Confused with this Scorpio

Can anyone please analyze this behaviour for me?

So I've been seeing this Scorpio guy for 2 months. We are both Venus in Scorpio so I can't help but always compare myself to him whenever he acts strange (ask myself if and why I would this or that). In doing so, I basically came to the conclusion that he was not that into me. The reason for this is because we have already slept together so I would've expected a certain level of closeness that I don't feel yet. Also, he barely makes plans to see me yet every time he texts me he says he wants to see me 'soon' but then doesn't follow through to actually plans. The past 2 weeks I've stopped texting all together because of this behaviour but he still has texted me a few times to see how I'm doing. Since we have been talking he texts me on average once a week and we barely see each other. Also I feel like everything he says and does is a constant contradiction. (Difficult to explain why without rambling on but let's just say I've been analyzing him)

SO.. In true Venus in scorp fashion, I waited for the perfect moment to give him a piece of my mind. Probably picked the worst time ever (New Years Eve day) to do so.. But his last text pissed me off and I exploded. He didn't ask me what I was doing for New Years but said he wanted to see me soon (again with the treetrunking 'soon') and this is when I lost it and told him that he only wants me for sex and barely makes an effort and I'm not wasting anymore of my time. I also went off on him for thinking I'm going to do how he pleases and made it very clear that I'm not weak and that I'm strong enough to cut him loose. He did not deny anything I accused him of but simply stated that I think I know him but I don't and he won't waste his time explaining. What's weird is that right after this, he posted something on social media that really threw me off. His post was about how "girlfriends" are terrible and this is why he's single.. Huh? It left me all confused because I'm not his girlfriend so why would he post that 5 minutes after our argument.

Was this just a manipulation tactic? If it wasn't for his post I would've been sure of how I felt.. I can't help but think he posted that to manipulate me into thinking he saw a future with me and make me feel bad for telling him off. But is it possible I misjudged him?

I'll look like an idiot texting him after all that and I fear I'll never hear from him again.. But honestly I wouldn't even want to hear from him unle

... There's a glitch when I post things they get posted twice and it also cut off the end sentence where I wanted to state that I wouldn't want to hear from him anyway unless he was genuine and wanted to make the effort. Also, he never posts anything on social media so I know that had something to do with me.

Arielle I probably would analyze him regardless because I like him a lot. Otherwise I wouldn't bother.. But sleeping with him created more feelings (on my part anyway) so that probably does have something to do with it just not everything.. It's mainly the fact that he's so confusing and giving me the impression he's not trying hard enough. Then he goes and throws some "you don't know me" thing at me and posts something about girlfriends and it leaves me questioning certain things (although I belive it could've been just manipulation on his part I don't know)

lol

This situation sounds just like one I had with a fwb.

There's your answer.

It's maddening, but the dude is a waste of your time. Typical undecided, immature guy. "Here, let me jerk you around and then act all baffled when you go off on me."

Good for you for stating your piece. At least you can say you put it all out there in how his bs bothered you. His reaction told you plenty.

And in regard to his post- I wouldn't think much of it in regard to a "girlfriend" statement rather than an immature guy not wanting to be held accountable for his actions (or lack thereof, in this matter).

"SEE?? THIS IS WHY I STAY SINGLE. THEY MAKE ME ACCOUNTABLE FOR MY ACTIONS AND MAKE ME FEEL BAD FOR BEING A JERK. WHO NEEDS A RELATIONSHIP??" That little update of his spoke volumes about where he stands in life at the moment. I'd lol if I were you.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
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This situation sounds just like one I had with a fwb.

There's your answer.

It's maddening, but the dude is a waste of your time. Typical undecided, immature guy. "Here, let me jerk you around and then act all baffled when you go off on me."

Good for you for stating your piece. At least you can say you put it all out there in how his bs bothered you. His reaction told you plenty.

And in regard to his post- I wouldn't think much of it in regard to a "girlfriend" statement rather than an immature guy not wanting to be held accountable for his actions (or lack thereof, in this matter).

