen on forum only Scorpios actually can reflect your behavior back to you and it gets you hurt. You both hurt each other and both are too blind to see and to move past those issues...idk why even try pairing Scorp and Cap like

peachy said...except for very few successful examples

My sun being in the 8th house and mars in Scorpio literally eliminates the possibility of me dating someone without Scorpio in their chart so..... but this guy has a stellium with no grounding so he has me perplexed.

I’ve apologized several times and continue to try as reach out to him. I’ve been sending a song or something I’ve written (he loves my poetry)

Today I sent Linger by the Cranberries

Yesterday was a quote by Sarah Kay “nothing is more beautiful than the way the ocean refuses to stop kissing the shore no matter how many times it’s sent away”.

I love him and I’m willing to fall on my sword here. I just don’t know if it’s too late.

I have an 8th house placement and Scorpio mars. I don’t date people who are Scorpios or Scorpio dominant so please STFU with your Scorpio dick sucking.

I’m not sucking anyone’s dick. I’m only being honest about my astrological chart and my experience with what I’m attracted to. There’s honestly no reason for anyone to be rude or accusatory.

🙄🙄🙄

Hon! When have you seen an eye doctor last time? Lmao jeez...

I just got new glasses actually 👌

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They don’t work! You look like you rolling those eyes up!

Oh...it’s the post? Sorry...😂

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Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by Ellygant

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by Ellygant
It might be too late.

Capricorn pettiness works well on cardinals. Sometimes Virgos. Those signs understand what’s behind being petty more. Not on fixed signs though. And that’s what ghosting him after he apologized was, petty. Especially for long distance which has its own set of strains already.

You already had both what you deserved and wanted, but decided to punish him. He probably read that as a power play on your part and it caused a loss of trust. Now everything you do is looking through that new perception.

Your best shot is a straight up honest approach.

Something like

‘I was wrong to ghost you. I know I damaged the relationship in doing so. I’d like to work through it and move forward. Do you have any interest in that?’

If his answer is anything less than a yes, then consider if your time and effort is really worth investing any further.

I did that exactly. But he’s still distant.

Then respectfully, leave him alone.

You cannot make anyone come back.

He said he loves me and misses me but that he’s in hell right now. I can’t leave him there alone unless he says that’s what he wants.

You can, you just chose not to, acknowledge that difference.

If he’s in hell and he wanted your help he’d accept it. It sounds like he’s barely acknowledging you, so he obviously does not trust you to be there. You pushing yourself into his life will only make things worse because A) He’ll get annoyed and feel suffocated or B) he’ll start coming and going as pleases as a pattern. Run to you when down, leave and ignore you when he feels better, till he needs another ego fix.

You can sign up for that if you want. And yeah maybe there’s a third option. But in my observation with Scorp men and being a Scorpio woman, I notice those tend to be the most common reactions. Stepping back and letting a Scorp come to you is always best.

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I am just sidetracking...it’s like you guarantee they will come back IF you give them a space! I wish you were right but not all of them come back! Or I am reading it wrong?

Posted by Ellygant

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by Ellygant

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by Ellygant
It might be too late.

Capricorn pettiness works well on cardinals. Sometimes Virgos. Those signs understand what’s behind being petty more. Not on fixed signs though. And that’s what ghosting him after he apologized was, petty. Especially for long distance which has its own set of strains already.

You already had both what you deserved and wanted, but decided to punish him. He probably read that as a power play on your part and it caused a loss of trust. Now everything you do is looking through that new perception.

Your best shot is a straight up honest approach.

Something like

‘I was wrong to ghost you. I know I damaged the relationship in doing so. I’d like to work through it and move forward. Do you have any interest in that?’

If his answer is anything less than a yes, then consider if your time and effort is really worth investing any further.

I did that exactly. But he’s still distant.

Then respectfully, leave him alone.

You cannot make anyone come back.

He said he loves me and misses me but that he’s in hell right now. I can’t leave him there alone unless he says that’s what he wants.

You can, you just chose not to, acknowledge that difference.

