Scorpio falling faster then pulling away

I feel like I've seen this a million times but have never gotten a straight answer.

Dating a scorpio who has falling very fast for me and cannot take the fact that I have not fallen as fast as he has. Now he feels stupid and he says he's going to give me space. We are still together. We still talk. But he is upset and feels awkward until I get to the same level as him.

I feel so helpless. We have talked about it, but we're mostly just left at a standstill :/

Thoughts on how to remedy this?

Posted by happykitsune
I feel like I've seen this a million times but have never gotten a straight answer.

Dating a scorpio who has falling very fast for me and cannot take the fact that I have not fallen as fast as he has. Now he feels stupid and he says he's going to give me space. We are still together. We still talk. But he is upset and feels awkward until I get to the same level as him.

I feel so helpless. We have talked about it, but we're mostly just left at a standstill :/

Thoughts on how to remedy this?

People will bash me on this a shitload but....you've gotta pretend you feel the same way. Not for your sake but for his. Let him love you and I get by doing this you'll fall harder for him than you would have if he left you to it. Just go along with it, it's what I do a lot, and it always works.

Ummm well it sounds like he's acting passive aggressive and trying to make you hurt because you can't return his feelings yet. That's really dumb of him, but it sounds like control? Idk. Ignore his dumb tactics and ignore that the whole situation happened ( that's what I would do.) just continue the relationship as normal... Maybe he'll come to his senses.

I dated a scorpio and he did the same exact thing, except after giving us space, he came back full force because his tactic didn't work. Maybe @impulsiv is right and that's not his intention, but the fact of the matter is that you shouldn't feel guilty because you haven't fallen for him yet. Forced feelings doesn't sound like true love to me...

So I contacted him again after thinking about it all. realizing that I do show I love him and care but that I was worried about saying it to soon. I don't want this to go too fast but I also didn't want to lose him. so I told him I do love him. But that I thought he could tell through my actions thus far. He said he'd wanted to hear it and that seemed to help soothe him and hes back to normal. more update on that later. I'm typing from a phone and it sucks

Posted by Impulsv
No it sounds like he's taking control of his feelings as to not overwelm. Truly don't get Scorpio n the intensity of our emotions. We have retreat to gain composure nothing to do with revenge.

Right, I sensed no means for revenge, but perhaps a means to put things into focus and "help" me really figure out where I stood. He is a mars in scorpio like I am so I understand his need for "black and white"ness.

When first meeting him a few years ago I would have never thought he could be this passionate or emotional (at the time I thought he was a sag).

After I went into great detail about why I love him later he sends me messages expressing to me his dreams for the future and how he feels so vulnerable telling me all this, but that he wanted to share it with me because I am so special to him.

For the record we have only been dating for a week. We have been talking for longer, and known each other for longer. I am not used to someone saying ILY so early...

Posted by happykitsune
Dating a scorpio who has falling very fast for me and cannot take the fact that I have not fallen as fast as he has.

Posted by happykitsune
So I contacted him again after thinking about it all. realizing that I do show I love him and care but that I was worried about saying it to soon. I don't want this to go too fast but I also didn't want to lose him.

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First you say you have not fallen as fast as he has and he gives you space, then you say you have.
If I were him, I'd be very skeptical. Just my take on it.

i got to side with LetitBe on this one.

Posted by DMV
i got to side with LetitBe on this one.

Yeah I felt like it might be a bit sketchy if I just suddenly said it out of no where. But looking at the way I treat him and actions in general that I show him I could tell he felt like I was just keeping the words from him. He told me he knew I loved him but he just wanted to hear the words. Maybe that's just venus in libra.

That aside I have not fallen as hard as he has yet. Already getting there tho....as I always do.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
this is the guy with the merc sag, venus leeb and mars scorp, right?

I have the same placements....now his moon is air and mine is fire but.......

With anyone I've ever been *into* I've always reached certain destination points ahead of my partner. Especially emotional ones.

I used to just call it a wrap when that happened because it was just too much of a blow to the ego to find out someone hasn't reached the same place as me at the same time......or it created too much anxiety for me to even share how I felt.

It's frightening when that happens.

If he's honest with himself, he'll stop holding his breath and just let you be who you need to be and if you are supposed to reach that destination, you will in *your* own time.

If you don't feel something, you can't make it up.

The leeb venus is so quick to the draw to just get out of town like a bat out of hell.

I don't do that anymore........and I'll tell you, it makes life that much more fulfilling and happy. Let him be where he needs to be and don't allow it to scare you. If he needs to love you, then he needs to love you. He also needs to be able to express or tell you that hoping you don't run either (which most people abort or abandon around that time.)

Just simply say....that's nice....and just keep doing what you are doing.

He has to learn how to manage those placements, tbh. The merc and venus are awkward as all hell. Leeb stops dead with polarizing fear when having to express emotions or feelings and mercury in sag (which is a detriment) makes everything come out wrong.

If you want to be with him......reassure him that you do, but there is no need to go beyond that right now if you aren't ready.

Love the insight here. I could tell he was feeling anxious as well. Like the emotions were just too much 😢

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Posted by DMV
i got to side with LetitBe on this one.

Yeah I felt like it might be a bit sketchy if I just suddenly said it out of no where. But looking at the way I treat him and actions in general that I show him I could tell he felt like I was just keeping the words from him. He told me he knew I loved him but he just wanted to hear the words. Maybe that's just venus in libra.

That aside I have not fallen as hard as he has yet. Already getting there tho....as I always do.

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If you had just been straight up honest and told him WHY you didn't mirror those words back at that time he would have respected that and felt more trust toward you for sharing it. Never hold back, because letting someone assume simply sucks. I wish you luck.

@ Let it Be

I did eventually. It just took me a bit longer to convey how I felt and actually have the courage to do so.

He told me that he has no doubts in regards to us and that he knows I'll be sticking around. Alls good so far. And thanks for the luck!