"SEE?? THIS IS WHY I STAY SINGLE. THEY MAKE ME ACCOUNTABLE FOR MY ACTIONS AND MAKE ME FEEL BAD FOR BEING A JERK. WHO NEEDS A RELATIONSHIP??" That little update of his spoke volumes about where he stands in life at the moment. I'd lol if I were you.

Agree with this especially the bit in capitals!

Good for you for letting him have it. I'm Venus in Scorp and recently did the same by giving a guy a piece of my mind. It was accurate and well deserved. He was an immature idiot who was still tied to his mothers apron strings AND he had no balls... My balls were bigger than his!!

Posted by AgentP911

Agree with this especially the bit in capitals!

Good for you for letting him have it. I'm Venus in Scorp and recently did the same by giving a guy a piece of my mind. It was accurate and well deserved. He was an immature idiot who was still tied to his mothers apron strings AND he had no balls... My balls were bigger than his!!

This is what happens when you have a couple of generations coddled and pussified by the parents. Parents shelter the shit out of their kids and then they go out into the world, acting like insufferable morons and are slapped in the face when reality tells them to stop being assholes. Then it's "woe is me, I am surely the victim here! I shouldn't have to be accountable because I don't want to be. Mommy always told me it was okay cause I'm just a speshul little snowflake and reality never applies to my skewed perceptions!"

Basically, it's a ton of "I do what I want and am exempt from any responsibility because I'm me!"

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Posted by AgentP911

Agree with this especially the bit in capitals!

Good for you for letting him have it. I'm Venus in Scorp and recently did the same by giving a guy a piece of my mind. It was accurate and well deserved. He was an immature idiot who was still tied to his mothers apron strings AND he had no balls... My balls were bigger than his!!

This is what happens when you have a couple of generations coddled and pussified by the parents. Parents shelter the shit out of their kids and then they go out into the world, acting like insufferable morons and are slapped in the face when reality tells them to stop being assholes. Then it's "woe is me, I am surely the victim here! I shouldn't have to be accountable because I don't want to be. Mommy always told me it was okay cause I'm just a speshul little snowflake and reality never applies to my skewed perceptions!"

Basically, it's a ton of "I do what I want and am exempt from any responsibility because I'm me!"

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Ughhh that sounds just like the Californian Taurus dude I met. I think his mum still wiped his arse too...

Posted by munchykin
Forget him. Definitely a case of microballs, and he isn't worth the concern.

If I were a guy who didn't want to be automatically placed on the relationship track with a girl, I'd simply say something like:

"Hey I really like you, but I want us to be on the same page about something, so we can both do what's best for ourselves. Being completely honest, I'm not looking for a serious relationship for the time being. That might change in the distant future, but please don't count on that happening, because it's unlikely to. So, if we're gonna be meeting up, I need you to be ok with that."

So much drama, time and confusion would be spared if more people did this.

This is true. It annoys me that people can't just say how it is. Boot on other foot, I've told guys that I like them but I'm not looking for a relationship with them etc and they STILL haven't got it. One last year had to be told 'I like you but I wouldn't want to f**k you' and he still didn't get it! He went into stalker mode but there's always a few nut jobs out there...

Generally, I think people should be more straight with each other to avoid confusion just as munchykin says.

Munchykin, dummy men and women dont tell the truth because they dont believe it will get them far. Lieing gets them what they want.

confidence and honesty gets ppl far with me.