If he’s in hell and he wanted your help he’d accept it. It sounds like he’s barely acknowledging you, so he obviously does not trust you to be there. You pushing yourself into his life will only make things worse because A) He’ll get annoyed and feel suffocated or B) he’ll start coming and going as pleases as a pattern. Run to you when down, leave and ignore you when he feels better, till he needs another ego fix.

You can sign up for that if you want. And yeah maybe there’s a third option. But in my observation with Scorp men and being a Scorpio woman, I notice those tend to be the most common reactions. Stepping back and letting a Scorp come to you is always best.

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I can do that. I don’t mind stepping back but I keep reading about Scorpios testing etc. so I failed one apparently and am trying to make up for it. I don’t want to continue screwing this up.

Posted by Ellygant

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Ellygant

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by Ellygant

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by Ellygant
It might be too late.

Capricorn pettiness works well on cardinals. Sometimes Virgos. Those signs understand what’s behind being petty more. Not on fixed signs though. And that’s what ghosting him after he apologized was, petty. Especially for long distance which has its own set of strains already.

You already had both what you deserved and wanted, but decided to punish him. He probably read that as a power play on your part and it caused a loss of trust. Now everything you do is looking through that new perception.

Your best shot is a straight up honest approach.

Something like

‘I was wrong to ghost you. I know I damaged the relationship in doing so. I’d like to work through it and move forward. Do you have any interest in that?’

If his answer is anything less than a yes, then consider if your time and effort is really worth investing any further.

I did that exactly. But he’s still distant.

Then respectfully, leave him alone.

You cannot make anyone come back.

He said he loves me and misses me but that he’s in hell right now. I can’t leave him there alone unless he says that’s what he wants.

You can, you just chose not to, acknowledge that difference.

If he’s in hell and he wanted your help he’d accept it. It sounds like he’s barely acknowledging you, so he obviously does not trust you to be there. You pushing yourself into his life will only make things worse because A) He’ll get annoyed and feel suffocated or B) he’ll start coming and going as pleases as a pattern. Run to you when down, leave and ignore you when he feels better, till he needs another ego fix.

You can sign up for that if you want. And yeah maybe there’s a third option. But in my observation with Scorp men and being a Scorpio woman, I notice those tend to be the most common reactions. Stepping back and letting a Scorp come to you is always best.

I am just sidetracking...it’s like you guarantee they will come back IF you give them a space! I wish you were right but not all of them come back! Or I am reading it wrong?

I’m not guaranteeing anything. I told OP it might be too late.

But common sense says when you respect people’s decisions to take space, it always works in your favor. Either they don’t come back and you move on in time. Or they do after both people have had a chance to change and grow from their mistakes.

Plus I find the more desperate a person’s energy is ie pleading, begging or anxiously hoping, the more they repel and/or are used by people.

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I’ve heard stalking works wonders!

Disagree? 😂💦😱

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Posted by Ellygant

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by Ellygant

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by Ellygant
It might be too late.

Capricorn pettiness works well on cardinals. Sometimes Virgos. Those signs understand what’s behind being petty more. Not on fixed signs though. And that’s what ghosting him after he apologized was, petty. Especially for long distance which has its own set of strains already.

You already had both what you deserved and wanted, but decided to punish him. He probably read that as a power play on your part and it caused a loss of trust. Now everything you do is looking through that new perception.

Your best shot is a straight up honest approach.

Something like

‘I was wrong to ghost you. I know I damaged the relationship in doing so. I’d like to work through it and move forward. Do you have any interest in that?’

If his answer is anything less than a yes, then consider if your time and effort is really worth investing any further.

I did that exactly. But he’s still distant.

Then respectfully, leave him alone.

You cannot make anyone come back.

He said he loves me and misses me but that he’s in hell right now. I can’t leave him there alone unless he says that’s what he wants.

You can, you just chose not to, acknowledge that difference.

If he’s in hell and he wanted your help he’d accept it. It sounds like he’s barely acknowledging you, so he obviously does not trust you to be there. You pushing yourself into his life will only make things worse because A) He’ll get annoyed and feel suffocated or B) he’ll start coming and going as pleases as a pattern. Run to you when down, leave and ignore you when he feels better, till he needs another ego fix.

