do scorpio men breakup w/out any warning or reason

this guy tells me i treat him like a king, he talks me up to this friends, tell me he's more than satisfied in bed with me, tells me that I am very deeply caring and don't play games. I mean he gives the most sincere compliments one can ask. Up until the last minute he is making plans with me.

he introduces me to his parents, friends and coworkers who had heard great things about me from him.

then one day he says that he'll come over tonight and spend the night and we'll have dinner together. When the night comes, he calls and breaks up!!!
he says he wants to settle down but he is not ready to commit! he is full of contradiction!

The reason: my feelings will only go so far for you and you may not be the one for me.

WTF—!!!!

I was stunned, never saw this coming. I know that I treated him really well. My friends were stunned! can someone shed light on this?

can anyone help understand?

Scorpio men sound like complete assholes and not worth the trouble putting up with their immature behavior.

ariesfireice: scorps to be intense one moment and then over it the next. he was all about you at first, then the intensity burned out, the moment passed and nothing deeper was established in the meantime and so he's on to the next passing passion. or at least, that's what it sounds like. he may come back once he's had enough of the greener grass on the other side and may start to think of your grass as greener. don't let him come back, the ironic part is then he'll want you more. ugh.

can* be, not "to be." edited that part but forgot to change that.

scorpiotiger...ahahaha. cute. i especially liked the "just like me you" part. hot.

eh. i've been on here for years now and i still haven't gotten around to changing the profanity filter. but i like it the way that sentence is showing up. i like creativity over crudity.

so he just realized within a few hours that he was bored??

hi oneoffour, no he is not in contact with me. I sent him an email being very direct letting him know that it was not all about him. that he had no right to make that solo decision and run.

he replied back with an apology and bullcrap about it was hard for him to come to that decision. i met him on online dating site and he is on it everyday.

i told him not to reply. but i also told him that i only miss his dogs.

I don't want him back, but I really want him to know that he screwed up something that was good. I want him to realize that i am really a good person. he apologized a lot over the phone while breaking up, but i still think he was a jerk for making plans with me until the last minute and then doing this.

I am not going back, but it would be nice to hear back from him that he fcked up something good and he wishes that he hadn't

I guess he could have ignored my email after the break up but he did give a nice reply explaining that his feelings for me would not grow.


so then why no tell me that earlier?! he is soo full of contradiction that it makes me crazy!

no he didn't say anything about staying friends... although a week before breaking up he said that even if thing wouldn't work between us he would like to go on a vacation with me that I had been planning for a while.


And no, i have not heard from him since the email apology i received yesterday. His behavior was really rash. I feel used.

he's almost 40, and so yes, he is immature for handling it the way he did. At the least he should have broken up in person and not abruptly, without hints over the phone.

I am not looking for him to keep in contact for the sake of it, nor do I want to be friends with him. he hurt me deeply and I was left to pick up the pieces. It was out of the left field, and totally shocking.


Whether he really feels bad or not does not take away my hurt. Really, inside i want him to kick himself oneday and realize that he had a very caring person in his life and he just carelessly and cruelly threw it away.

I am getting myself back more everyday. I REALLY REALLY want him to kick himself for a long time!

scorpio chic, so you see, he knew better. He has been in couple of long term relationships before. He freakin knows better!!!

I WANT HIM TO HURT and realize the loss! i feel so used and hurt.

2 intense months! it may seem like a short time to some, but he knew my intention from the start was to get into a relationship. He was clearly told that.

I don't casual date anyone so this was a big deal for me.

we met on online date website. so we only knew eachother for a total of 2 months

I am not a Scorpio expert but I have known several male Scorpio friends and dated 2. One of the primary reasons the Scorpio personality appeals to me is because they are extremely honest and that can hurt big time. But, I would much rather know just where he is in both his heart and mind at every step of the way than to wake up one morning (say 2 years later) trying to figure out what happened.

