Do scorpio girls ever change their minds?

I made my intentions known from the beginning and while flattered, scorp chick declined (her interest being in another guy). I thought fair enough, I got some catching up to do so kept in touch and every now and then brought up getting a coffee in a fun teasing way. At a party, she spent the night in my embrace but dug her head into my chest and my friends told me off for not trying to kiss her. At this point she has kept me at an arms length and I've respected that; disappearing every now and then.

Come the new semester and I am not sure whats going on. To understand, she was the last chick that drew the straw that made me have a good hard look at myself and what I saw, I was not happy with. Over the holidays I've leaned up a lot, skin has cleared from eating healthily and my wardrobe and style has been revamped.

First day back at uni, I've done the rounds saying hi to everyone and then join her group of friends putting my arm over her shoulder. She curls closer to me and tells me, 'good you can keep me warm' - she literally had goosebumps on her arm as I gently ran my fingers up her arm. Later I walk past her in line with a friend and chatting to them, she spent the whole time staring at me doe eyed.

The next few days have been similiar - she's gone to sit behind me while her friends are at the back and we spend the afternoon talking, flirting and having fun. A late class finishes one night and as we've all walked out, we ignore everyone and continue off on our own.

And thats it. So I am hesitant to ask her out again as she turned me down that many times - I'm not afraid of rejection: just don't want to come off as a creep. We've teased each other about an upcoming ball we are going to together (with friends) etc. Where do I stand right now? How do I proceed?

From reading your story I think that maybe you should move on this chick seems a little damaged and like if she could have the other guy she would run in a sec! Do you really want to be seconded choice you seem better than that...🙂

Thanks LP, yeah I think that too. Thing is, I've had two friends who've finally committed to eachother after the girl was interested in another guy and my guy friend basically chased her for 5 months. Another friend is now in a relationship with a girl he ahs been interested in for years although she has stayed single - he was even congratulated by us all for making it out of the 'friendzone'.

Me personally, I'm committed to my other goals in improving myself so in all honesty, I am not looking for a girl even though I've been getting a lot more attention since my change. Thing is the only girl whose managed to get through my barrier has been this scorpio (or maybe the only one I am letting through at the moment).

Today was interesting though. After class, I've gone to join her group of friends and my mate (dating one of the other girls). Walked right up into her personal space and she stands there like we're a couple. Yet she seemed to act cold/ distant. We chit chatted before I let her be and joined some other friends.

Keep doing your activities and other goals and keep hanging out as friends. You're obviously both interested in each other to a degree but not 100% ready for a committed relationship with each other. Her to you; you to anyone, for now. You definitely don't ever want to be 'second choice'. But the fact she's accepting your small advances right now means she's likely considering you for 'first choice'. Just not quite there. Sounds close, but not ready.

Eventually you'll see a ton of free time on the horizon and consider yourself ready for an actual committed relationship with someone. At that time reassess. If she's still being just how she is right now (accepting small advances), ask again. AND, heck, at that time you can make sure she's still YOUR #1 choice. Who knows? Worst thing she can do is reject. Best thing you can do with a rejection is joke your way back in. At that point she could like you even more and approach YOU some time after, or at least stay friends.

Scorp is one of several signs known for caustic joking. If you can take a hit and roll with it, you're in! Especially if Scorp is laughing. Here's recently between a VirgoSun/ScorpioMoon and ScorpioSun/VirgoMoon.

Him: Bad girl. No cookie for you!
Me: You never give me cookies anyway.
Him: That's beside the point.
Me: I want a cookie.
Him: You have to be a good girl for cookies.
Me: But you like me this way.
Him: YES, but that's beside the point!

Okay so there are better examples out there but this one had both of us giggling. xD

Scorpio women never change their minds.
They are stubborn.
However, you can help them forget and lure them into doing what you want with chocolate pudding.

Scorpio girls are just a teaser. Ask her again in a very serious way. We have that kind of *distant and aloof* thing if the boy just loves teasing us. lol. remember we are # 1 playing games so avoid playing game with us when you approach. Be brave..be serious in your intentions or she just conclude your such
a player.

Your problem is just flirting and teasing her. if I were that girl.. I will dump you.
I don't like men flirting with me. Tell me straight and look into my eyes.

Posted by Aquaunanswered
I made my intentions known from the beginning and while flattered, scorp chick declined (her interest being in another guy). I thought fair enough, I got some catching up to do so kept in touch and every now and then brought up getting a coffee in a fun teasing way. At a party, she spent the night in my embrace but dug her head into my chest and my friends told me off for not trying to kiss her. At this point she has kept me at an arms length and I've respected that; disappearing every now and then.