You can sign up for that if you want. And yeah maybe there’s a third option. But in my observation with Scorp men and being a Scorpio woman, I notice those tend to be the most common reactions. Stepping back and letting a Scorp come to you is always best.

I can do that. I don’t mind stepping back but I keep reading about Scorpios testing etc. so I failed one apparently and am trying to make up for it. I don’t want to continue screwing this up.

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You have to understand that no one here ever been in relationships (whatever those are) for 30 years!

Your case is unique and who is if not you can solve your puzzle? If you can’t - just let it go.

He seems a man with issues and he must resolve them on his own and come back with a ring...but then...he might dissapear again! And hopefully you wouldn’t have 5 kids to raise by then...

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by Ellygant

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by Ellygant

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by Ellygant
It might be too late.

Capricorn pettiness works well on cardinals. Sometimes Virgos. Those signs understand what’s behind being petty more. Not on fixed signs though. And that’s what ghosting him after he apologized was, petty. Especially for long distance which has its own set of strains already.

You already had both what you deserved and wanted, but decided to punish him. He probably read that as a power play on your part and it caused a loss of trust. Now everything you do is looking through that new perception.

Your best shot is a straight up honest approach.

Something like

‘I was wrong to ghost you. I know I damaged the relationship in doing so. I’d like to work through it and move forward. Do you have any interest in that?’

If his answer is anything less than a yes, then consider if your time and effort is really worth investing any further.

I did that exactly. But he’s still distant.

Then respectfully, leave him alone.

You cannot make anyone come back.

He said he loves me and misses me but that he’s in hell right now. I can’t leave him there alone unless he says that’s what he wants.

You can, you just chose not to, acknowledge that difference.

If he’s in hell and he wanted your help he’d accept it. It sounds like he’s barely acknowledging you, so he obviously does not trust you to be there. You pushing yourself into his life will only make things worse because A) He’ll get annoyed and feel suffocated or B) he’ll start coming and going as pleases as a pattern. Run to you when down, leave and ignore you when he feels better, till he needs another ego fix.

You can sign up for that if you want. And yeah maybe there’s a third option. But in my observation with Scorp men and being a Scorpio woman, I notice those tend to be the most common reactions. Stepping back and letting a Scorp come to you is always best.

I can do that. I don’t mind stepping back but I keep reading about Scorpios testing etc. so I failed one apparently and am trying to make up for it. I don’t want to continue screwing this up.

You have to understand that no one here ever been in relationships (whatever those are) for 30 years!

Your case is unique and who is if not you can solve your puzzle? If you can’t - just let it go.

He seems a man with issues and he must resolve them on his own and come back with a ring...but then...he might dissapear again! And hopefully you wouldn’t have 5 kids to raise by then...

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True. I’m really hurt and confused. He has been such an important part of my life, I’ve always loved him and regret not saying it earlier but I was afraid. Losing my brother has made me rethink all the times I should’ve/could’ve/would’ve done something and I don’t want to be haunted by those anymore.

Perhaps I was never as important to him as what he has said but my gut tells me I am. He shut down - I know he has a habit of running from things that get too heavy emotionally and he said he doesn’t want to do that with me. But it seems he has. I guess it’s him that will be haunted if that’s the case. I think at this point I’ve done what I can, I’ve lain my heart on the line and bled for him. If he doesn’t accept my apology then I can’t make him.

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Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by Ellygant

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by Ellygant

Posted by Capsunin8thhousemarsScorp

Posted by Ellygant
It might be too late.

Capricorn pettiness works well on cardinals. Sometimes Virgos. Those signs understand what’s behind being petty more. Not on fixed signs though. And that’s what ghosting him after he apologized was, petty. Especially for long distance which has its own set of strains already.

You already had both what you deserved and wanted, but decided to punish him. He probably read that as a power play on your part and it caused a loss of trust. Now everything you do is looking through that new perception.

Your best shot is a straight up honest approach.

Something like

‘I was wrong to ghost you. I know I damaged the relationship in doing so. I’d like to work through it and move forward. Do you have any interest in that?’

If his answer is anything less than a yes, then consider if your time and effort is really worth investing any further.

I did that exactly. But he’s still distant.

Then respectfully, leave him alone.

You cannot make anyone come back.

