Cancer-Scorpio Girls

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allyouneedisloveandwine
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8 Years

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Im a cancer girl and Im dating a scorpio girl who messaged me thru social media when she saw my tinder profile. When we met up, we were instantly attracted to each other and things got physical. Anyway, we continued dating and a few weeks into it we'd say I miss you to each other and eventually after over a month of dating, she started saying I love you, which I found a little too quick? She knows Im dating other people, and I feel that she's indirectly telling me not to date other people too, but it took me a while to decide on that. Just now, after 3 months, I told her that I feel the same way. I've now started being sweet towards her, but she seems uninterested. She said she's been feeling lazy/sad about everything in general since the new year--she's been busy at work (stressed) and would go straight home to sleep after work. We communicate everyday though, she tries to make time to see me, but she tends to cancel on me at times. When I told her I find her so unsure about things and maybe we should just be friends so she can have her alone time first, she would refuse to do so and would ask if that's what I really like. Im so confused... I dont know if I should just stop completely or should I be more patient with her? Her moods are so erratic. She was overwhelmingly sweet before and now not at all. Someone help me understand her.
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wildflower
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Posted by Ellygant
I’m a Scorp gal that’s dated cancer men and women.

When you didn’t return her sentiment is that when she started pulling away, slowly?

Did her being more absent make you care more?

That’s just a familiar routine between crabs and I. I’d be wanting to jump in and see what happens. They’d want to pump the brakes. But Scorpios aren’t good at that honestly. Once we get momentum built up for someone we are t great at scaling back and when we try to we end up sabotaging or losing interest.

It’s normally around that time the crab comes back around, once I’ve distanced or have been a bit of an asshole.

Don’t suggest just being friends again. If it wasn’t a death blow the first time it will be the second time.

Show up to see her and just be with her. Ask her what she wants to do. If she doesn’t know, then just eat a nice meal, cooked or ordered in, smile, talk about things you both love, just be with her. If she responds well, she’s just afraid and will come back around. If she’s done, she will respond negatively.
woah, you're good at putting actions into words... I need to work on that
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E. M. Henderson
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8 Years1,000+ PostsCancer

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Y'all moving too fast..... Chill on the lovey dovey.

I just find it amusing as fuck, that when you moved at your own pace and didn't fall into her emotions, everything was fine. Now that you have returned the I love you and cut your options off, now she's pulling away.... She's thinking "ah, I got you.", whether she knows it or not.

That's just how women operate.

You gonna make things worse by trying to pry yourself into her life... Then she'll really know that she has you in the palm of her hands, and then it's game over.

Women need to know that they can't "move" you. Then it's easier to trust you and be loyal to you.

Y'all don't have to talk everyday too.. Y'all probably don't even fully understand why you love each other. It's just the beginning and it's already in the bag.. So stop questioning it.



I guarantee if you stopped prying and giving a fuck.. Her attitude will change up quick as fuck
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allyouneedisloveandwine
@allyouneedisloveandwine
8 Years

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Posted by Ellygant
I’m a Scorp gal that’s dated cancer men and women.

When you didn’t return her sentiment is that when she started pulling away, slowly?

Did her being more absent make you care more?

That’s just a familiar routine between crabs and I. I’d be wanting to jump in and see what happens. They’d want to pump the brakes. But Scorpios aren’t good at that honestly. Once we get momentum built up for someone we are t great at scaling back and when we try to we end up sabotaging or losing interest.

It’s normally around that time the crab comes back around, once I’ve distanced or have been a bit of an asshole.

Don’t suggest just being friends again. If it wasn’t a death blow the first time it will be the second time.

Show up to see her and just be with her. Ask her what she wants to do. If she doesn’t know, then just eat a nice meal, cooked or ordered in, smile, talk about things you both love, just be with her. If she responds well, she’s just afraid and will come back around. If she’s done, she will respond negatively.
This is exactly right.. And yes that's what I'm planning to do actually 🙂 Thanks for the advice.. I did suggest that because she still talks about her exes a lot and especially the recent one and they still communicate with each other. She assured me though that she has no plans of getting back together and that they just have a complicated shit to fix. I'm so torn.. I want to risk it with her honestly, but Im already feeling the burn just from this haha.

Also, do you think @Emhendo's reply makes sense too? What do you think?

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PhoenixRising
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Posted by allyouneedisloveandwine
Im a cancer girl and Im dating a scorpio girl who messaged me thru social media when she saw my tinder profile. When we met up, we were instantly attracted to each other and things got physical. Anyway, we continued dating and a few weeks into it we'd say I miss you to each other and eventually after over a month of dating, she started saying I love you, which I found a little too quick? She knows Im dating other people, and I feel that she's indirectly telling me not to date other people too, but it took me a while to decide on that. Just now, after 3 months, I told her that I feel the same way. I've now started being sweet towards her, but she seems uninterested. She said she's been feeling lazy/sad about everything in general since the new year--she's been busy at work (stressed) and would go straight home to sleep after work. We communicate everyday though, she tries to make time to see me, but she tends to cancel on me at times. When I told her I find her so unsure about things and maybe we should just be friends so she can have her alone time first, she would refuse to do so and would ask if that's what I really like. Im so confused... I dont know if I should just stop completely or should I be more patient with her? Her moods are so erratic. She was overwhelmingly sweet before and now not at all. Someone help me understand her.

She genuinely cared for you and your "rejection" hurt. You weren't ready, so you should not make any apologies for that, but that doesn't change the fact that she still seemed to genuinely likes you and felt rejected. Water signs, tend to be very egotistical when it comes to their feelings. Now, she doesn't trust you'll weather the storm, especially given your reaction at her mood change. She has removed some of her feelings from the equation.

Stay or go. Your call. Just know going back will be extremely difficult.
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PhoenixRising
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Posted by Ellygant
...That’s just a familiar routine between crabs and I. I’d be wanting to jump in and see what happens. They’d want to pump the brakes. But Scorpios aren’t good at that honestly. Once we get momentum built up for someone we aren't great at scaling back and when we try to we end up sabotaging or losing interest.

This.

Posted by Ellygant
Don’t suggest just being friends again. If it wasn’t a death blow the first time it will be the second time.

Show up to see her and just be with her. Ask her what she wants to do. If she doesn’t know, then just eat a nice meal, cooked or ordered in, smile, talk about things you both love, just be with her. If she responds well, she’s just afraid and will come back around. If she’s done, she will respond negatively.
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allyouneedisloveandwine
@allyouneedisloveandwine
8 Years

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Just an update: We're now just friends. She said she realized that she's not over her ex yet that's why she's been weird. So weird.. The last Scorpio I dated, the exact same thing happened. And it's not as if the break-ups were recent. And another weird thing is both Scorpios I dated, their exes were physically abusive towards them. Anyway, my heart's a bit broken at the moment. I would've risked it honestly if there was no ex involved. I don't think I can trust another Scorpio in my life. I honestly didn't expect it to hurt this much. Haha.. My soft cancer heart... HAHAHA

And my last messages were so pathetic. I told her that i'll be fine and to just concentrate on working towards being okay. Something like that. And I told her how she's such a good person and she deserves more than what she's been experiencing with her exes (both didn't treat her well). I would like to confirm how pathetic we cancerians are. kthanksbye