Come the new semester and I am not sure whats going on. To understand, she was the last chick that drew the straw that made me have a good hard look at myself and what I saw, I was not happy with. Over the holidays I've leaned up a lot, skin has cleared from eating healthily and my wardrobe and style has been revamped.

First day back at uni, I've done the rounds saying hi to everyone and then join her group of friends putting my arm over her shoulder. She curls closer to me and tells me, 'good you can keep me warm' - she literally had goosebumps on her arm as I gently ran my fingers up her arm. Later I walk past her in line with a friend and chatting to them, she spent the whole time staring at me doe eyed.

The next few days have been similiar - she's gone to sit behind me while her friends are at the back and we spend the afternoon talking, flirting and having fun. A late class finishes one night and as we've all walked out, we ignore everyone and continue off on our own.

And thats it. So I am hesitant to ask her out again as she turned me down that many times - I'm not afraid of rejection: just don't want to come off as a creep. We've teased each other about an upcoming ball we are going to together (with friends) etc. Where do I stand right now? How do I proceed?

My impression...she wants to keep you on a back burner. When a Scorp woman truly wants a man most of us will let that man KNOW. Move on..and if she interferes with a new interest of yours ask her WHY.

I wouldn't allow someone to put their arm around me (and keep it there), much less "curl closer" to him if I wasn't considering him for dating material. Heck, more likely, you'd have to actually BE my guy. For sure. There's that defensive barrier between romantic and friendship that's kind of an erroneous line of what's allowed and what's not, but... that's physically pretty close. I'll readily hug old ladies and Dad and Grandpa but not guys my own age. "Staring doe eyed"... "ignore everyone and continue off on our own"...

The only thing is that this change of hers has only been going on for such a short while. Signs like Scorp, Virgo, Taurus, and Cap aren't particularly fast-moving. Maybe Cap can be sometimes. Her Moon and Venus could have more to do with this, actually, but... don't expect rapid-fire decision making for relationships.

It could even be that your change has caused her to be more attracted to you. That could be shallow. Or it could be she likes you being 'healthy' which is not shallow at all. Could you have more energy due to your increased health? Are you being kinder or more patient with those around you? Sometimes physical improvements can cause these INTERNAL improvements as well which can be incredibly attractive! Probably feeling out the idea for herself and wouldn't want to make an actual decision yet. Wouldn't even want to be asked. But that 'ball' you mentioned coming up could be a great place/time to ask. Be casual or direct; follow your gut. Could sling your arm around her and call her your 'date' and see how she reacts. Flirt with her on the dance floor, or watch how/if she flirts with you.

BTW, I've made fellow Scorps (in person) go cold/rigid with the things I'd say/do, only to soften a moment later. Going physically rigid is not always a terrible sign. It can mean defending-while-processing. Once they'd see the true INTENTION behind the potentially-offensive thing I just did, the thing is no longer threatening and the coldness melts away. Could be the strong Virgo in me. Tends to come off as critical but harmless to Scorp.

If all else fails, you've got those other goals you're working on anyway, so it's perfect timing, actually. To just keep on keeping on. 🙂 Until you're more ready.

Posted by M143

Scorpio girls are just a teaser. Ask her again in a very serious way. We have that kind of *distant and aloof* thing if the boy just loves teasing us. lol. remember we are # 1 playing games so avoid playing game with us when you approach. Be brave..be serious in your intentions or she just conclude your such
a player.

Your problem is just flirting and teasing her. if I were that girl.. I will dump you.
I don't like men flirting with me. Tell me straight and look into my eyes.

Oh, yeah, most flirting IS yuck. Wasn't thinking of that sort when I mentioned it on the dance floor. Was thinking of the dancing kind. It can involve a whole lot of eye flirting and cozying up flirting. 😉 This kind... personally... if I'm already into you, gimme. If I'm not, scram. It should be easy to tell.

Thanks everyone you've all given such a great thoughts into this! You've all given me some vauluable insight into how I've gone about things!
Just to add, the other day I have a friend of hers who's gunning for me who asked her about her love life and she told my friend it was non-existent. Does this change anything?

Update: One of my good female friends who is coincidentally her best friend (and gunning for me to succeed) says it looks like she's slowly falling for me. I'm not getting my hopes up obviously. Yesterday she was doing her best to invite me to join her for lunch with her group of friends (I'd messaged prior during class of which she did not reply although when she saw me after class she ran up to give me a hug telling me she was about to message me). Obviously I did not. Went and got food from the cafeteria before dropping by her table to give her a quick chat, hug and tease before joining my friends again.

Is this the gist of how I should be going about things? I think she may have been ignoring me in class this morning; jealous as I sat with a lot of my female friends for once out of coincidence and I am definitely sure she noticed..