He said he loves me and misses me but that he’s in hell right now. I can’t leave him there alone unless he says that’s what he wants.

You can, you just chose not to, acknowledge that difference.

If he’s in hell and he wanted your help he’d accept it. It sounds like he’s barely acknowledging you, so he obviously does not trust you to be there. You pushing yourself into his life will only make things worse because A) He’ll get annoyed and feel suffocated or B) he’ll start coming and going as pleases as a pattern. Run to you when down, leave and ignore you when he feels better, till he needs another ego fix.

You can sign up for that if you want. And yeah maybe there’s a third option. But in my observation with Scorp men and being a Scorpio woman, I notice those tend to be the most common reactions. Stepping back and letting a Scorp come to you is always best.

I can do that. I don’t mind stepping back but I keep reading about Scorpios testing etc. so I failed one apparently and am trying to make up for it. I don’t want to continue screwing this up.

You have to understand that no one here ever been in relationships (whatever those are) for 30 years!

Your case is unique and who is if not you can solve your puzzle? If you can’t - just let it go.

He seems a man with issues and he must resolve them on his own and come back with a ring...but then...he might dissapear again! And hopefully you wouldn’t have 5 kids to raise by then...

True. I’m really hurt and confused. He has been such an important part of my life, I’ve always loved him and regret not saying it earlier but I was afraid. Losing my brother has made me rethink all the times I should’ve/could’ve/would’ve done something and I don’t want to be haunted by those anymore.

Perhaps I was never as important to him as what he has said but my gut tells me I am. He shut down - I know he has a habit of running from things that get too heavy emotionally and he said he doesn’t want to do that with me. But it seems he has. I guess it’s him that will be haunted if that’s the case. I think at this point I’ve done what I can, I’ve lain my heart on the line and bled for him. If he doesn’t accept my apology then I can’t make him.

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Just give it to the God and pray!

Trust me. It works...

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It might be too late.

Capricorn pettiness works well on cardinals. Sometimes Virgos. Those signs understand what’s behind being petty more. Not on fixed signs though. And that’s what ghosting him after he apologized was, petty. Especially for long distance which has its own set of strains already.

You already had both what you deserved and wanted, but decided to punish him. He probably read that as a power play on your part and it caused a loss of trust. Now everything you do is looking through that new perception.

Your best shot is a straight up honest approach.

Something like

‘I was wrong to ghost you. I know I damaged the relationship in doing so. I’d like to work through it and move forward. Do you have any interest in that?’

If his answer is anything less than a yes, then consider if your time and effort is really worth investing any further.

I did that exactly. But he’s still distant.

Then respectfully, leave him alone.

You cannot make anyone come back.

He said he loves me and misses me but that he’s in hell right now. I can’t leave him there alone unless he says that’s what he wants.

You can, you just chose not to, acknowledge that difference.

If he’s in hell and he wanted your help he’d accept it. It sounds like he’s barely acknowledging you, so he obviously does not trust you to be there. You pushing yourself into his life will only make things worse because A) He’ll get annoyed and feel suffocated or B) he’ll start coming and going as pleases as a pattern. Run to you when down, leave and ignore you when he feels better, till he needs another ego fix.

You can sign up for that if you want. And yeah maybe there’s a third option. But in my observation with Scorp men and being a Scorpio woman, I notice those tend to be the most common reactions. Stepping back and letting a Scorp come to you is always best.

I can do that. I don’t mind stepping back but I keep reading about Scorpios testing etc. so I failed one apparently and am trying to make up for it. I don’t want to continue screwing this up.

You have to understand that no one here ever been in relationships (whatever those are) for 30 years!

Your case is unique and who is if not you can solve your puzzle? If you can’t - just let it go.

He seems a man with issues and he must resolve them on his own and come back with a ring...but then...he might dissapear again! And hopefully you wouldn’t have 5 kids to raise by then...

True. I’m really hurt and confused. He has been such an important part of my life, I’ve always loved him and regret not saying it earlier but I was afraid. Losing my brother has made me rethink all the times I should’ve/could’ve/would’ve done something and I don’t want to be haunted by those anymore.