There seems to be and the other Scorpio experts here can correct me if I am wrong, 2 types of Scorpios; the one who is always vanishing and not ready for committment and you will know that up front as he/she will only get involved with those casual counterparts that agree to being casual. Or there is the 2nd one who is at that time of their life open to a committment and will intensely fall hard. But even with the 2nd type of Scorpio he/she is still looking for those elements that are needed to fuel their "flame" such as someone who can stimulate them mentally, sex them greatly and flow with the intensity of compassion with everything they are passoniate about. This personality is still likely to vanish from time to time because they are always reassessing how they feel at each stage of the relationship because they are loyal and will only give that loyalty to a relationship that they can be committed too for all their needs.

It sounds like your Scorpio had an assessment that something may have been missing for him, it doesn't sound like the uncommitted type because of the other long term relationship and the beginning intensity. He could be the 1st personality type but it has been my experience from my friends that he would not have taken to 2 months, it would have been like a week or two for him to cut it off. If its worth anything to you, Scorpios that love hard; never forget you and ryou emain in their hearts and thoughts forever; some will call it "obssesing over" for a long time. I wouldn't be surprised if he did come back later when he finally figures out the "missing link" to the disconnect.

I agree with all of the posts from "scorpio chic" and "let it be", especially since they are really trying to help you sort through things. It is not easy growing, learning, loving and getting to know a Scorpio but it has its rewards should you find the perfect balance that is needed like with any other combination of personalities.

ariesfireice, I know how aries an scorp relationships can be, they are intense and tend to move fast. you experienced something meaningful and you thought it was going to continue but he decided it was not for him. there is really nothing to do about it, and it's not just scorps that do this. this kind of behavior is natural when getting to know people. he was immature for how he handled it, but at least he did respect you enough to confront you and he was honest about it. people have a right to their feelings. just because he became involved with you doesn't mean he can't change his mind. people say and do things in the heat of the moment that may not carry through to something long term or lasting. that's just something you have to accept. by getting involved with you at the beginning he wasn't making a commitment to be with you forever. not to be cliche but what was your status? were you officially boyfriend and girlfriend or were you still considered dating? either way, it is his choice whether he wants to continue or not just as it is yours as well. he decided he could no longer continue honestly and he told you. I know it may seem out of the blue but i think i kind of prefer that than someone continuing on with their heart not in it just to slowly give you hints and phase you out. personallym that makes me feel betrayed b/c i don't want any "favors" done for me, if you're done then say, don't pretend just to avoid confrontation or b/c you think its best for me, i hate being lied to and thinking one thing when something else is actually going on. Don't you—?

and i think that's what you've got to appreciate about scorps is that they will not be false to themselves, and therefore they will not be false with you. he could not continue on with you b/c he knew this would not go anywhere beyond a certain point and HE TOLD you, HONESTLY. I mean, a lot of other men would just go on and use you until they found someone else. He was up front about it. and, you were only together two months. I think, not to be rude b/c i know how you feel, but you should have known a little better than to get caught up and expect something from someone after only two months. don't you think? how old are you, how experienced are you? b.c if you are going to criticize him for being immature at 40, you have to look at yourself as well. i'm 26 and i've learned by now to let a foundation grow before expecting something from such fast paced affairs. i'm not scolding you or criticizing b/c i know what this situation is like and how easy it is to get caught up in it, but don't you think maybe you were expecting something that you didn't necessarily have the right to expect? even though you told him from trhe beginning that you were not in it for something casual,. maybe at the beginning he wasn''t either, and thought this might be something long term. but there's no way to know so early and that's what DATING is about, you get to know the person. he got to know you and even though he enjoyed being with you and had a great experiencve with you he realized he did not see this having a future and he wanted to end i t before it went any further.