Would U ladies please get off the guys' back...Holy shit...Ive dealt with one or two Virgos and they can be VERY hard to read.....He could just be confused on where he stood....And If I gotta read "he's a immature jerk" one more time in any thread ima fucking lose it....I hate this thread.......Shit theres this Virgo RIGHT NOW that got me so goddamn confused its not even funny, but this aint abt me...I hate this thread

Posted by nov13thscorp
Would U ladies please get off the guys' back...Holy shit...Ive dealt with one or two Virgos and they can be VERY hard to read.....He could just be confused on where he stood....And If I gotta read "he's a immature jerk" one more time in any thread ima fucking lose it....I hate this thread.......Shit theres this Virgo RIGHT NOW that got me so goddamn confused its not even funny, but this aint abt me...I hate this thread

Lol

Posted by nov13thscorp
Would U ladies please get off the guys' back...Holy shit...Ive dealt with one or two Virgos and they can be VERY hard to read.....He could just be confused on where he stood....And If I gotta read "he's a immature jerk" one more time in any thread ima fucking lose it....I hate this thread.......Shit theres this Virgo RIGHT NOW that got me so goddamn confused its not even funny, but this aint abt me...I hate this thread

That's because you see yourself in these threads. If you take shit about someone else so personally, it means you're just as guilty of it. Calm the hell down whiner. You're a great example of the points brought up in this thread which is why you "hate" it so much.

And in regard to "your" Virgo, chances are that silly bitch doesn't know what she wants and you shouldn't be wasting any time either.

Nobody should be wasting time and fretting over an asshat who goes around jerking around others while they remain lost in life. Move along. Nobody ain't got time for that.

If you and the OP CHOOSE to stay around and tolerate this nonsense, I suggest you shut the fuck up and deal with the hand you've decided to keep. That is one thing I'M tired of seeing around these forums- stupid asses like you who keep themselves in such questionable situations, only to turn around and wail and moan about how much it sucks that this person is jerking you around.

DXP- Where "confusing" translates to "I'm being jerked around and tolerating it."

Hey thanks everyone for the feedback so far.

Well, I certainly don't think he knew where he stood with me. Yes, as a virgo I admit I'm super hard to read. Everyone says that because I am so reserved. Also, us Virgos ADAPT very well to situations so we learn to protect ourselves by responding to the way others treat us (where as others might just put it all out there, we stay reserved).

Anyways, because I am hard to read (also another reason I attract Scorpios) I am very honest with people I like/trust/love. There was no question in this guy's mind that I liked him. This, I can say for certain. He knew. I made it clear. I never tried advancing the relationship I always left it all up to him. I like it hen a man takes control to be honest. I do not like making the first move. But, when we were together, I made it very clear I was into him. When he texted me I was always happy to hear from him. And I gave him the benefit of the doubt at first and for 2 months I made excuses for him until I lost it and blew up.

I also found out why he texted me on new years that we should hang out "soon"... he had better plans. I did some friendly social media stalking yesterday (I'm a venus in scorpio what do you want lol) and found out he went on a 3 day trip to capitol city and also met a very beautiful woman that is a waitress at one of the bars he went to. When I saw they exchanged info, I got insanely jealous and immediately deleted him form all of my social media. I had to prevent myself from stalking more because anything I see after this point will just sting even more. This girl was latina too, just like me and we had similar looks. Just my luck too. He gives me the run around and then meets a girl he likes... I'm here alone dwelling on him. lol just perfect

I experience pain on a really deep level even though I never ever show it. So this hasn't been easy I had really high hopes for this relationship (or whatever you want to call it) I also haven't heard form him and likely I never will again so I'm left here trying to make myself feel better while he's exploring a new love interest (a lot of this is peculation because eI don't know if they will end up dating but with my luck they probably will)

correction: I certainly DO think he knew where he stood with me (lol)

And since I'm on a rant here.. I might as well throw in the fact that so many weekends passed where I didn't hear from him at all and then I would always get a random text AFTER the wkd was over to see how I'm doing and hang out "soon". We are both accomplished professionals but he doesn't drive for reasons I won't get into. So I kept thinking that since we are both mars in Capricorn we are both waiting for the other one to make a move. And I kept making excuses for him thinking that his car situation made things even more complicted because he always mentioned how I would have to drive to him and stuff. I even felt bad for him because I have a hard time making a move and I thought he didn't know how to make plans because I live a half hour from him and he doesn't drive. But you know what? I was so d*m wrong!