Perhaps I was never as important to him as what he has said but my gut tells me I am. He shut down - I know he has a habit of running from things that get too heavy emotionally and he said he doesn’t want to do that with me. But it seems he has. I guess it’s him that will be haunted if that’s the case. I think at this point I’ve done what I can, I’ve lain my heart on the line and bled for him. If he doesn’t accept my apology then I can’t make him.

Just give it to the God and pray!

Trust me. It works...

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I will try. Thank you for your kindness. He said that he was born with me in his blood and he would love me until it left his veins. I’ll have to trust that and know that even if he didn’t mean it, I have the memory of someone saying the most heartbreakingly beautiful professions of love to me.

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He’s hurting; from abandonment issues? Trust issues? If you love him don’t leave him. There’s some underlying issue that he needs to get over that’s why he has disappeared. It could be because of you or totally not related at all. It could be a personal issue that he’s battling within himself. Scorpios are the hardest on themselves. Keep checking in, keep sending him songs. Just be there and give him time but if your own sanity and well being is at stake and he can’t see that. Move on

Yes, abandonment issues AND trust issues. His family is more messy than some, lots of drama. One huge reason we were afraid to say we’d fallen in love with each other was due to fear over the reaction of our respective families. Now, we both regret allowing that to hinder us. Neither of us fell in love with anyone else. I ran by moving several states away and married someone I didn’t love. He stayed, very loyal to his family, he supports them all and also married someone he didn’t love.

When we reconnected it was like fireworks. Finally both of us said that life was too short to continue to let our families keep us apart. I believe what he has said, that he’s madly in love with me and I’m his soul mate and he has never/will never love another. Most Scorpios I know don’t make those kinds of statements if they aren’t true or just ‘in the heat of the moment’. But I do fear that I’ve caused him to retreat and he may never expose himself again.

I’m not perfect, I made a mistake and I’ve apologized.

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Are you both still married? are there children involved?

No. I had children but ultimately could not continue to be married. He never had children, he said he would only have them with me. He said he always planned to come after me but he wanted to prove that he was good enough first. He drove 8 hours through the night to see me once he found out I’d flown in to be with my parents.

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And that's why you Caps lose people you care about. Ghosting.

He apologized, he explained what's going on with him yet you still ghosted on him, means you didn't understand him or believed him or accepted apology. From what I've seen on forum only Scorpios actually can reflect your behavior back to you and it gets you hurt. You both hurt each other and both are too blind to see and to move past those issues...idk why even try pairing Scorp and Cap like

peachy said...except for very few successful examples

My sun being in the 8th house and mars in Scorpio literally eliminates the possibility of me dating someone without Scorpio in their chart so..... but this guy has a stellium with no grounding so he has me perplexed.

I’ve apologized several times and continue to try as reach out to him. I’ve been sending a song or something I’ve written (he loves my poetry)

Today I sent Linger by the Cranberries

Yesterday was a quote by Sarah Kay “nothing is more beautiful than the way the ocean refuses to stop kissing the shore no matter how many times it’s sent away”.

I love him and I’m willing to fall on my sword here. I just don’t know if it’s too late.

Well I got some similar things and attract and get attracted to people with some similar Scorp placements. Mars as well in Scorpio but also Pluto in Scorp and in 8th house, however I don't get attracted to Scorp suns,but other placements. What I was saying is, in a way he reflected your reaction. I don't say it's right because I truly hate that and both Scorp and Cap do the ghosting thing depending on reasons but Caps do it a lot more. Being around will let him know you're there for him but don't push much either. For some reason he seems to be offended as well so I'm guessing he has his own process of getting over it. Just don't get clningy to get him back and he would probably come back if he was interested in you as stated. If you push too much it might back fire so I suggest only beyour normal self. You did what you coukd do to explain your reactin and now it's his turn

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I agree. He did seem to be personally offended. I’ve apologized and I gave him space so I’ll take your advice to be myself.

I write a lot of poetry and share it with him. And music is often how he communicates emotion so I do that too.

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It might be too late.

Capricorn pettiness works well on cardinals. Sometimes Virgos. Those signs understand what’s behind being petty more. Not on fixed signs though. And that’s what ghosting him after he apologized was, petty. Especially for long distance which has its own set of strains already.