Scorpios are serious in their committments both professionally and personally, so much so that they will over analyze everything, worse than a Virgo. That could include facial expressions, comments, responses and whether the "sex" was just they way it should be, according to Scorpio. The good part is that you can ask him/her the right question directly and they will never lie; the bad part is if he/she is not prepared for the question, it may sound bad because they didn't have enough time to think it through long before you asked it. Scorpios will, at all cost, attempt to be "politically correct" with words its all apart of their over analyzing way before you even thought of it; but should you catch them off guard, they will answer but you must brace yourself. And, if he/she cares for you they will immediately recoup to "clear the air" because they realize how sharp their tongues can be.

Like with any relationship, you will have to make the best sound decision on whether to move on or allow each other to take time for yourselves to evaluate whether he/she is the one you would like to reconnect with. And, just for the record....not many break-ups occur in ideal situations for both parties, whether its on the phone via email or in person. When an individual is ready to leave you, we just hope that we will be handled with care based on our intrepretation. Nevertheless, we are all different and handle things differently, regardless of what high expectations you may have for someone....I know it hurts and best wishes to you.

Posted by ariesfireice


I WANT HIM TO HURT and realize the loss! i feel so used and hurt.

your ego is hurt more than your heart, you can not, well No one can hurt someone who is not attached to you.

the guy did you a favor, telling you straight, in due time, you will appreciate that this has been good to you.


as from scorpio's perspective, did he ever say L-word?, My guess is he did not. It is pretty black and white within us, and you can trust his words that he did *not* find you to be what he *knows* he is meant for. Scorpio intensity is not a lack of Judgmental instincts, we do judge people and very minutely.

eden: true about cancers, but why leos? what do they do? i was only with one leo in my life and he loved me more than life itself, so what is this astrological suckage you speak of? fill me in please.

eden 3: nah we r one in the same just depends on how thick our shell is at the time...we r capable of shutting people out unfortunately

Eden 3 Why do you suppose Scorpios choose to shut people out, especially those they are involved with? Isn't that a contradiction to the "Eagle" who sores above all others? Hence, giving an expecting higher expectations? Do tell.....

sorry, that should read...

Hence, giving AND expecting higher expectations.

Let it Be - sorry for late reply... we had physically been together about 50 times in two months. but we didnt do anything until the 5th date.

I am ok now. It hurt because of the way he broke up. But i am back to my normal self again.

ariesfireice, rejection hurts. I emphasize with you. I have to agree with Scorpio_chic, N.N. and the other scorpios. I am not a scorpio, but I am married to one. My husband was ready for marriage before he met me. He told me his way of selecting the woman he would commit to would be apparent to him within 3 months of dating. Because he basically KNEW what he wanted. Maybe this is true of your scorpio. I know it hurts you, but you gave it your best shot and it didn't work out...with him.

ariesfireice, the laws of attraction are working in your favor as well as his. You were attracted to him and he was at first attracted to you. Both of your are good people. Him not being with you does not cancel out that fact. YOU ARE A GREAT PERSON.

Now, even though you told him that your purpose for dating was for a long-term relationship, he was dating for the same reason. You may have said that to him thinking he would read between the lines that YOU were considering him THE long-term relationship.

But to him, it was just your reason for dating -- something you would say to any man you met -- just as he would say to any woman he met.

IMHO, he did not deceive you. You wanting him to hurt and kick himself because of his decision concerning you, may never happen because he has done the decent thing.

To be fair, you two were getting to know each other. He was seriously considering you for a relationship, but it didn't happen.

And did you ever consider that HE felt that he was not the one YOU wanted? Scorpios are extremely perceptive and watch EVERYTHING. He may have come to realize that HE is not the TYPE of MAN you are looking for (because he knows himself). Therefore, he is doing YOU a favor by letting you go to find the RIGHT ONE for YOU.

Look at it from a positive perspective. He could have been looking out for your happiness. Scorpios are like that.

afi, I'm glad you are ok. I was positng the same time as you and so my post may be a moot point now. Best to you. 🙂