If he had all these New Years and wknd plans why message me right before you go on ur trip (which he didn't tell me about but fine we don't tell each other everything, we aren't 'dating') ... To string me along some more of course! Let me remind you i exist before I go off to have more fun and delay seeing you again! Marker! When I saw that beautiful waitress connect with him I realized this would've happened regardless. He was going there an he would've met her. If I never told him off what would've happened when he met her?? String me along some more?

I can't even tell you how heavily he pursued me when I had a bf (who I was unhappy with) and now that I left that guy and I'm single and available, I barely hear from him.

Can't believe I made excuses for him with his car situation. As if he never figured out dates in the past without one! He's a grown man.

I wish I never met him.

Feels good to vent.

Now be done with the loser.

And I can definitely relate. I've been there with the exact same behavior with someone- all talk, no action. Magically finds time for others to make plans but not you. Says a lot of flowery shit, but nothing ever comes of it. Even the bit about disappearing on weekends but magically appearing when those weekends are over.

It's fun shit.

Once you notice the pattern though, you should know what to expect (nothing) and just either ditch the dude or throw him in a nonexistent category where you just remain civil and pretend they don't exist.

Exactly that ^^^

We've all been there and done it, got the t shirt, mug, pen... Even the bobble head!

As a Venus in Scorp I know those intense feelings, jealousy, the ermmm social media stalking, anger and rage which is usually there when you feel like you've been taken for a fool.

Seriously, there's a few people on my hit list I'd love to stab in the head (yeah, it really can be that bad) BUT you just have to chalk it up to experience and learn from it and don't do it again.

Rockyroadicecream:

You know he always talked about being so complicated which is a common theme with Scorpio men.. But I think they're only "complicated" when you're not exactly what they want. Sun signs aside does anyone act "complicated" when they are crazy about a person? I don't know one sign that does that to be honest.

AgentP911:

My rage comes mainly from the "unfairness" of it all. After how he's treated me I should've been the one to meet some hot guy on New Years while he felt like butter! And I don't know if this is my virgo sun or my Venus Scorpio, but I simply cannot shut off my emotions for someone even after something like this happens. I might never be with that person again, but I'll be tempted to stalk them and think about them until all my feelings fade away.. Which could be weeks or months 😢 Still feels so raw and buttery. Ugh

Posted by virlib01
Rockyroadicecream:

You know he always talked about being so complicated which is a common theme with Scorpio men.. But I think they're only "complicated" when you're not exactly what they want. Sun signs aside does anyone act "complicated" when they are crazy about a person? I don't know one sign that does that to be honest.

Pfft. That translates into "I'm a nutjob." Anytime a guy goes on about how he's "trouble" or "complicated" just don't freaking bother. Women tend to translate that into something along the lines of "let me fix him/he's just being hard on himself." No, just no.

Women need to pay attention more to what's going on in front of them and not ignore the signs. It's just sad that you constantly see the same patterns from both sides and it's a cycle that continues through the ages. :/

my Venus Scorpio, but I simply cannot shut off my emotions for someone even after something like this happens. I might never be with that person again, but I'll be tempted to stalk them and think about them until all my feelings fade away.. Which could be weeks or months 😢 Still feels so raw and buttery. Ugh

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Fixed Venus does that. I have a fixed Venus sign as well and it drives me crazy because my logical, rational side is always telling it to stfu, so it's a constant struggle. I do my best to do what needs to be done, but the pondering and analyzing will happen and then I'm done and over it. Just don't let that pondering/analyzing influence logic/proper decision making is all.

Oh and in regard to feeling the unfairness of it all- yeah it's shitty. But you know karma is going to catch up with that dude. It may not happen immediately, but that bs behavior will catch up to him eventually. This is something I've learned/realized recently from a few of my own experiences. We're talking a few years down the road with some.

Two examples that I can think of are- one who ended up getting some sort of karmic payback with his bs ways with women. Ended up with a drug whore and had to get tested for stds because she caught something from her dealer.