You already had both what you deserved and wanted, but decided to punish him. He probably read that as a power play on your part and it caused a loss of trust. Now everything you do is looking through that new perception.

Your best shot is a straight up honest approach.

Something like

‘I was wrong to ghost you. I know I damaged the relationship in doing so. I’d like to work through it and move forward. Do you have any interest in that?’

If his answer is anything less than a yes, then consider if your time and effort is really worth investing any further.

I did that exactly. But he’s still distant.

Then respectfully, leave him alone.

You cannot make anyone come back.

He said he loves me and misses me but that he’s in hell right now. I can’t leave him there alone unless he says that’s what he wants.

Don’t fret. They enjoy it. It’s kinda their thing.

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Haha. Yeah me too. My poetry is dark, I only share it with a few close friends and publish under a pseudonym so I don’t worry my family lol. He calls me his dark gothicy nerd-girl poet

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And that's why you Caps lose people you care about. Ghosting.

He apologized, he explained what's going on with him yet you still ghosted on him, means you didn't understand him or believed him or accepted apology. From what I've seen on forum only Scorpios actually can reflect your behavior back to you and it gets you hurt. You both hurt each other and both are too blind to see and to move past those issues...idk why even try pairing Scorp and Cap like peachy said...except for very few successful examples

Caps are pretty much like Leo's. The only time they don't ghost people is when it benefits them.

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I’ve been in love with a Scorpio guy since birth, our families are close so he’s always been around. In October, I saw him after years of me living in a different state and a divorce. He said he’d always been in love with me, I reciprocated and for two month things were great - long distance relationship blooming. He flew me to spend the weekend with him and talked marriage- know da all of it.

Fast forward to December, he said something that hurt me and I called him out. He apologized and said he felt like he was drowning, shared some things in his life that were killing him, but I was still angry so I didn’t contact him for a week - but he didn’t reach out either.

I finally reached out, he won that emotional hold out battle. I apologized for disappearing on him- which is what he said I did- and that I crushed him. He said he’d put himself out there like he had never before.

But since then, he’s a ghost. He responds sometimes to my texts but more often doesn’t. Says he loves me but he’s in he’ll due to some circumstances I won’t go into. I have no idea how to handle this, my mars I’m Scorpio wants to inundate him with proof of my devotion but I don’t want to scare him off.

Any advice is appreciated 🙏🏻

2 things.

Do you usually treat romantic relationships like a battle to be in power?

Have you thought that maybe the reason he didn’t reach out was because he wasn’t ready too, not because he was playing games and trying for a power pull?

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Great questions.

1) sadly I’ve only been in one romantic relationship prior. I’m willfull so there was definitely a battle of wills in the beginning of that one. From an astrological perspective, one of my relationship challenges is power struggles. I don’t do it consciously and have made great efforts to recognize when I do it and correct my behavior and apologize.

2) yes and that’s why I’m giving him space. I just miss him and am afraid I’ve lost even his friendship now.

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And that's why you Caps lose people you care about. Ghosting.

He apologized, he explained what's going on with him yet you still ghosted on him, means you didn't understand him or believed him or accepted apology. From what I've seen on forum only Scorpios actually can reflect your behavior back to you and it gets you hurt. You both hurt each other and both are too blind to see and to move past those issues...idk why even try pairing Scorp and Cap like peachy said...except for very few successful examples

Caps are pretty much like Leo's. The only time they don't ghost people is when it benefits them.

I don't know Leos :/ I mean I do a few but not that close to them. Caps on the other hand I know quite a few by now,if interested they are all over you...but if their doubts and depression kicks in they disappear from the face of the Earth :/ and it's incredibly annoying cause well as much as intuitive I am still can't read minds lol

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I've dealt with the worst type of Capricorn known to man. Like complete black holes. I hate saying that because most of my favorite musicians and actors are Capricorn. They are truly amazingand creative people. Intelligent and deep thinking too. But some are just a complete void of light.

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And that's why you Caps lose people you care about. Ghosting.