Another, who's a lot like the dude you described, is actually pretty lonely. He hops around from person to person, basically using people for whatever he wants and then flits to someone else. This is girls, friends, whoever. But when you boil it down, he really doesn't have much of anyone. He's created so many shallow/temporary relationships that when he needs someone for whatever, nobody is around when it's needed/important. That's what happens when you focus on quantity over quality.

With your dude, you know that idiot is going to get burned or catch something. Someone's going to come along and set him straight down the road.

Posted by virlib01
he barely makes plans to see me yet every time he texts me he says he wants to see me 'soon' but then doesn't follow through to actually plans.

This action right here tells you he's not that into you.

Posted by Arielle83
If you didn't sleep with him, would you be analyzing his behaviour this much?

No, she wouldn't. She would just move on without a second thought.

Posted by virlib01
Rockyroadicecream:

You know he always talked about being so complicated which is a common theme with Scorpio men.. But I think they're only "complicated" when you're not exactly what they want. Sun signs aside does anyone act "complicated" when they are crazy about a person? I don't know one sign that does that to be honest.

AgentP911:

My rage comes mainly from the "unfairness" of it all. After how he's treated me I should've been the one to meet some hot guy on New Years while he felt like butter! And I don't know if this is my virgo sun or my Venus Scorpio, but I simply cannot shut off my emotions for someone even after something like this happens. I might never be with that person again, but I'll be tempted to stalk them and think about them until all my feelings fade away.. Which could be weeks or months 😢 Still feels so raw and buttery. Ugh

It was only "unfair" because you allowed it to be.

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Posted by nov13thscorp
Would U ladies please get off the guys' back...Holy shit...Ive dealt with one or two Virgos and they can be VERY hard to read.....He could just be confused on where he stood....And If I gotta read "he's a immature jerk" one more time in any thread ima fucking lose it....I hate this thread.......Shit theres this Virgo RIGHT NOW that got me so goddamn confused its not even funny, but this aint abt me...I hate this thread

That's because you see yourself in these threads. If you take shit about someone else so personally, it means you're just as guilty of it. Calm the hell down whiner. You're a great example of the points brought up in this thread which is why you "hate" it so much.

And in regard to "your" Virgo, chances are that silly bitch doesn't know what she wants and you shouldn't be wasting any time either.

Nobody should be wasting time and fretting over an asshat who goes around jerking around others while they remain lost in life. Move along. Nobody ain't got time for that.

If you and the OP CHOOSE to stay around and tolerate this nonsense, I suggest you shut the fuck up and deal with the hand you've decided to keep. That is one thing I'M tired of seeing around these forums- stupid asses like you who keep themselves in such questionable situations, only to turn around and wail and moan about how much it sucks that this person is jerking you around.

DXP- Where "confusing" translates to "I'm being jerked around and tolerating it."

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Wtf are u talkin abt? Yes I see myself in all these threads.. probably another scorpio male over-thinking things, probably nervous. That happens to humans every once in while.. take your "One-tree Hill" answers and shove it

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Posted by nov13thscorp
Would U ladies please get off the guys' back...Holy shit...Ive dealt with one or two Virgos and they can be VERY hard to read.....He could just be confused on where he stood....And If I gotta read "he's a immature jerk" one more time in any thread ima fucking lose it....I hate this thread.......Shit theres this Virgo RIGHT NOW that got me so goddamn confused its not even funny, but this aint abt me...I hate this thread

That's because you see yourself in these threads. If you take shit about someone else so personally, it means you're just as guilty of it. Calm the hell down whiner. You're a great example of the points brought up in this thread which is why you "hate" it so much.

And in regard to "your" Virgo, chances are that silly bitch doesn't know what she wants and you shouldn't be wasting any time either.

Nobody should be wasting time and fretting over an asshat who goes around jerking around others while they remain lost in life. Move along. Nobody ain't got time for that.