He apologized, he explained what's going on with him yet you still ghosted on him, means you didn't understand him or believed him or accepted apology. From what I've seen on forum only Scorpios actually can reflect your behavior back to you and it gets you hurt. You both hurt each other and both are too blind to see and to move past those issues...idk why even try pairing Scorp and Cap like peachy said...except for very few successful examples

Caps are pretty much like Leo's. The only time they don't ghost people is when it benefits them.

I don't know Leos :/ I mean I do a few but not that close to them. Caps on the other hand I know quite a few by now,if interested they are all over you...but if their doubts and depression kicks in they disappear from the face of the Earth :/ and it's incredibly annoying cause well as much as intuitive I am still can't read minds lol

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I do disappear on people when I need to sort my own head out. I get lost in my depression and darkness. I push people away when this happens because I don’t feel I have anything to offer. But those who transverse these periods are treasured friends that I will always respond to.

But my chart is heavy laden with Scorpio influence so I can’t speak for all Cappys

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And that's why you Caps lose people you care about. Ghosting.

He apologized, he explained what's going on with him yet you still ghosted on him, means you didn't understand him or believed him or accepted apology. From what I've seen on forum only Scorpios actually can reflect your behavior back to you and it gets you hurt. You both hurt each other and both are too blind to see and to move past those issues...idk why even try pairing Scorp and Cap like peachy said...except for very few successful examples

Caps are pretty much like Leo's. The only time they don't ghost people is when it benefits them.

I don't know Leos :/ I mean I do a few but not that close to them. Caps on the other hand I know quite a few by now,if interested they are all over you...but if their doubts and depression kicks in they disappear from the face of the Earth :/ and it's incredibly annoying cause well as much as intuitive I am still can't read minds lol

I've dealt with the worst type of Capricorn known to man. Like complete black holes. I hate saying that because most of my favorite musicians and actors are Capricorn. They are truly amazingand creative people. Intelligent and deep thinking too. But some are just a complete void of light.

Oh mine too! I had no idea even all those people are Caps cause I rarely ever checek celebrity signs but when I saw how many of them I really like I was very surprised. Probably the most celebrity people I like are Caps actually. Also had a realy hard case of Cap in my past lol but really tried to not judge anyone else by this one

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They are really good at what they do, and super likeable too. But once some of them open up to you and show their deeper feelings it's hard for most to take. Personally I want to help and heal them. I want to make them feel better and at peace. But it's like no matter how hard I try i cant. No matter what I say, or what I do nothing works. And it makes me feel like shit because it's one of my favorite signs.

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And that's why you Caps lose people you care about. Ghosting.

He apologized, he explained what's going on with him yet you still ghosted on him, means you didn't understand him or believed him or accepted apology. From what I've seen on forum only Scorpios actually can reflect your behavior back to you and it gets you hurt. You both hurt each other and both are too blind to see and to move past those issues...idk why even try pairing Scorp and Cap like peachy said...except for very few successful examples

Caps are pretty much like Leo's. The only time they don't ghost people is when it benefits them.

I don't know Leos :/ I mean I do a few but not that close to them. Caps on the other hand I know quite a few by now,if interested they are all over you...but if their doubts and depression kicks in they disappear from the face of the Earth :/ and it's incredibly annoying cause well as much as intuitive I am still can't read minds lol

I do disappear on people when I need to sort my own head out. I get lost in my depression and darkness. I push people away when this happens because I don’t feel I have anything to offer. But those who transverse these periods are treasured friends that I will always respond to.

But my chart is heavy laden with Scorpio influence so I can’t speak for all Cappys

Yeah I felt that from this guy as well. He also said it himself partly but not in detail so much. Caps with Scorpio and Aqua placements are dificult and nead special approach. Probably same goes for Scorp with Aqua and Cap placement as well as Aqua with Scorp abd Cap...3 signs I'd say most complicated combined in 1 person makes them really dificult to crack. By dificult I don't mean anything bad ofc but it takes special people to get behind all those walls of ice. Who gets there is worth it I'm sure.

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Yep. You nailed it. I have Aquarius as my midhaven.

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Apologize and tell him you’ll be there if he needs you. And then back off and give space and be patient.

The patient part is tough. I’m pinning away and eating my emotions. My waistline can’t handle much more of this. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Thank you for the advice.