If you and the OP CHOOSE to stay around and tolerate this nonsense, I suggest you shut the fuck up and deal with the hand you've decided to keep. That is one thing I'M tired of seeing around these forums- stupid asses like you who keep themselves in such questionable situations, only to turn around and wail and moan about how much it sucks that this person is jerking you around.

DXP- Where "confusing" translates to "I'm being jerked around and tolerating it."

Wtf are u talkin abt? Yes I see myself in all these threads.. probably another scorpio male over-thinking things, probably nervous. That happens to humans every once in while.. take your "One-tree Hill" answers and shove it

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Honey, go get laid.

OH WAIT, YOU CAN'T. LOLOLOL

Seriously, stop this victimizing, whiner bullshit. It's why you have problems with women.

We are both Venus in Scorpio and Mars in Capricorn.

His moon is in Sag and my moon is in Aries.

Whether I allowed the behaviour or not, as some comments suggested, I can't just cut people off without giving them a chance first. I've done that before and regretted not giving things a chance.

This is why I gave it 8 weeks. During this time I got more and more attached because my venus in scorpio always gets me addicted to complicated situations.

I'm just really disappointed about this and have been in a permanent bad mood since this wknd.

I do not plan on ever contacting him again so this is me just venting because I don't plan on acting on it and it feels good to talk and get other people's opinion.

I don't know whyyy he wouldn't make plans to see me more often yet he was always the one texting me first the last 3 weeks. This is definitely the most confusing 'fling" I've ever been involved in. After a while I got restless and annoyed and just felt like it's not normal to see someone so rarely. I went from the emotional high of liking him and butterflies to complete fed up disappointment and I exploded because it had bottled up.. but I still feel little bad I wasn't composed enough to simply not return his texts. That's how I wanted to walk away from this and instead I exploded and I feel bad about it now but whatever at least he knows how I felt.

I doubt he feels bad about anything after his FB post and the fact he met that waitress too.

Posted by virlib01
We are both Venus in Scorpio and Mars in Capricorn.

His moon is in Sag and my moon is in Aries.

Whether I allowed the behaviour or not, as some comments suggested, I can't just cut people off without giving them a chance first. I've done that before and regretted not giving things a chance.

This is why I gave it 8 weeks. During this time I got more and more attached because my venus in scorpio always gets me addicted to complicated situations.

I'm just really disappointed about this and have been in a permanent bad mood since this wknd.

I do not plan on ever contacting him again so this is me just venting because I don't plan on acting on it and it feels good to talk and get other people's opinion.

I don't know whyyy he wouldn't make plans to see me more often yet he was always the one texting me first the last 3 weeks. This is definitely the most confusing 'fling" I've ever been involved in. After a while I got restless and annoyed and just felt like it's not normal to see someone so rarely. I went from the emotional high of liking him and butterflies to complete fed up disappointment and I exploded because it had bottled up.. but I still feel little bad I wasn't composed enough to simply not return his texts. That's how I wanted to walk away from this and instead I exploded and I feel bad about it now but whatever at least he knows how I felt.

I doubt he feels bad about anything after his FB post and the fact he met that waitress too.

How could you get more and more attached to someone who was just leading you on? I have a scorpio venus too and I would be moving closer and closer to the door with his behavior. MY scorpio venus doesn't tolerate that kind of behavior. MY scorpio venus recognizes you're either all in or you're all out and if someone is not all in, then I'm begin the process moving on to the next.

You just kept chasing him and allowing chances that he didn't deserve. As you mature, you will recognize when someone isn't all that into you and you will learn to cut ties earlier than later.

Chalk it up as a lesson learned, not to be repeated.

"cut ties earlier than later"

And perhaps THAT is why scorpio venus people are remembred by past lovers. We're the ones who got away. After we're gone, they recognize the passion and the promise of what could have been. It's a bitter sweet placement

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Posted by nov13thscorp
Would U ladies please get off the guys' back...Holy shit...Ive dealt with one or two Virgos and they can be VERY hard to read.....He could just be confused on where he stood....And If I gotta read "he's a immature jerk" one more time in any thread ima fucking lose it....I hate this thread.......Shit theres this Virgo RIGHT NOW that got me so goddamn confused its not even funny, but this aint abt me...I hate this thread

That's because you see yourself in these threads. If you take shit about someone else so personally, it means you're just as guilty of it. Calm the hell down whiner. You're a great example of the points brought up in this thread which is why you "hate" it so much.

And in regard to "your" Virgo, chances are that silly bitch doesn't know what she wants and you shouldn't be wasting any time either.

Nobody should be wasting time and fretting over an asshat who goes around jerking around others while they remain lost in life. Move along. Nobody ain't got time for that.

If you and the OP CHOOSE to stay around and tolerate this nonsense, I suggest you shut the fuck up and deal with the hand you've decided to keep. That is one thing I'M tired of seeing around these forums- stupid asses like you who keep themselves in such questionable situations, only to turn around and wail and moan about how much it sucks that this person is jerking you around.

DXP- Where "confusing" translates to "I'm being jerked around and tolerating it."

Wtf are u talkin abt? Yes I see myself in all these threads.. probably another scorpio male over-thinking things, probably nervous. That happens to humans every once in while.. take your "One-tree Hill" answers and shove it

Honey, go get laid.

OH WAIT, YOU CAN'T. LOLOLOL

Seriously, stop this victimizing, whiner bullshit. It's why you have problems with women.

I don't like you.

Go away.

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Man, I thought it

*Man, I thought it was only me who felt that way lol

Hey Truecap,

You're absolutely right in your description of Venus in Scorpio and I'm glad to see someone else identifying with this placement the same way because I've always felt that men realize after it's too late that they will not find the same passion in another partner (unless it's another Venus in Scorpio). I've had many guys I've left come back months even years later trying to win me over and telling me I was the one who got away. It's so annoying that this always happens after the fact or when I've moved on ..but story of my life.

Where I think we differ is that I'm not as quick to check out as I used to be.. I'm worried that I walk away from people to quickly and have been trying to change that about myself. Also, my Venus in Scorpio is constantly searching/ waiting for that soulmate type of love which I think is common with this placement and the reason some of us stay single for a long time because it's hard to find someone that can match that level of passion. Having said this, it's hard to walk away from someone when I don't know where I/we stand. I have to be a thousand percent sure I'm not walking away from something that could be what I've been waiting for.. Not sure if I'm explaining this correctly. I'm not that great at putting my feelings into words. If someone treats me like butter it's really quite easy for me to loose interest. But when things are complicated and I'm confused, I somewhat get addicted to trying to figure the other person out. That's what I meant about complicated situations. I had ups and downs with this guy and the ups were so good I got hooked. It kills me that we had such similar placements (Venus in Scorpio, Mars in Capricorn and fire moons) and yet things turned out like this.. Sometimes I wonder if we both didn't just mind treetrunk the butter out of this whole thing... If I was to shut off my brain and listen to the vibes I was getting.. I'd still be confused lol. I got the vibe he really liked me at times and the vibe that he wasn't as interested at other times.. Maybe he didn't even know what he wanted, I don't know. 😢 sucks..

But, if you don't know where you stand with him, then you don't stand anywhere. If he lets you walk away, there it never would have been. If he feels for you he wouldn't let you walk away.

And if he doesn't let you walk away, then he'll do whatever it takes to prevent you from ever feeling like you'd want to.

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Posted by Arielle83
But why do you like subservient women?

Sexual polarity.

The polarity between the masculine and the feminine makes relationships more addictive and sex far more passionate.

But my woman doesn't mind it. She is well-aware that she controls me far better by being submissive.

I don't think you - with all that cardinal energy - will ever fully grasp that though.

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Oh let me be upset that somebody with THIS mindset doesn't like me. Boo hoo.